Mommies to be:
@Aera11 6/21
@mtpbadger EDD 7/4?
@coco305 EDD 7/14
@jr102217 EDD 7/15
@cseley321 EDD 7/22 GIRL!
@safire3 EDD 7/23 BOY!
@irisheyes81 EDD 8/4 GIRL!
@2MomsHoping EDD 8/12 GREEN!
@laurad75 EDD 8/20 BOY!
@sarcasticowl EDD 8/30 GIRL!
@lablover78 EDD 9/1
@BusinessWife EDD 9/9 GREEN!
Re: 2nd Trimester Week of March 25 ***NEW LEADER NEEDED**
Looking forward to seeing you all over on 3rd trimester
How are you feeling: pretty good. My feet swell sometimes and it stresses me out. Constipation has been a little better. I’m feeling her kick so much more and I never thought anything could be so awesome.
I need to make a registry! My inlaws are in town this week and staying with us! I didn’t clean because of Netflix. Oops.
How far along: 21 weeks 1 day
Appointments this week: yep! Tuesday.
@Irisheyes81 I just started working on registries myself and still not that motivated. It just seems so overwhelming right now.
How're you feeling this week? Tired mainly. We had a lot of house guests this weekend and hosted a party last night plus I had to work yesterday.
How far along? I’ll be 23 weeks tomorrow. Really looking forward to that 24 week mark.
Appts this coming week? None and I’m happy about it. I’ve had so many appointments in the past few weeks so I’m kind of happy for the break from running around between work and appointments. Next week I’ll have another ultrasound at the high risk office.
So happy we are <i>THIS. CLOSE. </i>to having our announcements ordered. I stayed up late last night working on them, ordered the stamps and return address labels, DH just insisted on sleeping on it before we pulled the trigger. Sending them out just after Easter sounds perfect to me! We also managed to squeeze in my "official" 16 week bump shot, but boy am I tired!
My BFF let me choose whatever I wanted from her baby's nb / 0-3M clothes he had already outgrown (at 7 weeks) when I was there visiting, so I'm just tickled about how my lil nb stash is coming along! 3 and 6M each have their own bins now, 9 and 12M I have a bit, but I need to scare up a new bin just for nb! I really had not a lot, but she insisted for those few weeks when they need it, they will be drowning in their 3M stuff, and people gave her mostly 3M, so she wanted me to be prepared. ;)
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2 nip gifted fleece nb footie zip suits
1 preloved fleece nb sleep sack
10 nip nb ss kimono tees
1 nip nb organic cotton gown
4 ss nb onesies (one very precious one, I had chosen for our announcement, but DH decided it was too religious <<eye roll>>)
4 preloved ls nb onesies
5 preloved nb pants
3 nb hats (one not pictured)
3 pairs preloved nb mitts
1 pair gifted crocheted baby booties
1 gifted nb photo prop suit - Fox with tail!</div>I have my registry basically done, if anything I am editing things off before I share it, bc MIL and SIL are bugging me for it, but I still have certain decor or furniture items on there that may be more for us than the baby, (we really have zero bedroom furniture at this point, but I don't expect people to get that for us), and maybe a specific item or two I want to talk to her about making first, so I can pull it off. I guess I could share it with her with that caveat before making it public. I plan to stalk my BMB's new registry thread to make sure I have everything covered, but right now I think it's plenty long enough! Again, editing...
Also, I am happy to start the thread for us, unless anyone else particularly wants to do it. I should be able to remember to start it Sunday evening or some time Monday morning.
How far along? 16+1
<span>Appts this coming week? Newp!</span>
@BusinessWife I'm definitely going to lurk at your BMB's registry thread. Mine is almost done too (BBB and Target) but I have some editing to do. Plus I think DH and I need to have a discussion about safari theme vs ocean. Deep stuff.
How're you feeling this week? I'm feeling pretty good today. I got a lot of sleep over the wknd so my energy level is decent.
How far along? 19 weeks today
Appts this coming week? Anatomy Scan tomorrow! I can't wait.
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
Unexplained Infertility - but I am 40...Low AMH .30
7 - IUI (50mg-150mg Clomid) Feb - August 2016 all BFN
IVF#1 August 2016 (Antagonist protocol 4/5 eggs) Cancelled cycle RE thought I would get at least 10.
IVF#2 Sept 2016 (microdose luporn pro - disappearing follies, ONLY ONE, convert to IUI) BFN
IVF#3 November 2016 (4 ER, 3 F, 3DT)-BFP with TWINS // MC both at almost 10wks
IVF#4 March 2017 //EPP (10 ER (1 wonky so 9 ER) 7F, 3B (5AB, (2)5BB) PGS tested- ALL abnormal
IVF#5 April 2017 // EPP (7 ER, 7F yes! 6B) 2/5 day 4/6 day - 2 PGS normal! yes!!
IVF#6 May 2017 // Antagonist didn't have time for Estrogen Priming...(4 ER, 3 F, 3B) (5AB, (2) 5BB) 2 PGS normal, yes!!
IVF#7 June 2017 // EPP praying this is it and then on to an FET!
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
@travelingcouple congratulations for making it the third trimester I can’t wait to run into you again soon!
How're you feeling this week? Nesting Mode! We bought all our furniture for the nursery this weekend and have been assembly fools. Still quite a bit to go. Finally settled on a chair that they sold us the floor model for a great discount (it looked brand new). Though now that it’s in the room I’m having second thoughts and think I should have ordered the darker color….but it’s here and I don’t want to pay full price so hopefully when we get some accessories we can tie it in more or paint the room (it’s a little too close to the wall color). We also decided to go with a baby artic animals theme with mostly greys, silver, blues, and a splash or two of black. Narwhals, penguins, fluffy seals, polar bears, snowflakes, etc. an odd choice for an august baby but whatever :P We have bought nothing theme related but I’m happy we have settled on a plan.
How far along? 20+1 I can’t believe I’m halfway!!! Time is flying.
Appts this coming week? We have out anatomy scan tomorrow and then a follow-up with the doc for results on Wednesday.
@buisnesswife it is shocking how quickly babies grow out of clothes. I think I’m only going to put 3-6, 6-9, and 9-12 on my registry and hope people don’t buy the tiny stuff. We left some things off our registry we knew we wanted to buy or the grandparents offered to buy like my overpriced travel system, our nursery furniture, and things I just rather buy myself and feel a little too personal like nursing supplies.
@laurad75 we are anatomy scan twins! Good luck tomorrow J
@aera11 double check that it’s safe but Benadryl gel is such a blessing for my itchy skin. I have allergies that seem to come up as itching now and again. I like a cool shower and then slather that stuff on. I know taking Benadryl orally is a-ok in pregnancy but I haven’t checked out the gel so please make sure and check with you doctor first. Of course if it isn’t allergy it probably won’t help but it’s cheap and worth a try.
TTC History in Spoiler ***Trigger Warning*** Losses/Child Mentioned
2016
* April IUI#1 - BFN
* June IUI#2 - BFN
* July IUI#3 - CP
* Sept IVF#1 - 4 Retrieved & Mature, 4 Blasts. Fresh Transfer 1 - CP
* November FET #1 - Transferred 1 Blast - CP
2017 Switched REs - Recurrent loss testing for me - all normal, remaining 2 frosties sent for PGS - both abnormal
* April/May IVF#2: 9 retrieved, 8 mature, 7 fertilized, 7 blasts! Sent for testing - 2PGS Normals (0 remaining)
* November IVF #3 12R, 8M, 6F, 4 blasts! - All 4 PGS normal!
* November FET# 2 (Transfer a PGS normal from IVF#2) - BFP!!!
2018 DD born 8/20/18
2019 5PGS frosties ( 4 remaining)
* September FET#3 (1PGS normal) - Beta#1: 139.7 Beta#2: 322.6
@aera11 SO ITCHY. Lower back, inner thighs, belly, boobs. It's absolute torture. And @BusinessWife I am SO jealous of your amazing haul!
How're you feeling this week? So far, so good! Joint issues and right shoulder pain (the side I've been sleeping on for, oh, fifteen years has now turned into a nightmare - thanks, relaxin!) but otherwise just chugging along like always!
How far along? 17w4d
Appts this coming week? Nope, but two weeks from now is our anatomy scan. A little on the early side (19w4d) but hopefully she'll cooperate and they'll get what they need!
Also: I follow Eva Amurri Martino (Susan Sarandon's daughter) on Instagram (thehappilyeva). She blogs as well, and has two littles that are super adorable. A lot of her stuff is just kind of fluff and she has a lot of 'sponsors' that make it seem like she's selling things all the time, but in a blog post about discipline she recommended a book that I just got the Kindle version of and I LOVE IT. It's called "Bringing Up Bebe" about an American woman and her English husband having and raising their kids in France. I'm not super far into it but it's really fun and funny and it shows the pretty stark differences in raising kids in the US vs. France. She by no means rips on American parenting styles but she wanted to get to the bottom of why French kids are such good eaters and seem to be so well-behaved in public. It's an interesting dichotomy and a good distraction from the zillion worries that usually take up my brain
@safire3 how nice to have a doctor break! I’m so focused on that 24 week mark too.
@businesswife Thanks for volunteering to start the thread. I’m like @safire3 and will come in late or miss whole weeks. You’d be awesome J I bet you love looking at all the nb clothes. They are so cute and small! How nice you have such an awesome group of people to give you hand me downs. I bet your announcement is so sweet. I completely understand the resistance to sending it. Regarding the registry, I was thinking about taking gift cards to get the bigger furniture items. I feel like a lot of people default to gift cards and diapers for showers so maybe that will be enough to get furniture. Are you doing a full bedroom set that grows with the baby or nursery furniture? I was going to do a full set but then we have a crib and changing table dresser thing from friends/family so I think the full set will come when she turns 3 or so.
@laurad75 Yay for the anatomy scan!! So much fun. Awesome that you are feeling good.
@aera11 awesome that you are moving to the 3rd tri but so sad!!! I’ll be lurking. It totally sucks you failed the first glucose test. Hopefully you don’t have GD but I don’t think it’s a gigantic deal from what I’ve read. Sorry the nurse was short/rude. Hopefully you don’t even need to know the protocol. I wonder why you are so itchy! Sounds miserable. I have eczema and sometimes sleep with socks on my hands to prevent scratching. Sometimes scratching can make it worse. Good luck!
@2momsHoping That is AWESOME about the chair. Which one did you get? Baby artic sounds so sweet. Halfway done!! Can you believe it? I feel like it was only yesterday we were talking about transferring. J
@sarcasticowl Relaxin!! I feel you. I had my anatomy scan at 19w4d and they got everything they need. Bringing up bebe sounds really good! I was reading about French women when they are pregnant and the differences just yesterday. I’ll have to check that out.
So I totally have to vent. I don’t know if there is a trigger warning but the trigger would be another person who is pregnant. I know that was a trigger warning on IF. Plus maybe a judgmental trigger. There is an intern at my work that never wants to do anything. She walks around and says how bored she is (not a great way to get a job). She is pregnant and due right around the same time as me. She smokes. The father of the child wants nothing to do with her and they weren’t in a relationship. She went for her anatomy scan last week and they found two babies. Boy girl twins. Rage built in me. She doesn’t have medical insurance, lives with her parents etc. I blurted out that she doesn’t have the money and being 36 and pregnant with twins is super high risk so she should stop smoking and that she should tell the guy it is twins and at least get child support. She was offended. I told her to leave my office and close the door. I think infertility ruined me. What do I care that she’s having twins? That’s fun and awesome. It’s good she didn’t have to spend 30k and painful procedures to get them. Maybe they will do something amazing for humanity. That isn’t how I think, though. It’s not fair! End of rant. Happy Monday.
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
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@travelingcouple Third tri, so exciting! Woohoo!
@businesswife I love love love those clothes! So adorable.
@irisheyes81 Oh man, that story hit me right in the heart. That really is ridiculous and the feelings are so much more acute when we have gone through so much to try to get pregnant! Ugh. I would have felt the same way as you.
@adirat welcome so glad to see you here!! : )
@Irisheyes81, @laurad75 said it best, GROSS. I totally get some people still smoke and it's hard to quit, but if you're pregnant... I guess having been through what we've all been through to just get pregnant, we'd give up anything and not bat an eye so our perspective is for sure different. A few friends have told me to go ahead and have a glass of wine, a beer, etc. not only does it not sound good right now and I know it's fine, BUT for me, it's just not worth it. Infertility + losses has made me way more careful than I probably would've been if I got pregnant on my own quickly.
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@Irisheyes81 That makes me super ragey as well. Being pregnant with twins already puts you at risk for premature labor. Why would you compound that by smoking? I would have told her the same thing. After dealing with IF it really hurts when I see people get pregnant easily and don’t even take good care of themselves or their babies. Maybe it’s just jealousy but whatever. I feel like I have every right to those feelings after what I’ve been through.
17+2 today. Had my MaterniT21 last Monday and still no results. Saw my OB today and he was sort of in disagreement that the MFM stopped my heparin. I mentioned before here that my OB has a daughter whose IF story was almost identical to mine and apparently they “tussled” over this issue with her too. He tested my blood and is having me back in 2 weeks. I started crying for no reason as we were discussing this- like nothing is wrong but once I started I couldn’t stop! He was so so nice though and said he understood that the lack of control is hard- (doc, you have me pegged!). He tried to get the M21 results but couldn’t get a hold of my MFM who is in the process of moving offices but said he would call my cell as soon as he heard back and nothing yet. I feel better now that I got all that emotion out though. HB was strong at 160 and I literally have nothing to be upset/worried about.
My super fancy friend offered us their super fancy crib for free since they’re moving their daughter out- yes please! And my other friend has a 4 month old boy and asked how I feel about hand me downs....um send that stuff my way!
@BusinessWife how exciting!!! I’ve been dying to feel this guy but nothing yet.
@Irisheyes81 there was a girl who was very pg & used to smoke outside my office window last year and it drove me mad- i cursed her constantly while I worked
No Folic acid/pharmaceuticals/supplements (too many to list- private message me if interested), IVIL infusion
@lablover78 I had my Mat21 on a Monday and got my results back the following Wed. I'm sure every office does it differently but the wait was tough. I kept getting all these notifications on the office portal and would get excited every time just to learn I tested negative for a disease I didn't even know was a thing.
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
@2momshoping @aera11 My OB said that regular benadryl is fine but that any of the sudafed-type products should be avoided. Benadryl (the brand name) has a medicine that includes pseudoephedrine so that's the one to avoid. Regular benadryl which is just Diphenhydramine is safe. Interestingly, some women who have immune issues take Diphenhydramine with their FET to reduce the likelihood of immune response against the blastocyst!
Thanks for the warm welcome all It's so exciting to see how far you guys are.
@Aera11 how is the itching today?? Any better? Benadryl sounds like a great idea. that stuff is magic.
@lablover78 Your doctor sounds so nice. You are so kick ass for what you have been through and all the tough decisions. Baby sounds great though! 160 just perfect. That is so awesome about the crib. Good hand me downs are so nice! I frees up so much registry for all the little things. Especially a really nice crib you might not have invested in.
@laurad75 You're so funny about being excited to test negative about things you didn't even know existed. I feel the exact same way. I even get excited for things I know the baby couldn't have (we were both negative for fragile X and CF but I still celebrated).
Thank you everyone for listening to me vent and giving such good feedback and empathy. This is the best group ever. Sometimes I feel like an insane person that worries everything is going wrong or about to go wrong. I spent so long being so bitter about the injustice of infertility and old habits die hard. I think I offended the girl because she hasn't talked to me. That's good because I spent the morning researching if a harmony would reveal twins. I have an appointment today with my OB and even thought about asking him but I don't want her negativity around me or my baby so I think I'll get over it. Haha. When is that GD test thing?
Hi all just wanted to send out some responses while waiting for my anatomy scan. Also in exciting pregnancy news I found a chewable that works as an antacid AND gas in one my purse feels so light with only one bottle #pregnancywin
@sarcasticowl I’ve totally heard of bringing up bebe! It’s on my reading list. Unfortunately my pregnancy brain seems to be only displaying itself in a sudden disinterest in readying anything. Thanks for letting me know its an easy one maybe I’ll splurge on an extra audible credit to get it.
Oh @irisheyes81 fertility hasn’t ruined you but it has changed you. I have totally had those moments and sometimes it’s just human to overflow and maybe say something. Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t make the pain of infertility go away. That little “unfair” button will get pushed and your perspective is very different than this other woman’s. Give yourself a little slack. Letting go of pain is not linear. It doesn’t go away with a positive pregnancy test and a comment a circumstance can take it you right back. It’s okay to not see the bright side or potential sometimes. Lol I also am the one that wont paint her nails, I also haven’t had my hair highlighted and switched to all hippy dippy cleaners/beauty care products…except I can’t give up the occasional use of aerosol dry shampoo or and will order a latte’ now and again….I guess we all have our vices.
Here is a picture of the new chair in the spoiler, we will not be having the plastic cover on the ottoman…lol I took this while we were at the store. I really love that it is a taller and firmer chair with a high back. In many of the chairs I felt like a giant sinking into a mound of pillows. I just love the material it feels like velvet it was definitely our spurge for the room.
@businesswife I really love your furniture and it sounds like it will grow with your little one!
@adrirat Welcome!!! oh I don’t want to rain on your parade but it doesn’t always go away. Although it’s not nearly as bad at 20 weeks last night I way lying in bed dying all evening long asking DW to hit me over the head and knock me out. (She never fulfills this request). I used to be like that every night now it’s just manageable but the added heartburn and acid reflex still make me pretty gosh darn miserable for the majority of most days. Are you on an anti-nausea med or unisome+B6? I’m still on mine and the magnesium spray of all things seems to take the edge off the nausea. I hope yours goes away soon!
@aera11 if they clear you for the Benadryl make sure and get the topical gel. It works a million times quicker and better than the pills for itchy skin! Good luck!
@lablover78 yay to the hand me downs. I need to start rustling up some more friends I think! The whole situation with managing care between two doctors sounds so frustrating. I hope you are able to get some answers soon.
TTC History in Spoiler ***Trigger Warning*** Losses/Child Mentioned
2016
* April IUI#1 - BFN
* June IUI#2 - BFN
* July IUI#3 - CP
* Sept IVF#1 - 4 Retrieved & Mature, 4 Blasts. Fresh Transfer 1 - CP
* November FET #1 - Transferred 1 Blast - CP
2017 Switched REs - Recurrent loss testing for me - all normal, remaining 2 frosties sent for PGS - both abnormal
* April/May IVF#2: 9 retrieved, 8 mature, 7 fertilized, 7 blasts! Sent for testing - 2PGS Normals (0 remaining)
* November IVF #3 12R, 8M, 6F, 4 blasts! - All 4 PGS normal!
* November FET# 2 (Transfer a PGS normal from IVF#2) - BFP!!!
2018 DD born 8/20/18
2019 5PGS frosties ( 4 remaining)
* September FET#3 (1PGS normal) - Beta#1: 139.7 Beta#2: 322.6
@2MomsHoping I am about a month behind you, but I am really itching to get our nursery furniture in. I think I will be so more excited then when I can see it taking shape. The first step is to get rid of the old furniture. I'm waiting on my mom to decide if she wants it or not.
I don't know if I'm itchy for the same reasons, but I do have some dry itchy skin on my cheeks where I have NEVER had it before. I have to put on moisturizer or my face itches all day. So maybe not same reasons, but still itchy. I am slathering my stomach with berts bees mama bee moisturizer. I am also itchy at the locations of my insulin shots.
How're you feeling this week? Meh, okay I guess. Still have RLP here and there and gas pain- which I call 'the scary farts'. It is like major gas pain, but usually is brief. It's amazing how I can tell the difference between each different pain now. I am still taking benefiber so that is helping not to have constipation. Husband is starting to touch my stomach and talk more about and to the baby, this is nice! Also I am showing pretty clearly now. I am chubby so it looks different than others but my best friend said she can see it last weekend. I have been rubbing my belly a lot and hubby has too. I think we are going to be those crazy people who talk to the baby when in belly....or we already are! haha We have been calling him 'William'. lol. We like this name and aren't sure if it is final, but it is what we are calling him for now. If we keep that up it will most likely stick because we'll get used to it. We just don't seem to really gravitate towards any other names. We also like Harrison and Miles, but William just seems to fit.
How far along? 16 weeks and 6 days today
Appts this coming week? Had Ob appointment today. Baby is doing great, he is measuring exactly 16 weeks and 6 days. Still haven't gained any weight and I made sure I was careful with what I ate and whatnot to nail the scale test. I have to pee in a cup every time also. I drank a lot of water ahead of time after coffee so they didn't freak out and tell me to drink more again. last time I just happened to show up right after coffee.... sigh....I'm getting pretty sick of all the poking and prodding. Thankful I have the care I need but it is just tiring and I get so anxious before every appointment. My husband went with me today and was very nice, but he was stressed by the end of it because it took 2 hours. I am scheduled out until mid may now with appointments with my ob or perinatal.
Finally remembered to ask the other sonogram lady's schedule. Today was the final straw with the one I have been seeing. She made a big deal out of measuring the baby and tried to tell me she was just going to do heartbeat, then lectured me on working there 20 years and this is protocol....blah blah blah blah BLAH. I said I wanted measurements and she did it, my doctor said I can have anything I want for sono, whenever I want. So don't have to deal with her anymore. Turns out the really nice one is there on Tuesday afternoons, so that is an easy switch. I am getting the hang of not letting these people push me around and not getting upset, just telling them no. What is funny is I asked her her schedule myself so I can avoid her and made it out like I was just wondering. haha!
My husband went with me and I talked to my OB for a while. We covered my therapist's question about if it is safe to go back on my zoloft. He said no and had a great perspective on medication which I was so happy my husband heard first hand. He said the baby should be first priority now and if there is anything else I can do to change my lifestyle to stay off it, he recommends that first. So I told him that I am fine if I just stay away from the people causing the stress and he said good. It was like he gave me a perscription to stay away from my in-laws. He recommended that if we have to we just tell them something like 'look, I love you but, being around you is stressing me out to the point that I am considering going back on medication and I can't do that because it isn't good for the baby'. I don't know that I will say that about the medication, but just saying it stresses me out will be enough. People are judgemental about medication and then I feel like the have an excuse to think it's me not their bad behavior.
He also discussed my gestational diabetes with me. I told him that 'old man scary doctor' had told me I have probably have type 2 diabetes. He said that is ridiculous, but I did have some insulin resistance after my MC when I first saw him. I was on metformin so he never was able to get a good baseline. We discussed that after I have the baby I will go off my metformin and insulin and then we will get a baseline test for diabetes. I was only ever pre-diabetic even before I ever went on metformin like 2-4 years before ever being pregnant. It is just that whenever I was pregnant or coming off of the MC my hormones cause my blood sugar to go up. I worry if I've just given birth or if I am breast feeding the same will happen. So I will have to manage that all very carefully. I don't want to be tested in a situation when my hormones are running rampant and then be labeled as type 2 diabetic. uuuuggghh....stressful....just going to focus on the things I can control like diet and excersize and then that is all I can do. Not going to stress it just makes blood sugar go up more (ironically).
Also saw Endochrinologist on Monday and she said that it is not written in stone that I will need more insulin later in pregnancy or need to take after meal insulin. I could stay similar to how I am now, she doesn't know and we just have to see. Both my endo and OB said that just because I have GD doesn't mean I will have diabetes after I am pregnant.
Update on in-law drama below if you want to read:
@2momshoping Oh no, 20 weeks? Yes, I am on the DIY diclegis (unisom+b6) and haven't even thought about coming off...\
@hottietoddy Me reading your in-law stories:
Also @adirat do you know if you are having a boy or girl yet or are you team green?? Sorry if I missed that, I have been staying right here in my lane and not lurking at all on other boards. No judgement to others who do, I wish I could, I just get anxiety thinking about any other stages.
I am having a boy. We did PGD testing with our embryos so we knew the sex in advance.
@Irisheyes81 my cousin's wife smoked and their daughter was born premature. It was disgusting to see her smoke on their front porch while pregnant -- I can't remember why we visited that day -- and even though this was over a decade ago, that doesn't excuse her bc my cousin gave up smoking just a few years before that. /end rant
@hottietoddy hugs!
@TravelingCouple yay 3rd trimester!
AFM, I have a cold and am miserable. (Un)luckily, I was sick right after new years so I know the protocol -- no real meds, only Tylenol, gargling will salt/vinegar, lots of fluids, and lots of rest. Ugh but if DH makes another joke asking if I caught my nose (bc it's runny), I might smack him. Also, we're totally nesting and have cleaned up the guest room and he put together the crib today. A bunch of stuff was either given as hand-me-downs or sent from our registries already so it's exciting. Now I'm just trying not to get my germs on them. Finally, prenatal yoga was awesome last Friday and I signed up for another class this Friday. Now I just wish I had better concentration during the work day.
@2MomsHoping I bought the most natural nail polish I could find- I guess they are 5-free/vegan/GF, also switched to organic beauty products but omg the dry shampoo did not even occur me! So much to think about.
No Folic acid/pharmaceuticals/supplements (too many to list- private message me if interested), IVIL infusion
Unfortunately, because they are doctors and have to give you all the information they gave me the not as good scenarios as well. One being that there could be a blockage of both kidneys and if something happens to his left kidney he will not survive. This is likely not the case but its possible so for a while I will need to have ultrasounds every couple of weeks to make sure the left kidney is functioning okay. The other rare possibility is that the kidney deformation was due to a genetic disorder so they gave us the option of doing an amniocentesis yesterday to rule out anything that the Mat21 may not have picked up. Since I am AMA this was more of a concern for the doctor before she knew that we were donor egg but we decided to do it anyway just to make sure we had all the information. The amnio was fucking awful. I was talking a big game 'oh I'm an IVF mom needles are no prob for me' but this was not like the IVF needles and it was so uncomfortable. They drew out maybe four (maybe 400 I really don't know) vials worth of fluid which took a while. They use the u/s to make sure they are drawing fluid far from the baby which was easy because he was tucked away in the corner but then after the procedure the doctor brought the u/s back to the baby so we could see him again and I just fell apart. Lying on the bed covered in all kinds of u/s gel and whatever else they used for the procedure and I was just sobbing. It sucked.
We will get the results from the amnio in a couple of weeks and they should feel more confident about the kidney function after the next couple of ultrasounds so I have about 4-6 weeks of severe anxiety and then hopefully we will get all good news and I will go back to living in regular healthy mom-to-be fear. If you made it this far, thank you. I feel so blessed to have this community to share this with. xo
Here's the latest pic of our perfect little boy. I already love him so much.
edited bc pic was really big.
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
Since I had my first, those feelings faded away a lot. Don't get me wrong, a pregnant lady smoking would make me bonkers, but overall I have been a lot more laid back about things this time around