Oh no! I hope she is ok. My kiddos have had a runny nose and Samantha has a little congestion. I tried my best to keep them away, but I guess I wasn't successfully.
@DDRRT1982 it’s so difficult to keep the older kids away! DS loves giving his sister sugars. I’m hoping it’s just a bit of congestion or something like that. I got an appointment for her so we’re getting ready to leave shortly
Thanks, ladies! So far it looks like she’s caught her brother’s cold. They tested her for RSV to be sure, but told me to keep an eye on her symptoms and if she starts wheezing to bring her back!
@chasingroygbiv her RSV test was negative, thankfully! She’s so pitiful though. She’s having so much trouble breathing and that’s just upsetting her. I’m a sobbing mess right now. I’m not letting anyone else come over. This all started because someone brought a sick kid to my house after they assured me they were all well. That kid got DS sick and he passed it to Emma.
@mmom3 I’m so furious! I made sure to tell all of our visitors about our “no illness” policy and they assured me no one was sick before they came over.
thank you! I’m hoping she feels better quickly. Luckily what DS had was pretty mild and only lasted 1-2 days.
@BrittnieMariee I feel you! My 5 year old has impetigo from school and my two year old has pink eye because someone brought a sick kid to my house and he gave her his cold and wonderful pink eye! I freaking hate people this week and have decided no one is entering my house for a long time after this bs!
@sassypants2010 oh no! I’m so sorry to hear that! People are the worst. We’re definitely on lock down now! And if people show up sick, they aren’t getting past the front door!
Man. I hope Emma is well ASAP and that no one else ends up with sick LOs from their bigs. I’m so ready for sick/flu season to be over and for things to warm up.
@DDRRT1982 you’d think it would be common sense, ugh!
@mdfarmchick thank you! I’m definitely ready for the sick season to be over.
Last night was the worst. I was up most of the night just keeping an eye on her breathing. She’s still so congested and her temp was slightly elevated but not quite to fever level. We’ll be staying close to the humidifier today!
I pumped 7 oz out of one boob! That’s the most I’ve gotten so far! I have been eating breast milk boosting foods, too. I’ve definitely noticed a difference in my energy too from changing my diet. No more gluten or dairy for me! I’m tired of feeling crappy.
@megpeg - lots of spinach salads! Dole makes this salad kit that I thoroughly enjoy with spinach, blueberries, carrots, blue cheese and almonds. So good! Lots of oatmeal and eggs for breakfast just about every day lol. I drink almond milk now because milk was making me sick. And coconut milk yogurt the brand is called so delicious. It’s so yummy! I also drink so much water throughout the day too. Always have protein with dinner, so chicken or steak. Quinoa I eat a lot as well. I have stayed away from gluten and dairy. Sweet potatoes are another thing! I just found a list on Pinterest with foods that help boost your supply! So far so good
Hey....so how are your partners contributing with baby duties? My hubby takes the baby when he gets home from work and helps out quite a bit...but now I'm just thinking about night duty for diaper changes on the weekend. Should I ask him to do them? Yay or nay? He sleeps every night (well, tries to considering he gets woken up by baby crying for food every 2 hours). Should I talk to him about Friday and Saturday night diaper help? Thoughts?
We did that for our first but then we felt it was silly because I had to get up anyways to feed so why make him get up to do a 2 minute task. So for this one he sleeps soundly and will only get her unless she refuses to fall back asleep after nursing.
@nancysimp DH doesn’t help much with this LO right now. He does get up with our 2 year old on the weekends so Emma and I can sleep in a bit. And when he gets home from work I have the option of trying to nap. It was the same way with our first. In hindsight I wish I would’ve asked for more help. DS was formula fed so I could’ve totally gotten a break back then.
Alice Grace slept almost through the whole night!!! I actually woke her up to change her diaper and feed her around 4 am. Went to bed at 10! Then she ate and took her bink and fell back asleep. Oh, and not on me. She’s getting used to sleeping without being held! I’m so proud of her!!
@nancysimp Nora is formula fed. When she was waking up multiple times in the night, my husband tended to her each night until 1 AM and I took all shifts after that. Now that she is only getting up once per night, I get up with her exclusively during the week, and we tag-team on weekends. If I were BFing, I imagine I would've done it all like @slr1229 said - why wake my husband up for a 2-minute task?
@nancysimp I'm exclusively pumping for the time being, so occasionally MH takes a whole night shift (for as long as my boobs will allow me to sleep before throbbing) and usually the days I do the whole night shift (most days) he offers to do the 11PM feeding solo. On the weekends and for the weekday shifts when he's home, he does pretty much all the diapers and we usually split feedings (twins). Also he helps with other stuff on the weekends like food for us, cleaning bottles, etc. I agree with others if I was feeding from the boob, I'd just let him sleep through it so that one of us could get some rest and then I'd ask for more help on other tasks that weren't in the middle of the night.
With nursing I don't ask for help. However, from my experience it's definitely best to ask for help if you really feel you need it. I started out doing everything with our first and now four other kids later I am still doing everything. I try to ask for help, but he isn't very good at following through and I feel that had I not started a precedent early on he would have had a better routine with helping me.
My hubby takes one MOTN feed on Fridays and Saturdays. I'm breastfeeding but always have plenty of pumped milk for a bottle. We like him to take a bottle here and there anyway so he's used to it.
I’m in the minority here. MH helps with MOTN. He changes diapers and does the burping and puts Sam back down. He did the same with our first. That’s just what works for us and it’s important to MH to help.
I’m with @DDRRT1982. If you have a husband/partner and their willing to help - please ask him and get into a routine. I handle all baby tasks plus all the household tasks and our two other kids. The precedent was set years ago and now it’s so hard to break as he’s used to me being able to handle/do everything. With having a c-section this time it’s been harder and it’s hard trying to get assistance I could use on the weekends when he’s home is challenging and been a big struggle.
No night help here, but that’s because MH has awful hours and he literally wouldn’t get sleep if he did help me. Then on the rare day off I want him to get rest for once, so... He offers to help, but he physically can’t. He can’t stay awake. I appreciate the offer though. I should mention though, he’s extremely helpful during the day. Plays with the kids, helps with laundry, makes dinner every night, does baths, has been helping with bed times as best as he can before he crashes, I can’t complain!
MH works 72 hours a week so I try not to ask him to do too much on days he works. But then again I am used to him working OTR trucking and being home two days a month. But I do expect him to help with the trash and stuff like that, especially with all three kids having a cold and pink eye!
My DH went grocery shopping with our babe today so I could sleep a bit. We also haven't had a chance to go in the past 10 days. I'm too tired and he works a lot.
He picked up a bunch of foods that are supposed to help with milk supply. I've been worried about low milk. Dinner was pretty funny...spinach salad, yogurt with granola, can of tuna (not on list for milk supply...salmon is), fruits and oatmeal cookies for dessert and water. Lol. Tomorrow morning I'm making oatmeal for breakfast.
DH is trying his best to help. He changes diapers in the evenings and every morning around 6:30am. He also comforts babe as often as he can giving me a chance to rest between evening cluster feeds.
The most helpful thing is bringing me water and a snack...and getting me a blanket and pillow while I'm breastfeeding. I sometimes feel like I'm stuck on the couch for 4 hours straight in the evening.
Zzzz...4am feed is done now.
EDIT 7:51am. My babe has been up since 4:30...congested I'm going to pick up Hydrasence for Baby and use that with Nose Frida. The noises he makes when sleeping are so sad!!
@mmom3 he is local now, his hours vary but he works a minimum of 72 hours a week. I agree with you on the whole precedents thing, I never pushed him to help when he was home with the other two because I wanted to let him enjoy his time off the truck and now neither of us know how to do it any other way.
Like @mdfarmchick, I’m in the minority with MOTN help from DH. The plan was to EBF but my nipples ended up cracking so bad that DD wouldn’t latch to them. So now we’re doing a combination of BFing, pumping, and formula (milk supply isn’t quite high enough to only offer BM). Honestly, I feel like he probably does a bulk of the work right now due to CS recovery and that he’s home on work leave through Easter. It’s a weird cycle though- if he lets me sleep through a feeding at night, I’ll wake up feeling guilty that I didn’t at least offer the boob. But if I wake up for every feed and she doesn’t latch, I still end up needing his help with offering DD a bottle while I pump and he gets woken up anyway, which I feel guilty about also. I’m extremely grateful that he’s willing/able to help but end up feeling guilty that I don’t try harder to do it on my own.
@sassypants2010 - my husband is currently hauls steels so he is just beat (and dirty) when he walks in the door so I try not to ask him to do anything and generally the kids are in bed minus the baby now. Even with being home nightly, he’s not really “here.” Just to shower and sleep a few hours. Sometimes I wonder if it’d be better to find a 4 day run and be home for 3. He sometimes works weekends as well, but lately has declined working weekends because I’ve asked him to be home to help me, but that’s been tough because even before I still did everything.
@ashtuesday I've done it once so far, I just waited until she was sleeping in her bouncer. This LO could sleep through a marching band though, so aside from some wiggling I didn't have any trouble with her.
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Im glad Emma doesn’t have RSV and hope she’s better soon.
thank you! I’m hoping she feels better quickly. Luckily what DS had was pretty mild and only lasted 1-2 days.
@mdfarmchick thank you! I’m definitely ready for the sick season to be over.
Last night was the worst. I was up most of the night just keeping an eye on her breathing. She’s still so congested and her temp was slightly elevated but not quite to fever level. We’ll be staying close to the humidifier today!
Hey....so how are your partners contributing with baby duties? My hubby takes the baby when he gets home from work and helps out quite a bit...but now I'm just thinking about night duty for diaper changes on the weekend. Should I ask him to do them? Yay or nay? He sleeps every night (well, tries to considering he gets woken up by baby crying for food every 2 hours). Should I talk to him about Friday and Saturday night diaper help? Thoughts?
He picked up a bunch of foods that are supposed to help with milk supply. I've been worried about low milk.
DH is trying his best to help. He changes diapers in the evenings and every morning around 6:30am. He also comforts babe as often as he can giving me a chance to rest between evening cluster feeds.
The most helpful thing is bringing me water and a snack...and getting me a blanket and pillow while I'm breastfeeding. I sometimes feel like I'm stuck on the couch for 4 hours straight in the evening.
Zzzz...4am feed is done now.
EDIT 7:51am. My babe has been up since 4:30...congested
I've done it once so far, I just waited until she was sleeping in her bouncer. This LO could sleep through a marching band though, so aside from some wiggling I didn't have any trouble with her.