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laviniarose
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Tips on beating back fear and enjoying your pregnancy?
laviniarose
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Hi all,
I'm a 1st time mom-to-be just starting my 7th week.
I really hesitated on writing this post, but feel desperately in need of some support from those who are feeling the same as me and/or have been in my shoes and just decided to go for it.
DH and I decided that 2018 would be the year we start our family. Amazingly, and despite having PCOS, I got pregnant on our first try! More amazingly, I have felt physically healthy and strong and have not had any noticeable negative pregnancy symptoms aside from some hormonal chin acne that completely cleared up after a couple of weeks. Despite this great start, and despite feeling over-the-moon excited for the pregnancy and everything that's to come, I somehow keep getting overwhelmed with irrational feelings of fear which inevitably keep me from enjoying the process as much as I should be. I'm embarrassed to admit that there are days where I'm all over the map--I go from feeling wonderful that things have seemed so easy so far, but then suddenly fall into a fit of anxiety where I feel that not having implantation spotting, morning sickness, and all the symptoms that are supposed to come with pregnancy mean that something is wrong. I go from counting down the days until my first US, then fade into a sense of dread that the US tech won't be able to find my baby or its heartbeat. On odd days where I do experience some minor cramping, I feel like it is one cramp too far and that something bad is happening to my embryo.
In other words ... I know that I'm a huge fool, and I know that I'm making up all of these negative scenarios and am getting trapped inside my own paranoid head. I want to be grateful for my experience so far and I want to enjoy every minute of being pregnant for the first time, but I'm finding it hard to stop this behaviour. I have relayed these feelings to DH--he definitely does his best to be understanding and supportive, but he's a very laid-back personality and likes to simply express that even if something bad does happen, we will deal with it together and will try again the next time. He's very sweet and I know he's right, but I'm still left feeling anxious at times (which is 100% my fault, not his.)
Am I certifiable here? Has anyone else had fits of fear at any point during their pregnancy? Any insight and/or reassurance would be so appreciated. I anticipate reality checks and those are welcome too.
I'm a 1st time mom-to-be just starting my 7th week.
I really hesitated on writing this post, but feel desperately in need of some support from those who are feeling the same as me and/or have been in my shoes and just decided to go for it.DH and I decided that 2018 would be the year we start our family. Amazingly, and despite having PCOS, I got pregnant on our first try! More amazingly, I have felt physically healthy and strong and have not had any noticeable negative pregnancy symptoms aside from some hormonal chin acne that completely cleared up after a couple of weeks. Despite this great start, and despite feeling over-the-moon excited for the pregnancy and everything that's to come, I somehow keep getting overwhelmed with irrational feelings of fear which inevitably keep me from enjoying the process as much as I should be. I'm embarrassed to admit that there are days where I'm all over the map--I go from feeling wonderful that things have seemed so easy so far, but then suddenly fall into a fit of anxiety where I feel that not having implantation spotting, morning sickness, and all the symptoms that are supposed to come with pregnancy mean that something is wrong. I go from counting down the days until my first US, then fade into a sense of dread that the US tech won't be able to find my baby or its heartbeat. On odd days where I do experience some minor cramping, I feel like it is one cramp too far and that something bad is happening to my embryo.
In other words ... I know that I'm a huge fool, and I know that I'm making up all of these negative scenarios and am getting trapped inside my own paranoid head. I want to be grateful for my experience so far and I want to enjoy every minute of being pregnant for the first time, but I'm finding it hard to stop this behaviour. I have relayed these feelings to DH--he definitely does his best to be understanding and supportive, but he's a very laid-back personality and likes to simply express that even if something bad does happen, we will deal with it together and will try again the next time. He's very sweet and I know he's right, but I'm still left feeling anxious at times (which is 100% my fault, not his.)
Am I certifiable here? Has anyone else had fits of fear at any point during their pregnancy? Any insight and/or reassurance would be so appreciated. I anticipate reality checks and those are welcome too.
Re: Tips on beating back fear and enjoying your pregnancy?
I have been searching the boards for similar questions (And advice). Like yourself, this is my first pregnancy, which fortunately happened relatively quickly after DH and I decided to begin our family planning. Like you, I have had almost none of the ‘megative’ Symptoms (to date) and will be 11 weeks tomorrow. The only real tangible symptoms I have experienced was exhaustion around weeks 5-6. My energy level has since returned and My first US is scheduled in week 12. I am extremely anxious to hear/see that everything is going well. But excited as well!
I’m finding it stressful not having these symptoms, and often question if things are going ok... doing my best to stay positive. I’m really looking forward to the US - and ultimately sharing the news with Family to reach out for support. This is a tough secret (And the longest) to keep - with only my DH and I at the moment.
Thank you you for sharing this - as even knowing someone else out there shares the same worries/experience is comforting. Sending you positive vibes and healthy bump wishes!
Thank you, @omiswheretheheartis! Many congrats to you as well on your pregnancy!
I'm positive that everything is okay with your little one, and best of luck for your upcoming scan! I only just got a call from my doctor's office for my first one, which is tomorrow afternoon (right on the first day of my 8th week!) I am so nervous, but also very excited and am hoping for the best.
This is probably the longest I've ever kept anything secret, so I feel for you there as well! Right now only my DH and BFF know (DH is wonderful, but I really needed a girl who's been through this before that I could just spill everything to--it really has helped as well!) Keep imagining the happy moment you'll tell your family--that's something that has kept me going as well and helped me circumvent some anxiety! Again, best of luck with absolutely everything and many wishes to you for more energy and much fun the whole process.