December 2017 Moms
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ROLL CALL!
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Hey all!
I'm kind of sad that this board has been all but deserted!
I keep checking in and if there's nothing new I don't comment, but if there was new stuff I would!
I know there are probably others like me out there, just waiting for someone to get things going again now that the majority of us have had our babies and have started to settle in.
So let me know if you're still here!
When was baby born? How many weeks pregnant were you?
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
What has been your biggest joy?
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
I'm kind of sad that this board has been all but deserted!
I keep checking in and if there's nothing new I don't comment, but if there was new stuff I would!
I know there are probably others like me out there, just waiting for someone to get things going again now that the majority of us have had our babies and have started to settle in.
So let me know if you're still here!
When was baby born? How many weeks pregnant were you?
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
What has been your biggest joy?
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
Re: ROLL CALL!
When was baby born? How many weeks pregnant were you?
November 18th at 36 weeks (twins)
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
The lack of sleep now that both babies are super gassy and uncomfortable.
What has been your biggest joy?
Looking at those precious little faces when feeding them. I love the way they look at you while they are eating.
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
Lots of help from the MIL.
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
My babies! And a spa day from my SO.
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby? Week 3 was so hard. She went through a growth spurt and it almost sent me over the edge. That and dividing my attention between baby and DS has been challenging to say the least
What has been your biggest joy? Seeing how much DS is in love with her. Whenever she's not within his immediate view he's asking where she is and is constantly asking to hold her and help with her. It is the cutest thing!
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents) it's hard. I feel like DH and I never get a second alone, and when we do we just want to relax and not be "on for each other. I know we will get our time together back eventually but right now is tough.
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year? DH was a smart man and basically just got my entire list so a lot of little things. Silicone baking mats, nice sweatpants, a remote for my camera, a new hat!
Baby was born at 1:23am on Dec 16! I was 41 weeks (phew haha)
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
My other two girls were pretty calm and peaceful - this bundle of joy is a screamer lol... when she's not perfectly happy - everyone knows! I love her to bits, though
What has been your biggest joy?
The fact that I was able to bring her into the world the way I planned, at home, with family was amazing. It felt like everything that could go wrong leading up to the birth did - but when it came down to it, it all worked out. She is happy and healthy and the birth was beautiful.
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
We're doing well - the major adjusting is going to have to happen when Mommy goes back to work
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
Don't celebrate Christmas, but it was nice and sunny where I live. Yay, California!
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
Breast feeding on my flat nipple. Still trying to get a good latch. So painful and cracked.
What has been your biggest joy?
Snuggles!
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
Great. Love seeing my hubby as a Dad
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
some. Nutcrackers for my collection
When was baby born? How many weeks pregnant were you?
38+2
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
Making sure my oldest doesn’t feel replaced, and making sure to bond with DD2.
What has been your biggest joy?
Seeing DD1 just recently start loving on her baby sissy
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
We are doing well. Although I personally find myself going to bed later and later each night. Last night was close to 1am because DD2 just wouldn’t settle.
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
I got Uggs (slip ons) and an iPhone 8 because my 6 died. But really, my favorite present was DD2
When was baby born? How many weeks pregnant were you?
Bronx was born via RCS at 39 weeks on 12/7
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
The adjustment of my older son is one of my biggest challenges; with Bronx specifically, navigating his constipation is our biggest concern right now. Things to help work for a day or two and then it seems the constipation gets worse. Today has been by far the worst - we have appt in morning so Im hoping for some guidance. Feel so bad for my little guy.
What has been your biggest joy?
everytime DS1 kisses and hugs his baby brother. Seeing them together has brought me so much joy. It's all I ever wanted
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
ds1 is phenomenal with Bronx but still very jealous. He's 4 years old and is regressing a bit. Ex: when I put the baby down, DS1 immediately asks me to pick him up and carry him; last night he wanted to sit on my lap to eat dinner..
spouse is better than he was the first couple of weeks; he is much better with DS1 than a newborn but he was same way with DS1
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
Photo ornaments of great moments from 2017 - we got married, had a baby and bought a home! It was a big year
DX Diminished Ovarian Reserve, Factor V Leiden Mutation, Secondary Infertility
MFI (SA #1Count 11mill, Motility: 18%, Morphology: 1%)
AMH .328 | FSH 13.2
1/3/18 at 40 weeks 3 days
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
Trying to sleep when baby sleeps! This is #2 for me and I thought naively, ‘I got this’. HA! I have a busy 4 year old and a newborn who only loves to sleep during the day (when I can’t). Also I’ve been getting super emotional
missing out on doing DD’s routine of bath time, dropping her off at school, putting her to bed with stories and kisses. Tonight DD came into the nursery 3 times while I was nursing to say ‘goodnight, I love you’. I wanted to squeeze her but I couldn’t.
What has been your biggest joy?
seeing my now complete family!
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
DH has been the best. He’s taken over (for now until he goes back to work) bath time, school drop-offs/pick-ups, cooking, groceries, cleaning and playing with DD. DD is surprisingly adjusting well and now proclaims ‘I’ll do it it myself’ a lot when going potty, etc. It’s great but it’s hard to let go of my maternal gatekeeping.
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
DH bought me a pair of Hunter rain boots.
11/25/17 12:50am from csection at 37 weeks
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
This past weekend. My Lo has been having tons of vomiting and we took her to ER and they transferred us to Levines and they found she had pyloric stenosis and had surgery yesterday to correct it at 7weeks old. She did extremely well and doctor said her lining was the thickest he has seen so far.
What has been your biggest joy?
having my LO eat, keep it down, and poop (she had not pooped since Thursday evening because of the stenosis.
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
we did really well until her stenosis ramped up then we were aggravated and frazzeled but we will but we will settle back into happy routine once we discharged.
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
SO aunt got her a music elephant to calm her down and we bought her a swing which she loves!!!
When was baby born? How many weeks pregnant were you?
Baby was born 12/19 at 40 weeks 3 days - I have to remember to post my birth story!
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
Sleeping! Little man loves to sleep, but he also loves to eat and to be held, so he’s not skipping any feedings and I’m up every 2/2.5 hours to feed him, change him, and cuddle him back to sleep. That leaves me about an hour to sleep in between, which is still better than the earlier days when he was cluster feeding every hour at night!
What has been your biggest joy?
Ugh everything! I just love him so much. He is so damn cute and cuddly I would snuggle him all day if I could, and seeing my husband with him makes my heart melt.
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
Everyone is adjusting well. My husband is definitely getting used to the new normal since he hasn’t really spent time around babies and previously was very focused on himself and his work, but he is crazy about this kid so he won’t even complain.
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
Nothing beat my little man! Best “gift” ever!
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
I'm trying to be better!
When was baby born? How many weeks pregnant were you?
He was born November 24, I was 39 weeks.
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
Lack of sleep... coffee is currently my best friend.
What has been your biggest joy?
Early morning snuggles. Also, seeing him smile! He started to do it this morning.
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
Pretty well for the most part!
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
I was spoiled this year. I got a gift card for a salon cut and color, which I had done last weekend. I also got a whole new wardrobe through Khols, a Google Home Mini, and some tattoo work done. (I had an existing tat retouched, new baby's name and birth date added to my back tattoo next to my other kids names, and then a small tattoo behind my ear)
When was baby born? How many weeks pregnant were you? 12/26 - 40w6d
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby? She fights taking the boob so hard. Once she gets going she does great but getting there is a struggle. Also managing DS. He doesn’t get why he isn’t getting most of my attention anymore and is acting out more than ever.
What has been your biggest joy? Just bringing home a happy and healthy baby! I do love when dS runs over to the rock n play or pack n play specifically looking for his sister. It melts my heart!
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents) DH has amnesia from our first go around apparently. I do suppose it is taking a bit longer than DS to get DD back to sleep during MOTN and that is annoying him. He’s already mentioning schedules. She’s two weeks old! As I mentioned, DS isn’t adjusting great but we are getting there. He’s hitting and throwing (started when I started showing around 5 or 6 months) and I feel like I’ve exhausted ALL of the ways to deal. Speech therapy starts soon so hopefully that will help.
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year? DH did really great this year! I got a little succulent garden that is too cute and an Erin condren planner that I need to start using....
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
When was baby born? How many weeks pregnant were you?
Dec 12th, babies were 37+3
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
OMFG everything. This is a complete lifestyle change. New house, new town, I’m not working anymore AT ALL EVER AGAIN. Just balancing it all and trying to not freak out. Plus, I had some physical problems after delivery - lots of hemmoraging at birth and then again 11 days postpartum, so the physical recovery has been really hard. I’m finally on the mend though, thankfully. But yeah, everything about this is hard. Rewarding and wonderful, but really hard.
What has been your biggest joy?
Seeing these gorgeous little girls that look like my husband and myself. They’re just sos wet and perfect and I never knew I could love anything so much. Morning family snuggle time is the best, and just anytime after they eat and just want to lie on my chest and sleep. Swoon.
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
My husband is having a hard time understanding that we can’t just up and leave in 5 minutes anymore, and we can’t just do anything we want anymore. I’m chained to my house with them a lot, and he doesn’t really get that sometimes. But otherwise, he’s the best freaking dad I’ve ever seen. Changes diapers, snuggles them, feeds them, loves them. It’s really great to see how he’s turned out.
My mom is OBSESSED and is over all the time helping us out. Such a blessing. She’s amazing and I’m totally comfortable leaving the girls with her so we can go on a date night/take a nap whenever she’s here.
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
My babies! And I got to sleep alllllll Christmas Day. And I got out of the hospital after my second hemmoraging scare on Christmas Eve morning and I was home. That was the greatest gift of all.
As far as presents go, my husband got me a GC to get a massage, so I’m excited to use that.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
When was baby born? How many weeks pregnant were you?
Water broke at 40+0, he was born on 12/9 at 40+2
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
Sleep deprivation. I had absolutely no idea it would be this bad. No idea. All of my breakdowns have been about exhaustion. I’ve been good about cherishing this time and not wishing he were older, but I’m so looking forward to more structured routines and getting more sleep.
ETA A close second would be the weather. On days where I’ve actually felt rested enough to go out for walks, which I am desperate to do to give us a change of scenery, it’s been way too cold.
What has been your biggest joy?
Well he’s a big snuggle bug and loves being on me better than basically anywhere else. We still haven’t hit social smiles or anything like that, so this is what feels like love for mommy right now. He laughs in his sleep, which is pretty dang cute, and when he’s just kind of staring at me quietly and studying my face - that’s pretty great.
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
H was incredibly helpful in the first few weeks home and then it was like he tapered down to doing the bare minimum. He went back to work yesterday after a month off so I think this transition is going to be hard on all of us.
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
H got me one of those Tile keychains, which I had mentioned needing a ton of times before, because I’m always misplacing my keys in the house.
April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal
June 2016 - HSG clear
*TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16
BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17
DS - 12/9/17
TTC #2 December 2018
BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19
DD - 11/1/19
My Chart
Hang in there everyone. Every day we get closer to them being able to sleep through the night. Geez, I feel like once hat happens, I’ll be able to take on anything.
When was baby born? How many weeks pregnant were you?
12/9 at 40 and 6 days.
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
Coming to terms with my delivery. Things did not go as planned. I got chorioamnionitis after being in labor for 30 hours and her never descending leading to an emergent c section, and baby girl being on antiobiotics for the first couple days of her life. Everyone is fine now, but I took it really hard initially. I was also completely ill prepared for what a csection recovery would be like so that has been tough too. My milk supply hasn’t been great, we had to utilize a nipple shield and for the first three weeks really struggled to put on weight. We had many weight checks and lactation appointments, but finally she’s gaining super well. I’m having to pump mostly during the day and supplement with formula to ensure she gets an adequate volume daily.
I’ll agree with @whiska that I was also not prepared for the level of sleep deprivation. I work night shift frequently and thought I could easily handle being up all night and running on minimum sleep, but it has been very rough but DH has been a saint with all his help.
What has been your biggest joy?
We are starting to get some social smiles I think and they just melt my heart. All the snuggles.
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
DH has been so patient and helpful. He wants to do everything and it’s so nice when he’s home to help out. Our doggies are feeling a bit neglected. I’m trying to snuggle with them when DD sleeps bc it’s been such a hard transition for them.
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
I bought myself an instant pot to help with quick dinners. I haven’t had time to even open it but I’m excited to try it out. Maybe this weekend.
When was baby born? How many weeks pregnant were you?
12/7 and 40+5
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
Probably a combination of sleep deprivation, c-section recovery, and baby having gas pain here recently. He'll sleep 3-4 hours at first at night, but then he'll be up hourly cluster feeding or gassy for the rest of the night. I feel so bad seeing him in pain, but the noisy baby farts make me giggle a little bit. My scar looks pretty good, but I'm still having internal pain sporadically and with uterine contraction while nursing.
What has been your biggest joy?
I just love him so much! I think nursing is my favorite, though, because we get to snuggle and he makes such cute noises and I feel like he needs me.
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
DH is usually super duper helpful during the day but not so much at night. At first he did all the diaper changes while I still had limited mobility, but as I've recovered and he's started work again I've switched to covering all the nighttime stuff. Some of the cleaning around the house has been falling by the wayside. I think he doesn't always realize that I don't have the time or energy to do certain household tasks that I used to do. Our dog seems a little sad that she hasn't been getting as much attention, but overall she's been good with him.
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
I got a cardigan that has a drapey enough front that it doubles as a nursing cover.
Though all of you raving about your cuddly babies who stare at you lovingly is making me a bit jealous
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby? Operating on lack of sleep has been a challenge. She also has bouts where she just screams for like 3 hours where nothing makes her happy. I think a lot of these are times she fights going to sleep and then gets overtired.
Although I think the biggest challenge was getting her out....more than 48 hours after induction and a c-section late, I'm glad it's over and she's here and healthy.
What has been your biggest joy? I don't think I could pick just one. I love it when she snuggles up on my chest. It makes my heart burst. But I also love watching her observe the world around her. There are times you just can see her brain working and I love it!
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents) Pretty good. It's been really nice to see H and I working as a team and working through this new challenge. Since H has been home since C was born, it's been great for us to both take care of her. Although our next step will be trying to figure out what our "normal" looks like and get into our routine when he's back to work.
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year? Umm.. the BABY?!! Although beyond the baby it's probably my Roomba.
@Clovelyone - Oh man...I can barely handle ONE gassy baby. I can't imagine it x2.
@FailureToFly - We're hitting week 3 now, and I'm concerned about what's in my future with a potential growth spurt.
@Marley629 - How is Bronx doing?
@MJDSquared - I'm glad she's gaining weight and doing better!
@Breezybee - Sorry that it's been a rough recovery. I hope you're feeling better now. You have had a lot of change over a short period of time. I'm sure it will take adjustments but I'm sure you'll find your new groove.
@BrittyClem - Sorry that things aren't going as planned. I love my instantpot!
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
November 29th at 39 weeks
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby?
I have a lot of anxiety and depression, I am really struggling with the idea of going back to work. I hate the idea of missing even a moment. Working my butt of just to let someone else snuggle and care for my son.
What has been your biggest joy?
Snuggling in bed with my husband, my son, and my dog. Seeing Victor smile at his daddy. Milk drunk baby face.
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents)
Great! My teenage step daughter loves him she makes sure to snuggle him for a while every day. DH is loving every minute, he was really young when he had his first 2 and didn’t get to enjoy their baby days. Byron my beloved bull terrier is a great big brother but gets a little jealous when somebody he is used to visits and fusses over baby before greeting him.
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year?
DH was not supposed to get me anything but he came home a few days after Christmas with a beautiful entertainment center with built in faux fireplace/heater that looks super nice and makes my living room nice and toasty for me and the little guy.
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby? Originally I would have said breastfeeding. LO has a super strong latch and was killing my nipples (cracked, bleeding), after working with several IBCLCs with no luck, I tried a nipple shield and life changed!!
Now I would say the 5-9pm colic is the worst. He’s such a sweet, smiling, and easy baby during the day....but since 5.5 weeks he’s been a terror right when DH gets home. I know this will pass though
What has been your biggest joy? LO has been smiling and laughing since day one and I just can’t get enough of his “talking” to us.
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents) really well, not much to adjust to since it was just the two of us before. We were worried about our cat misbehaving but he’s actually been better since the baby arrived!
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year? we didn’t do gifts, too busy with a 2 week old!
TTC#1 since November 2015
9/16/2016 IUI#1 - BFN
10/12/2016 IUI#2 - BFN
1/21/2017 Clomid/IUI#3 - BFN
March 2017 IVF: BFP! (beta#1 191, beta#2 378!) - it's a boy! DS born 12/6/2017
TTC #2 since July 2018
May 2019 IVF #2: BFP! (beta#1 346, beta#2 646) - vanishing twin at 8 weeks. Baby B still going strong - due 2/8/20!
When was baby born? How many weeks pregnant were you? 12/12, I was just shy a couple days of 40 weeks.
What has been your biggest challenge of this new baby? going back to work...
What has been your biggest joy? Seeing him and his big sister interact.
How is your family adjusting? (Spouse/other children/parents) Everyone did really well and lasted through the holidays alright. It was like when we came home from the hospital everything was the same (except there was an extra baby in the house). We got back into our groove pretty easily!
GTKY: what was your favorite Christmas gift you received this year? We don't really do gifts for adults, but we enjoyed watching our daughter open her presents.
Together since May 19, 2001
Baby #1 was born in May 2013.