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H still wants a divorce..NOW I'm staying home with Cody

smisch51smisch51 member
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So H still wants his divorce and wont go to marriage Therapy with me. I've been going every week and we came to the conclusion that he's a VERY selfish immature 40 year old that wont change. Oh...and he's a mommies boy that runs to her all the time. So now I've decided to NOT go back to work and care for Cody 24/7. He was waiting for me to go back to work before he files to lower his child support payments. So he's NOT going to get his way because there is no one better to take care of Cody than his mommy. I figure with Child support, alimony (only for 1 1/2 years) SSI program and this other program Cody and I should be fine financially. I'm scared but i know once my baby is home in my arms I'm going to do everything passable to make sure he is well taken care of. I see a lawyer next week.

 

Oh...H is ALSO on-line now stating he's divorced and looking for women now. I was shocked, pissed and confronted him. He sees it not a big deal since we are getting a divorce. What a A-hole hu? So I want out of this marriage now and I'm not trying to work it out anymore because I can't trust him now.

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  • cranberry27cranberry27
    I've added you to my carepages list and think about you and Cody every time I'm on there checking my other pages for updates. ?I am so sorry to hear that he is still struggling. ?I'm also sorry that your husband is still being horrible, but I'm relieved to see you doing so well and getting the financial and emotional support that you need. ?Thank you for the update. ?Cody is incredibly lucky to have you for his mom! ?You will both be in my thoughts.
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  • MichelleWPMichelleWP
    I am so sorry for everything you and Cody are going through - Cody is lucky to have a mom who is stepping up to be a strong advocate for him!
    Michelle
    3 boys (15, 8, 6), 1 girl (4)
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  • kirbearkirbear member

    I'm somewhat new here and don't know your whole story with your husband. But I wanted to offer my support to you as I am a single mom.  I was separated from my ex when my daughter was 8mths old and divorced almost a year ago.  My daughter does not have the same needs as your son or require the amt of care, so our situations aren't the same, but it terms of support with the divorce, needing to vent etc... I am her if you want to chat!  my thoughts are with you-- you are a strong person and just know you will get through this and your little guy is lucky to have you!!

     

    Kirsten DD 4-7-06
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  • mommee2bmommee2b
    I am a lurker here on this board and I was wondering how you were doing.  I am so sorry to hear that he is continuing his obnoxious behavior.  As a one time single mom I just want to say... Keep your head up high as it does get better! I promise you that! A mature man would wait until the divorce was final or at least until things were more settled between the both of you before looking elsewhere.  You both do not need him and deserve way better.  You will end up a stronger person and will amaze yourself at the strength you have! I will keep you both in my prayers.
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  • JLSBWGJLSBWG member
    Well, you are a strong woman and will make a great home for Cody.  Your husband on the other hand, definately needs to get his act together and smarten up!  I know someday you will meet a great guy who will adore you and Cody.  Hang in there! 
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