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TTC after miscarriage

Knottie1441244690Knottie1441244690 member
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Hello, I had a miscarriage in October. I still had all symptoms but when I went for an ultrasound there was no longer a heartbeat. It has been devastating for my husband and I. We are trying to conceive again but have not been successful. Each month that goes by seems to get tougher and tougher. I know 4 months hasn't been long since the miscarriage but I got pregnant within one cycle the first time and am worried something is wrong. It feels like a loss all over again everytime I get a negative test. Any advice on how to cope would be much appreciated. 
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  • Mack2342Mack2342 member
    So sorry for your loss.  Most of us on this board can understand your feelings.  It is a difficult process to go through and it seems we are much more nervous and anxious after a loss.   Our bodies sometimes take a while to get back to normal after a loss and that could be a reason it takes longer to get pregnant.  Just know that you are not alone and the ladies on this board can be extremely helpful in this process.  I have been on this board since August 2016 with 3 losses and these ladies have helped me get through as they understand all the feelings.  They also have a lot of knowledge and can provide some insight 
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  • Kath525Kath525 member
    "It feels like a loss all over again everytime I get a negative test". Yes. Yes. Yes. I stopped testing early for this reason. I used to test at 8 DPO and everyday til AF started. Then it just got to be too hard. I'm really sorry for your loss. I hope your stay here is short. This board is full of support while you wait.
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  • dpjenniferdpjennifer member
    PTSD. Depression. Anxiety. Find a therapist! It was the best thing I did to cope with my RPL!

    MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
    MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
    MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
    RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
    MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
    RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
    MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)

    RE #3: More testing 2023. 
    Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
    Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
    Lupron Depo March 2024.  Benched 3 months.

    FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)

    Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.

    FET #2: September 2024 (failed)

    FET #3: December 2024 (failed)

    #BitterHagPartyOf1

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  • tosh24tosh24 member
    Welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's really hard to not get impatient and put pressure on yourself, but just know that it can take a perfectly healthy couple up to 12 months to conceive. Unfortunately, that time resets after a loss and can take up to another 12 months. If you are AMA or have other known issues that you know/think might impact your fertility, then you can definitely see a specialist sooner. GL with your journey!
    Me: 35 I DH: 38
    *TW loss and children mentioned*
    DD:2006 | Dx: Unexplained Secondary Infertility | DS: 2011

    TFAS since 2012

    Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C
    Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
    May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
    Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
    Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
    Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
    Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
    Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen  
    Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
    Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
    Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
    Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201  Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715 U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125!
    EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
    My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019 <3 

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  • bakerstreetboysbakerstreetboys member
    Sorry for your loss.  It is an experience that can only be understood by someone who has been there.  I'm in the same boat, so I don't have any words of wisdom, but as others have mentioned, it can take some time for your body to get back on track.  Good luck to you :)
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  • vlagrl29vlagrl29 member
    sorry for your loss but being patient is key and I know it sucks.  It took us 6 months to get pg with our loss and now we are on 1 year.  Even perfectly healthy people can take awhile to get pg.  Welcome to the board.
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  • pumpkinpancakepumpkinpancake member
    Sorry for your loss, but welcome to our group. Like others have said, we all get the feelings you’re feeling, and it definitely sucks each month when it’s another BFN. Unfortunately, it takes time for a lot of people, so hang in there. We can all stay in this waiting game together for now. 
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