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TTC After a Loss
etnyah
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Intro: New member (sadly!)
etnyah
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Hi everyone! I signed up for this forum while pregnant and couldn't wait to make my first post, but sadly my first post ended up on the Miscarriage board.
My husband and I weren't trying and it was a surprise, but when I found out I was pregnant I was just so incredibly happy, I'm sure you all know the feeling. We didn't think we were "ready" a first, but thinking about it more, we're in a decent financial spot, work-wise we'd be able to make it work, and we're not getting any younger (I'm 29 and he's 41). I started bleeding only a couple days after the BFP, it's now a week later I'm still bleeding. My OBGYN confirmed my loss when my hcg levels dropped from 64 to 13 between Wednesday and Friday.
I've never been pregnant before, so I'm going to be positive and chalk it up to a one-off incident for now. My OBGYN told me to expect my next period 4-6 weeks after the current bleeding stops, and we're then ready to start trying again. In the meantime I'll be popping prenatal vitamins, eating healthy, and enjoying my three daily cups of coffee while I can. Hopefully I'll have to kick the coffee habit sooner rather than later, here's hoping for winter 2018/2019 babies - for me and everyone else on this board!
My husband and I weren't trying and it was a surprise, but when I found out I was pregnant I was just so incredibly happy, I'm sure you all know the feeling. We didn't think we were "ready" a first, but thinking about it more, we're in a decent financial spot, work-wise we'd be able to make it work, and we're not getting any younger (I'm 29 and he's 41). I started bleeding only a couple days after the BFP, it's now a week later I'm still bleeding. My OBGYN confirmed my loss when my hcg levels dropped from 64 to 13 between Wednesday and Friday.
I've never been pregnant before, so I'm going to be positive and chalk it up to a one-off incident for now. My OBGYN told me to expect my next period 4-6 weeks after the current bleeding stops, and we're then ready to start trying again. In the meantime I'll be popping prenatal vitamins, eating healthy, and enjoying my three daily cups of coffee while I can. Hopefully I'll have to kick the coffee habit sooner rather than later, here's hoping for winter 2018/2019 babies - for me and everyone else on this board!
DS born 2/18/2019
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
Re: Intro: New member (sadly!)
I'm so sorry for your loss.
My partner and I just lost our first pregnancy too. We were supposed to be 12 weeks on the 9th of January but miscarried at 11 weeks.
I love your optimism. We are hoping to fall pregnant again in the not too distant future, so hopefully it'll be a summer baby for us! (I'm Australian).
xx
Before I knew for certain I was going through a mc (it started with several days of spotting and no pain, so it could have gone either way) I kept googling and worrying obsessively, and it affected my emotional state so much I've just decided to be optimistic for my own sanity's sake. Besides, mc's are so common, and lots of people manage to become pregnant again with no issues afterwards. Until the opposite has happened to me (FX it won't), I refuse to worry about what might or might not happen in the future.
If everything goes as planned, we're both past the worst part! And Yay for an Australian summer baby! I'm hopeful for you! xx
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
I've read a bunch of posts here already and it seems like a great group of women, it makes me happy to see how much compassion and support strangers can show each other. Hoping for the best for all of you!
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
Okay, I just need to rant. Except for my husband, I didn't tell anyone about my mc. My family lives in a different country, and the only person besides my husband I see on a regular basis who I feel I can share personal things with is one of my coworkers. I told her yesterday morning, and she was very supportive.
Yesterday evening though, she started texting me images of pregnancy tests, asking me if they were positive. I could see they were all faint positives, and it turns out she's pregnant now. She's about a week behind what I would have been, and won't stop talking about it. It just feels like such a slap in the face. I'm trying to be happy for her, but I'm so annoyed at how insensitive she's being. I'm almost happy she got a new job now so I won't have to watch her stomach grow, and feeling that way makes me mad at myself because I feel so petty just thinking it. Ugh, I wish she'd kept it to herself a little bit longer though. Who rubs their new pregnancy in the face of a friend who *just* told them about their recent miscarriage?!
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
***TW***
Unfortunately, it seems she might be miscarrying too. She got a call from her doctor today saying her hcg levels aren't doubling, and actually even dropped a little. I was worried this would happen, since she has a lot of severe, chronic health issues. I was mad at her for being insensitive, but there's no way I can stay mad after this. She was so excited and now it's just terrible for the both of us. At least we have each other for support!
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024