FFFC: our ultrasound thread makes me cringe. I get excited to see little squishes but then it is just more commentary. I’m a firm believer that AW posts like ultrasounds, nursery pics, and eventual birth announcements should be love tit only. Otherwise, it is so unwieldy to wade through and show love for people posting. I absolutely want to comment and support anyone who has questions or concerns based on an appt, but we could do that on the questions or weekly appts thread. Just my two cents. Edites bc so =/= show
@spottedginger agreed! I don't mind seeing ultrasounds, but would prefer comments and questions to be on weekly threads.
I've got a couple FFFCs. The first is that my husband is driving me crazy currently. He literally needs everything to be spelled out to him and I just wish he were more intuitive with my needs after being together for the last 8.5 years. I wish he treated pregnancy like it was a little bit special and not just like, "yeah, so what?".
The other is that sometimes I really dislike being the reliable/go-to parent. I always want my son to know I'll be here for him, but my schedule constantly revolves around him and my husband revolves his schedule around work. Sometimes it can be really hard to communicate well and feel listened to. Marriage is constant work.
Gosh girls, sorry for so much heaviness!
On a lighter note, I love Brussels sprouts and will eat them every chance I get. Mmmm
+1 to Brussels sprouts. Current favorite method of cooking is oven roasted with honey and sriracha.
I don’t read the intro thread because most of those people won’t stick around anyway. I also haven’t participated as much as I have wanted to around here, but I’m hoping to be at least somewhat visible.
I also (happily) don’t have fb and will be sad when this board eventually migrated there.
@adirat@wishilivedinflorida I do have facebook, but I look at it maybe once a month. I guess my FFFC is I won't be migrating to a facebook group if/when it happens.
I'm also very tired of all the commentary in that thread. Wtf?
I love Facebook.
I'm so done with the people who haven't changed their screen name, can we just boot them?
But my real confession: I hate locking doors. We just generally...don't. Small town, dead end road, but really, if someone wants in, they're going to find a way, like through my unlocked windows- because we sleep with those actually open most of the year.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@pourmeamocktail I'm on board with you. There is usually one unlocked door to our house (because getting locked out is the worst). During the super cold weather we had I would just leave my car running when I was picking up/dropping off DD from daycare. Then they sent out a mass note about not leaving keys in your running car. I was super annoyed, it's cold and we live in a super low crime area (also the daycare is on a dead end road, obviously it would be another parent doing the stealing)
@pourmeamocktail@EErin86 haven’t you ever seen any scary movie ever?!?!? Dead end roads where no one expects crime are exactly where the scariest shit happens.
@spottedginger This road is made up of half people over 85 and the other half all have young kids. The people with time to rob us are too old!
But seriously, tiny town I think has had like 4 actual break-in's and maybe 4 concerning crimes in it's entire 165 year life span, and all of them were rooted in drugs AND domestic disputes. So, as long as my husband doesn't try to kill me, odds are totally in my favor. And if he does, locked doors would prevent me from escaping.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@spottedginger haha I see all the scary movies. I don't think a locked door will stop a creepy psychopath murderer.... Or a ghost. Also if we are home my dogs will bark at anything suspicious (usually turkeys, those birds are always up to no good)
@nlc8424 - I feel ya on the husband thing. I love my husband, but he generally plans his day/time around what he needs to do for his job. And he never notices chores that need done. What really infuriates me is that on Saturdays he sleeps in (I always get up with DD), then proceeds to come downstairs and make himself breakfast and lounge on the couch for the next 2 hours (where he may or may not doze off again). HELLO!?!?! I get that you work crazy hours and that I only work part time, but it's exhausting taking care of a toddler. I wish he would give me a break now and then without me having to ask him.
100% agree that threads like the US one should be love only. And the lack of SNs is annoying.
My confession is this. I live in the same small town I grew up in. I work at the local dealership. When people I went to school with or know sorta well come in to buy, I check out their credit apps to see how they are doing financially and how it compares to me and H.
The day after I got my BFP, I dropped my '17 jeep wrangler off to get a 2.5" lift with oversized tires put on it. I had a mom car when I had DD (who turns 1 in a few weeks), but it just wasn't doing it for me, so I traded it on the jeep. It's been working great for me so far, and yes, it'll suck to get in/out those last few months, but IDGAF and I love it.
@adirat and @Redpuma119 We can have a little group then here for non-FB stragglers!
@adirat You would wish to live in Florida if you lived where I do! If it weren’t for family I’d be out of here in a heartbeat. Actually, I like California better. I should change my screen name!
FFFC: I just don’t understand how anyone can be team green. Like nope, I have to know. I can’t deal with someone else (tech and drs) knowing and not me!
FFFC: I don’t know what this stands for. Or what AW stands for. Or what “love tit” refers to?!?! If a thread is supposed to be just pics that’s fine, but the thread was originally just a general thread about ultrasounds and I had no problems with all the questions/commentary about ultrasounds on a thread about ultrasounds. Also no problem changing it to be pics only, and keeping the questions and commentary on weekly threads!
I like that that this is anonymous...I have no intention of joining a Facebook group. I keep Facebook for “real life” friends.
@Patience7150 I believe that’s what the docs and techs said, and they didn’t make an effort to find out, but I don’t believe they never happened across seeing the sex...not that they would care or remember for the next time! That’s just one of many reasons I need to find out the sex...no matter what the docs/techs say I just KNOW that they’d know!
Is “Team green” not finding out the sex? I thought that it was about being environmentally friendly...like cloth diapering, etc. Thats embarrassing!
My FFFC: I'm all for board organization, but I wonder if this one feela a bit TOO organized for me. I generally hate "check-in" threads and prefer things to be more conversational. I'm not generally interested in everyone's individual answer to the exact same question(s). I'm sure you are all interesting, and I hope to make some future friends, but check-in posts get rather boring after the first 2-3. My last bmb was a bit more freewheeling, I guess, so that's what I'm used to!
Also, I have a really hard time not signing these posts like:
Also, a side note comentary, we had so many people who were convinced they'd never moved to FB in my last bmb (myself included) but it was kind of amazing to remove our anonymity and become real-life cross-continent friends. Maybe I'm super biased because my previous bmb turned out to pretty damn awesome, but I hope to find a similar comrade here!
I'm real I swear! Or am I ... (insert creepy catfish gif, I'm on mobile and I'm lazy).
@adirat @Wishilivedinflorida @Redpuma119 I will be right there with ya! <img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/e3/ub7anb3pce18.gif" alt=""> While I totally have bump friends I know and love dearly on my FB because we have gotten to know each other that well that I don't mind breaking the third wall, I just don't go on FB like - ever. And I'm not in any hurry to start... I don't think DH ever even confirmed that we were married! Lol. Whoops! / idgaf lol
I do like the checkins... takes me back to that awkward first day of school / first months of TTGP when everyone was still getting to know each other. The questions don't all have to be the same (it's just easier that way) and FWIW, nobody really has to open any other week's check-in but their own, when it gets right down to it. Lurking whatever cool, but imho the point is to start to form a little more manageable "crew" to be able to support each other as we go along. You're not going to get <i>that</i> <i>close</i> with like 120 people.... But like 10-12? Sure! I feel like I am already getting to "know" a few new faces in the crowd that way. ;)
FFFC: l have no desire to be on a BMB spreadsheet. It makes me feel like a target for super-creepy rando lurkerdom. If you want to stalk me, you're gonna have to try a little harder than that! Lol
@Bear14+ I see your point about feeling like youre the last to know, but for me, it's a way to put a little of the good old fashioned mystery back into our pregnancy. We already scienced the $#!& out of getting KU, and I just want to experience a little more magic, maybe more what it would have been like in a bygone era. That moment of wonder upon finding out from my husband in the delivery room. The joy of announcing the specifics of baby's arrival... upon outside arrival. Call me old fashioned, but I'll never forget the look grandma had on her face (may she RIP) when DHs cousins announced the sex/name on insta. That's just not for us.
@Bear14+ Our docs never knew. Maybe the tech knew for a split second during the AS, but they don’t write it down or anything and it doesn’t become part of the record. The OB really has no use for that info while baby is still in utero.
We will be Team green again this pregnancy. There is nothing else like it. I will never forget the moment when my DH was so proud and so choked up announcing we had a son when he came out. I’m pretty sure my heart stopped for a few seconds.
This is probably more of a UO, but I never got the people who say they “need to plan” everything out based on knowing the sex. The only difference between caring for a boy baby vs. a girl baby is clothing (if you don’t want to go gender neutral) and perhaps the nursery setup, which I can assure you was easy to make into a “boy” room after the birth. Oh, and more Vaseline if you go the route of circumcision. That’s it. I’m going to buy a few girly onesies and pants that I can return after birth if needed. The rest of my gear is gender neutral (and not a big deal even if it wasn’t). I can’t wait to hear DH announce the new baby’s sex again!
@Wishilivedinflorida. I am so totally right there with you!
I have a whole stash of "can mostly go either way" cloth diapers, and a mini stash of grey/taupe/white/ivory/neutral clothes (with a little colour thrown in that, to me anyway, can still go either way.) Mostly in 3 and 6 mos sizes, very little nb, 9 and 12 mos. I feel like the kid clothes are where it starts to matter more (if it matters at all, which it doesnt) and there will be plenty of time to dress a toddler in more gender specific clothing when the time comes. Infants are squishy little love muffins anyway when it gets right down to it, and I don't see what it matters when they are brand new.
DH is apparently really into gender typical clothing however, so I will just have to remind him there will be plenty of time for that. Besides, if the first is a girl, and then next is a boy, does he really want us to have nothing but pink flowers to put his new son in? I know he does not. Grey all the way! lol. Neutral bottoms that you can throw a splash of pink on top, or more "boy" print as desired. Etc. Other items, stroller, crib etc, are hopefully going to be used for multiple kids of both sexes, so I think I will have to stay pretty adamantly team green, at <i>least</i> for the first, so we don't have to rebuy everything bc it's the "wrong" colour. No frikking way! Lol
@Wishilivedinflorida like someone else said, being team green the first go around is kind of nice because now we have a ton of gender neutral stuff, including clothes for like the first 6 months.
I guess my fffc is that I LOVE that my bmb moved to facebook relatively early. I've met 4 of them IRL and they're amazing women I'm so glad to have in my real (non-bump) life. (lookin' at you @yosemite2018 ) It hasn't been without drama, but it was 100% for the best for us as a group.
My FFFC is I let my 2 year old watch cartoons allllllllll dayyyyy because I just couldn’t mom. Like hours and hours. I am so nauseous today I just want to roll over and quit life.
I know I'm a day late, but here's mine: I love doing our taxes. I can't wait to receive the W2s and other necessary forms and get irritated if I have to wait longer than Jan 25th to receive them.
<blockquote class="Quote"> <div><a rel="nofollow">Mandamay1414</a> said:</div> <div>I know I'm a day late, but here's mine: <b>I</b> <b>love</b> <b>doing</b> <b>our</b> <b>taxes</b>. I can't wait to receive the W2s and other necessary forms and get irritated if I have to wait longer than Jan 25th to receive them. </div> </blockquote> WHAT KIND OF MONSTER ARE YOU???? LOL
My need to find out the sex is really only because of the situation we have with niece. She's such a "daddies girl" with DH and her dad passed 7 years ago (to the day in fact). She fights me HARD for his attention. I wanted (and will again) to be mentally prepared for what I am in for. I always imagined that I would wait until delivery to fund out but life threw me a curve ball.
My previous bmb moved to FB after our LOs were born. I am quite close to a few and have met them IRL. I'd love to gain a few more close friends and would be even more awesome to find some who are geographically close!
Also, a side note comentary, we had so many people who were convinced they'd never moved to FB in my last bmb (myself included) but it was kind of amazing to remove our anonymity and become real-life cross-continent friends. Maybe I'm super biased because my previous bmb turned out to pretty damn awesome, but I hope to find a similar comrade here!
I'm real I swear! Or am I ... (insert creepy catfish gif, I'm on mobile and I'm lazy).
I like the Facebook format so much more than TB. TB BMBs gave me great Facebook groups for #2 and #3 and I'm hoping to get the same thing this time around! (That may or may not be an FFFC).
DD1 6.2011 DD2 4.2013 - vbac DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green Baby #4 due 9.2018
Re: FFFC 1/19
Edites bc so =/= show
I've got a couple FFFCs. The first is that my husband is driving me crazy currently. He literally needs everything to be spelled out to him and I just wish he were more intuitive with my needs after being together for the last 8.5 years. I wish he treated pregnancy like it was a little bit special and not just like, "yeah, so what?".
The other is that sometimes I really dislike being the reliable/go-to parent. I always want my son to know I'll be here for him, but my schedule constantly revolves around him and my husband revolves his schedule around work. Sometimes it can be really hard to communicate well and feel listened to. Marriage is constant work.
Gosh girls, sorry for so much heaviness!
On a lighter note, I love Brussels sprouts and will eat them every chance I get. Mmmm
I don’t read the intro thread because most of those people won’t stick around anyway. I also haven’t participated as much as I have wanted to around here, but I’m hoping to be at least somewhat visible.
I also (happily) don’t have fb and will be sad when this board eventually migrated there.
@Wishilivedinflorida I don't have FB, either! It's so rare to meet someone else. Hello! I guess my FFFC is that I'm glad I don't live in Florida
I love Facebook.
I'm so done with the people who haven't changed their screen name, can we just boot them?
But my real confession: I hate locking doors. We just generally...don't. Small town, dead end road, but really, if someone wants in, they're going to find a way, like through my unlocked windows- because we sleep with those actually open most of the year.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
But seriously, tiny town I think has had like 4 actual break-in's and maybe 4 concerning crimes in it's entire 165 year life span, and all of them were rooted in drugs AND domestic disputes. So, as long as my husband doesn't try to kill me, odds are totally in my favor. And if he does, locked doors would prevent me from escaping.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
My confession is this. I live in the same small town I grew up in. I work at the local dealership. When people I went to school with or know sorta well come in to buy, I check out their credit apps to see how they are doing financially and how it compares to me and H.
@adirat You would wish to live in Florida if you lived where I do! If it weren’t for family I’d be out of here in a heartbeat. Actually, I like California better. I should change my screen name!
I like that that this is anonymous...I have no intention of joining a Facebook group. I keep Facebook for “real life” friends.
@Patience7150 I believe that’s what the docs and techs said, and they didn’t make an effort to find out, but I don’t believe they never happened across seeing the sex...not that they would care or remember for the next time! That’s just one of many reasons I need to find out the sex...no matter what the docs/techs say I just KNOW that they’d know!
Is “Team green” not finding out the sex? I thought that it was about being environmentally friendly...like cloth diapering, etc. Thats embarrassing!
My FFFC: I'm all for board organization, but I wonder if this one feela a bit TOO organized for me. I generally hate "check-in" threads and prefer things to be more conversational. I'm not generally interested in everyone's individual answer to the exact same question(s). I'm sure you are all interesting, and I hope to make some future friends, but check-in posts get rather boring after the first 2-3. My last bmb was a bit more freewheeling, I guess, so that's what I'm used to!
Also, I have a really hard time not signing these posts like:
Respectfully,
MyFirstName
Like I do at work.
I'm real I swear! Or am I ... (insert creepy catfish gif, I'm on mobile and I'm lazy).
<img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/e3/ub7anb3pce18.gif" alt="">
While I totally have bump friends I know and love dearly on my FB because we have gotten to know each other that well that I don't mind breaking the third wall, I just don't go on FB like - ever. And I'm not in any hurry to start... I don't think DH ever even confirmed that we were married! Lol. Whoops! / idgaf lol
I do like the checkins... takes me back to that awkward first day of school / first months of TTGP when everyone was still getting to know each other. The questions don't all have to be the same (it's just easier that way) and FWIW, nobody really has to open any other week's check-in but their own, when it gets right down to it. Lurking whatever cool, but imho the point is to start to form a little more manageable "crew" to be able to support each other as we go along. You're not going to get <i>that</i> <i>close</i> with like 120 people.... But like 10-12? Sure! I feel like I am already getting to "know" a few new faces in the crowd that way. ;)
FFFC: l have no desire to be on a BMB spreadsheet. It makes me feel like a target for super-creepy rando lurkerdom. If you want to stalk me, you're gonna have to try a little harder than that! Lol
We will be Team green again this pregnancy. There is nothing else like it. I will never forget the moment when my DH was so proud and so choked up announcing we had a son when he came out. I’m pretty sure my heart stopped for a few seconds.
This is probably more of a UO, but I never got the people who say they “need to plan” everything out based on knowing the sex. The only difference between caring for a boy baby vs. a girl baby is clothing (if you don’t want to go gender neutral) and perhaps the nursery setup, which I can assure you was easy to make into a “boy” room after the birth. Oh, and more Vaseline if you go the route of circumcision. That’s it. I’m going to buy a few girly onesies and pants that I can return after birth if needed. The rest of my gear is gender neutral (and not a big deal even if it wasn’t). I can’t wait to hear DH announce the new baby’s sex again!
I have a whole stash of "can mostly go either way" cloth diapers, and a mini stash of grey/taupe/white/ivory/neutral clothes (with a little colour thrown in that, to me anyway, can still go either way.) Mostly in 3 and 6 mos sizes, very little nb, 9 and 12 mos. I feel like the kid clothes are where it starts to matter more (if it matters at all, which it doesnt) and there will be plenty of time to dress a toddler in more gender specific clothing when the time comes. Infants are squishy little love muffins anyway when it gets right down to it, and I don't see what it matters when they are brand new.
DH is apparently really into gender typical clothing however, so I will just have to remind him there will be plenty of time for that. Besides, if the first is a girl, and then next is a boy, does he really want us to have nothing but pink flowers to put his new son in? I know he does not. Grey all the way! lol. Neutral bottoms that you can throw a splash of pink on top, or more "boy" print as desired. Etc. Other items, stroller, crib etc, are hopefully going to be used for multiple kids of both sexes, so I think I will have to stay pretty adamantly team green, at <i>least</i> for the first, so we don't have to rebuy everything bc it's the "wrong" colour. No frikking way! Lol
*typo
<div><a rel="nofollow">Mandamay1414</a> said:</div>
<div>I know I'm a day late, but here's mine: <b>I</b> <b>love</b> <b>doing</b> <b>our</b> <b>taxes</b>. I can't wait to receive the W2s and other necessary forms and get irritated if I have to wait longer than Jan 25th to receive them. </div>
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WHAT KIND OF MONSTER ARE YOU???? LOL
ETA bold
DD2 4.2013 - vbac
DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green
Baby #4 due 9.2018