Postpartum Mommas

jesrude · December 2017

Hey ladies,

I thought it might be nice to have a board to check-in and discuss how we're feeling etc. I know we are busy with our new babies, but maybe just a board to have a place to discuss postpartum stuff with other mommas? What do we think?

elvenchick92686 · December 2017

I have my good days and bad days. Thankfully i dont have baby blues though. Im happy my mom is here to help us out. Im getting sick of the start and stopping of the bleeding though. Thought it may not be as bad as a vaginal birth as i had a last minute section but the bleeding is just like my vaginal just less clots. Baby girl is FINALLY doing great. It only took four cans of formula tries in order to figure it out. It was getting super stressful. Her one week appointment is tomorrow with her peds so were planning on asking about thrush, reflux, and her grunting (as per SO request). My SO is so cute with her but me and mom are getting a huge kick out of him trying to "figure everything out". Hes actually googled "is my kid dying" when she started grunting alot. Hes so slow but i let him do things his way unless he asks. Our LO gets a little frustrated though. Its cute to watch him bond with her. We have shift schedules here so we each get some rest which helps alot i think. My mom takes the 6am-1pm shift i take the 1pm-12am shift and SO takes 12am-6am shift. At least the MIL drama is slightly over, though we still go back and forth at times, insert my everlasting eye-roll here. Lol.

How is everybody else doing?

weaver15 · December 2017

@elvenchick92686 that's awesome things are going so well.

Only baby blues I'm sad LO is my last baby. Recovery has been horrible, and I can only function if I keep up on my pain medication. (I hemorrhage, got an infection next day where my fever got up to 103.5, and with all the antibiotics they had to put me on I ended up with c diff my last day at the hospital). Breastfeeding is going okay. He wants to breastfeed which is great! I'm nervous that DH goes back to work on Monday. With having the baby blues I'm trying to think of life when I wasn't pregnant and think positively towards that.

kersey0208 · December 2017

We're doing alright. Im struggling with PPD. I went back on Zoloft a few days after delivery. I probably should have stayed on it during pregnancy like they said I could but I didn't want to be putting baby at any more risk than she already was having GD and high BP. Anyway, I'm finally to the point I stopped randomly crying and I feel fairly comfortable taking care of baby alone during the day. I however am struggling with leaving the house especially with baby. I have to pick my step son up from school and it's just 4 blocks away but leaving the house is like major anxiety right now. Hopefully slowly gets better or I'm going to be a wreck trying to go back to work mid January.

Baby is thriving and gaining weight. She's a great eater and sleeps fairly well. Pretty lucky!! So in love with her!!

My MIL and SIL are here from Texas for a week. It's nice in ways but kind of getting old already. Feel like i need to entertain them. Kind of ready for things to get back to normal or find our new normal I should say..

PoeMasque · December 2017

Hugs to everyone dealing with PPMD issues. I had a few moments this morning where I had to hold back tears when I thought my fiancé was being short with me (which is NOT like me at all). But I think it was part sleep deprivation and my milk starting to come in too.

My mom is here helping us, she knows her job is to keep us fed and the house clean, not to be a guest. I don’t know how we’d do this without her. She also takes a shift from 10p-3a for us, but I still have to get up every time baby wants to feed.

We had a peds visit today to recheck bilirubin levels and found out baby has lost 13oz since birth (he’s 4 days old today), so they told us to supplement a couple of feedings and back into the office tomorrow for a weight check.

Even with all that this is SO much better than pregnancy! I’m so glad our little peanut is finally here on the outside ❤️❤️

jesrude · December 2017

big hugs to you all! I'm glad you've had helpers and visitors.

I've definitely had mood dips and randomly cried yesterday because he is so small and his hair is so soft and I'm absolutely dreading returning to work. BUT he is an excellent feeder and sleeper. I feel really lucky in that regard. SO went back to work Monday and I'm definitely getting lonely and antsy/cabin fever-y during the day. I'm having difficulty balancing both kids when my oldest gets home. He wants to be very helpful and hands on which is great, but it stresses me out and I end up snapping. I feel so guilty about it but I haven't found the balance yet. I'm hoping we find our stride soon.

@elvenchick92686 I'm glad the MIL issues are dying down and that you all have worked out a routine.

@kersey0208 I definitely understand the feeling of feeling like you need to entertain visitors. The only visitors I've had that I haven't felt like I need to entertain are my parents. They played with my oldest and my mom helped me do dishes and bake. My SO's family hasn't offered to help in any way when they've visited. It's frustrating but I've accepted that it's part of who they are, which is sucky.

Marley629 · December 2017

The after baby blues hit me today and I've spent most of today in tears - it doesn't help that I encouraged DH to work his fire shift today and not take off to waste a day while I was still in the hospital. I could have used him here to keep me company or at home with DS1 who woke up with croup apparently at 3 am last night. I'm usually the one who takes care of him when he's sick so it hit me hard to be away from him. I get discharged tomorrow morning and am missing DS1 so much so hopefully being in the comfort at home and having all of my family under 1 roof will help normalize the baby blues and get them under control a bit. I'm not concerned Bc I know this is all normal at this point but it's still rough working through these emotions.

weaver15 · December 2017

@Marley629 I hope all goes well when you get home and adjust. I wanted DH to go to work while I was in Hospital. I had so much happen to me that I ended up needing him at the hospital with me.

splsmama2016 · December 2017

All i have to say is fuhhhhhhh off, postpartum hormones that make us cry for seriously NO REASON AT ALL!!! I was sleeping and just started crying. It’s so stupid and i hate it. Lol

ShyTonia · December 2017

Hey everyone! Thanks @jesrude for created this thread. I know for sure it’ll be a helpful one!

Sending nothing but love and positive vibes to everyone during this crazy but awesome time of adjustment! (((Hugs)))

As for me we’ve been home for just over one week! I am doing well emotionally, I just get super exhausted if I don’t rest during the day.
I’m breastfeeding on demand and all that is going really well. We seem to be settling into a pretty good schedule/routine. Her “last feeding” is anywhere between 11pm and 12am and then she gets a good 3-4 hour stretch. We wake up about 4 am, feed change diaper and then start our every 1-2 hour sleep and feed pattern from there on out. I really can’t complain. But one day I did not rest at all during the day and I will never make that mistake again. I now TOTALLY understand the advice “sleep when she sleeps”
I still can’t belive a tiny human was cut out of my belly. I’m recovering really well and my incision is pretty much not even there. The Drs did an really great job and I’m very fortunate to be feeling so well so fast. I also have been taking it super easy and am just now easing my self back into my daily chores.
DH is going back to work in 3 days so we are pretty bummed about that, so we have been soaking up the last special first days as a family. I’ve also limited visitors at home to one per day. We didn’t have any one in the hospital except my mom (MIL was super sick) I know that was a HUGE part of me recovering well and also we got to leave a day early because Of my progress and Addie passing all her tests with flying colors.
The bleeding is definitely annoying but I’m no longer wearing the huge hospital boat pads. Just the regular maxi pads. And it’s so minimal. Nipples seem to be good now but let me tell you about 5 days ago they were the WORST! thank god they started to “toughen up.”
First pedi appt was this past Monday and dr said she is doing perfectly and to just keep doing what we are doing.
all and all I feel great, I just know for me that resting when she rests (and eating!) is what is super important to keep me feeling good!
Sometimes I have to pause and remind my self that I JUST had MAJOR surgery. And also that my hormones are all over the place right now. What is the phase called ? The fourth trimester? Lol

jintoki82 · January 2018

How long has everyone been bleeding for? When can I expect it to stop? I just find it annoying at 3 wpp.

balletnerd · January 2018

@jintoki82 4 weeks, but just barely now.

tracefacemsu · January 2018

@jintoki82 I bled for about 3 weeks, but had some spotting / staining for a few weeks after. It wasn't until around my 6 week postpartum check up that I stopped wearing pads or liners.

teena111 · January 2018

I finish bleeding about mid way through week 2

PoeMasque · January 2018

I stopped bleeding about one week pp, but had spotting for another 3 weeks after that. I saw my OB at 5 weeks because I thought I had an infection, but it was just the stitches irritating things. She clipped them and discovered a tear that wasn’t healing, so she also put some silver nitrate on that spot. I had spotting for 3 days after that. At my 6 week visit everything was back to normal! Well....what will be normal from now on anyway

lnguyenbaby · January 2018

Is anyone else dealing with bad scar tissue? I'm 7 weeks PP and still incredibly sore. I had a second degree tear that healed. I pushed for two hours so baby was crowning for quite some time. My entire vaginal opening now feels hard as a rock. It actually really freaks me out when I feel it when showering. I'm also still doing the "postpartum waddle" when my Motrin wears off. At my 6 week OBGYN appointment the doctor said the scar tissue may or may not soften. She also said I appear to be a slow healer and looked more like 4 weeks PP. She said it was ok to keep taking Motrin as needed, but I still really feel it when it starts to wear off... especially if I'm holding my LO and swaying or bouncing her (which is often because she really prefers to move). Has anyone else had this issue? Anyone with past pregnancies? Does it get better? Everything I read says that the vaginal opening is built to be stretchy and eventually returns to its natural state (or at least close to it) but the way things are looking and feeling now I find that hard to believe!

balletnerd · January 2018

@inguyenbaby no experience with this, but I hope you heal soon. Have you tried “padcicles” to help with pain and healing? I’ve put witch hazel and dermoplast on a pad, then put in the freezer. It might help give you some relief.

lnguyenbaby · February 2018

@balletnerd - yes, I have. They do provide some temporary relief, but definitely still uncomfortable day to day

Thanks for the reply.
I seem to be softening a smidge, but healing is taking so much longer than I ever would have thought...

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