Apparently this is a UO which I'm floored about but Oprah would be a TERRIBLE president and has no right to even consider to run. It's making me sick to see so many people supporting this idea.
@charlestonchew yes, celebrities need to stay just that. I do think it’s great though when they use their status to raise awareness for different issues. But Oprah as president over Trump any day.
Ugh, totally agree! Can we please get some qualified candidates who have actually, you know, been a part of public service and legislature but also aren't as old as mud? Someone fresh, no baggage, with experience. Love Oprah and she can use her status for progress and good, but president is a no go for me.
I don’t see a point in not letting toddlers use technology (tablets, etc.). Technology is so much a part of life and is embedded in instruction at school and I don’t see anything wrong with them learning how to use it. Even our stage testing is done on Chromebooks now. However, I do believe in limiting the access to content and length of time.
While I agree with everyone about Oprah, Reagan was also a celebrity before he was President, and I don't think it would be off base to say that he's considered one of the *better* presidents, at least in the recent past. Granted, he had some other government/politics experience between being a celebrity and president, so I suppose to me that makes a world of difference. And, all that being said, a HUGE (or should I say YUGE HAHAHAHA) +1 to Oprah>Trump. Is ^that my UO? That I don't think someone starting out as a celebrity automatically excludes them from being involved (and sometimes quite successfully) in politics? Maybe. I probably have a better one, though. I'll come back if I think of one.
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@mileswithmyles I agree with you! When we were visiting different daycares, we asked about what technology they would be teaching our kiddos, so I guess I feel like we should be doing our part at home too!
I get annoyed in general when celebrities are vocal about their politics. I pay to see you act on tv or sing or whatever, not to spout your politics. That's my UO.
@sandbar517 I agree with you. Politicians aren't necessarily the best people in the world either. I guess I wouldn't consider Oprah a worse option than a majority of the lifetime politicians out there.
@sparklingdiamond you may be paying at a concert or to watch them in a movie, but any other time they are a person with opinions like anyone else. They have a bigger audience with being famous, but have political and other things they care about.
@sparklingdiamond you may be paying at a concert or to watch them in a movie, but any other time they are a person with opinions like anyone else. They have a bigger audience with being famous, but have political and other things they care about.
Yea, I just have no desire to hear them talk about it and I won't pay to see the ones who are super political all the time. Just like I have no desire to hear my friends/family talk about politics.
My toddler asks Alexa to play songs for him (and tells me to stop singing), but at least he says please. I also bribed him with videos to get in the stroller today.
Maybe if Oprah becomes president she will do a version of her "favorite things" on Inauguration day? You get health insurance, you get paid parental leave, etc
@mileswithmyles I was anti tv and technology for little ones until I had one lol Now I love when he will sit still for a show.
He’s already pretty familiar with how to use the cell phone for pictures and snap chat. We haven’t really let him use the iPad yet but I figure once baby 2 comes it will be a great way to keep him entertained while I’m nursing. There are tons of great educational shows and games.
@lincbeesmom love the manners. DS loves Thomas and Netflix just got rid of it this month.
Meh, I'm super lax about screen time. Some days she'll binge for 4 hours and then we'll go days with none. She's learned so much from videos she watches and she's actually really good at video games. Everything in moderation.
UO: the wearing all black thing for the golden globes was some bullshit. So you wore black, who cares? Are you donating to cause a that help victims? Are you calling predators to the carpet? Are you advocating for their arrest and prosecution? No? Then I'm not impressed by your black sequins and bowties.
@thedawkterswife I kinda disagree. I was surprised by the number of people who actually wore black. I thought for sure people would disregard it. I heard a really good interview/speech from Kerry Washington where she said that people were giving her grief for attending in light of the events and she said that she wasn't going to waste her opportunity to have a chance to speak out about the issues and draw more attention to it. She and a lot of the other attendees talked about their work, fundraising and donations with the Times Up organization which provides funds for legal fees for people who can't afford them who have experienced discrimination and harassment in the workplace.
My uo- I don't think Ikea furniture is hard to put together. It's pretty simple to me, but I put everything together in our home. I put together the twins cribs alone at 7 months pregnant faster than my brother-in-law put together their one crib of the same exact model.
My uo that goes along with the Oprah v. Trump discussion, is that I'm sick of people not wanting to talk politics with friends, family, etc. I think our avoidance of taking about the issues had made us more divided. We're limiting ourselves from hearing different sides and from challenging our own thinking. Our lack of open discourse has allowed us to funnel into our own echo chambers. Yeah, some of the conversations can be hard, but avoiding talking about issues that effect us all isn't helping any of us.
@suchaglencoco i love putting together furniture like that. I wish that could be my job.
I agree that Oprah should not be a politician unless it's between her and Trump. If you start out as an actor and then learn about issues and gain experience, it's a different story. We don't actually know anything about Oprah's real political views. Sadly, i think she might be the only woman who can win.
My UO is big and I'm not sure I'll be in later to follow up, but... I'm not into attachment parenting. I used to be, but then I used that approach. It it's a ridiculous amount of pressure on parents. I don't have to be my child's only caretaker. It's healthy for kids to develop relationships with multiple people. I don't have to co sleep till their 12. I can have time with my husband so that we're not just co parents and so that our relationship can last through the difficulties of parenting. I don't have to exclusively wear my baby. There are times it's great, but other times the stroller is the best option. And babies cry. No matter how much i try to anticipate their needs, they cry a lot. And a baby crying doesn't mean I'm a bad parent or being neglectful.
I read a shit ton of Dr. Sears when DD1 was a baby. Whenever she cried I felt like a failure but didn't tell anyone for months. All of these things in moderation are important for parenting, but i don't think it's fair to tell parents this is the exclusive way to parent and I don't think it is.
@suchaglencoco I agree! I said this to my husband the other day when building some Ikea furniture "why are people so dramatic about building this stuff? It's not hard at all"....honestly, I find building Ikea furniture to be calming/therapeutic.
@nanifrog, DH has said if we didn't have kids, he'd let me take out ads to put stuff together for people. I enjoy it and it's easy to me. Also agree about attachment parenting. I know it's for some people, but to me it just sounds exhausting! We mostly used strollers for the twins, but I'll probably baby wear this one more since it'll make things easier. And I was 100% for anyone else who wanted to hold them, put them down for naps, feed them, change them- the more the merrier! I am home with them all day so any break I got, I took. They spent their first night away at 6 months and I thought I'd cry, but their then DD took a massive pooped and I happily left.
My UO is I have not researched parenting styles at all. I mean my husband and I have discussed at length (and still discuss) how we plan to handle situations and how we want to raise our kids but I think often times people get very hung up on trying to replicate a method or a style and they feel like a failure when they can’t do it exactly right or when it doesn’t work for their kid. I have specifically avoided reading about any of it because I don’t want to get so hung up on trying to follow a method that I don’t pay attention to what my specific kid needs, since every kid is different.
Edit to add: @nanifrog gave me the idea with her UO!
U/O I don't do birth plans. Ok I don't do elaborate ones. When i was pregnant with DS, DH and I took the labour class offered at the hospital I was delivering at and also DH and I discussed some bigger decisions for those "what if..." situations. But I went into the hospital the day I delivered with my plan being "get baby out safely and sidenote I will see how far I can go without an epidural but I'm not opposed to it".
U/O I don't do birth plans. Ok I don't do elaborate ones. When i was pregnant with DS, DH and I took the labour class offered at the hospital I was delivering at and also DH and I discussed some bigger decisions for those "what if..." situations. But I went into the hospital the day I delivered with my plan being "get baby out safely and sidenote I will see how far I can go without an epidural but I'm not opposed to it".
This is exactly me! I’m going to take the classes but how the hell will I know what I need until I’m in the thick of it? I have no clue what I can handle until I’m in the situation so it’s going to annoy me if people ask if I’m going to do natural or have an epidural. Frankly I don’t care how baby is born as long as we are both healthy
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@sandbar517 I don't personally know many people who think Reagan was a good president but maybe that's a collective UO of the people in my life?
@bjkay22 I'm with you. Following certain methods might work for some people but it just overwhelms me. I drove myself nuts trying to figure out the best way to introduce solid food to my daughter because I read so many differing things. My husband finally brought me back to earth when he said if there are so many ways to do it then there's obviously more than one right way to do it. So now I just follow my daughter's lead for everything and do what's best for all of us.
@onesmallcoconut I went in with the same mindset as you. No really plan - I just wanted my baby and I to be safe. I also wanted to go as long as I could without an epidural but would happily ask for it once I needed it.
@onesmallcoconut My mom was a labor and delivery nurse until she retired recently. She said that she found that people who could go with the flow had the easiest time. A lot of women that came in with long plans ended up having a really hard time. We went in with no plan. The first time that was good bc ds was breech!
Totally agree with the thoughts on parenting “styles”. I think it’s hard and a little silly honestly to follow what any style is to the letter. Every kid and situation will be different. I have read a ton (books and online), and I find it helpful to have a ton of strategies in your arsenal to help deal with situations (especially as my son is firmly entering the terrible 2s, and all I wanted to do was scream at him today).
and them sometimes you end up bribing them with tic tacks to sit in the stroller so you can get home from the store. You win some, you lose some!
@roomsu@fraufarbissina I'm glad I did too. DS was transverse and had the cord wrapped around him with his arm above his head. So I said up my epidural dosage and let's go forceps. I feel like if I had been determined to stick to a plan then the situation I ended up in would have thrown me into a major panic. And im generally a very anxious person but I made sure to work on reminding myself I can't control this so just go with it.
@BertieMeetsGertie I hated and still hate when people ask that. It's actually a very personal question because you know they have an answer already loaded and if yours isn't the same thing they want it to be they are judging you haaaaard!
I wish I'd been able to go with the approach of doing what works for us with parenting. At the time, i felt like i could research my way through it. It's awesome you all areas more reasonable.
I think videos of kids crying about being bullied (made and posted online by their parents) is totally exploitative. I don’t think they’re posting it because they’re sad their kid is getting bullied. I truly believe they’re just trying to have a video go viral. It only opens these kids up to being bullied more by showing them crying about it.
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Is ^that my UO? That I don't think someone starting out as a celebrity automatically excludes them from being involved (and sometimes quite successfully) in politics? Maybe. I probably have a better one, though. I'll come back if I think of one.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Maybe if Oprah becomes president she will do a version of her "favorite things" on Inauguration day?
You get health insurance, you get paid parental leave, etc
He’s already pretty familiar with how to use the cell phone for pictures and snap chat. We haven’t really let him use the iPad yet but I figure once baby 2 comes it will be a great way to keep him entertained while I’m nursing. There are tons of great educational shows and games.
@lincbeesmom love the manners. DS loves Thomas and Netflix just got rid of it this month.
UO: the wearing all black thing for the golden globes was some bullshit. So you wore black, who cares? Are you donating to cause a that help victims? Are you calling predators to the carpet? Are you advocating for their arrest and prosecution? No? Then I'm not impressed by your black sequins and bowties.
I agree that Oprah should not be a politician unless it's between her and Trump. If you start out as an actor and then learn about issues and gain experience, it's a different story. We don't actually know anything about Oprah's real political views. Sadly, i think she might be the only woman who can win.
My UO is big and I'm not sure I'll be in later to follow up, but... I'm not into attachment parenting. I used to be, but then I used that approach. It it's a ridiculous amount of pressure on parents. I don't have to be my child's only caretaker. It's healthy for kids to develop relationships with multiple people. I don't have to co sleep till their 12. I can have time with my husband so that we're not just co parents and so that our relationship can last through the difficulties of parenting. I don't have to exclusively wear my baby. There are times it's great, but other times the stroller is the best option. And babies cry. No matter how much i try to anticipate their needs, they cry a lot. And a baby crying doesn't mean I'm a bad parent or being neglectful.
I read a shit ton of Dr. Sears when DD1 was a baby. Whenever she cried I felt like a failure but didn't tell anyone for months. All of these things in moderation are important for parenting, but i don't think it's fair to tell parents this is the exclusive way to parent and I don't think it is.
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Also agree about attachment parenting. I know it's for some people, but to me it just sounds exhausting! We mostly used strollers for the twins, but I'll probably baby wear this one more since it'll make things easier. And I was 100% for anyone else who wanted to hold them, put them down for naps, feed them, change them- the more the merrier! I am home with them all day so any break I got, I took. They spent their first night away at 6 months and I thought I'd cry, but their then DD took a massive pooped and I happily left.
Edit to add: @nanifrog gave me the idea with her UO!
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Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
@bjkay22 I'm with you. Following certain methods might work for some people but it just overwhelms me. I drove myself nuts trying to figure out the best way to introduce solid food to my daughter because I read so many differing things. My husband finally brought me back to earth when he said if there are so many ways to do it then there's obviously more than one right way to do it. So now I just follow my daughter's lead for everything and do what's best for all of us.
@onesmallcoconut I went in with the same mindset as you. No really plan - I just wanted my baby and I to be safe. I also wanted to go as long as I could without an epidural but would happily ask for it once I needed it.
and them sometimes you end up bribing them with tic tacks to sit in the stroller so you can get home from the store. You win some, you lose some!
@BertieMeetsGertie I hated and still hate when people ask that. It's actually a very personal question because you know they have an answer already loaded and if yours isn't the same thing they want it to be they are judging you haaaaard!
But i totally thought that would be a UO.