This is a place for FTMs to ask questions and S+TMs to share the wealth of knowledge they've accumulated on baby products. Each week we'll spotlight a new category of product to help streamline and make it easier to refer back. This week it's....
sleep surfaces! Cribs, bassinets, travel cribs, mattresses, and anything in between.
Please use the prompts below to try to share as much relevant info as you can in a format that is easy for those reading to absorb/respond to. If you'd like to recommend/ask questions about more than one product, please copy/paste the prompts as needed.
For S+TMs: - Lifestyle (house, apartment, travel often, etc):
- Favorite [sleep surface]:
- Link/picture:
- Cost (either actual dollar amount, or just $, $$, $$$, etc.):
- What you like about it:
- What you don't like about it, if anything:
- Is there a [sleep surface] you don't have but are considering? Why?:
- Is there a [sleep surface] you've tried that you absolutely hate? Why?:
- Additional thoughts on [sleep surfaces]?:
For FTMs:- Lifestyle (house, apartment, travel often, etc):
- [Sleep surface] you're interested in:
- Link/picture:
- Cost (either actual dollar amount, or just $, $$, $$$, etc.):
- Any questions about it/them for S+TMs?:
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https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1gjNtxy2Kd2JceTYYR5wkwVcpTbU-khgazhjcZnfI1y4/edit?usp=sharingAlso just a reminder that if anyone wants to revive old threads to ask questions as we get further along and it becomes more likely everyone is doing further research, please feel free!
Re: Product Spotlight Series: Sleep Surfaces (cribs, bassinets, travel cribs, etc.) week of Nov 13
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
They are pricy for sure. Especially if you get both. But I’ve only ever heard good things about them. And they hold their resale value really well so you could sell the small one to help fund the larger one when the time comes.
ETA: If you want to meaning either transition baby to the bigger size dot or into another sleeping arrangement. Not suggesting that once baby grows out of the small one that you should continue to use it.
Now that we have our own house and more room, we plan on getting a full size crib this time around to have side car on my side of the bed. We also plan on getting a dock a tot in hopes that little one will be more comfortable in their own sleeping space in the dock (though i am obviously comfortable bed sharing again if that ends up being what gets us all the most sleep).
Favorite [sleep surface]: In bed with me. I also like the Arm's Reach Co-Sleeper. My second baby liked the Rock n Play for naps and when he was congested.
Cost (either actual dollar amount, or just $, $$, $$$, etc.): Cost of bedsharing... I paid a friend $25 for her old bed rail. I bought the Arm's Reach from a neighbor for $20.
What you like about it: So many things I love about bedsharing. Breastfeeding is easy. Baby soothing is easy. No one has to fully wake in the night. My babies learn to sleep so peacefully at night. My baby is right there for me to check on continuously through the night. Arm's Reach provides similar easiness but in baby's own sleep space. We follow the Safe Sleep 7 guidelines, and this choice was made after extensive research. If anyone is interesting in reading about safe bedsharing, I highly recommend Sweet Sleep and checking out the research shared on UNICEF's website.
What you don't like about it, if anything: My babies stay in bed with me for the first six months. At that point, hubby and I are ready for more time together just us, not sharing our bed or bedroom for at least part of the night. On nights we wanna be intimate, I put baby to sleep in another room, then allow baby to come back to our room for the second half of the night.
Is there a [sleep surface] you don't have but are considering? Why?: Nope
Is there a [sleep surface] you've tried that you absolutely hate? Why?: Crib in baby's own room has been very challenging for my newborns. This is where we started, and it just didn't work for us. No one slept, not even our babies. At this point, after much research and discussing with pediatric professionals, I've stopped fighting the cultural pressure to put my newborns in a crib.
- Lifestyle: With DS we had a 3 b.r. ranch. With DD and currently we have a 3 floor house. We've kept our babies bedside until 3 months when I move them into their own room in a crib.
- Favorite [sleep surface]: We have used pack n play, crib (one IKEA and one from Wayfair not sure the brand) UppaBaby bassinet, and Rock n Play. I've been satisfied with all these products. Unfortunately none were miracle products... DS was a bad sleeper and DD looooved to sleep and I did the same routine and products with both of them.
- Is there a [sleep surface] you don't have but are considering? Why?: + 1 to the Halo bassinet. It looks like it would be perfect for the first few months because you can pull it right next to you while you're sleeping and the sides come down... I'm just debating whether I want to spend $$$ on something that I'll only use for 3 months. Might get one of Craigslist and resell.
- Additional thoughts on [sleep surfaces]?: 1. I don't believe in spending more than $100 or so on a crib. 2. If you have a house with multiple levels it's nice to have a place to put baby on each floor. (If it's your first kid you can put them on the floor but if you have a toddler or a pet you're worried about you'll want baby off the floor.)
@doxiemoxie212 I'm convinced every baby will prefer a Rock n Play over a flat surface. Some babies are just fussier sleepers (or have reflux) so parents are more likely to cave and use the RnP for sleep. Some parents choose to train baby to sleep on a flat surface from day 1.@jsl82 Did you mean to say the strap on the Rock n Play? (Not the Pack n Play?)
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
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Rock n Play - This thing was a god send. We very rarely used it for night time sleep because I was paranoid about wanting her on a flat surface. However we did use it for naps and just lounging around - she loved it! A few brutal nights I did end up letting her sleep in it after using a flat surface for the first long stretch of the night.
Halo - Sad story for me... We got this with DD and after assembling it, we ended up needing to return it. Our bed was too low for the lowest setting, so when I would pull it towards me and the bed, the Halo and baby were too high and it was awkward. We have since gotten a new bed and mattress. Without intending to, apparently my new bed is low also! My new bed is one inch lower than what Halo says the bed height should be. I'm so annoyed. I am going to see a friend who has one in a couple weeks, so I am going to play with hers and a yard stick and see exactly what I would be dealing with if I re-bought it.
Dock a Tot - I want this thing so badly, and I honestly don't even entirely understand it's function. Is it meant for all night sleep? Or is it more for lounging around the house? I can't imagine it is good for all night sleep because the sides could be suffocating? Thoughts?
I'm not sure what we're going to do for this nugget. I am more tempted to room-share this time because I'm worried about my son's sleep being disturbed by any crying I'm not able to shush immediately. I guess maybe we'll play it by ear? And I assume that since my son was such a good sleeper, baby two is never going to sleep at all...I'll be running to this thread then, haha.
Husband: 35
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“Supervised” sleep just means they are in the same room as you and you aren’t passed out drunk or on drugs and therefore unresponsive to baby. And it is recommended that baby sleep in the same room as you for at least the first 6 months anyways.
The sides are completely breathable.
It is just a matter of different standards in America for sleeping. Kind of like how American standards will always warn against bed sharing when it is known that it is completely safe if done properly.
People use it for overnight sleep ALL the time. Just like they do the rock n play, which is also not recommended for sleep. So like most parenting decisions, you will just have to go with your gut and use your best judgement.
But yeah, as @BurlapandLace said, it sounds like it's probably in the RnP territory, and I think even some ladies on here have mentioned their pediatricians actually suggested the RnP for babies with reflux. And from reading about room sharing as @krashke mentioned, it seems like even the AAP is sort of all over the place in terms of what they're recommending.
Thanks for making it easy for moms, experts lol.
DS2's sleep routine was the same, but he napped more often in his room in the crib since DS1 was only 16 months older, and on a different sleep schedule. It gave DS2 more quiet.
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
ETA: We also had pets to consider! We have two cats and a dog that jump on and off the bed all night--no way I was risking that waking a baby.
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
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In Canada, we can’t purchase the dockatot, but I just purchased a very similar Canadian product & plan to use it overnight. Baby will be sleeping within arms reach of me so I’m not worried. It’s not completely unsupervised. I think once baby starts rolling, it might be more of an issue.. but by then she will hopefully be in a crib.
I have been considering purchasing the halo this time around, but like someone else said, the base is actually quite bulky and we have limited space. I might just be buying a basic bassinet to fit our babynest,and call it a day. if Baby hates it, we can look at other options. But I’d hate to spend all that money on a halo, just for baby to possibly hate it.
We we have an ikea crib (sniglar) and a nice organic mattress. It’s natural wood and I love it. It held up really well with DS and we will use it for Two. For a $70 crib, it was well worth it.