@sparklingdiamond it doesn't matter if she was your first or last there will always be that guilt. We have given so much to dd that I wonder how I can do the same; and i know this one shouldn't need all the extra attention because some things should come more naturally. And then I wonder about how having another baby will affect how often I will do her therapy skills; she is doing so well right now that I want her to keep progressing. My confession involves that I am slightly nervous about what it will be like to raise a child without a disability. Dd was so easy going, she hardly cried and never had what other moms referred to as" leaps." We didn't have to baby proof until walking (18 months). And she has always been a great night sleeper (except for after her surgery).
@sapphires-and-diamonds @ngolimento ughhh yes! The people who are like “are you so excited?!” They look at my with disgust when I flat out say no. Its bc I know what waits for me - inevitable pain and sleepless nights all while taking care of a toddler. Ya I can’t f’in wait! The only silver lining is I can drink again - but not too much if I’m nursing (eye roll). I haven’t even told many people. I don’t have fb so there goes any formal announcement. But it’s weird working it into conversation. Most people see the bump and are like “how didn’t I know that?” Uhhh bc I don’t know you well enough nor do I feel the need to broadcast it.
With my losses, any time I'd hear someone complaining about pregnancy, I'd say that I'd still rather be going through that. Now I'm definitely in the camp of pregnancy is miserable, but I still think this suffering is way better.