Breakup while pregnant?

knottiec141f8c24316183d · December 2017

In need of advice. I am almost 32 weeeks pregnant. My ex and I took a break because he has a lot of issues and he went and got help for it. While he did that I was pretty much done but was glad he made the attempt to focus on himself. I didnt visit him at all while he went for therapy i.e treatment. After 30dys he gets out and ask abt our child...and I was very short and still angry but cordial. I thought maybe things wld level out. I was wrong. On Thanksgiving day I get a message tagged w him from his mother and his fbook picture is him and another girl. My heart is broken. He talked to his other exes out of state pretty much the whole time. It is evident he isnt focusing on himself. I feel abandoned and I feel like he never cared about me. I feel lonely and I cringe at the thought of them together because I can't just move on w a baby. I cry all of the time. I cried when he left. Im just hurt. Everyone tells me im better off...but it just dosent help that I still care about him. We were together for a year and he just moved on.

smorzandoj · December 2017

knottiec141f8c24316183d said:

In need of advice. I am almost 32 weeeks pregnant. My ex and I took a break because he has a lot of issues and he went and got help for it. While he did that I was pretty much done but was glad he made the attempt to focus on himself. I didnt visit him at all while he went for therapy i.e treatment. After 30dys he gets out and ask abt our child...and I was very short and still angry but cordial. I thought maybe things wld level out. I was wrong. On Thanksgiving day I get a message tagged w him from his mother and his fbook picture is him and another girl. My heart is broken. He talked to his other exes out of state pretty much the whole time. It is evident he isnt focusing on himself. I feel abandoned and I feel like he never cared about me. I feel lonely and I cringe at the thought of them together because I can't just move on w a baby. I cry all of the time. I cried when he left. Im just hurt. Everyone tells me im better off...but it just dosent help that I still care about him. We were together for a year and he just moved on.

Dear Jane,

That sucks. Glad we could be your diary. Good luck.

Sincerely,
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TattoosandLace · December 2017

You weren’t supportive of him during treatment/therapy? You were short with him when he asked about his child? You’re mad he is in a photo with another girl? Okay. Cool.

SunflowerMama428 · December 2017

Ok so you were pretty much done with him and didn’t visit or support him and expected him to just come back to you because.....he loved you?

Love doesnt work that way. If my H needed treatment and we decided to break up then I would still be his friend and support him through things.

Then you said he reached out and you were angry. What were you angry about? So you pushed him away twice?

A baby wont keep a man or make a relationship work if it has issues. Your emotional and it sucks to go through this alone but find a way to move on and be there for your child. Find a way to have a healthy relationship with the child’s father and in a year you will look back and only regret the time you spent trying to get over this.

eggplantface · December 2017

This calls for Nope-topus

But I will add: Call a lawyer to file for child support and get some counseling; you sound like you need to work through some stuff if you "care" about this man but didn't support him through treatment and brushed him off when he tried to contact you. Can't blame him for thinking it's over...

SarahFoley725 · December 2017

So did you expect him to be alone for the rest of his life because he needed help? Also how can you feel "abandoned" when you never visited him while he was getting treatment? I bet he's the one who felt "lonely" and like you "never cared" for him.