Given that during the holidays some of us may be in the middle or nearing then end of our first trimesters, do you have any plans to share the news with your families over the holidays? If so let's share them here!
(Still learning the new rules so I'm hoping making a post about this is OK).
Re: Let's share our ideas for telling family about baby over the holidays
I was thinking about having either a sign or ultrasound pic in the kids' Santa Claus pic - maybe a sign saying "Santa is bringing us a baby brother/sister in August 2018." Or wrapping something for the families - I am giving them framed professional pics of the boys as a Christmas gift, was thinking of adding something about #3 but still trying to figure it out.
All I know is I am not doing anything with a T-shirt on my kids - tried a "big brother" shirt on DS#1 to announce baby #2 and on DH's side no one noticed, on mine my mom thought it was just a hand-me-down from a cousin or something lol.
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
We're planning to tell immediate family on Christmas and then the rest sometime in a February.
For #3 I'm not sure what to do. I might get shirts for them, or I might get a shirt, or even lamer I might just not announce this one.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
If we can get a dating ultrasound done before Christmas, we'll either frame a pic or drop a ultrasound pic in a clear ornament and give it to both of our parents. We'll tell our siblings (who will mostly be there) and my grandmother and aunts on the phone that day too.
We plan on announcing to friends/social media in Feb when we go overseas. I'll be 15 weeks then.
I love the ultrasound ornament idea
so cute! Where did you get it?
Personally I think I will tell family at Christmas even though it will be early. I think I’ll have DS open a “Big Brother” shirt as one of his last’s presents at my parent’s house. Then he can wear the shirt when we celebrate with DH’s family the following week. Then we’ll announce to the rest of the world sometime closer to the end of first Tri.
DH:45
DSD: 20
DSS: 18
Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
DH:45
DSD: 20
DSS: 18
Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
DS: Born 5-17-16
TW
I can tell you what my experience was. I had a MC in Nov last year. At Christmas my SIL told family that she was KU. She told her parents on Christmas Eve before DH and I arrived. Then she told DH separately. DH filled me in that night at our hotel. I would’ve preferred finding out the day AFTER Christmas instead, but the way she told everyone separately (rather than a big “SURPRISE”) was very thoughtful and sensitive to how I was feeling. I think she must’ve asked everyone to not make a big deal of it in front of me because NO ONE mentioned it on Christmas Day, much to my relief. As soon as we got home and I could process through my feelings I sent her a big bouquet of flowers. I know she must’ve been super excited to tell everyone, so for her to tone things down to be respectful of me still makes me tear up a little.
TW
don’t keep it from her. Tell her, privately and maybe first. Not the same exactly but my sister found out she is pregnant a week before me. She told me that morning right away and said ‘I hope you are ok. I understand if you feel upset or bummed.’ I was a little sad (I was convinced I wouldn’t be this month and this also fell practically ON my loss anniversary from last fall... and I’m only 4 months out from my last loss, so it felt like, hey you aren’t supposed to be pg i am. I honestly was happy for her though. I gave some ppl who trigger me but it’s usually ppl who’s kinda as are more similar (like another 3 boy mom who had a girl... got pg right after my loss and I cried when she had her baby). So... it might make her feel crapp for herself, and that has nothing to do with you just the unfairness I’d loss.or she might feel bummed but happy for you.
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w