Nausea is making a come back and then I have a super weird symptom that may or may not be pregnancy related.. all of a sudden my feet are cracking and bleeding (literally). I tend to have dry feet, but they haven’t cracked and bled in years and it’s usually once it gets really cold here if I don’t wear proper socks and shoes. Unrelated? Ouch!
Panic attacks, all night long, every time I drift off to sleep. I haven't slept properly in 4 days. I'm trying to get in touch with a psychiatrist. There is only one nearby that takes my insurance. They're not answering their phone, but I left a message.
@chasingroygbiv, I have terribly dry skin and when I was younger it was much worse. My mom used to put vaseline on my hands and I'd sleep with socks on my hands (so not to get the vaseline EVERYWHERE) and it helped so much. Maybe try that on your feet?
@HappyMonkey817, I'm really sorry you're experiencing that and I hope you hear back from the Psychiatrist soon and get in for a meeting.
@HappyMonkey817 I hope you get a callback soon! Thinking of you. Panic attacks are the worst.
@justkeeptrying with my first my insomnia was pretty rough and my OB approved me taking Unisom as needed for the whole pregnancy. Might be worth asking your OB about.
My vericose veins in my legs particularly in my feet ankles are getting really bad and feet/ankles are swelling. While it’s ideal to be off my feet which is what is recommended, it’s not possible. My OB had given me some names of specialists to see, but says options are limited in pregnancy - I think I’m going to have to make an appointment as my primary doctor wants me evaluated for blood clots. I don’t think I have a blood clot, but rather just on my feet for 18 hours a day. It sucks because it’s end of the year and I haven’t met the deductible so it’d be OOP.
@mmom3 I have spider veins like crazy but just in one leg. I do have a spot where there are vericose veins but the rest is just purple. Have you tried compression socks to help?
@justkeeptrying I do Vaseline (antibiotic ointment first for the bleeders) and socks during the day, unfortunately I can’t sleep with socks on because I get too hot! Something’s gotta give!
@gh515 Also part of the hemorrhoids club. And I haven’t pooped again in almost a week so.. it’ll be a real good time when I do go again..
Also, I can never spell hemorrhoids. Is that even right?
I haven’t because my doc wants them looked at before I do anything with a Doppler study vein mapping again. I need the full panel ones and will need a prescription from a medical supply. Mine are so bad they are black at my mid calf down to my feet. My mom thinks my toes even look blue/blackish. I’ve been struggling with them since I was in my late teens. I’ve had multiple surgeries and procedures. This pregnancy has been hard on my legs.
@chasingroygbiv I can never spell that word either, I’m not even going to try I am really amazed I don’t have any so far, I had a few about 8 years ago or so, I think from just the stress of getting married and immediately opening a business, and I always thought they would come back if I got pregnant.
@HappyMonkey817 I hope the psychiatrist is helpful. it sucks that you have to wait so long.
I'm also in the sleeping badly club. I have bags under my eyes. I wake up every 45 min to roll over. And some nights I wake up hangry and have to get up for a snack at 3 am.
And this week, I have major stretch marks on my boobs, mostly the inner lower quadrant (if that makes sense?). They are really bad. The skin is warped like it's been shredded and someone did a bad job of taping it back together. Don't think I can do anything, but if anyone has suggestions I'd be happy to hear them.
I am still nauseated! 26 weeks and 4 days of this crap is beyond excessive. Also back pain, sleeplessness, congestion and the most fun of all: depression.
I hate being pregnant. Yes I know I’m lucky to be and many women would give anything to be in my shoes but pregnancy/newborn stage - that’s just a year of my life of total misery.
@fatstagnation just keep your skin moisturized to help them fade and, possibly, heal. Every stretch mark I got with my last pregnancy is gone now, and the only thing I can attribute to it is taking care of my skin. If you’re going to get stretch marks, you’re going to get them, no matter what you do. But you can help them fade a little faster.
@Mass-girl-at-heart, hating being pregnant doesn’t take anything away from wanting a baby. As a member of the IVF and PGAL clubs, I can tell you I hate pregnancy as well. I’ve hated it each time, but the parts of pregnancy I love (those kicks!) outweighed the misery so I chose to go through FET for a second. Hell, I absolutely hate IVF/FET but it didn’t stop me from doing it again because the outcome was amazing for me.
I guess, in short, I’m saying it’s ok to acknowledge that not everyone enjoys being sick and in pain for 9 months. I’ve heard lots of people being shamed for simply acknowledging their misery, and hiding misery can’t be good for mental health.
Im so sorry you are still experiencing those symptoms, and although there is nothing I can do to help relieve you, I can tell you that you aren’t alone. Hugs
@Mass-girl-at-heart another IVF and PGAL Mom here...I agree with @Cowboycorgi that it is completely ok to not love being pregnant. It can be completely miserable, especially if you’re sick the entire time. Hang in there lady, the end result is worth it. In the meantime feel free to vent here.
Thanks ladies. This time around is by far the worst. I had depression with my second but the sickness was as bad so it was tolerable. Now I am just counting down the days. This not being planned plays a huge part in all of this & 2 very reluctant big sisters means putting on the happy face for them. We will survive, a few more months and it will be like he was always a part of our family. But for now, stay out of my ribs!
@ShawnnaO thanks. I got stretchmarks on my breasts when I first developed that did eventually fade. It's just shocking how bad they are and that they basically appeared overnight. I'm telling myself these are a badge of motherhood honor.
Also my nipples are getting dark. Never spent so much time examining my boobs, let alone talking about them! LOL It's a wild ride ladies!
@Mass-girl-at-heart@Cowboycorgi@heatherdubrow I am thankful that this topic was brought up. I haven't been enjoying my pregnancy - I even told my mom that I feel like such a baby for not enjoying 9 months of misery. Yes, feeling my baby boy kick means the world to me, but sometime days I just get so frustrated with my symptoms...
To hear others speak about their experiences while also going through a second pregnancy is inspiring. I have always wanted two children, but was considering having only one child recently. So I thank you all, perhaps I can try and view pregnancy in a different light now.
**TW in Spoiler**
https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/683816 BFP 6/30/16, MC 8/21/16 BFP 05/04/17, 5/10/17 Emergency LAP due to ectopic. Right tube removed. BFP 07/12/17, ECDD 03/25/18 - Silver Orion Born 3/23/18 BFP 09/30/19, EDD 06/11/20
Is it more common to feel baby move less as they get bigger? I don’t remember what it was like with my daughter, but I’ve definitely noticed less movement this last week. I’m still feeling movement every day so I’m not too concerned, just wondering.
@Mass-girl-at-heart I’ve been nauseated again the last few days as well, hoping this isn’t going to be part of third trimester for me.
I’m also having trouble with my teeth, one in the back and one up front that’s already had 2 root canals.. WHAT? I was scheduled for my regular cleaning next week, but not sure I can/want to hold out that long. I’ve had to have a root canal every pregnancy, so guess this is just a trend for me. It runs in my family and it stinks!!
I am ready to officially say I hate being pregnant. I am very GRATEFUL to be pregnant because it took 3 years and one loss to get here, and I have never wanted anything more. But this part sucks. I was just saying today to my husband, the balance of magical twinkly emotions when he kicks and cranky feelings about hypertension and diabetes and migraines just tipped a little bit towards cranky winning. I love going to Hawaii, I have friends and family there who I love and it’s Hawaii! I don’t enjoy 11 hour flights in coach because I’m not crazy.
@leilaquinn I read your updates and all you've been dealing with, and I honestly don't know how you're still functioning. You are a trooper! I think anyone in your shoes would hate it. Like others have said, it's perfectly fine to hate the process while still feeling grateful to be pregnant. Hang in there!
Ladies - I'm vibing with so many of you. Pregnancy is not my thing. this is my first baby and I can honestly say I was completely unprepared both emotionally and physically for how hard this entire process was going to be. I also saw myself having another ... but this has put some doubt into my mind about that (time will tell). I am so so grateful, as we all are, for this little girl - but lord knows i am so ready for this whole thing to be over and to feel somewhat normal and comfortable again! Heres hoping....
Can't sleep... ever. And when I do, very vivid, bizarre dreams again. Aches and pains. I'm pretty sure I'm incubating a cross between Chuck Norris and a ninja turtle wanna-be. Indigestion is grossing me out, but still no heartburn. My emotions are a rollercoaster. I've never felt like this before. One day I'm excited the next... terrified. Then I want to cry. I've been sitting in her nursery a lot lately just rocking in the rocking chair.. waiting. Trying to imagine what it's going to be like. I don't know, guess I'm just overwhelmed. It's always been me, DH and the dogs. And now to think I will have a tiny human to take care of until I die... kinda scares the shit out of me. But a lot of people say, "once you see her, you won't know what life was like before her."
Well, I'm ready for the moment because I hate feeling scared like this. I don't want to let her down.
Can't sleep... ever. And when I do, very vivid, bizarre dreams again. Aches and pains. I'm pretty sure I'm incubating a cross between Chuck Norris and a ninja turtle wanna-be. Indigestion is grossing me out, but still no heartburn. My emotions are a rollercoaster. I've never felt like this before. One day I'm excited the next... terrified. Then I want to cry. I've been sitting in her nursery a lot lately just rocking in the rocking chair.. waiting. Trying to imagine what it's going to be like. I don't know, guess I'm just overwhelmed. It's always been me, DH and the dogs. And now to think I will have a tiny human to take care of until I die... kinda scares the shit out of me. But a lot of people say, "once you see her, you won't know what life was like before her."
Well, I'm ready for the moment because I hate feeling scared like this. I don't want to let her down.
Agreed, pregnancy kinda sucks! It was so much easier when I was in my 20s. I won’t be doing this again (although I did say that last time, I mean it this time!)
I’m also exhausted and really want lots of coffee.
I gained 20 pounds so far at 23 weeks. My goal (as per my OB) was to only gain 25 this time around.
That’s enough whining for me, time to go have a latte and hopefully be kinda productive before I need to get the kiddos.
Count me in on the I'm grateful but pregnancy sucks bandwagon. I am having pretty bad random leg achiness and knee pain which I've never had before. The congestion is unreal - I am also going through a lot of saline spray because I have a lot of blood happening with the congestion. I love the baby kicks but hate the backaches. My new thing is I can't drive the car more than 20 minutes without having back pain. Also @crossfitbabybump I feel EXACTLY the same way. MH and I have a nice life with just us and our pets. Sometimes it felt a little empty but now we are introducing what is essentially chaos into our life. Everyone says it will be worth it and TBH I'm starting to get excited about meeting our little boy and seeing what he is like. I just worry I won't be able to mentally handle the huge ass change that's about to happen.
Me: 36 DH: 37 Married: 5.27.16 Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
@muggle621 I think the most important thing to remember is be patient with yourself and your spouse post baby. Your hormones are on a roller coaster, you’re not sleeping, and routines are kind of out the window. I think if you accept these things as difficult for anyone, it’s easier to just get a good cry out and move on. Every baby and Mom is different, but with DD1, I finally felt less of a basket case and more in control of what was happening around 6 months. I will never forget that feeling I had when my husband and I walked in the door with our newborn post hospital. “Uh. So what do I do now?” It’s terrifying, but then the baby crying for food will snap you out of it, and you’re on your way.
@muggle621 - nailed it! The change is what is kind of terrifying! I don't do well with change. All I know is though, I will love this little girl so fiercely! I just hope she see's that and how hard we try. Today, I put my hand against my belly and I felt what felt like her hand push back slowly, almost like a slow motion high five. It makes it all worth it
Add me to the pregnancy sucks club. And to the feeling guilty for hating being pregnant club. I didn't go through IVF, but I did do IF treatment (IUI + drugs) to get here and I hate admitting how much I hate being pregnant. And when I run into one of those people who absolutely LOVED being pregnant and had zero symptoms, a not so small part of me wants to slap them. Yes, I'm glad for you that you had such an easy "magical" time with all this, now if you could please shut up that would be great, thanks.
I relate to all the fears too, and TBH it kind of annoys me when ppl tell me how much my life is gonna change. I am keenly aware that things are going to change, drastically. Every single moment of every day I am reminded of that, but it's not something I want to hypothesize about and discuss with everyone.
Add me to the pregnancy sucks club. And to the feeling guilty for hating being pregnant club. I didn't go through IVF, but I did do IF treatment (IUI + drugs) to get here and I hate admitting how much I hate being pregnant. And when I run into one of those people who absolutely LOVED being pregnant and had zero symptoms, a not so small part of me wants to slap them. Yes, I'm glad for you that you had such an easy "magical" time with all this, now if you could please shut up that would be great, thanks.
I relate to all the fears too, and TBH it kind of annoys me when ppl tell me how much my life is gonna change. I am keenly aware that things are going to change, drastically. Every single moment of every day I am reminded of that, but it's not something I want to hypothesize about and discuss with everyone.
Re: End of Nov Symptoms
@HappyMonkey817, I'm really sorry you're experiencing that and I hope you hear back from the Psychiatrist soon and get in for a meeting.
@justkeeptrying with my first my insomnia was pretty rough and my OB approved me taking Unisom as needed for the whole pregnancy. Might be worth asking your OB about.
@HappyMonkey817 it's criminal that you have to wait for the help you deserve. I hope you get relief soon. Sending good vibes your way.
I am starving and tired all of the time- it must be a growth spurt bc all of a sudden my belly got huge.
@gh515 Also part of the hemorrhoids club. And I haven’t pooped again in almost a week so.. it’ll be a real good time when I do go again..
Also, I can never spell hemorrhoids. Is that even right?
I'm also in the sleeping badly club. I have bags under my eyes. I wake up every 45 min to roll over. And some nights I wake up hangry and have to get up for a snack at 3 am.
And this week, I have major stretch marks on my boobs, mostly the inner lower quadrant (if that makes sense?). They are really bad. The skin is warped like it's been shredded and someone did a bad job of taping it back together. Don't think I can do anything, but if anyone has suggestions I'd be happy to hear them.
I am still nauseated! 26 weeks and 4 days of this crap is beyond excessive. Also back pain, sleeplessness, congestion and the most fun of all: depression.
I hate being pregnant. Yes I know I’m lucky to be and many women would give anything to be in my shoes but pregnancy/newborn stage - that’s just a year of my life of total misery.
End of pity party.
Hell, I absolutely hate IVF/FET but it didn’t stop me from doing it again because the outcome was amazing for me.
I guess, in short, I’m saying it’s ok to acknowledge that not everyone enjoys being sick and in pain for 9 months. I’ve heard lots of people being shamed for simply acknowledging their misery, and hiding misery can’t be good for mental health.
Im so sorry you are still experiencing those symptoms, and although there is nothing I can do to help relieve you, I can tell you that you aren’t alone. Hugs
Also my nipples are getting dark. Never spent so much time examining my boobs, let alone talking about them! LOL
It's a wild ride ladies!
To hear others speak about their experiences while also going through a second pregnancy is inspiring. I have always wanted two children, but was considering having only one child recently. So I thank you all, perhaps I can try and view pregnancy in a different light now.
**TW in Spoiler**
BFP 6/30/16, MC 8/21/16
BFP 05/04/17, 5/10/17 Emergency LAP due to ectopic. Right tube removed.
BFP 07/12/17, ECDD 03/25/18 - Silver Orion Born 3/23/18
BFP 09/30/19, EDD 06/11/20
I’m also having trouble with my teeth, one in the back and one up front that’s already had 2 root canals.. WHAT? I was scheduled for my regular cleaning next week, but not sure I can/want to hold out that long. I’ve had to have a root canal every pregnancy, so guess this is just a trend for me. It runs in my family and it stinks!!
Can't sleep... ever. And when I do, very vivid, bizarre dreams again. Aches and pains. I'm pretty sure I'm incubating a cross between Chuck Norris and a ninja turtle wanna-be. Indigestion is grossing me out, but still no heartburn. My emotions are a rollercoaster. I've never felt like this before. One day I'm excited the next... terrified. Then I want to cry. I've been sitting in her nursery a lot lately just rocking in the rocking chair.. waiting. Trying to imagine what it's going to be like. I don't know, guess I'm just overwhelmed. It's always been me, DH and the dogs. And now to think I will have a tiny human to take care of until I die... kinda scares the shit out of me. But a lot of people say, "once you see her, you won't know what life was like before her."
Well, I'm ready for the moment because I hate feeling scared like this. I don't want to let her down.
Can't sleep... ever. And when I do, very vivid, bizarre dreams again. Aches and pains. I'm pretty sure I'm incubating a cross between Chuck Norris and a ninja turtle wanna-be. Indigestion is grossing me out, but still no heartburn. My emotions are a rollercoaster. I've never felt like this before. One day I'm excited the next... terrified. Then I want to cry. I've been sitting in her nursery a lot lately just rocking in the rocking chair.. waiting. Trying to imagine what it's going to be like. I don't know, guess I'm just overwhelmed. It's always been me, DH and the dogs. And now to think I will have a tiny human to take care of until I die... kinda scares the shit out of me. But a lot of people say, "once you see her, you won't know what life was like before her."
Well, I'm ready for the moment because I hate feeling scared like this. I don't want to let her down.
I’m also exhausted and really want lots of coffee.
I gained 20 pounds so far at 23 weeks. My goal (as per my OB) was to only gain 25 this time around.
That’s enough whining for me, time to go have a latte and hopefully be kinda productive before I need to get the kiddos.
I am having pretty bad random leg achiness and knee pain which I've never had before. The congestion is unreal - I am also going through a lot of saline spray because I have a lot of blood happening with the congestion. I love the baby kicks but hate the backaches. My new thing is I can't drive the car more than 20 minutes without having back pain.
Also @crossfitbabybump I feel EXACTLY the same way. MH and I have a nice life with just us and our pets. Sometimes it felt a little empty but now we are introducing what is essentially chaos into our life. Everyone says it will be worth it and TBH I'm starting to get excited about meeting our little boy and seeing what he is like. I just worry I won't be able to mentally handle the huge ass change that's about to happen.
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
I relate to all the fears too, and TBH it kind of annoys me when ppl tell me how much my life is gonna change. I am keenly aware that things are going to change, drastically. Every single moment of every day I am reminded of that, but it's not something I want to hypothesize about and discuss with everyone.