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CraftyG
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TTCAL w/o 11/20
CraftyG
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This is a general trigger warning that CP, miscarriage / spontaneous abortion, selective abortion due to medical complications, and / or stillbirth may be mentioned.**
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc.
Status:
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R?
Any testing coming up/any recent results?
GTKY: What did you and your significant other do for your last date night?
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc.
Status:
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R?
Any testing coming up/any recent results?
GTKY: What did you and your significant other do for your last date night?
Re: TTCAL w/o 11/20
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc. Loss at 13 weeks Jan 16, loss at 9 weeks Oct 2017.
Status: Benched
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R?
Rave: I went out drinking with friends Saturday night and it was so much fun and Sunday I went to inlaws for FIL birthday. It was the first time seeing them since they found out I was pregnant/ had a loss so I was apprehensive but it was fine. I could tell MIL wanted to talk about it but she restrained herself and didn’t ask and I am so thankful for that! Also restarting nursing school on Friday which I’m really excited but really nervous for.
Any testing coming up/any recent results?
Nada.
GTKY: What did you and your significant other do for your last date night?
Last night Fi got free cinema tickets from a colleague so we went to watch Thor Ragnarok, which I highly recommend and it was free so what could be better!
Status:
MMC 2/12 Malignant molar 8/17
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R?
Things are going well. I found out yesterday I need 1 more round of chemo, but that doesn't really change anything. I am dreading seeing my pregnant sill little this week, but hopefully I will get over it.
Any testing coming up/any recent results?
Just more blood work.
GTKY, : What did you and your significant other do for your last date night?
we went out to dinner for his birthday, about 2 months ago. I got really drunk at dinner, but he kept pushing for me to order more drinks, Lol.
@craftyg, i am glad things went well with your in-laws! And good luck with nursing school!
@holly321 So sorry to hear you have one more round of chemo, but I'm glad that you're doing okay with it mentally. I hope it goes okay seeing your SIL. Will you be seeing her for Thanksgiving? Hopefully you're able to enjoy the time with family, and I hope your family doesn't bring up her pregnancy often. Big hugs to you. On a lighter note, DH likes to push me to order more drinks too, because he knows the more I drink, the better his chances are of getting lucky.
Status: Benched, but AF should be starting any day now and I'll be off the bench next cycle!
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R? I'm just really looking forward to a short week of work because of Thanksgiving! DH wants me to take Friday off with him and I probably will. I do have some work that I need to do, but I'll probably just put it off since he wants me to stay home.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? Nope, no more tests since my last beta was 2.
GTKY: What did you and your significant other do for your last date night? Last date night was for DH's birthday a few weeks ago. We saw a play at Ford's Theater in DC and got tapas for dinner. It was my first time having tapas and it was so delicious! The restaurant also had amazing sangria.
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
@offtoneverland thank you! So glad your MIL was good about it when you told her, I think for a lot of people it’s still a really awkward subject so people don’t really know if they’re being rude with what they say. Also congratulations for coming off the bench I’m so happy for you and got all my fingers crossed! That sounds like such a nice date night drinks, tapas and a show sounds absolutely beautiful.
@holly321I'm sorry you need another round of chemo, but it's good that you are ok with it. I know how you feel about seeing your sil this week. I hope your family keeps the pregnancy talk down to a minimum for you.
@offtoneverlandYay for getting off the bench soon! And I hope you take the day off!
@holly321 Sorry you have one more chemo treatment but it sounds like the end is in sight.
@offtoneverland I hope you do get to take Friday off and have a great day! Yay for being almost off the bench!
@ChloandCoco I think it's really hard and I understand feeling like there is a breaking point. I think you'll know when you hit it, but I also hope you do not hit it. Do you know when you'll have your results back from your d&c? My dr seemed to indicate that if my embryo had been normal (now who knows) she would try immune suppression stuff with me because all my other tests are normal.
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc. Struggling with unexplained RPL, three early first tri losses this year.
Status: Benched I guess?
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R? DH and I have made a tentative plan to try one more spontaneous pregnancy before moving to IVF with PGS. I never got directions about what to do this cycle because we were waiting for the results of my d&c (inconclusive, it blows) to decide what to do, and the earliest our RE can see us again is Dec. 14 so I've been struggling with whether we should try or not this cycle. I have gone back and forth but got some wisdom that is making me feel like we should wait until the next cycle.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? Going in for bw next Monday to do one more hCG draw and also check prolactin and hopefully homocysteine levels.
GTKY: What did you and your significant other do for your last date night? Hmm, we have been out a bunch lately but usually in friend groups. On Sunday we had Mexican food and went to a show and then met up with friends afterwards.
Do you and your DH have certain movies you are seeing? DH and I have planned to see star wars and Super troopers 2.
@offtoneverland , that's great about your HCG level. I hope you do get Friday off and have a great day with your DH. And where did you get tapas? We live close to DC but don't get there much anymore
AFM, Dh's family will have no regards to my feelings and mention SIL pregnancy as often as they can. It happened when we went trick-or-treating. MIL posted a Facebook thing about women likely to have twins this year and tagged SIL and her sister in it since their names were on it, which whatever, but my name was on the stupid list, which you think she would think and not post it.
@zamora_spin I think I will know when I've reached my breaking point too. I didn't have a d&c with my last mc (or any of my other mcs), but this time the embryo and placenta came out intact and I was able to take it to the lab for testing. The results might be available right now, but I doubt they are able to give me those results over the phone (unless there's something really wrong and they would call me). I'm going to meet with my OB one week after the HSG test to go over all the results (embryo, genetic, bloodwork, and HSG).
I hope you are able to take some time relax during your mini ttc break. It might be nice for you and your DH to reconnect during the holidays and then start fresh in January.
*edit - Hit post too soon*
@zamora_spin, I hope you get some answers with your blood work. And good luck making your decision for this cycle.
*Edit because I forgot to answer your question, DH and I are planning on going to see Coco and Star Wars.
@zamora_spin Thats awesome I hope you had a really fun night! I really recommend it. It’s got more of a guardians of the galaxy vibe with humour as like 80% of the script was improvised, and Chris hemsworth had somehow got in even better shape?! I also agree that it could be a good idea to take a short break, especially with the holidays coming up to focus on other things and get you in the best possible position for the new year.
@holly321 Yeah definitely think about something for self care like a duvet day the day after or retail therapy? Also recommend a massage, I get one only like once a year if that but I always feel that weight has been lifted off my shoulders afterwards.
@ChloandCoco Very happy to hear that things have been going a bit better for you and that you're staying busy. Hopefully you and YH can get on the same page about things so you don't have to stress too much about hitting your breaking point. My losses happened much earlier than yours, but it's still very difficult to think about doing it all over again and not knowing what the outcome will be. On a lighter note, did you see Coco yet? We're hoping to go see it tomorrow. I can't wait!
@zamora_spin I'm so sorry the results were inconclusive. That is so disheartening. I guess it's better than learning that something was wrong, but at the same time, it still gives you zero answer which is so difficult. It sounds like it might be a good idea to take a month off of TTC. I thought it was nice to have a break for one cycle so I didn't have to worry or think about things for a while. Definitely do whatever you feel up to doing though. I hope you can come to the right decision that you're comfortable with.
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
@offtoneverland Our sitter cancelled on us, so we are going next Thursday instead. I've heard really good things about it, so I'm excited. Did you end up taking the day off?
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
Just had an ectopic pregnancy diagnosis Monday morning followed by surgery Monday night. I've gone over how this could happen a million times. I don't fit any of the contributing factors and this was just a really bad fluke. I had even had an US thursday where the Dr said everything was great. I had symptoms of a bladder infection which eneed up being side effects of what was actually going on. It still replays over and over in my head, hearing and seeing that little heart beating. I still feel like I'm in a bad dream. I'm mad at the situation, I'm mad at the Drs, I'm mad at myself for getting attached, I'm mad I had to tell people this heat breaking news, I'm mad I had to have surgery, I'm mad at my body.
I'm just not me right now.
Status?
benched.
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R?
Still bad. It's not like with my DH and he can just be distracted, I'm having to recover from surgery and all the fall out from my body trying to reset itself. It's a constant reminder every single minute of every single day. I'm really struggling with not snapping at people. Some of the things people say - one of our friends said he was sorry for our loss, cheers to our troubles. Keep your cheers and GFY (I don't mean Good For You). I just I don't understand wtf people are thinking. My dad said happy thanksgiving, and he hoped I found joy. Or something equally as stupid. I'm not happy thankful or joyful.
Everyone else I have to say has been nothing but wonderful and supportive. I really do mean that. The rest of my family, DH, inlaws friends, work, and bump ladies have been exactly what my heart has needed. I do feel like I'm surrounded by love, but I mostly just want to be alone and yell.
This post... I've had this saved in a draft and come back to it a million times. I thought about not posting for so many reasons. We've all experienced loss here and the last thing I want to do is make anyone else sad. My heart breaks seeing everyone's loss history and what we're all going through. I'm so so sorry. I feel like there just isn't anything I can do or say to make myself feel better or anyone else feel better except this all sucks! So I'm going to yell it:
THIS SUCKS!!!!!! I HATE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Any testing coming up/any recent results?
I have blood work Monday and post op appointment 11/30.
GTKY:
Pep talk me vs actual me
My DH is probably just happy I'm not like Eleven from stranger things, all of our windows would be broken by now.
I'm sorry for the hurtful things some of your friends/family said. I think some people just don't understand it. They don't know what it feels like to be pregnant and they can't see it, so they don't understand how hurtful it is to lose it. I was so mad at MH after my 2nd loss...I broke down sobbing when I started bleeding and he just said "it's okay, we'll keep trying!" I wanted to punch him in the face. Like, how is what he said helpful at all? But he was trying to be supportive in his own way.
Anyways, you keep doing what you need to do. Cry, get a massage, take a hot bath, whatever. You deserve to feel all the feels. It's okay that you're not feeling okay right now. You went through so much, so you deserve to just yell it out how badly this sucks. In the meantime, I'm sending you tons of virtual hugs (and pouring you a few glasses of wine if you feel up to it).
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
Thank you for being there for me
@galactickates
So, so sorry to see you here. No one’s words can take away your pain, soothe your anger, or mend your broken heart. Your emotions are valid and understandable. Everyone here on TTGP is here for you, whenever and however you need.
HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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