March 2018 Moms
ashtuesday
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How far along are you?
PGAL Check-In (Week of 11/15)
ashtuesday
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This is a safe space for those who are pregnant after a loss. General TW for this thread.
How far along are you?
Any appointments coming up?
How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
GTKY: What piece of entertainment do you wish you could erase from your mind so that you could experience it for the first time again?
Re: PGAL Check-In (Week of 11/15)
Harry Potter.
good luck @leilaquinn with your GD testing and care... hope it goes smoothly.
thanks @ashtuesday for starting the check in!
Zane William 9/17/03
Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
Nova Marsela 3/14/18
25 weeks today!
I have an appointment with my endocrinologist on Tuesday. Kind of looking forward to it because I’ve been kicking GD’s butt lately!!
I’m doing well! Feeling mostly good, except for the massive amount of pressure from how big my uterus is now. I don’t remember it being this bad with my son! Also, peeing all the time already, ughhh. But still loving all of the kicks and rolls from this little girl!
Harry Potter. All of it. The books and the movies. That series has had such an impact on my life!
Maroon V concert. So much fun and we were right up against the walkway/stage! I got awesome pictures.
Anyway, have y’all noticed people (that know about losses) being super nervous around/ to you? I’m super open and I talk about Leah at least once a day sometimes just to H, sometimes she comes up naturally in conversation and omg people look sooo nervous or uncomfortable and it’s like the conversation just ends. Sooo awkward.
I'm doing okay. We had our last visitors that we know of until after baby comes ((hopefully. MIL booked to fly in around the same time I think they would induce me for going over so I really hope this baby is a little early or on time.))
My anxiety has slowly been creeping back in and so I started back on the Zoloft ((I had to go off of it to take the nausea meds when I was throwing up 3-4 times a day)). My family is trying to go through my grandfather’s house this week and divide everything up, which is very stressful for them. It’s also stressful for me because I’m not there to look and pick what I want and my uncle just wants everything done and over with and sold. He keeps trying to say everything should either go with the house or go in a yard sale.
It’s also just hard because it still feels like he’s here. My two single aunts will be spending their first Thanksgiving alone without their dad because my other aunt insisted on hosting Thanksgiving and then is having it at her stepdaughter’s Thanksgiving Day ((my family isn’t invited)) and then is having dinner on Saturday or Sunday. It’s a whole clusterfuck and I have seen how upset both of them are and it just seems selfish and crappy. Overall, it doesn’t directly affect me. We started celebrating all holidays at our home after the disastrous first Christmas for DS.
It it feels like we are missing so many ladies this week??
@ashtuesday Thanks for starting this. And I understand completely about the movement being more reassurance and making everything more real and tangible.
@leilaquinn my understanding is that GD is just something that can happen—no one is more likely to have it than anyone else. And while you need to make some dietary changes and to try to exercise ((without overdoing it, like the hypertension suggests)), I don’t think you should feel like your body is failing you. I’m sending hugs your way and hoping and praying that you feel better today than yesterday.
@senora76 I know this is such a tough week and I pray that you find some healing and peace on your trip next week.
@BrittnieMariee I’m so glad to see a good week! I love that you are so positive about how you are doing with the GD. Baby kicks and movements are just the best.
@chasingroygbiv I am so bummed that you already have to deal with hemorrhoids. I’m terrified of them! The KT tape has vastly improved my pelvic discomfort so I don’t know if you want to try it, but it’s been so much better with the tape. Also, I’m jealous of your Maroon V concert! That sounds amazing!
@syssa-o yes. I think it’s really hard for people to know what to say and none of us want to cause someone else pain. My bff for years would just interject into conversation that she lost her mom at 16 and no one knew what to do or say. It’s an unimaginable loss for anyone who hasn’t experienced it, and I think we are afraid to say the wrong thing? But it hurts the person grieving when they feel like they can’t talk about it as well. Hugs.
Had an OB appointment today. Have to book my glucose test (super nervous about this) shortly. Also - doc told me that it was discovered in my last US that my placenta is very near my cervix. They seemed confident that there was plenty of time that this child still resolve itself - but if it doesn't, ill need to have a C- Section (majorly bummed about this). I've also been told ZERO sex for the time being.... not that we've been super active anyways.... but still. Lastly, apparently they didn't get a good picture of 1/4 heart chambers - so they want new ones. Basically - I'll be having another US in a few weeks. Part of me is nervous - but I'm trying to focus on the positive (I get to see my little girl again sooner than expected)!
I'm alright.. my cold is FINALLY subsiding after a miserable 3 weeks. i also only gained 5 lbs between my last OB appointment and this one which is a HUUUUGE improvement over the 13 lbs i gained at the appointment before that. I've been trying to be more conscious of what I'm eating ... so I feel really great about that!
hmmm... tough question! I don't think any! I have loved experiencing so many moments...i can't imagine erasing any of them. even if it meant getting to experience it again
... unusual for her
@mdfarmchick thank you
@bb3vj3n my placenta is right by my cervix too - i had a full previa and was hopeful when I had my A/S it would be all clear like what happened with Mars but the MFM said mine is not a previa but very low now - he said I shouldn't need a c/s as its not completely covering it.
where is @justkeeptrying ?
Zane William 9/17/03
Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
Nova Marsela 3/14/18
As for @justkeeptrying I hope everything is ok! I read her ticker change post Monday, and it said something about her MIL being sick. So hopefully all is well and she is just busy.
ETA my answers...
Hhmmmm Rascal Flatts concert. It was on my bucket list, and me and my best friend finally got to see them last April.
And seriously the kicks and rolls make me feel so much better. I do still get nervous when she doesn’t move much but usually once I sit down and drink something cold she starts moving around
So sorry everyone is being so selfish about the holidays! We’re hosting everything at our house this year so that we don’t have to drag DS around the county again. The past 2 years have been so hectic and awful and I feel like this is gonna make our lives so much easier!
@senora76 I can't imagine how hard Mars's birthday must have been for you and your family. Thinking of you all and wishing you every positive thought and reality
@mdfarmchick I'm so sorry about the loss of your grandfather, and I'm sorry it sounds like there's so much chaos now. None of that is easy, especially around the holidays.
@bb3vj3n At my 16-week ultrasound, I was diagnosed with full placenta previa. I was told to do nothing strenuous and have no sex (and yes, that part was excruciating!). I spent a lot of time worrying about the possibility of a c-section, but at my 20-week appointment, everything was cleared up! So try not to stress too much yet - it definitely could all resolve itself!
And I hope all is okay with @justkeeptrying !
Our celebration is is a little... different lol. Shortly after she died, we agreed we wanted to do something, but not s funeral because I hate funerals. And a lot of people kept trying to make monetary donations etc so we decided we would host a ball hockey game and have food, drinks etc and all proceeds would be donated to SickKids hospital. This year it got prettty big (we had about 150-175 people) and we had a full 4 team hockey tournament, bouncy castle, face painting, DJ and a huge silent auction that multiple businesses donated products to. We held it as her birthday party and donated $2200 to the hospital. We called the event Love4Leah we had t shirts, silicone bracelets and temporary tattoos made
Edited- I showed my husband your post and photos and he said “that is next level” We are just amazed. Your Mom/Dad tee shirts are so touching to us.
Zane William 9/17/03
Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
Nova Marsela 3/14/18
My MIL was in the hospital for a few days and the aftermath of that has been tying up all of my spare time. I'm desperately trying to catch up on the bump now, but it's so hard when you miss a few days!!! My MIL is home and doing well but there are a number don concerns we are still dealing with which is strasing me out!!!
Thank you @ashtuesday for getting this thread up and running in my absence!!
How far along are you? 22 weeks today
Had my appt today - I have gained TWENTY POUNDS... and it's especially embarassing for me since they weigh me in KG at my dr and MY EUROPEAN HUSBAND KNOWS HOW MUCH I WEIGH BEFORE I DO!!! After everything we've been through, my vanity truly is really out the window on this one... but I'm really going to have to work hard at getting back to a healthy BMI after this pregnancy... I gained 65 in my first, and I don't want to do that again!!!
I also just found out I'm going to Orlando for business a few days after we get back from Spain... Does anyone live in Zika territory? My dr told me today that I should wear DEET repellant when I'm there... does anyone have a good repellent they feel safe using?
Zane William 9/17/03
Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
Nova Marsela 3/14/18
With Zane I gained 65, with Vance 30, with Mars 25 and here I am 21 weeks in at already 20... and I’m hungry all the time!!!!
Zane William 9/17/03
Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
Nova Marsela 3/14/18
I'm actually quite disappointed in myself. I am doing slightly better. I only gained 5 lbs in the last 4 weeks. it was that first tri and early second that really blew it for me