March 2018 Moms
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UO Thursday 11/16
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Me: 30 H: 30
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Re: UO Thursday 11/16
EDD March 12, 2018
EDD March 12, 2018
EDD March 12, 2018
UO (at least around these parts) : this hombre will be an only child. I'm about 95% sure. I love him immensely without even knowing him, but I don't like how this pregnancy is making me act with DH.
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
Blake Shelton is not sexy. WTF.
Men are FAR more dramatic and emotionally volatile than women (so when women bash other women for this and claim that's why they don't have female friends I roll my eyes).
Posting weekly bump pics here is fine. Posting weekly bump pics on social media is just being extra.
Chipotle is overrated. Their chicken is low quality.
Luis CK's "apology" wasn't an apology and he's still a massive POS who doesn't deserve people fawning over him.
If you're cool with an elected official being a sexual aggressor you suck.
Thanksgiving turkey isn't that great. The sides are way better.
**TW in Spoiler**
BFP 6/30/16, MC 8/21/16
BFP 05/04/17, 5/10/17 Emergency LAP due to ectopic. Right tube removed.
BFP 07/12/17, ECDD 03/25/18 - Silver Orion Born 3/23/18
BFP 09/30/19, EDD 06/11/20
But crock pots are my life. Had anyone ever had crockpot lasagna or chicken tacos? Yummm
I would say rather than one gender being drastically more dramatic than the other, it is just a person to person thing. Most of the men I know are waaaaay more chill than the ladies I know. When they get rattled about something, they may over react but they are less likely to get rattled (in my experience). I don’t not keep female friends because they are dramatic though, I choose to keep very few female friends because they (again, this is just my experience) require more work and maintenance than my relationships with males. I don’t have time (or the care) to chat on the phone or see each other very often. MY male friends wouldn’t bat an eye if i didn’t make time for them for months on end... but my female friends require checking in.
Anywaaaay, all this to say, I don’t think either gender is necessarily more dramatic than the other... I just think men and women are dramatic in different ways.
Also - I think Blake shelton has always been sexy
It's always been my personal experience that men react more emotionally volatile. I've had to get restraining orders against men, avoid men, block men out of fear for my safety or comfort. I've never had to do that with women. And yes I've dated both in pretty equal numbers and have had lots of friends of both sexes.
Feminism isn't about saying everyone is equally shitty or wonderful in all ways. At least not to me. In our society men are not encouraged to express a wide range of emotions in healthy ways - one of the many reasons the patriarchy is harmful to men. When men are upset the only two emotions they may feel comfortable displaying is humor (laughing things off even though they are hurting) or anger (even if maybe they'd rather cry they scream or punch instead). On the other hand women are EXPECTED to display their emotions. I think for this reason they are able to more often release stress in healthier ways and are less likely to fly off the handle in scary ways that men do. So when you say men get less rattled, I personally chalk that up to men stuffing their emotions down more often than women - not that they aren't feeling it. I don't think this makes men worse than women and I don't feel like I am putting men down when I say that. It's just one of the very frustrating ways in which men are failed by our society.
I think humans generally speaking regardless of sex feel emotions pretty equally (except psychopaths...). But I do think men and women are encouraged by our society to express those emotions in different ways.
I absolutely think youre you’re right about a lot of men stifling their emotions because they were taught to do that. I love seeing my son show emotions and I’m hoping that with society becoming more forward thinking, men being able to openly emote will become more acceptable and taught from a young age.
I feel like the old fashioned idea that a clean or messy house reflects on the woman/her abilities sucks. DH cleaned the whole house yesterday and told me on the phone today that the kids "destroyed" it (aka toys everywhere and crumbs all over the floor because while my kids are talented in many ways they are incredibly messy eaters) so that means I'm going to be rushing home from work to try and clean up the worst of the mess that DH didn't get to before the speech therapist gets there because I feel that people still look at the cleanliness of the house and judge the woman on it. DH and I both work full time and both clean the house and are pretty good with sharing house work (except for laundry, he's not good with that!) but even my MIL has made some aside comments if the house is messy about "helping ME out by tidying up". I don't think that there's anything we can do to change peoples generalizations (except for family which I have corrected) but I do think that it sucks that most of the time it reflects back on the woman.
I don't care how old she is - if she says something insulting to me next time I see her it I will not just smile and nod!
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
Adam Levine though.... I still stand behind that award.
Also reminds me, I'm so not a fan of being obligated to offer to help clean up at someone else's house after a dinner/meal just because I'm a woman (which I've never done either, which I imagine makes me look bad in some peoples eyes). Like let's say my DH and I are visiting his family or friends, and I realize all the women are cleaning up while all the guys aren't cleaning up. And I'm sitting there like...why should I feel pressure to go clean if my DH doesn't. If you want to go clean, great. But not just because you're a woman.