MH! I love him dearly and he worked hard this weekend trying to get things checked off the project list but I was helping and working all day too and did all the cleaning. I vacuumed and mopped all the floors and I was in the kitchen last night before bed and saw a giant mess that he tracked in from the garage. I almost cried. I would like to passive aggressively leave it there until he cleans it up but he will never clean it up so it will stay until I have to clean again before my family comes over for Thanksgiving.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
AFM, I am mad at a receptionist and myself. About two months ago, I called the midwife practice that is the only practice that delivers at the in-hospital birth center two blocks from my apartment. The receptionist said under no circumstances were they accepting new patients. I should have pushed harder to find out under what circumstances that changes. I called again today out of curiosity, and lo and behold - there is a waiting list, which I am now on. I wish I had gotten on it two months ago, though! The midwife practice is led by the main midwife and OBGYN in the documentary The Business of Being Born, and it would mean I'm guaranteed a private room and DH is able to say with me (I mean, assuming I remain low risk; if I become high risk I just go to the regular L&D floor but can stay with the same practice). I'm just so mad I didn't push harder, and I'm so mad that receptionist didn't tell me there's a waiting list!
@doxiemoxie212 I'm glad you got on the waiting list even if it is later. Out of curiosity if you don't deliver in that birth center you wouldn't get a private room? Idk if this is something I need to worry about. I just always assumed you get your own room for labor and delivery.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
You can pay extra for a private room, but it's 1) $300-$1000/night, 2) not guaranteed, 3) first come first serve. So, since NYC is a fairly wealthy city, nearly everyone opts for the private room fee if they have the option, so they get full very easily, and it's basically luck if you get one. I think almost no matter what you DELIVER in a private room, but you don't necessarily labor in one nor recover in one, if that makes sense. And if you don't get to recover in a private room, then your SO can't spend the night, which I find extremely overwhelming to think about. I don't sleep well without DH under the best circumstances, so the idea of being in a lot of pain, in a hospital environment, with a newborn, with strangers in the same room.... IDK, freaks me out. Plus DH would throw a fit having to leave the baby.
Omg @doxiemoxie212 the idea of sharing a room sounds terrible like how does anyone get any sleep? Having gone through having a baby once, I couldn't imagine it. Also I was in terrible pain after my c section and could barely get up so I don't know how I could have handled DH not rooming in. FX you get in and can have a private room!!
@doxiemoxie212 I figured it was probably an NYC thing but I will definitely ask about it when we tour hospitals. I really hope you get in with the midwife/birth center because that sounds like a nightmare. It would be so awkward to have to labor/recover with other people. I get that you're all pregnant women but visitors will be coming and going and I wouldn't be able to focus on what needs to be done.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@katie121209 yeah, seriously. Ugh, and I think the hospitals here want you 3-4 nights after a c-section...? I would lose my mind in a shared room that long.
Omg @doxiemoxie212 that makes me want to cry. I can't imagine. I would be freaking out at the thought of not having my own room. I picked a hospital where everyone gets their own birthing suites. I really hope you get your own room.
@galactickates honestly it makes me feel better that y'all don't think I'm being a baby worrying about this, lol. It just seems like everyone in NYC is like, yeah yeah yeah, it's NBD, but like, wut.
GTFO, shared rooms for laboring and recovery? and without dh? I couldn't do it. nope. I personally don't think any patient staying in a hospital should have a roommate. But definitely not after having a baby. DS was such a crier those first few nights due to feeding issues. I can't imagine having a roommate with that issue as I'm trying to rest... or me being that mom keeping another mom awake.
@doxiemoxie212 you're possibly moving before delivery right? fingers crossed you get in with these ones OR get that move before hand!
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@catlady1215 DH finds out his CA bar exam results Friday night! Honestly, slim chance he passed given he had zero time to study, but once we know the results our hope is that either 1) it will become a lot easier to get a job in CA, or 2) we can start looking at jobs in DC (if he didn't pass). But it will be nearly impossible for him to get a job before the end of January just given the holiday schedule, so I'm a little nervous about finding an OB or midwife practice after 20 weeks. :-\ Siiiiigh, the stresses of life.
@doxiemoxie212 I remember all that from the ttgp board. fingers crossed so hard for him! wouldn't it be awesome to get your great m21 results the same week as his 'passing' results!! either way, atleast you guys can start making a game plan. it'll all work out!
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@catlady1215 I keep thinking about what if I get the mat21 results the same day?!?!? lol
The terrible part is DH will be on a plane when his results come in, and he's refusing to give me his login information so I can look them up while he's in the air, so I have to waaaaaaaiiittttt!
@doxiemoxie212 I cannot stop picturing Rachel Green (Friends) laboring in the shared room. Fingers crossed you get a private room!
AFM, today my manager talked to me about possibly changing positions at work so that someone who works full time can take over my position. I work in customer service, but in a position that doesn’t take up much time, but they want someone who will be “present” at all times. I was fine with it, until I told my husband about it and he said “Oh yeah, I thought I told you. My dad (my boss) told me about that last week.” WTF
Also, my husband has been loading the dishwasher lately because the smells are just too gross for me sometimes. It’s sweet. I shouldn’t complain. But he is TERRIBLE at it. It looks like a 7 year old did it and half of the dishes have to get rewashed because of bad positioning.
@doxiemoxie212 Do you know how far down the wait list you are? Do you know if your desired midwife practice has a transfer cutoff time? I transferred care my last pregnancy at 41 weeks--it can be done!!
@araecasey no, a midwife has to phone interview me first I think to find out the extent to which I’m theoretically low risk. Cut off is 16 weeks, but they fill up extremely quickly give they’re the only ones that deliver at this in-hospital birth center which serves a population of, what, a million people (only hospital in lower Manhattan). I’m hoping I am helped by being under 30 (generally uncommon here), a healthy weight, etc. Eep! Fingers crossed....
I understand this so much @napqueen ! My boyfriend is wonderful and tries so hard to help around the house. It’s so sweet, especially when he does the dishes...because I HATE doing the dishes. However, he is horrible at them. He leaves food on so many of them and I end up rewashing at least half of them. I don’t have the heart to tell him because he is trying so hard to make me happy but it drives me insane. He’s a wonderful human tho and I try and remember that he is my favorite person ever before a fit of rage over the dishes ensues
Re: Monday B*tchfest 11/13
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
AFM, I am mad at a receptionist and myself. About two months ago, I called the midwife practice that is the only practice that delivers at the in-hospital birth center two blocks from my apartment. The receptionist said under no circumstances were they accepting new patients. I should have pushed harder to find out under what circumstances that changes. I called again today out of curiosity, and lo and behold - there is a waiting list, which I am now on. I wish I had gotten on it two months ago, though! The midwife practice is led by the main midwife and OBGYN in the documentary The Business of Being Born, and it would mean I'm guaranteed a private room and DH is able to say with me (I mean, assuming I remain low risk; if I become high risk I just go to the regular L&D floor but can stay with the same practice). I'm just so mad I didn't push harder, and I'm so mad that receptionist didn't tell me there's a waiting list!
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
You can pay extra for a private room, but it's 1) $300-$1000/night, 2) not guaranteed, 3) first come first serve. So, since NYC is a fairly wealthy city, nearly everyone opts for the private room fee if they have the option, so they get full very easily, and it's basically luck if you get one. I think almost no matter what you DELIVER in a private room, but you don't necessarily labor in one nor recover in one, if that makes sense. And if you don't get to recover in a private room, then your SO can't spend the night, which I find extremely overwhelming to think about. I don't sleep well without DH under the best circumstances, so the idea of being in a lot of pain, in a hospital environment, with a newborn, with strangers in the same room.... IDK, freaks me out. Plus DH would throw a fit having to leave the baby.
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@doxiemoxie212 you're possibly moving before delivery right? fingers crossed you get in with these ones OR get that move before hand!
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
The terrible part is DH will be on a plane when his results come in, and he's refusing to give me his login information so I can look them up while he's in the air, so I have to waaaaaaaiiittttt!
AFM, today my manager talked to me about possibly changing positions at work so that someone who works full time can take over my position. I work in customer service, but in a position that doesn’t take up much time, but they want someone who will be “present” at all times. I was fine with it, until I told my husband about it and he said “Oh yeah, I thought I told you. My dad (my boss) told me about that last week.” WTF
Also, my husband has been loading the dishwasher lately because the smells are just too gross for me sometimes.
It’s sweet.
I shouldn’t complain.
But he is TERRIBLE at it. It looks like a 7 year old did it and half of the dishes have to get rewashed because of bad positioning.