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March 2018 Moms
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Monday Bitchfestival
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Go on. Let it out.
Re: Monday Bitchfestival
I was rather appalled that he would do that, especially when he's not even the one paying for my wedding. Mom gives me 200$ of help, and now apparently I'm not allowed to pick my dream dress? I get that goodwill has some pretty dresses, but chances are that they aren't to my tastes. Ugh...
**TW in Spoiler**
BFP 6/30/16, MC 8/21/16
BFP 05/04/17, 5/10/17 Emergency LAP due to ectopic. Right tube removed.
BFP 07/12/17, ECDD 03/25/18 - Silver Orion Born 3/23/18
BFP 09/30/19, EDD 06/11/20
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
On the dress topic-my parents gave me X amount of money total to spend on the wedding (DH's parents did the same thing) and whatever we chose to spend it on was fine and any amount we went over was our responsibility-so much easier than saying "we'll pay for the dress and flowers and DH's family will pay for the food and booze, etc". DH and I liked that way so much better that we're planning on doing it for our own kids (in the waaaaaaay future, they're not allowed to get married till they're like 40 or something haha)
My MBF is about Verizon. DH's phone has been having charging issues. His last phone had this so when he took it to the store the guy basically said "well if you had the insurance we could fix this for you but since you don't we can't do anything" so we had to pay off the phone right then and there and buy a new one. So this time we bought the insurance on the phone. When he took his phone back (to the same store mind you) the same guy once again said "well this is a manufacturers warranty issue and since you got this phone 13 months ago and the manufacturers warranty is only good for a year there's nothing I can do for you". DH pointed out that he bought the insurance because this problem had happened to him last year and the guy said "oh there's no point having insurance after the first year is up" and kept trying to upsell him to buy the new iPhone. DH was so mad and just left. We called Verizon when we got home and talked to someone in customer service who was super nice and said that the insurance was worth having because this was covered and transferred us to someone in tech support. The tech support lady walked us through the steps and we reset everything and when that didn't work she put in an order to get a replacement phone (same kind, series, color, everything) sent out to us, free of charge. She told us that for as long as we have the phone and the insurance all of the manufacturers defects are covered (if they can't fix it they will send a replacement) with no cost to us and the other damage items (water damage, cracked screen, etc) have a deductible but are otherwise covered. I had the phone delivered to my work and it's sitting here on my desk next to me and I feel like stopping by the Verizon store on my way home and shoving it in that a-holes face who lied to us and just basically tried to make a commission off of us by selling us a new phone.
So Friday was the icing on top of a very crappy week for both my husband and I.. he lost his job just as I turned 6 months pregnant. We spent the weekend trying not to panic and prayed a lot. Now, he has an interview on Wednesday so FX this will work out for the time being because we cannot live off of just my income.
But I want to take a moment to THANK his lovely, now EX boss... I've already received a warning from the bump last week for calling a knottie an asshole for asking how to *TW* deal with her friend or SIL who miscarried but was very insensitive about the whole topic. *End TW* It just sparked a huge fire in me so I'm going to try not to get another warning here.
My husband was in line and being groomed to be the CFO/Controller at a huge company here where we live. But his lovely EX boss is a TWAT. She sought him out! She found his resume on Indeed and lured him away from a steady job and pay for more money, only to fire him exactly 4 months later. Also well knowing that I am pregnant. She was very sexist towards him and his other male co-worker while treating all of the ladies of the office with respect. Anything my husband ever did was wrong and I feel like she purposely set him up for failure. My husband "reminded her of her ex-husband." Okay then? So that's a reason to try and get him fired? WTF? You guys, I want to throat punch the shit out of her but my DH has asked me to not say anything or do anything irrational. I of course don't want to jeopardize his chances of getting another job so I won't. But it's really hard not to. I've never been so angry at another person in my life. I just don't understand how she could possible treat my husband the way that she has.. and for her to do so makes me so angry!
My DH is a fantastic human being, a very HARD worker and the smartest man I know. And I've noticed the last few weeks, she's just been tearing him down so much that it changed him and the way he started acting. I could tell he was down and something was just not right. I'm sure he was very close to walking away from that job himself, had she not fired him before that. He told me that she would come in and just straight up yell at him for mistakes on spreadsheets, in front of his coworkers. He broke down and told me that, "I'm supposed to be CFO someday and lead these people.. but how will they ever respect me when she does this to me in front of them?" My heart is absolutely broken for him. He's happy to be out of there and I know we will be okay finding a job. I'm just so angry with her and really just want to AHGHGHH!!! But I can't and I won't.
Sorry for the long post. If you made it this far, thanks for reading.
Noooooooooooooope. I wouldn't let my kid within 1000 feet of a person like that.
@sassypants2010 I'm just not a huge fan of that kind of roughhousing tickling in general (I'll take a good back tickle any day, though). In my experience, tickles from uncles and stuff just frigging hurt. They weren't fun and when I asked them to stop I meant it. There's a little gentle tickle or a side buzzer now and then but I think that most of the tickling that happens with little kids is kind of messed up. And while I'm not the kind to be on the "I ask my baby for consent before I pick him up" train, I do think that tickling is one of those things where the touch and lack of consent (especially after a kid has asked them to stop) isn't okay. And, if I had been accused of molestation, even if it totally was not true, I would be hesitant to put my hands on anyone's kids. Their kid could ask to sit in my lap and I'd be all, "Here's a chair. How 'bout you sit next to me?" or for a hug and I'd say, "How 'bout a high five?" At least until it was clear people were feeling more comfortable having me around.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Also @crossfitbabybump I’m so sorry for all that extra stress right now! I hope everything works out and you are able to let the negative go because it sounds like his ex boss isn’t worth the energy.
AFM... my ILs.
Without making this a ridiculously long story, two years ago was DS’s first Christmas and our first Christmas back in the States after living overseas for three years. Both sets of parents live about 8 hours apart plus time to stop for gas or food or whatever. When we were trying to figure out the logistics of spending Christmas with both of them, they informed us they were going skiing for Christmas and we could join them there. That’s a 12+ hour drive without stops. With a 4 month old. I don’t ski. In addition it would have cost us $4k by the time we paid for flights, rented a car, bought gas, plus all the expenses at a ski resort and getting our own place to stay—because DH and I were not about to share a house with 4 other adults and two kids when we have a baby and would need some privacy. So we said we couldn’t afford skiing but we would love to spend Christmas Day and a day or two after with them. Nope. That didn’t suit. His mom would be working and they wouldn’t have time for us because her time off was only for the skiing trip. It didn’t snow that year and cue ridiculous last minute drama and hurt feelings when they suddenly wanted to show up and bust in on Christmas with my family two days before Christmas.
So last year we talked about it and decided that all major holidays would be spent at our house. No more traveling at the holidays, no more trying to please everyone, no more stress, no more drama. If someone wants to spend a holiday with us, they were welcome and whoever booked first had the Holiday. We’ve talked about this multiple times with his family. My dad was actually the one who suggested it as a solution in the first place, so my family understands.
Yesterday we called his parents, asked their plans for the holidays. Told them we were planning on staying home just like last year and FaceTiming.
At the end of the call, MH mentions how we would really love to have the clothes back that we lent to SIL—3-9 month clothes when she had her surprise third child and only boy last year. So MIL offers to mail them and he says well why don’t you mail the 3 month clothes and then bring the rest when you come out after the baby is born. Her response, “oh well I guess I could get them to you when you spend Christmas with your wife’s family. Again.”
This is still ridiculously long and doesn’t cover the other things she did over the weekend—like when she’s visiting after the baby is born and how she’s leaving DS out of her “special vacation” with “all” her grandkids. Which basically means her daughter’s three and not mine.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
What was the outcome of the accusations? Was there a court case?
I would not attend any gatherings with my child in which this man is welcome to attend. That tickling is a huge red flag as well.
@sassypants2010 I would stay far, far away from him and never let my child near him.
@mdfarmchick your ILs sound absolutely awful...
I don't have my own MBF, but man I got worked up reading some of these! I hope the rest of the week goes a little bit more smoothly for everyone!
@Laurenann0405 Yeah I would've preferred it if he did that. It would be so much easier to deal with to just say "Hey, your money went into this..." rather than have to fight him over the one thing I would like brand new. Also, that Verizon guy's a real jerk and it sounds like he did it on purpose. Glad to hear you were able to get the replacement just fine!
@crossfitbabybump I'm so sorry to hear that! My fiance has been out of work for about 1.5 months, and I was just as upset and frustrated when he lost his job, so I know where you're coming from. I'm praying he finds something soon, so you don't have to go through the daily stress I had.
**TW in Spoiler**
BFP 6/30/16, MC 8/21/16
BFP 05/04/17, 5/10/17 Emergency LAP due to ectopic. Right tube removed.
BFP 07/12/17, ECDD 03/25/18 - Silver Orion Born 3/23/18
BFP 09/30/19, EDD 06/11/20
I really REALLY feel like the “thumbnail” for an article/post titled “victims of the Texas massacre shooting” DOES NOT NEED TO BE THE LITTLE GIRL WHO DIED.
I didnt open the post, that stuff is very triggering for me to begin with, but Jesus Christ people can we all just agree a CHILD does not need to be the thumbnail?
I can’t imagine being her parents and seeing her face used as click bait on social media.
Lots of these today are pretty serious reasons to bitch...mine is so trivial compared. So I've decided to move on, and forget about it. I hope everyone dealing with crappy situations today have some better days this week. Or steal Halloween candy...candy is always great!
unfortunately, I get it. How else do you make people care? The callousness with which our country treats these atrocities and others that afflict not only our fellow humans, but children, babies, is despicable. It makes me sick.
@bettyvonsomethingstein I hardcore second your anti-Movember movement. My DH always keeps a beard (not my fave, but he's handsome so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯) , but mustaches are just gross. The only upside is potentially less cleaning of little man hairs from the sink and tub (as my MBF is how men never "see" how gross they leave the bathroom).