WTF Wednesday - 10/25

curiousfool1 · October 2017

I'm getting really tired of having the vaccination and smoking fights with my mother. Apparently, asking her new boyfriend (who she pressured me into allowing into my home after the baby is born, with the ultimatum "either we both come, or neither of us comes") to smoke only at the bottom of our driveway is unreasonable. This coming from the woman who used to compare smokers to walking ashtrays. Then the vaccinations - she (and the new boyfriend) currently is the only grandparent not up to date on the whooping cough vaccination, and is trying to come up with every excuse under the sun why she doesn't need it. I may be the paranoid FTM, but I have had several friends and acquaintances in very recent years come down with whooping cough. This is one vaccine I am sticking firm on. No vaccine, no visit.

(*no offense intended with the smoker comments. I am not a smoker; never have been; neither has my husband. In fact, my mom's new boyfriend is the only person on either side of the families who does. It's one area we feel very strongly about.)

ariasbabyblog · October 2017

WTF to the woman who was supposed to buy my bassinet today. We were scheduled to meet at Walmart at 9:30 and she was a no show. By the time I gave her enough time to meet, we had missed nap time. Now I have a grumpy toddler and a whiny 4 yr old who doesn't want to take his standard afternoon nap. If you had changed your mind, you could have messaged me before I drove to the next town over.

@curiousfool1 Hold your ground! You are the parent, what you say in regards to your children is what matters. I, personally, would tell her that because she and her boyfriend refuse to honor your wishes, she and he are not welcome or permitted near your baby. You don't need that kind of stress in your life.

DungeonTrollMel · October 2017

@curiousfool1 I am the same way about the tdap and flu vaccines. DH keeps trying to roll his eyes and say his parents are Canadian they don't need shots. I have said no shots no baby time

rachelb51212 · October 2017

WTF to my MIL refusing to get a flu shot because it “made her feel bad” when she got one years ago, so she doesn’t want to get another one. Oh, I’m sorry, I’m just concerned about the life of my child here! Infants die from flu all the time, and DD won’t be able to get a flu shot until January!! I don’t care if you feel bad for a couple of days if it potentially saves the life of my child. Sorry, I may be overreacting, pregnancy hormones and all, but I’d rather you suffer a couple of days of feeling a little bad than risk my child’s life.

curiousfool1 · October 2017

What's with all the lurkers! The sudden influx of random commentors is starting to give me the creeps.

Abby7 · October 2017

WTF - I'm working till 12:30 at night (I start at 8:30-9 AM). My boss is still online and knows I'm 9 months pregnant and still does not let me go to bed. I know there is a super important client thing going on but I am 9 MONTHS PREGNANT. I don't want to go into labor over all of this stress and fatigue. I know this project is important but my baby is important too. Also I want to enjoy these last few weeks of pregnancy, getting everything ready and such, and I feel like I'm being robbed of that with all of these long hours at work.

MamaMJ2 · October 2017

Wow I really had no idea anyone asked people to have certain shots before visiting their baby! Like dead serious no sarcasm at all! I mean I got the tdap obviously to help protect my baby but I never thought about asking anyone who would be around him if they had gotten theirs! You guys have just opened a whole new can of worms for me

NYTino24 · October 2017

@Abby7 When are you scheduled to go on leave? That day is entirely too long, but I'm betting you are a salaried employee. At some point, you just need to go to bed.

NYTino24 · October 2017

WTF, body? This isn't first trimester. Nausea and exhaustion need to go away!

DungeonTrollMel · October 2017

@Abby7 tell your OB. They can put you on work hour restrictions. That's what mine did

curiousfool1 · October 2017

@Abby7 - I am right there with you. It's been 8am - midnight all week this week, although a little of that is self-imposed. Ok, more than a little. I have one last major project to finish before I have this kid (the filing deadline is in the middle of my maternity leave).

As for the vaccines, I think if I had not known adult friends come down with whooping cough recently I would be less adamant about the TDAP vaccination. I'm not requiring my family to get the flu shot.

kaitlinliz · October 2017

my WTF is the fact that DH still hasnt gotten his TDap. It's too late now to get it before baby comes. Dr said he had to have it by Saturday and he still hasnt. But since he leaves for 6 weeks, I asked the Dr if he can get it while hes gone. I'm hoping they say yes. I've been telling him this since about 20 weeks and he STILL hasnt gotten it done.

And the fact that the bump app doesnt work. I have been MIA only because of that and I am rarely on the computer. It won't let me post at all. anytime I try it tells me to download the app. Um hello I'm on the app!

MaximumEffort · October 2017

@kaitlinliz DS was born Friday and DH got his shots today, better late than never.

littlemissc17 · October 2017

@kaitlinliz I was wondering where you were! Glad it was just a technical issue keeping you away.

kaitlinliz · November 2017

@MaximumEffort they didn't answer my question, just said "I hope he was able to get them" like wtf. Does that mean no he can't get them while he's away? Cuz he obviously did not get it yesterday.

@littlemissc17 Yea I was checking constantly and it wouldn't let me! Finally I used the computer last night and tonight my apps working again lol

dragonfly87-2 · November 2017

This is really late, but I meant to post it on Wednesday. We had a work event Wednesday night and we bought employees pizza and other food as a nice gesture. It wasn't a super late event, but wanted to give the option to eat if they wanted. Well, I offered to help serve because I like it better than mingling, lol....

A little back story: There is an employee who is about 11 weeks behind me in her pregnancy (so aroun 26 weeks). She is a nice person and means well, but is definitely one of those "Look at me, I am pregnant" kind of people that turns every comment and conversation into something about her pregnancy. She has awkwardly been mentioning "waddling," her growing bump and other things to make it more obvious she is pregnant for the past two months...even though she is barely showing because honestly (and I don't mean to sound rude) she is overweight, so it's hard to tell a difference right now.

Anyway, she came through the line and got to the pizza part. I asked, "would you like pepperoni pizza?" (we had just run out of cheese). She looked at the pepperoni with a disturbed face and said, "I guess I will have to pick off the pepperoni." I asked nicely, "Oh, I am sorry, are you a vegetarian now?" (I have known her for 4 years and she has eaten meat). Her response was, loudly, "No, but I am really focusing on eating healthy and it is discouraged to eat deli meats while pregnant. Don't you know that?"

I just about laughed when she said that. But I refrained and just said, "Well, pepperoni pizza is actually a cooked meat, but I understand if you want to be careful." Then ladies....she sat down and was drinking a large 60+ oz gas station soda!!!

I haven't been perfect about healthy eating during pregnancy, but come on....you are going to be super careful about 4 pieces of pepperoni for baby's health and then guzzle a big gulp? Idk...all I was thinking was, "WTF??!??!"

brandidodds1982 · November 2017

That's funny

dragonfly87-2 · November 2017

@curiousfool1 Definitely stand your ground! As others have said, you are the parent....your child, your choice.

I don't think you are asking too much to get a vaccine and not smoke near your child. It is not a right to see your baby, it is a privilege and both reasons are due to valid health/safety concerns.

Also note, studies have shown the smoke captured in clothing can be just as dangerous for babies as well. When someone smokes a lot, the toxins and chemicals get captured in their clothing. If they hold the baby and it is faced into the clothing, it is essentially breathing in all that nasty stuff. Now, this is usually a concern when one or both parents smoke because of long term exposure, but something to still keep in mind. I find smoking to be quite gross and wouldn't want my child around it either. I don't even like being around someone smoking, so I wouldn't subject a helpless newborn to it.

NYTino24 · November 2017

I was talking with our nephew while our niece and I were playing with a toy kitchen. I don't remember how it came up, but I said that DS loves it when I drink apple juice. SIL's response? "We don't drink apple juice. Too much sugar! Doctor said it isn't healthy! Just water and milk." 1) He's 4 1/2 so lighten up. 2) I don't need a lecture on apple juice being "unhealthy" because I'm pregnant. It's 100% juice. DH actually watered mine down when I asked him to get me some too. WTF? I've also gotten looks from him with OJ even when my hematologist told me I needed to drink my iron with a full glass of it each morning.

dragonfly87-2 · November 2017

@NYTino24 I love apple juice and so does DH! I have to limit it due to blood sugar issues (I am hypoglycemic and it makes me shoot up really fast), but I water it down a bit too. In moderation, juice is fine. There are definitely far worse things in life than juice lol.

I agree, people should lighten up, especially with a 4 year old. I hope this doesn't happen to your nephew, but I had an aunt who was crazy strict with her kids growing up. No candy ever, no juices, just the basics and all super healthy stuff. Then, when the two of them turned 18 and moved out...they went the exact opposite direction. For a period, both gained quite a bit of weight and ate very unhealthy things because they felt they had missed out and didn't understand moderation. It's been about 5 years now and they are coming back around, but definitely not nearly as "healthy" as they mother tried to strictly enforce with them.

NYTino24 · November 2017

@dragonfly87-2 I tend towards hypoglycemia too, which is why I hope I have a fast labor. I can't go a long time without food. I sometimes water down my drinks too, but I don't need others doing it for me without asking. He just reused my water bottle that still had water in it instead of getting a new cup. SIL's nickname is Little Hitler because she is insanely strict. She accidentally emailed me her babysitting instructions instead of her MIL once and WOW.

littlemissc17 · November 2017

@NYTino24 “Little Hitler” hahaha!!!

MaximumEffort · November 2017

Oh wow. Pediatricians don't recommend more than 4-6oz of juice for little ones and do suggest watering it down, one reason Motts Tots exists. I don't even know how much apple juice I drank after I had DS, nothing tastes better than cold apple juice when you're recovering.

mymulligan · November 2017

I drank a bunch of apple juice while in the hospital recovering also. So good!!

YesOuiCan · November 2017

Mmmmm, I love apple juice too. And white grape juice! I don't let myself buy any juice though, because if it's in the house I will drink it all, and way too fast. I am such a sugar fiend. I am loving the idea of having it for recovery post-birth!

kaitlinliz · November 2017

I water down my juices cuz I'm a child haha but wtf who cares if she doesn't allow juice in the house, you mentioned YOU drank it, not forcing it down your nephews throat. And drs even say to drink some if baby hasn't moved lately to see if it'll get them going. I love juice and have been keeping it in the house cuz I don't eat a lot of fruit so it's been helping keep things going when I'm not eating fruits and veggies.

DungeonTrollMel · November 2017

Ice cold apple juice has been so satisfying all pregnancy

littlemissc17 · November 2017

I miss orange juice. I love a nice glass every morning but haven’t been able to since I’ve been monitoring my blood sugar. I can’t stand self-righteous people. When you decide to start smoking meth during your pregnancy then ok, time to say something. If you’re drinking juice or coffee or want to have a darn ham sandwich every once in awhile, don’t let anyone judge you!!

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