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March 2018 Moms
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GTKY: Your Worst Date?
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Okay ladies! Tell us about the worst date you've been on?
Me: 30 H: 30
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Re: GTKY: Your Worst Date?
I met one guy for dinner (we were matched online). Conversation was fine, but I wasn't really into him. Then he asked me if I like rock climbing. And um... I could tell we weren't meant to be. I feel kinda bad for him now, because I asked if he meant indoor rock climbing or like, actual outdoor rock climbing. He said either - so I probably got his hopes up - and I said no, I don't do either. (Didn't mention my fear of heights either.) DH and I still talk about "Rock Climbing Guy" from time to time. (I met DH shortly after this.) It really wasn't' bad - I'm just soo not a "rock climbing person". Luckily I found DH - my "netflix on the couch person."
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
we had met once and exchanged numbers. We agreed that he would pick me up for dinner and drinks. He showed up early enough that I had to make him wait. I wasn't even close to ready. Then when I got in the car he had a huge bouquet of red roses for me. Didn't bring them to the door - had them in the car. and also like too much for a first date, right? We went to a super casual bar and grill where he knew basically everyone, included the server. Then he forgot my name when he went to introduce me. I guess because he was so nervous. But I mean really. Forgot my name. Called me the wrong name when introducing me.
So I made an excuse to go home and proceeded to drink with my room mates. Not out of control but enough that I planned on sleeping in the next morning. Well, the next morning one of the room mates woke me up at 7am because the date had called - for the second time! I told him it was way too early, don't call me before 10am. He called again an hour later. I basically told him right then and there is wasn't going to work out and he was all blubbery "but why?" O.O
Just not a good match, friend.
This was the very first person I dated, so I was like 15 to his 17. We went to a school dance, which was somehow even more boring than normal since he wasn't interested in dancing at all (but was very interested in forcing his poor buddy to stand guard so he could attempt to sloppily make out with me). My mom was kind enough to pick us up after the dance and drive him home first so we could get some more time together, but when we got to his house (with MY MOTHER IN THE DRIVER SEAT, mind you), he proceeded to try to wheedle me into coming inside. Like, ditch my mom who is listening to this whole conversation. He tried what I can only assume was the worst attempt in the history of the earth at sexual innuendo (it involved the words "cream corn", ???!!??), and I shut him down about as gracefully as I could manage considering my eyebrows had migrated into my hairline. My mother and I did at least have great fun at his expense the entire drive home.
I was a senior in high school, so 17, and I was dating a freshman (solely because he was hot, so it was a really healthy relationship, destined to last). We were going to Homecoming together, and obviously, he couldn't drive, and I'm not sure why I couldn't have driven us, but anyway, we ended up doing dinner at my parents' house with my parents, because we couldn't get to a restaurant. He was so nervous about having dinner with my dad! (Looking back, I can't really blame him.) And then, of course, my dad had to drive us to the dance. Hah.
Well, when we got to the dance, we could only dance a few songs before he had to go to the bathroom suddenly. Apparently, all his freaking out gave him really bad intestinal cramps, or something, so he was like almost passing out, and we didn't dance anymore. I had to call my dad to pick us up early.
And then my best friend got rushed to the ER because of what they thought was an ovarian cyst bursting (ended up being something else, but equally painful).
So a very eventful night.
My friend had set us up and told him I was a runner. I had recently run a 5 mile relay so she considered that a runner. This guy was a triathalon/frequent marathon runner. His idea of a fun date was us going on a 25 mile run. Sooooo not happening!
Anyways, one of our "dates" was him
coming over after one of his marathons. He was in so much pain he could barely walk. So we spent the whole "date" in my parents basement (I was 18 and still lived at home) with me icing his knees.
Not my idea of a fun time...
That’s about as bad as it gets for me! Unless you count the time one of my not so great ex’s was texting another girl about meeting up after I left while I was sitting next to him....... Yes, that was the end of that.
And in case anyone is wondering, yes, I am still equally as awkward 10+ years later
Most of them involved entitled, shitty men who assumed they “deserve” reciprocity of sexual advances cos I dared to drink a beverage with them.
The first one one was probably when a high school “boyfriend” tried to start making out during a murder scene in American Psycho.
A few years back on my birthday we headed out to go pick out a Christmas tree. First we went out to dinner at a nice Japanese Cuisine restaurant. They first brought out a salad and bowl of soup that was just salty broth with one sliced mushroom floating on top. For some reason, I tried to cut the mushroom in half with my spoon and ended up flipping the bowl and almost catching it but ultimately it ended up on my crotch. It burned my upper legs and it was about the most embarrassing thing ever. The waiter brought me a bunch of cloth napkins and I could see some of the staff keep glancing over at me. After dinner we step out into the frigid air and I'm instantly freezing. MH ended up picking out a tree by himself while I sat in the truck with my pants off holding them up to the heater. To add to it, I was on my period and out of pads so that was on my list to do before we headed home. I sent DH in to get some, which he was a good sport about but couldn't find them. I sent him a picture of what I wanted and turns out he was in the Depends section. I told him to ask for help but he refused. He took long enough that my pants were finally dry enough it didn't look like I peed myself so I ran in and got what I needed.
Glad I can blame myself for ruining my own birthday date..
One that stands out to me was the midnight premiere of one of the Twilight movies. They’re garbage, I know, but I figured at least waiting in line with my then boyfriend and some of our mutual friends would be fun.
Nope. So I saw someone I talked to a lot walking on the other side of the street coming towards the line. This guy was considered “emo” and by no means popular, but he really was a genuinely nice person. So I called over to him and just waved and said hi. YALL. My boyfriend literally pushed my head down and made his friends get around me so the guy I called to wouldn’t see me. My boyfriend said “what are you doing? We don’t want him over here! Why would you even talk to him?” I was speechless. And pissed. I’m pretty sure I called my parents shortly after that so they would come pick me up, and I broke up with him a couple weeks later.
One was a border agent. He showed me pictures he had taken of immigrants he had found stuffed in compartments of vehicles. Those photos were heartbreaking, y'all. The desperation you'd have to feel in order to allow yourself to be placed in those positions is unfathomable, and here's this guy, making a joke of it. I wanted to puke. What I didn't know at the time is that photos like this are prohibited, and he likely would have been fired. Had I known this, I would have reported his stupid ass.
Another was a nice enough guy, but we had a date planned a few weeks in advance to accommodate funky schedules, and then my brother passed away (he had cancer, and we knew it was terminal, but I wasn't expecting it to happen so quickly.). The date was a few days after his passing and a few days before the funeral. I wanted to cancel the date, but this guy was like, let's just meet for a drink and you can get your mind off of things. I went against my better judgment. All he could talk about was his annoying sister and the petty fights they had and how she was so spoiled becazue she got a nicer car than he did in high school, etc etc. like, wtf, dude! Levity is good, but you know my sibling just passed away, so maybe bitching about yours is kind of a dick move!!!
Ok, I definitely had some real duds before I met DH but there are 2 that stand out..
The first was my current BF at the time-he wanted to go to the mall to the GameStop where he worked at midnight for the release of some video game. He stood in line with me for the midnight release of the 7th Harry Potter book so fair enough. On the way there, his car breaks down. We are in a not so good section at midnight waiting for AAA. It was cold out and we had no heat because the car wouldn't start so we're huddled trying to stay warm. Over an hour later AAA finally comes and changes the battery and he wants to continue on to the mall. I'm cold, tired and argued with him the whole way that the store would be closed but he kept on going. When we got there the store was indeed closed and he was mad AT ME like I was the one who caused his car to break down.
The second was an online guy I met he was a year younger than me. I was in college at this point and so was he but for our first date he took me to a HS football game. Now I had no problem going to HS football games when I was IN HS (also in marching band so I was at every game no matter what!) but after going to college there was no real draw for me to go anymore. He was so into it and kept finding people he knew and talking to them while I just kind of sat there because I didn't go to that HS and wasn't really into the game. Afterwards we went to this dingy little bar where once again he kept shouting out to people he knew and I just kind of sat there with my drink (that I paid for). We went to his house after that and he tried putting the moves on me in his parents basement which I wasn't having and then he passed out and since he drove me I couldn't leave. When he finally woke up we snuck out of his house so he could take me home. Never responded to any of his texts again.
So glad I'm out of the dating game....
look into my eyes too...poor guy. That was our last date.
I'm 14, boyfriend just turned 16. I invited him over to play Nintendo 64 with me and meet my parents. First boy I'd brought home. He sits down next to me in a chair in front of our fireplace, my parents and aunt and uncle who were visiting were on our couch across from us.
Dead awkward silence in the room, and then a loud FART noise came from my boyfriend.
Apparently when I was walking to the door to let him in, my uncle slid a little fart machine under his chair. DH was a good sport about it and thought it was funny but 14 year old me could have died from embarrassment. They still bring it up when the family gets together lol.
I only have one that really stands out,
I was in uni and worked on an assignment with some random. We seemed to get along ok and he asked me out. So we pick a mutual meeting spot (a mall with a few restaurants) to go get food. We walk around chatting a bit and I already know this is the last time I’ll talk to the dude.
Anyway, he proposes eating at pizza pizza. I had dressed for like a pub or whatever but then he tells me all he can afford is some fries. So we went to pizza pizza and I ordered a slice and he got fries. He ate my slice and his fries lol... and then I tell him I’ve gotta get going. He asks me to drive him home, so I do because it’s a Canadian winter. He then says that he will not invite me in because I was coming on too strong and he wasn’t ready to have sex. LOL OKAY.
so I get home and have like 15 msgs from him saying he would just like to remain friends because we didn’t click. I’m like okay, that works, fantastic. Then he starts sending me nudes that girls had sent him asking me which was my fave??? So I tell him maybe we won’t be good friends for each other. He texted me insults pretty much everyday for the entire school year. *face palm*
edit because words don’t make sense to me
Like, that sh*t probably should have been reported to dean of students or something.
My worst date was my first date. I met him at a gathering with some of my brother's friends, and he seemed like a cool, funny guy. We went out on a Sunday to go to the zoo and then see a movie, and I'm pretty sure now after the fact that he was stoned the whole time. We were driving in some terrible traffic to get from one side of the city to the other, and he almost crashed multiple times because he would speed up between construction zones, and then slam on the brakes when we got to the slow areas of traffic. Several times he would have to pull off the road to miss hitting the back of a car... it was so awkward. We were talking a lot, but at them same time I'm trying to get him to pay attention to the road! His eyes were pretty bloodshot and it didn't seem like he could focus on two things at once. After the going to the zoo and the movie, which was pretty fun, I said I had to get home and couldn't do dinner. He invited me to go hang out with his "friends" some other time, but I found out later that he was heavy into weed. I didn't really know the signs during the date, and while he was driving I thought he was just trying to be funny and scare me. The funny thing though was that later my brother told his friends and this guy he was going to be enrolling in the police academy, and the guy never texted or called me after that and we never saw him at the place we used to hang out at again.
Then again, he's so totally sweet. and handsome. lol
@stlbuckeye132 just be yourself! I am also an introvert. I find that people who start off seeming "a bit wierd" actually turn out to be quite genuine and some of my fav people.
DH isn't so much conversationally awkward, but his sense of style is questionable. I'm not a fashionista by any means but the golf shirt 24/7 is like, ugh. why? Is that an engineer point of pride? The more I say something (like, is that dressy enough for this event?) the more defiant he gets about it. It seems pretty gender neutral too.
I started doing some online dating a few weeks before college graduation. I was staying/living in the area so I figured why not. I was contacted by a guy originally from South America and we figured out the details for the date - basically go out for drinks. I met him at the bar and he was at a table, most of the way through a drink. I ordered one as well and about an hour later and 2.5 drinks in for him, he started moving his chair closer to me. I would then push my chair back. The whole situation was uncomfortable, the waiter was uncomfortable, and could tell I was not feeling it. The guy got pretty close (and I ran out of space to back up because of a wall) and tried to make out with me. I said not into that on a first date and he told me that he loves me. Keep in mind, this was the first time I've ever seen him. Then he went on a rant about converting to Judaism for me (I am also very secular so this was not a concern for me) and more about loving me. He excused himself to go to the bathroom and I texted a friend who lived nearby to rescue me. While I was sitting/waiting the waiter came back and said that "my friend" got kicked out for being too drunk/stumbling. I asked for the check so I could pay the bill and texted my friend who asked me to stay put since she was on her way already. The guy had left his cell and coat at the table so I figured I'd give them back to him outside and walk down the block or something to meet my friend. Well, I got outside and he's MIA. While I was waiting for my friend, I saw him walking back and he told me "I started walking home but then I remembered that I love you so I came back." Gee thanks guy. My friend showed up and then he started telling her "I love this girl, tell me how to get her." I forget how the conversation went at this point but basically we all ended up going our separate ways.
I wish that was it... I had mainly been communicating with him on AIM (remember that lol) and I ignored every message he sent me after. A week went by of me ignoring him and he called me, left a VERY long voicemail talking about how he's not an alcoholic, wanted everything to be perfect but got carried away, etc etc and just kept going until he got cut off by the timer. To follow it up he went on a hour long rant (from the timestamp on the first message to the last) with my instant messenger (and no response from me). At the end he sent me a YouTube link for the song "I'm all out of love, so lost without you." He also sent me 2 dozen roses. The roses were (luckily) the last I heard from him.
Pregnant with #2:
The whole night I was thinking is this real? WTF? Am I being punked?
Pregnant with #2:
Some of DH's golf shirts were soooo old too.
Me: I think it's time to get rid of that. DH: my mom bought this for me. Me: You haven't lived in Italy for 12 years! DH: yeah, this shirts like 20 years old. Me: burn it! WTF?
He hate to throw things away. So, likewise, I've at least gotten him to get some nice ones, new ones that aren't threadbare and fugly. sheesh. smh.
@day38 OMG I can't even speak. "tell me how to get her." just wow.
In college I once went out for coffee with a guy who spent 10 minutes showing me slides of diseased body parts. Definitely warranted a SOS text/phone call from a friend, and also warranted an entire semester of me sneaking in late to the lecture we shared and hiding on the other side of the room.