From infertility to infedelity

amanda_1182 · October 2017

My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 4.5 years and were about to start IVF in a week. Today he confessed he's been having an affair...... yes one week before we were to start IVF. We're obviously not moving forward with the IVF, but I am completely shocked. I guess my purpose of this post is to let you know that whatever you're going through, it could be worse. I never imagined in a million years I'd be dealing with infertility and then I never imagined in a BILLION years I'd be dealing with infedelity now too. Please pray for me.

funkykey · October 2017

@amanda_1182 - Oh no! I'm so sorry! I remember you from some of the spring IUI boards.

Good luck over these next few weeks. It'll probably take some time to figure everything out, even what your feelings are about the whole thing. I hope you are patient and gentle with yourself.

cseley321 · October 2017

@amanda_1182 I have no words. I am so sorry to hear this

ndz2018 · October 2017

@amanda_1182 That is AWFUL!!!! There is no excuse for what he has done! No words are going to comfort you right now and sorry doesn’t seem like enough.

SUPER FU*KED UP STORY TOO:
If it makes you feel any better a friend, I use that word loosely, is not only cheating on his SO but he is getting vasectomy(TW he already has a daughter END TW) and his girlfriend, soon to be fiancé wants kids and she is going to get all her work up done these next few weeks. Well SHE gave him $40,0000 to go buy her a 3carat engagement ring, so sad, so they can start trying for a baby next month. He’s getting his vasectomy on Nov 1st! So his plan is to make her think she baron but he’s really shooting blanks! Seriously idk why men are so EFFED up!
Love and light to you!!

funkykey · October 2017

@ndz2018 - that is a horrible story!! OMG!

ndz2018 · October 2017

@funkykey I KNOW!! If I knew the girl personally I’d tell her. But I don’t know her, I do know her name and email. But someone told me I should stay out of it. Ugh I feel awful for her!

adirat · October 2017

ndz2018 said:

@amanda_1182 That is AWFUL!!!! There is no excuse for what he has done! No words are going to comfort you right now and sorry doesn’t seem like enough.

SUPER FU*KED UP STORY TOO:
If it makes you feel any better a friend, I use that word loosely, is not only cheating on his SO but he is getting vasectomy(TW he already has a daughter END TW) and his girlfriend, soon to be fiancé wants kids and she is going to get all her work up done these next few weeks. Well SHE gave him $40,0000 to go buy her a 3carat engagement ring, so sad, so they can start trying for a baby next month. He’s getting his vasectomy on Nov 1st! So his plan is to make her think she baron but he’s really shooting blanks! Seriously idk why men are so EFFED up!
Love and light to you!!

@ndz2018 I disagree. Please tell her. Ideally, please tell her before she marries him and/or goes through IF testing and treatment. What he is doing to her is fraudulent.

ndz2018 · October 2017

@adirat TRUST me I want to! But problem is, is that he has only told me these things so he’ll know I told her!! I’ve been trying to come up with a plan to tell her! I just don’t know how to with out him finding out it’s me!

adirat · October 2017

@ndz2018 Why are you worried he will know it's you? Unless you fear some sort of retribution from him, I don't get it. He's doing a horrible thing and he doesn't deserve your protection.

ndz2018 · October 2017

@adirat he is a vindictive horrible human being! And I have no doubt that he will seek revenge on me. I don’t want to protect him. He uses her for her money, to take care of his daughter, sh*t she gave him 20k to buy her these diamond earrings and 40K to buy her , her OWN ENGAGEMENT RING!!! I do not need someone coming after me! If I can find a way to do it that he won’t know, i will. But again he scares me and I don’t need him seeking revenge.

ndz2018 · October 2017

@adirat My coworker and I are trying to come up with something. But I wanna wait till after he gets the vasectomy this way she will leave him , hopefully when she finds out it’s already done

Irisheyes81 · October 2017

@amanda_1182 That is terrible. I wish I had something amazing I could say to make this better but the truth is, he mad an awful decision. You're so strong and will get through it. Thank you for sharing and know you aren't alone.

tosh24 · October 2017

I am so very sorry. IF can really wreak havoc on a marriage. I hope you are able to find the support you need, however you choose to move forward. Thinking of you.

roisis · November 2017

I'm so sorry to hear this. There's absolutely no excuse for his behaviour - it's horrific and horribly selfish. IF is the pits - for both people involved - but ffs it's us going through the treatment that really get the shorter end of the stick. I'm just so sorry for your situation. I really hope you find happiness and peace in the near future xx

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