My parents came to visit and they got pretty buzzed Sat night along with my husband (too much wine). It's annoying to be the only sober person in the room.
Me: 36 DH: 37 Married: 5.27.16 Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
So I love my brother and he’s really not bad but he has a very literal sense of humor... and even knowing he doesn’t mean things they way they can be taken, the first three minutes of our phone conversation today was about my size and I was kind of over it. ((Don’t judge him too harshly—he’s had some delays and just doesn’t always get filters and such.))
@muggle621 I went to a food and wine festival with my two younger, non-pregnant sisters, and couldn't help but be a little annoyed when they were giddily tipsy and hysterical and I was just a blob with a water cup. Completely justified feeling, especially at your own home!
Halloween party Saturday night. It would have been so much more fun had I been able to have a few drinks and be on everyone else's level. Instead I was in the corner enjoying the bacon mac and cheese and that was worth it. It was a fun time, just sucks being the only sober person.
My allergies suck, or is it a cold? My nose is raw from blowing it and I feel horrible. Work has been bat shit crazy today and I'm ready to go home. Happy Monday y'all!
UGh, my BF is that for the second time this pregnancy I have to take a round of oral steroids because I’m sick with a respiratory infection. Growing up I had to do this from time to time because I would wheeze and cough uncontrollably whenever I got a cold. But I haven’t had to deal with this in YEARS. Now suddenly twice in the past 5 months. I’m thankful for an awesome pulmonologist and that I’ll have relief soon but this sucks!
Ok...so probably a long post ahead and I apologize in advance. Last week, we had our a/s. My MIL couldn't be there for it with DD #1 so we offered for her to come to this one (we live in the same town) on the one condition that she wouldn't post anything to social media until we decided to announce on our own (we are planning to do a Halloween themed gender reveal). Well, of course she posted to Facebook about what we're having (and she tagged both me and DH)! I didn't know about it because I wasn't feeling well after the a/s so I took a nap. It was up for about 4 hours before I checked my Facebook (my phone stays on vibrate at all times so I didn't hear the notifications pinging my phone while I slept). My dad heard about it from somebody else...on Facebook. I was not very happy. Oh, and she chided me to the doctor because she thought my questions about having a tubal done after this new baby arrive were too early (she's hoping we change our minds). I have multiple medical and financial reasons for not wanting another child but she basically told the doctor that she thought we'd change our minds (my DH and I had decided before conceiving that this DD is our last). So basically, I just wanna strangle my MIL right now.
@kalawa good for you on actually carving them though. for the first year EVER - I just said EFF it. I'm tired and just have zero desire to do it. they are just sitting outside ... uncarved.
@bb3vj3n ...haha two of the four pumpkins are uncarved. I carve them because my son helps me. Before him, I did not carve. This year I actually decorated. Only because my neighbour went all out, and I also got my son and his friend to do most of that as well.
@maelily15 what the actual effff?! It's not that hard, do not do the one thing you asked her to do. I just want to know what excuse she is going to come up with when you bring it up....
@maelily15, I'd be pissed! The clear disregard for your CLEAR request, plus the dismissal of your personal (and yours only decision) discussion with your doctor. Yeah, I'd totally wait until the last moment before I'd have to loop her in on anymore updates (including when labor began...wouldn't want her lurking about the hospital as she sounds like someone without the sense of personal boundaries and privacy)...but that's just me and obviously I don't actually know her.
@maelily15 That is someone with zero respect for boundaries. Unbelievable. That was a blatant power move. Now it's her turn to learn that information is a privilege. None for her until the rest of the world knows. And like someone else said, don't tell her when you're in labor or next thing you know she's going to have stomped all boundaries and inserted herself.
AFM, I spent two meals today with a guy who grew up in anothet country where I assume it's acceptable/expected to chew with your mouth open, smacking excessively. I deserve a major award for not yelling at him to shut up with his nasty mouth noises. And for being chill the rest of the day. The whole thing was kind of a shitshow.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@maelily15 ugh! That's a very justified MBF! How annoying. One of my friend's sisters posted about my friend's (very difficult to achieve) pregnancy on Facebook the day she told family, despite's friend's clearly stated wish that nothing be posted on social media about it period. You get family member's enthusiasm, but it has to still feel like a betrayal. (And I'll admit it wasn't my favorite way to get the news about a good friend)
I'm sure your Halloween gender reveal post will still be just as adorable and just as happily received!
I ordered this maternity coat in green from Old Navy (I live in Chicago where it was 33 degrees this morning... I was not going to do an open front coat in January!):
It came yesterday and is super cute (and the price was right with the big sale last week), but it is in NO way a maternity coat! I ordered a small (I'm a size 4 pre-pregnancy) and the fit is fine with a bit of space in the tummy now, but no way is it enough space for third trimester, and there's no expandable panels or anything! Ridiculous.
Now the sale that Gap/Old Navy had (40% off plus 20% off that) is over, so I missed out on the more expensive, but probably actually functional Gap maternity coat. Hindsight 20:20.
@gh515, I don't understand maternity jackets. I bought one used from a friend a few weeks ago. Wore it yesterday. There's nothing to expand it! There's no way it'll fit when I'm at my biggest in February! I'm so disappointed. Hoping I can wear it tied but not buttoned and that my pregnancy heat will make up for it. But how can something that doesn't expand be labelled as maternity??
That makes me ragey @maelily15. Something similar happened to me with my last pregnancy. I told my SIL (with whom I'm close) that we were having a girl and she apparently immediately told their cousin (to whom I barely speak) who then immediately posted it on FB, tagging me in the post, before I could tell more of my family. So my grandmother found out second hand via FB. I'm not one to make a big deal about announcements but I was furious because I could tell my grandmother was hurt by it. That day I changed FB settings so I have to approve any tags before it shows on my page. It doesn't stop mutual friends from seeing a post but it would have kept my situation from happening. This time I told my SIL that said cousin was not to know anything.
I'm sorry that happened. I know it's hurtful and just plain sucks. I hope you repay her by not telling her when you're in labor.
@gh515 i work for Gap Inc andthe old navy friends and family event is this weekend - 50% off entire store. you just need to show the email... if you are on the mailing list - you 100% will get a coupon
I can't believe people who leak announcements like that on social media. Unless it's a super old person like a grandma who just doesn't get it I can't imagine it ISN'T intentional. Gross. If someone did that to me they would be banned from finding out anything else about the baby until after everyone else knew. Birth, name, etc.
@maelily15 Wow, I'd be pissed. I hate when people leak things on FB they shouldn't. *TW I actually found out about my grandmother's death on Facebook a few years ago (thanks to my phone breaking, no one taking the extra 4 seconds to reach me through MH, and my sister being a FB addict with zero tact). So not cool.
@maelily15 that is awful. I'm sorry she did that, I would be so pissed! Especially since you specifically told her not to put anything up.
@vflux33 a similar thing happened with me. I saw a post from MH's cousin that his grandfather died, and I absolutely did not want him finding out how I did, so I had to call him at work and tell him. I felt awful that he found out the way that he did. I don't understand why running off to FB is the first thing on some people's mind in those situations.
@maelily15 I'd be so angry! I don't understand why people can't respect other people's requests. Especially when it's YOUR CHILD and your excitement to share. Not her's. ugh.
@stlbuckeye132 That’s really cool of you to save someone else from going through that. I remember when that happened to me I was so confused because I had seen her the day before (was the last to, apparently). I don’t get it either. I don’t use FB anymore, but when I did I didn’t even comment on other people’s tragedies in FB. If it was someone I knew well, I called after seeing the post. I get why other people comment, not criticizing, but it just isn’t my way.
@vflux33@stlbuckeye132 within hours of MH’s grandfather passing away while he was at work overnight, my SIL posted about his death. So that’s how I found out. Great. I get it. I’m not “actual family” ((direct quote from my ILs on more than one occasion)) but it was a crappy way to find out. My ILs didn’t even attempt to call me. So I called my MIL to clarify that he had in fact passed, and she was like, well FIL left him a message to call when he gets this. Okay. He’s at work. Overnight. With a 3 hour time difference. He’s probably not going to call you back at 3 am your time but he may check Facebook, especially because you didn’t tell him it was an emergency or anything. MH works in a secure building so I had to call his boss’s wife, who had to get ahold of her husband, who basically was searching for MH for over an hour because it was one of their busiest times a year and he was working in different rooms. And when I said something to my MIL about how inappropriate the post was, and maybe she could ask her daughter to take it down, at least until MH knew ((and by the way, who knew if all of his cousins knew yet or not)), her response? “I can’t control what ((name)) does.” Um. She’s your daughter. I can’t imagine posting that within hours of finding out ((you know because I’m not an AW and SIL is)), but I also can’t imag refusing to take something public down if my parents asked me. Yes I’m an adult, but I respect my family.
For reference, my grandfather passed two weeks ago while MH, DS and I were flying back from a visit. I didn’t post anything publicly on Facebook until the day of the funeral, and I only did that because I was so sorry to miss it. You know. So the family ((my mom, aunts and uncle)) had a chance to tell everyone. Including my cousin who is overseas in Afghanistan.
@maelily15 totally sucks, I’m sorry. Something similar happened to me when my SIL announced my first’s birth before I could tell my family, hell I was still being stitched up and getting calls from my sister telling me how hurt she was. It caused such a huge issue that my sister and I didn’t talk for months. People really suck with the need to be the first with information.
@bb3vj3n ahh, that's so good to know! Thank you so much! Yes, Gap/Old Navy gets me with their emails and in store cash every time. (; Grateful to order the Gap coat this weekend.
@bb3vj3n ahh, that's so good to know! Thank you so much! Yes, Gap/Old Navy gets me with their emails and in store cash every time. (; Grateful to order the Gap coat this weekend.
btw I know we are all worried about stranger danger but i do have invitations for Gap, old navy and Banana Republic Friends and family 50% off everything event that runs this weekend. if enough people want them - I can start a thread with the links to all 3 coupons. I can give out up to 30 from each brand. Like my post if you want me to put the links up.... if there is enough interest, ill post them.
I'm going shopping for baby stuff as the next event is not until March - and so I figured I should/would stock up now.
Thanks everybody for the support (it wouldn't let me tag everybody). We try to keep her included as much as possible because she is a huge help when she isn't a PITA. She took off two weeks when we had DD #1 and flew out to help, which really came in handy when both DD and I were re-admitted to different units at 5 day PP. But she can be kinda overbearing at times. Her other sons haven't started having kids yet and don't plan to anytime soon, so our children are her only grandkids for the foreseeable future. Before we even left the office she mentioned how she wanted us to use a family name for our new DD (we had already picked out the name for DD #1 and were pretty well set on it before she mentioned anything about a family name). Unfortunately, she'll probably end up being one of the first to know about this labor because she'll be keeping DD for us. But strict social media boundaries from now on---I really don't want to be trying to labor and have my phone blowing up with questions. I love social media for the purposes of keeping in touch with my family but I really do feel like people should learn about what is post-able. I still haven't talked to my sisters about it and I'm sure it's probably because they saw her announcement and were hurt that I didn't tell them myself (my family wasn't completely on board with us moving halfway across the country). While it's crappy that pretty much everyone has one of these social media horror stories, it's good to know we're not alone.
Re: Monday Bitchfest - 10/30
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
So I love my brother and he’s really not bad but he has a very literal sense of humor... and even knowing he doesn’t mean things they way they can be taken, the first three minutes of our phone conversation today was about my size and I was kind of over it. ((Don’t judge him too harshly—he’s had some delays and just doesn’t always get filters and such.))
My allergies suck, or is it a cold? My nose is raw from blowing it and I feel horrible. Work has been bat shit crazy today and I'm ready to go home. Happy Monday y'all!
@mdfarmchick Oy. That sucks! I hope he doesn't keep saying stuff like that to you.
@heatherdubrow Oh no, again? I'm sorry. Feel better soon!
@justkeeptrying Shit, I hope you feel better too!
AFM, I spent two meals today with a guy who grew up in anothet country where I assume it's acceptable/expected to chew with your mouth open, smacking excessively. I deserve a major award for not yelling at him to shut up with his nasty mouth noises. And for being chill the rest of the day. The whole thing was kind of a shitshow.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Oh Monday's! Why do they always have to be so crazy at work. 100 more days till maternity leave...I swear I'm not counting
I'm sure your Halloween gender reveal post will still be just as adorable and just as happily received!
https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pcid=5151&vid=1&pid=849532002
It came yesterday and is super cute (and the price was right with the big sale last week), but it is in NO way a maternity coat! I ordered a small (I'm a size 4 pre-pregnancy) and the fit is fine with a bit of space in the tummy now, but no way is it enough space for third trimester, and there's no expandable panels or anything! Ridiculous.
Now the sale that Gap/Old Navy had (40% off plus 20% off that) is over, so I missed out on the more expensive, but probably actually functional Gap maternity coat. Hindsight 20:20.
I'm sorry that happened. I know it's hurtful and just plain sucks. I hope you repay her by not telling her when you're in labor.
EDD March 12, 2018
@vflux33 a similar thing happened with me. I saw a post from MH's cousin that his grandfather died, and I absolutely did not want him finding out how I did, so I had to call him at work and tell him. I felt awful that he found out the way that he did. I don't understand why running off to FB is the first thing on some people's mind in those situations.
For reference, my grandfather passed two weeks ago while MH, DS and I were flying back from a visit. I didn’t post anything publicly on Facebook until the day of the funeral, and I only did that because I was so sorry to miss it. You know. So the family ((my mom, aunts and uncle)) had a chance to tell everyone. Including my cousin who is overseas in Afghanistan.
@kelsajo I just got "over" a horrible respiratory infection, but it still won't fully go away. Still so stuffy and lots of drainage. It's so annoying.
@maelily15 I would be so pissed! I am so sorry she did that to you!
DS 6/3/2016
MC 1/12/2017
BFP 7/19/2017
EDD 3/31/2018
btw I know we are all worried about stranger danger but i do have invitations for Gap, old navy and Banana Republic Friends and family 50% off everything event that runs this weekend. if enough people want them - I can start a thread with the links to all 3 coupons. I can give out up to 30 from each brand. Like my post if you want me to put the links up.... if there is enough interest, ill post them.
I'm going shopping for baby stuff as the next event is not until March - and so I figured I should/would stock up now.
And anyone else who wants the gap, old navy or BR invites I mentioned above....i posted the links in the coupon/sales thread!
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18