Me: 36 | DH: 35 | Married: 9.17.16
Diminished ovarian reserve
BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
Babies on the Brain
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Waiting Room Wednesday - October 25
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***General TW that this thread might contain discussions mentioning MC and loss.***
Welcome to Waiting Room Wednesday!
You can express your thoughts, feelings, and frustrations on not TTC and connect with others who are in the same boat. TTC can be a long journey, and having to wait makes it feel even longer -- even if it is for a good reason. I invite you to resurrect this thread at any point in the week if you have something to say. Treat this like an ongoing conversation.
Benched = involuntarily not NTNP/TTC and "out of the game," usually due to medical reasons
TTA = avoiding pregnancy by using protection or FAM, usually for non-health-related reasons __________________________________________________________________
Are you benched or TTA?
What brings you here?
How long do you think you'll be here?
How have things been going?
Any R/R?
GTKY: Do you like or dislike surprises? Why or why not?
Welcome to Waiting Room Wednesday!
You can express your thoughts, feelings, and frustrations on not TTC and connect with others who are in the same boat. TTC can be a long journey, and having to wait makes it feel even longer -- even if it is for a good reason. I invite you to resurrect this thread at any point in the week if you have something to say. Treat this like an ongoing conversation.
Benched = involuntarily not NTNP/TTC and "out of the game," usually due to medical reasons
TTA = avoiding pregnancy by using protection or FAM, usually for non-health-related reasons __________________________________________________________________
Are you benched or TTA?
What brings you here?
How long do you think you'll be here?
How have things been going?
Any R/R?
GTKY: Do you like or dislike surprises? Why or why not?
Re: Waiting Room Wednesday - October 25
Good morning!
Are you benched or TTA? TTA.
What brings you here? I need to talk to some like minded women and calm the crazy.
How long do you think you'll be here? Hopefully we can start trying soon. Had a great talk with DH last night about timelines and I really think it will be in the next few months.
How have things been going? Tough for me. I feel like there is no "perfect time" and we never know how long things will ever take so I don't want to wait. I'm impatient and really hate not getting my way haha.
Any R/R? I had 2 people (a friend and my MIL) talk to me about TTA completely unsolicited yesterday. Both with very different views and neither of them helpful. They were super judgey and just made me feel worse about our situation. I wish people would stay out of my ute's business.
GTKY: I like surprises because you know that people have gone out of their way and done something for you that they think you will love and want to make it special. But like I said above I'm an impatient person and would much rather know everything all the time.
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
TTA
What brings you here?
Killing time and meeting folks
How long do you think you'll be here?
Until May ‘18
How have things been going?
Pretty good. This has been a stressful week, but it seems to either be super busy or super slow.
Any R/R?
Not right now
GTKY: Do you like or dislike surprises? Why or why not?
I’m a planner by nature, but I like some aspects of things to be a surprise. I guess I like knowing there’s a surprise but not knowing what it is. But otherwise the unknown just makes me worry. I need a plan for things.
Are you benched or TTA?
Benched
What brings you here?
The babies!!! They are on my brain! But seriously, we're starting ttc next cycle. And there's waiiiiting.
How long do you think you'll be here?
Not long I hope! I'll probably stick at least through November because of how we won't be *proper* trying til December earliest.
How have things been going?
Pretty alright! My GF had her preconception OBGYN appointment yesterday and it went really well! We've got things to look for with her PCOS and we don't have to wait as long for IF treatment if we can confirm she's not ovulating after 3 or 4 cycles.
Any R/R?
I have a sinus headache & I'm very grumpy about it.
GTKY: Do you like or dislike surprises? Why or why not?
I haaaaaate surprises. I handle holiday and birthday surprises alright because I'm prepared for them so I know I'm not supposed to know, but in general I really don't like surprises. I always get upset that something is being kept from me!
Are you benched or TTA? TTA
What brings you here? Being able to commiserate with people who are also waiting!
How long do you think you'll be here? In the waiting room til December but I plan to stick around BOTB while TTC too, cause I like you guys.
How have things been going? Good! I scheduled my appointment to get my IUD removed on 11/30 and I'm starting to get excited. I told MH I was planning to schedule it, and he was like "sure go ahead," but after I told him I had actually done it, I think things got more real for him, haha. Also started taking prenatals last week - I got the Nature Made ones with DHA, so far they are fine, no nausea or fishy taste, but the pills are kind of enormous. I might have to find a smaller one.
Any R/R? The pregnancy announcements never stop, you guys. Friends from high school, friends from college, my coworker, and an old friend just gave birth to her first baby yesterday. Very happy for all of these people, but the jealousy is real!
GTKY: Do you like or dislike surprises? Why or why not? I do okay with surprises. I usually like it best if I know there's going to be *something* happening, and I just don't know what - like, "we're going out for your birthday, but the location is a surprise!" Out of the blue surprises sometimes catch me off guard and I don't always know how to react, haha.
@mermaidca Why is it that so many people want to give their opinions about other people's reproductive status?? I will never understand that. How frustrating for you to get it from 2 people back to back like that.
@meggyme I'm with you on surprises. I do better with a plan!
@lionwholived Glad your GF's appointment went well! As a fellow PCOS-er I will keep all my fingers and toes crossed for her, and you too of course while you help her through the process.
What brings you here? You ladies
How long do you think you'll be here? Well...hopefully only until Dec! See below.
How have things been going? Not horrible...we were supposed to be trying in Nov, but my cycle lined up weird so then we pushed it to Dec. But now DH didn't get his expected raise this month, and it may screw it up for next year as well (he has a meeting Monday, so FX they fix it!). We're kind of basing our TTC around his raises so we know we'll be okay financially when baby is born, so idk if we'll push it back a couple more months or not
Any R/R?
GTKY: Do you like or dislike surprises? Why or why not? I like good surprises! They always make me smile knowing that someone thought of me.
DS2 due 12/12/18
DS2 due 12/12/18
@diaphena Congrats on scheduling getting your IUD removed! Exciting! And yes, I hear you on the relentless pregnancy announcements, they are never ending.
@lionwholived Glad your GF's appointment went well! And December is probably when we'll start trying (again) as well! I feel like the time is going to (hopefully) fly by, with the holidays and all!
@CecilB93 FX your husband gets his raise after all and that you get to start trying in November!! My husband is similarly hardworking yet undervalued, so I know how frustrating that can be!
PS - happy late birthday!
Married: 2016
BFP #1 4/23/18, blighted ovum 5/29/18
BFP#2 7/14/18, DS 4/5/19
DS2 due 12/12/18