My DS was sick yesterday so we had a tv day. He's probably feeling better today...but I enjoyed being lazy yesterday. So he's currently watching The Wiggles while I bump. And I don't anticipate this changing in the near future...
I'm already planning my mommy makeover. I truly plan on relying 90% on diet and exercise. But, I've been trying to price out the plastics doc I'm going to go to after I have my second LO. It'll be at least another 3 years so I will have time to save. Call me vain, I probably am.
@cford08 No flames here! I'm done after this babe, so my plan is to lose the bulk of my weight with diet/exercise... but after that, I'm all about the mommy makeover. Tummy tuck and a breast reduction & lift. Between breastfeeding and my c-section, my midsection is pretty much wrecked, lol.
My DH is doing a lot of work around the house at nights trying to get everything in order. Sometimes he has my FIL helping and its just too much for me to be around. So I tell him I'm going to the gym, and I Do, but my gym has a spa and I get a mani or pedi weekly. One day I'll work out too, maybe.....
*TW* me 34 | him 37 | married 6/6/15
• September 2016 - TI #1 | 100mg Clomid w/ injections, BFP | 6w4d: Ectopic surgery, removed left tube
• December 2016 - TI #2, 100mg Clomid BFP| D&C for missed miscarriage 1/25/17 • April 2017 - TI #3, 100mg Clomid BFP | CP • May/June 2017 - IVF#1 - BFP - Due 3/7/18
@cford08@ashleyf911 y’all no shame here...I told my husband years ago (before we even got married I think) that I was planning on getting a reduction and lift post-children. I’ll probably look into a tummy tuck since I’ll already be under. I’ve been looking forward to a breast reduction almost as much as having kids!
My FFFC this week is I totally said I have a doctor’s appointment next week when I’m actually going to lunch with DH and some friends. I just knew I’d get the side-eye for asking off for lunch and what they don’t know won’t hurt ‘em!
@cford08 Oh girl, I can't wait for mine. I gave myself a boob job after I graduated and it was the best thing for my confidence. I had this big ole butt, but no boobs and once I fixed them I felt better physically. I do have plans of redoing them and any other adjustments after I am done with babies, bc I think I deserve it. I am athletic, so it won't be much, but it I will definitely be doing something. I am excited.
I am happy to see this mommy makeover discussion. We'll see how things turn out by the time I'm done having kids but I told myself for years that when I'm done having kids and BFing, I'm getting a boob job. And while they're there, they may as well do some work on the stomach. My body likes to put weight around my stomach and it would look a hell of a lot better if I had boobs to balance it out. I may change my mind by then but while I don't think women should be shamed into getting work done, I don't think they should be shamed for getting work done. If it makes you feel better and more confident, awesome.
ETA: My confession is that I was supposed to get the dog booked for his upcoming stay at the Howliday Inn. He always likes to book super early and had been nagging. He asked me one day and I couldn't handle his reaction if I told him I forgot (he's so unfamiliar with the office environment he doesn't see how I can get busy and totally forget). So I told him I had.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
My FFFC I’m so excited for this weekend because it means some time off from H. I’m going to a concert tonight with my SIL, hair-did tomorrow morning, H is going the the Bruins game on Sat and helping a friend move in Sunday. I love that man be her NEVER leaves the house. Even though the kids will be home I will still have some space.
I’m glad he doesn’t have to deploy anymore and being shot at was never what I wanted for him but damn if I don’t miss some of the “me” time that army life gave me. He was special ops so was never gone for more than 4 months at a time and would be home for maybe a month between deployments and training but I kind of thrived having that time to myself, when it got too hard he would be home soon and when he got clingy he was out the door soon anyway. I know it sounds horrible but there is almost nothing better than being alone in my house.
I'm not looking forward to my mother coming to visit this weekend purely because it means I need to deep clean the house. I'd rather just read Harry Potter instead...
@Mass-girl-at-heart I totally understand. I love when my SO is out doing stuff. Go...go to your friends. I am NOT the spouse who complains when he is gone haha. He was away for 6 months (home every 3rd weekend) before I moved to the city we are in now, and it didn't phase me.
@Mass-girl-at-heart My H is gone for work half the time. Occasionally it makes me sad when he leaves (for some really stupid reason, it's often hardest when he's going on a work trip and I'm going somewhere else on a work trip). Usually it's just normal, check ya later. Sometimes I can't get him out the door fast enough. One time I went to work in the am, bid him farewell because he was headed to work later, and then I about cried when he called to say he had messed up his ankle and wouldn't be going to work for weeeeeeeks (turned into 3 mo). It had been one of the days I was practically shoving him out the door. You just need your own time. I love to eat the things he hates and complains about like making a big batch of roasted Brussels sprouts and watch the shows he would pick at the whole time (like Below Deck) in peace.
In the words of my aunt after her pilot husband retired, "How can I miss you if you won't go away?!"
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
MIL said I was starting to show and it took me aback a bit. I've said before I'm a bigger girl and I don't think I started REALLY showing with my first until like 6 months, so for her to mentuon it out of the blue threw me off bc I hadn't noticed myself. She is right, though...I popped a bit.
My FFFC I’m so excited for this weekend because it means some time off from H. I’m going to a concert tonight with my SIL, hair-did tomorrow morning, H is going the the Bruins game on Sat and helping a friend move in Sunday. I love that man be her NEVER leaves the house. Even though the kids will be home I will still have some space.
I’m glad he doesn’t have to deploy anymore and being shot at was never what I wanted for him but damn if I don’t miss some of the “me” time that army life gave me. He was special ops so was never gone for more than 4 months at a time and would be home for maybe a month between deployments and training but I kind of thrived having that time to myself, when it got too hard he would be home soon and when he got clingy he was out the door soon anyway. I know it sounds horrible but there is almost nothing better than being alone in my house.
I don't have to deal with deployments or super long periods of mine being away, but every other 24 hours on my own is kind of the perfect amount of togetherness.
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@antoto I'm with you on that one! My mom is coming next weekend, and I'm still unpacking stuff... The house is an utter wreck, and with my longhaired husky, there's dog hair under everything. Trying to clean today, but I just want to curl up on the couch and read too.
@Mass-girl-at-heart I just want to watch my awesomely crappy shows too! I really love watching terribly corny scifi stuff, and my DH will be rolling his eyes the whole time and laughing at it. I hardly watch anything anymore because I want to enjoy it by myself without feeling like it's stupid.
I am happy to see this mommy makeover discussion. We'll see how things turn out by the time I'm done having kids but I told myself for years that when I'm done having kids and BFing, I'm getting a boob job. And while they're there, they may as well do some work on the stomach. My body likes to put weight around my stomach and it would look a hell of a lot better if I had boobs to balance it out. I may change my mind by then but while I don't think women should be shamed into getting work done, I don't think they should be shamed for getting work done. If it makes you feel better and more confident, awesome.
ETA: My confession is that I was supposed to get the dog booked for his upcoming stay at the Howliday Inn. He always likes to book super early and had been nagging. He asked me one day and I couldn't handle his reaction if I told him I forgot (he's so unfamiliar with the office environment he doesn't see how I can get busy and totally forget). So I told him I had.
My confession is I read this like you had this convo with the dog. I was like "Awwww was the dog sad you forgot to book his stay?" .
Me: 36 DH: 37 Married: 5.27.16 Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
My other confession - while I"m glad my parents are coming to visit this weekend and hopefully help me with a few things I kind of would rather binge on Stranger Things 2..... Now I want waffles.
Me: 36 DH: 37 Married: 5.27.16 Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
I'm totally on board with the mommy make over-I'm planning on getting a boob lift after I'm done BFing this last one because I have noticed a difference in my pre-kids boobs and my post-kids boobs.
I'm also completely agreeing with everyone needing space from their spouses. DH works nights so we don't really see each other much. He watches the kids at home in the morning, drops them off at my mom's in the afternoon and then goes home and goes to sleep so when I get home from work with the kids he's sleeping. I only get to see him for about 30 mins at night when I wake him up for work as he's getting ready and in the morning I see him for about an hour after he gets home as I'm getting ready for work and DD ready for school. His days off are Wednesday and Thursday (mine are weekends) so he stays awake during the day so he can be on the same schedule as us and I really enjoy seeing him more but I'm normally happy on Friday's because after I put the kids to bed and get him out the door I can eat crap in bed and watch what TV I want to (I love Hoarders and have about 20 episodes DVR'd) that he complains about. Me time is a must!
My actual FFFC is that this morning I was waiting in the Dr's office waiting room and scrolling through FB and I watched this heart wrenching video about a daughter asking her dad how much he made an hour, asked him to borrow some money, and then gave him the money to "buy an hour" of his time and asked him to come home early. I started crying (tears rolling down cheeks) around the time she asked him to borrow money, I couldn't help myself. I felt pretty silly crying over a FB video in the middle of a Dr's office but, hormones.
I ate my daughter's Halloween candy. She got a few pieces at a Halloween event last weekend. She is 2.5 and doesn't even know what candy is, but I still feel kind of bad.
I waited until the last minute to order MH and I Halloween costumes because I wasn’t sure we would actually need them but he has a trick or treating event tonight at work so I Amazon primed them on Tuesday and got them yesterday. I’m more than a little grumpy that he didn’t mention until last night when I asked him the plan, that no one from his actual building is going to the work event and so we aren’t going either. What a waste. I could’ve Amazon primed myself the teal Chucks I’ve been wanting instead and saved us money.
I would love a boob job, but I’m scared of everything that could go wrong with them. After I weaned DD I didn’t even have A’s.. no joke. I couldn’t fill out my XS t-shirts, there was a huge gap between my boob and bra.. it was a little ridiculous. So I’m thoroughly enjoying my pregnant full B’s right now!
@chasingroygbiv I always want what I can't have. I'd do some illegal stuff for a B cup. I'm sitting at 38dd, up from 34ddd pre pregnancy. I can only imagine what this situation will look like after I breast feed.
I feel like boobs are kind of like straight hair vs. curly. Grass is always greener. I'm a little disappointed that my old bras all still fit at this point.
The dog would also be judging me for waiting to book his room so... still applies. I lied to both of 'em.
In other news, I stopped by the bank on the way home to pick up dollar bills for tips for shuttles (since H travels for work so much and I have some coming up). As hard as it is to not try to explain what I want $50 in ones for, I take a perverse pleasure in letting them wonder.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
i guess I'm in the minority here but i can't stand when my H is not home. Even for a day! we work a similar schedule and it bugs me when we can't get our days off to align. I don't need him in the same room as me or with me all the time - but i like knowing he's nearby. Luckily neither of our jobs require travel so we are rarely away from home.
FFFC - I'm secretly mad that my MIL ruined our family gender reveal yesterday. it wasn't a party or anything - just my parents, sister and her on the phone *she lives 5000km away*. We put her on speaker and just before we announced she said " This will help lift my spirits after the heart attack I had yesterday ".... wait - WHAT? Everything is put on hold and DH runs upstairs with the phone to figure out what she is talking about. Now - before everyone thinks I'm a huge B****...my mother in law is a notorious and compulsive liar. And as I suspected in the moment- she did not actually have a heart attack. She had high blood pressure and scared herself into thinking she was having a heart attack so went to the hospital. The woman is a heavy cigarette smoker, drinker, smokes dope and parties like she's 20. I'm so tired of her ruining every social moment in everyone else's life and making everything about her - always
@bb3vj3n, I would be so angry! My birth mother is a compulsive liar/attention seeker. I’ve had to cut her out of my life because of all the lies and anxiety she would cause me and my family. It was constant drama.
I’m sorry that she ruined this moment for you. You deserve better.
@cford08@ksmwalters@heatherdubrow It is definitely true, very similar to hair! I had ringlet curls and always dreamed of having stick straight hair. After 2 kiddos I’m nearly there, with no body to this mop or anything. Guess I need to watch what I wish for!
My Mom had gotten my hopes up, she said she was pretty small chested until she had kids and then bam, C’s. I went the complete opposite way. While I’ve never had much, I at least always had B’s. Didn’t realize I could wind up basically negative boob-ed. Is that a thing? It’s ridiculous, but I admit I am self conscious about it. Hubby was not to take my top off during relations pre-this pregnancy. I truly looked like a 12 year old girl. Heck, they may even have more boobs these days! Swim suits? Yikes! I couldn’t fill a single top out this Summer. I was ready to shop in the GIRLS section, but I wasn’t in a suit enough so just wore an old halter and a swimsuit coverup over it.
@chasingroygbiv my BFF had small Bs I think before she had kids and now she has nothing, too. I remember at my bachelorette party she actually put my hand on her chest because I was like “You have boobs!!”...she does not. She’s been talking about getting breast implants because she’s a little self conscious about it.
Hi. What in the heck does FFFC stand for. These look like confessions or something but I'm googling the acronym and no luck. Help a not so young lady out....lmao
Re: FFFC
me 34 | him 37 | married 6/6/15
• April 2017 - TI #3, 100mg Clomid BFP | CP
• May/June 2017 - IVF#1 - BFP - Due 3/7/18
My FFFC this week is I totally said I have a doctor’s appointment next week when I’m actually going to lunch with DH and some friends. I just knew I’d get the side-eye for asking off for lunch and what they don’t know won’t hurt ‘em!
ETA: My confession is that I was supposed to get the dog booked for his upcoming stay at the Howliday Inn. He always likes to book super early and had been nagging. He asked me one day and I couldn't handle his reaction if I told him I forgot (he's so unfamiliar with the office environment he doesn't see how I can get busy and totally forget). So I told him I had.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
I’m glad he doesn’t have to deploy anymore and being shot at was never what I wanted for him but damn if I don’t miss some of the “me” time that army life gave me. He was special ops so was never gone for more than 4 months at a time and would be home for maybe a month between deployments and training but I kind of thrived having that time to myself, when it got too hard he would be home soon and when he got clingy he was out the door soon anyway. I know it sounds horrible but there is almost nothing better than being alone in my house.
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
In the words of my aunt after her pilot husband retired, "How can I miss you if you won't go away?!"
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@Mass-girl-at-heart I just want to watch my awesomely crappy shows too! I really love watching terribly corny scifi stuff, and my DH will be rolling his eyes the whole time and laughing at it. I hardly watch anything anymore because I want to enjoy it by myself without feeling like it's stupid.
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
Now I want waffles.
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
I'm totally on board with the mommy make over-I'm planning on getting a boob lift after I'm done BFing this last one because I have noticed a difference in my pre-kids boobs and my post-kids boobs.
I'm also completely agreeing with everyone needing space from their spouses. DH works nights so we don't really see each other much. He watches the kids at home in the morning, drops them off at my mom's in the afternoon and then goes home and goes to sleep so when I get home from work with the kids he's sleeping. I only get to see him for about 30 mins at night when I wake him up for work as he's getting ready and in the morning I see him for about an hour after he gets home as I'm getting ready for work and DD ready for school. His days off are Wednesday and Thursday (mine are weekends) so he stays awake during the day so he can be on the same schedule as us and I really enjoy seeing him more but I'm normally happy on Friday's because after I put the kids to bed and get him out the door I can eat crap in bed and watch what TV I want to (I love Hoarders and have about 20 episodes DVR'd) that he complains about. Me time is a must!
My actual FFFC is that this morning I was waiting in the Dr's office waiting room and scrolling through FB and I watched this heart wrenching video about a daughter asking her dad how much he made an hour, asked him to borrow some money, and then gave him the money to "buy an hour" of his time and asked him to come home early. I started crying (tears rolling down cheeks) around the time she asked him to borrow money, I couldn't help myself. I felt pretty silly crying over a FB video in the middle of a Dr's office but, hormones.
@npkat treat yo self
The dog would also be judging me for waiting to book his room so... still applies. I lied to both of 'em.
In other news, I stopped by the bank on the way home to pick up dollar bills for tips for shuttles (since H travels for work so much and I have some coming up). As hard as it is to not try to explain what I want $50 in ones for, I take a perverse pleasure in letting them wonder.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
FFFC - I'm secretly mad that my MIL ruined our family gender reveal yesterday. it wasn't a party or anything - just my parents, sister and her on the phone *she lives 5000km away*. We put her on speaker and just before we announced she said " This will help lift my spirits after the heart attack I had yesterday ".... wait - WHAT? Everything is put on hold and DH runs upstairs with the phone to figure out what she is talking about. Now - before everyone thinks I'm a huge B****...my mother in law is a notorious and compulsive liar. And as I suspected in the moment- she did not actually have a heart attack. She had high blood pressure and scared herself into thinking she was having a heart attack so went to the hospital. The woman is a heavy cigarette smoker, drinker, smokes dope and parties like she's 20. I'm so tired of her ruining every social moment in everyone else's life and making everything about her - always
My birth mother is a compulsive liar/attention seeker. I’ve had to cut her out of my life because of all the lies and anxiety she would cause me and my family. It was constant drama.
I’m sorry that she ruined this moment for you. You deserve better.
My Mom had gotten my hopes up, she said she was pretty small chested until she had kids and then bam, C’s. I went the complete opposite way. While I’ve never had much, I at least always had B’s. Didn’t realize I could wind up basically negative boob-ed. Is that a thing? It’s ridiculous, but I admit I am self conscious about it. Hubby was not to take my top off during relations pre-this pregnancy. I truly looked like a 12 year old girl. Heck, they may even have more boobs these days! Swim suits? Yikes! I couldn’t fill a single top out this Summer. I was ready to shop in the GIRLS section, but I wasn’t in a suit enough so just wore an old halter and a swimsuit coverup over it.