Re: FFFC*

• ameliabedelia-2 member

  October 2017

  Several key members of the operations and HR teams are resigning from my work for the same reasons I hate it so much.  I am finding SO much joy in watching this place implode.  Granted, it may mean I won't have a job when I am done with maternity leave, but the chances of me coming back were so low anyways. I love karma. 

  Momma to Amelia Marie (7/14) and Austin Samuel (11/17). Adding baby (girl) #3 on 7/21 

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• mdcd44127 member

  October 2017

  I'll confess that I'm really glad my coworker who had her baby in early September hasn't brought the baby into the office or even sent any pictures/updates beyond the birth announcement email, because I personally won't want to think about work at all once I go out on maternity.
  
  Yesterday during a meeting my boss was complaining about not seeing enough of the baby, but I think she's setting a fantastic precedent for me. (Plus I don't really like my coworker, so I'm completely fine with not having to ooh and aah over a kid I know she barely even wanted.)
  
  Sorry, not sorry.
  
  
  

  Me: 31 | DH: 31
  TTC #1 since 12/2015
  BFP 4/4/17, EDD 12/4/17
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• babybison member

  October 2017

  I don't plan on keeping a baby book. I'm just not a sentimental, live in the past kind of person. The MIL is in a constant state of "member when [minuscule event]? We had so much fun," and it pushes me away from anything to do with memories. She's totally missing out on what's happening now because she's always glorifying the past. 
  
  

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• elev2017 member

  October 2017

  @djd0404 We have very strict security restrictions where I work so bringing in babies is a big no-no and I'm kind of relieved that's the case. I'm having my baby shower after they're born, so I'll see the people I want to see from work there, and I'll send a birth announcement to the office. That will be the extent of my interaction with work during my maternity leave!

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• skc040512 member

  October 2017

  I honestly don't understand parents who won't leave their kids with a sitter until they're like over a year old. I can't wait for date night the first weekend I feel better after delivery. With DD, we had out first alone date around 2 weeks post partum. Granted, I have a good relationship with my family and DH's family,  so we have built in trusted sitters. It's another story if you just don't know someone you trust with your LO. I just can't imagine not getting time alone with DH for months on end. (Believe me, I'm not saying you're wrong if you do wait to leave your kids, just that I would go crazy)

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• peachy13 member

  October 2017

  @Skcobb totally agree. I don't know if this makes me super selfish, but as much as I'm excited for baby and to take her out with us when we can, I also really want to keep a focus on my marriage, and make sure that DH and I still get alone time and whatnot. 
  
  I already have a trip planned for just DH and me, 6 months from now, when the baby will only be about 5 months old. It's not a massive trip, but we'll be a flight away for four days. And I'm so damn excited about it.

  Me: 33 DH: 34
  Married: Oct 2015
  TTC #1: Sept 2016
  BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
  BFP: 3/24/17     DD1 born 12/2/17
  TTC #2: July 2018
  BFP: 8/26/18   DD2 born 5/16/19
  
  

  
  

  
  

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• wabash15 member

  October 2017

  @skcobb we almost never left the twins with a sitter before a year of age... maybe once or twice but it was more stressful for me than having them with me. I was BF and not a super producer so it was way easier to have them nurse vs having to figure out timing of pumping/getting engorged etc. (I pumped every 3 hours around the clock for the first year). 

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  TTC 1/2012
  Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
  6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
  TTC #3 5/2016
  Restarted Fertility tx
  IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
  

  
  

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• skc040512 member

  October 2017 edited October 2017

  @wabash15 I do get it stressing people out, but I guess just for me, my kid is so high strung, she stresses me out more. Thankfully we had a number of date options about 10 minutes from our house, so if finish pumping and leave right after and we'd still have like 2ish hours to ourselves.
  
  @peachy13 I found that parenting is soooo much more difficult when DH and I have been neglecting our relationship with eachother. We left DD overnight for the first time around 9 months, and now DH's family will take her for a weekend about every other month and that is such a huge blessing!

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• elvenchick92686 member

  October 2017

  @babybison i love the south park gif!!!! I love when they include member berries in a episode and the new game!!! I dont plan on keep a baby book or anything either. 
  
  @Skcobb the only two people who SO will allow to watch our baby is his sister and my mom and he even wants to have my mom live with us awhile to have a live in babysitter. So im hoping we can have date night once i can get around okay!!! 
  
  I dont really have a confession yet. I am sick of about everything right now. Sick of being pregnant, being in awful pain, not sleeping, not being able to take a shower, not sleeping: you name it im probably sick of it lol. I told my mom ive officially reached the "i want her out of me now" phase. I still have a few weeks so im trying to be tough but its getting rough :-(. 

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• MJDsquared member

  October 2017

  I hope to be fairly laid back about leaving baby. After maternity leave she'll have to be in daycare three days a week and my mom will watch her the other two, so I think I'll just have to be.
  

  Me: 29 || DH: 29
  

  TTC #1 4/2016 || dx NIR PCOS 7/2016 || BFP 4/2017
  DD - 12/28/17
  
  TTC #2 3/2019
  BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
  BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
  

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• cait5413 member

  October 2017

  We don't have family nearby (mine is 3 hours away; DH's much farther), so overnight trips without kids are not happening for us til the kiddos are older. We took DD out to eat with us on dates when she was little. At first, she usually slept right through. It was easy. We also left her with family when they would come visit for some away time. We didn't leave her with a non-family sitter until she was nearly a year, but once we started, we've done a date night every week or two until this one arrives. 

  
  Married May 2014
  DD born August 2016
  Baby #2 due December 2017

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• kaylawing member

  October 2017

  My confession is that I’ve never left DD over night and she’s 17 months old. We’ve gone on lots of dates and left her for days or evenings. I guess before a year I was too anxious/nervous about it, and then I got pregnant and it just never happened. I’m hoping to be more laid back with this kiddo so DH and I can get away for a night or two. We could use it! 

  
  
  

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• balletnerd member

  October 2017

  This is gonna be tricky for us.. we have zero family within a 8hr flight distance lol. And none of our friends even live near us- so I don’t see many child free dates in our future. Sigh, lol

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• lestex member

  October 2017

  My fffc kind of goes along with the babysitting dilemma ... I haaaaate when my friends who don’t have kids, compare their dogs to my children. One friend came over during nap time and I commented that it was time for me to get the boys up and she said, “yeah, I should go- Sid (her dog) has been asleep awhile and I should wake him up too.” Huh?! I understand people loving their animals as much as their children, I DO NOT understand people thinking that it is even remotely the same. If I don’t get my kids to nap, bedtime is a shit show. For your dog, probably not. If we want to have a date night, we need a babysitter two weeks in advance, for you and your spouse to leave your dog for the evening, probably doesn’t require a babysitter. We get invited to do things last minute all the time and then get the “aww, don’t be lame” comments when we can’t go. Drives me insane. 
  

  
  

       
  
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• Marley629 member

  October 2017

  We took a trip for 3 days when DS was 10 months old and he stayed behind with my inlaws. Did we miss him terribly? Yes! But that trip was the best thing we could have done- it was much needed to let go and be just us and not mom and dad for a weekend.  I think it honestly came at a time where our relationship was struggling and it saved it.   I highly recommend date nights. 

  DH: 34 | Me: 35

  DS1 9/24/13
  DX Diminished Ovarian Reserve, Factor V Leiden Mutation, Secondary Infertility
  MFI (SA #1Count 11mill, Motility: 18%, Morphology: 1%)

  MFI (SA #2Count 7 mill, Motility: 18%, Morphology: 1%)
  AMH .328 | FSH 13.2 

  Oct. 2016: Clomid + TI

  IVF: ER 3/1/17; 5 retrieved, 3 mature & fertilized

  Results: 2 PGS normal embryos

  Planned on August 2017 transfer

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  Natural BFP 4/3/17,Expecting baby boy via RCS 12/7/17

  
  

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• clovelyone member

  October 2017

  Just a suggestion for those who don't have family nearby, a lot of my friends and family use one if their daycare workers as a babysitter. IDK about using them for overnight trips, but if you're comfortable with it, it's a way to get a few date nights. IDK if we'll have anyone that would take the twins overnight (at least probably until they pretty much sleep through the night), but we have a few family and friends who have volunteered to babysit. 
  

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• elev2017 member

  October 2017

  @lestex My kids aren't even born yet and the comparing pets to having children pisses me off! I have a dog who I love to death, but never in a million years have I thought she was in any way comparable to a human being of any age! I feel like people who say that really have spent very limited time around babies or children.

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