Monday B-fest 10/16

becausescience · October 2017

My B is that I got not one, but two chin pimples this weekend. Whhhyyyy? And of course acne medication isn't pregnancy safe. And I have parent teacher conferences Wednesday.

(My skin is typically terrible with acne, but somehow improves during pregnancy.)

kiki75 · October 2017

Why can't people understand when you can't possibly hear whatever it is they're saying? Right as I was trying to get out the door for work, H and I were trying to figure out logistics for this afternoon for dropping my car off at the body shop, taking the dog to the vet for his checkup and shots, and picking up my rental car (that's all a good 30 minutes + some added costs from where we live so combining is always good). I go in the bathroom, he insists on talking to me through the door. Which I allowed today but usually I have a strict policy of if I'm in the bathroom, leave me the eff alone. Then he's still talking as the toilet flushes and the faucet is running while I wash my hands. I told him once, that I couldn't hear him at the moment. Then I still hear him talking. Then I had to run upstairs to the bedroom to get something. He stays in the kitchen, still talking. I can't hear you, dude. I am trying to get out of the house to work. You can follow me or call after I start driving.

ShawnnaO · October 2017

My MBF goes out to people who mom shame based off myths. I have a friend who’s son is 5.5 months old and HUGE. This kid is bigger than my daughter, who is over twice his age. Her doctor gave the go ahead to start feeding solids at 4 months because “he’s going to need more than just breast milk at his size.”

So she posts on FB today about how she’s glad she brought puffs to her DR appointment because they’re running super behind and it’s good she had something for her son to snack on. Then someone starts commenting about nothing but milk until 6 months, to which I responded that it’s fine to give solids early if you have a doctors approval. So THEN she starts spouting about some “disease” and tells me to “look it up. It’s a thing. Doctors are out dated.” OKAY HONEY ILL LOOK IT UP.

It took almost no time at all to find multiple studies saying this “disease” is a myth used as a scare tactic to give people yet another excuse to mom shame. So I corrected her and told her that this girls son and my daughter have the same pediatrician and I know from experience she doesn’t just approved solids early for everyone (she had me wait until almost 7 months for my daughter) and I told her I trust the VERY WELL TRAINED DOCTORS we have here over myths people like spread on the internet. I’m sorry, but if you are really and truly concerned about something, private message the person instead of being condescending in their FB comments. And for the love of God, make sure that you’re using FACTS to back up your mom shaming.

megpeg · October 2017

@becausescience me too! My skin is usually flawless during pregnancy and this morning I got up and had a huge painful pimple on my chin. It needs to go.

stlbuckeye132 · October 2017

I'm in an all-day meeting. Lunch was scheduled for noon. They didn't stop for lunch until 1:00, after I had asked about if we'd be having lunch. Don't make this pregnant lady wait that long to eat!!

kiki75 · October 2017

@becausescience Try icing them throughout the day (just grab a cube and hold it on there until you can't stand it) and then a dab of basic paste toothpaste on it at night. It's not the best but it's something.

syssa-o · October 2017

Super petty bitch:
I have not been wearing a lot of eye makeup lately because I vomit so often. It's been a decent few days and I look tired so I decided I'd spruce up my face a bit. The second I finished applying my mascara I sneezed and now my right eye is a hot mess.

stlbuckeye132 · October 2017

@syssa-o sneezing after putting on mascara is THE. WORST.

gh515 · October 2017

One of my coworkers just commented to me, "You're finally starting to show!"

Obviously meant with excitement and as a compliment, but now I can't help but feel chubby (irrational reading of "you look fatter today!"). Siggghh.

gh515 · October 2017

@ShawnnaO - "doctors are outdated"?!??! That's almost worst than anti-vax people on Facebook... at least they largely don't believe the internet can replace a doctorate of medicine!

Your MBF is most merited today. My head probably would have burst reading such ridiculousness in real time. (;

kiki75 · October 2017

And now H just called to mansplain to me all about how I shouldn't even bother attempting to get insurance to cover replacing the cover for the other headlight. And all about how if they aren't covering it, there's no way we're going to pay the body shop to do it. 1. They absolutely should cover it. It's nearly 10 years old so the other one is looking weathered. I shouldn't have to have crappy looking mismatched headlights because that douchebag hit me. But, I also know that the chance of them doing the right thing and covering it is slim. That doesn't mean that I'm not going to try and I'm not going to pressure them to change their policies to do the right thing. I pay a good amount for insurance. Now is their time to show me why. 2. No crap, Sherlock. If they're not paying for it of course I'm going to go the cheaper route to replacement.

And to think that I thought I'd get even a 24-hour reprieve from this stuff when his dad said something to him last night and H said something about, "You must really think I'm an idiot, don't you?" and I said something about "Now you know how it feels." Nope.

And we're shopping for a car. He's driving me nuts. I'm about to run away.

And, why is this other person in my office so freaking incompetent? Can she please just retire already? I sent her something nearly two months ago that is directly in line with her job and is distinctly not my job. In the last two months, she has done nothing with it, and now it's coming back to bite her and she wants to just do the easy thing that isn't the right thing. DO YOUR JOB. Don't try to make this my problem, either. There's a reason I changed positions.

orbmaker · October 2017

One of the techs from radiology was seriously getting on my nerves during my (brief, precious, brief) lunch break today. It's more or less common knowledge at work now that I'm pregnant and certain people are full of questions. This particular lady felt inclined to give me grief about how my choosing a midwife to deliver my baby was a "risky" choice. I took this with a grain of salt and patiently explained that I know and trust the group, they have a great (low) section rate, the maternal fetal medicine docs will be on the unit when I deliver if there's an emergency, etc etc etc. And she continued to push it for like, literally 10 min, saying like how could I live myself if something went wrong, etc. Uh, hello? Please shut your mouth.

ShawnnaO · October 2017

@orbmaker that’s infuriating. Midwives are extremely talented and knowledgeable. At my hospital you don’t know going into it if you’re going to have a doctor or a midwife deliver your baby. Its whoever is on duty.

day38 · October 2017

My dad decided to start questioning me about when I'm going to start forward facing my toddler. He said he read something somewhere about the weight limit of rear facing seats being about 25 lbs (which clearly had to be a infant/bucket seat but okay). This is also coming from someone who never drove/had a car until I was at least 3.5. My son doesn't fuss in the car, doesn't get motion sickness, and doesn't complain about his legs being bent. Who exactly am I harming with extended rear facing? Why do they think they know better????

orbmaker · October 2017

@ShawnnaO tell me about it!! My midwives are wonderful! I’d rather have one of them over a medical resident any day of the week lol

kiki75 · October 2017

@day38 Can you try "That's interesting. I'll get in touch with the certified child passenger safety technician at the hospital/fire station and check with them with the specifics about DS's seat." It can't hurt to double check the specs on your seat but at the presentation I went to they said that I think two is the current official recommendation but people are starting to push to moving that to three.

@orbmaker I never even said boo to my very own sister when her birth philosophy didn't match mine. I would never say anything to a colleague about her choices because if nothing else, it's basically guaranteed that I'm not familiar enough with her emotional/medical history to have an educated opinion on it. That goes either way. From someone who prefers a midwife giving someone seeing an OB crap or vice versa. If she tries again, don't actually engage in a conversation (it's not like she's going to learn or back off) and just go with, "That's an interesting perspective. I'll take it into consideration. Hey Carl, does your lunch taste as good as it smells?!"

My problem coworker is now flopping around and fishing for me to step in and solve the problem for her. Her latest solution is to just wait however long it takes for someone else to solve it. I told her I didn't think that would be an appropriate level of customer service. I really need a full, unadulterated weekend off.

bb3vj3n · October 2017

@kiki75 I'm sorry in advance as i highly doubt what this is what you want to hear. I actually agree with your H about the insurance thing.

My husband works for an insurance company and we have this conversation frequently. insurance is for large claims and safety claims. if used too frequently by too many for small claim payouts, rates increase across the board for all (which they always do because so many people use it for minor claims). also- if you make a claim, even if small, your insurance rates will rise next renewal.

if it's a minor cost or just cosmetic, I would leave it out cover the cost yourself.

kiki75 · October 2017

@bb3vj3n Oh, I know they may not cover the other headlight. I'm just not going down without a fight. As for the claim as a whole, we're talking $2,300 in a hit and run. I'm not just talking about a little scratch that could buff out.

bb3vj3n · October 2017

@kiki75 apologies! I misunderstood. I was reading that as the headlight was damaged abbr not as nice as the other - hence the claim.

I see now what you are saying.... and I agree. I think they should!

day38 · October 2017

@kiki75 I told him it must have been in infant seat because I know for a fact I got a convertible seat with a high weight limit (that was one of the things I specifically looked for). I'm just annoyed with my parents lately in general because they keep giving me their opinions on things that don't impact them at all. I had a similar car seat conversation with my mom maybe 2 weeks ago. This has happened with other baby/toddler "advice." You'd think they don't live together. I'm annoyed with his approach, not even this topic specifically. He reads something, gets some idea, tells me how I should be doing things, and then I basically have to tell him to back off. He also started asking me when I was 8 weeks pregnant when I'd start announcing the pregnancy because my aunt who I haven't seen or spoken to in years has been asking him if/when I'll have another kid. None of her business?

I guess this is another rant for Monday BF:

My mom's birthday is also in a couple weeks and in the same conversation my dad asked me to record my son wishing her a happy birthday and he had this whole elaborate thing thought out. My son is a few months over 2, just started longer sentences (ie 4 words) in the past month, doesn't repeat more than one new word at a time if that, and good luck getting him to say it on command. For someone who doesn't see him daily, 50% of what he says is intelligible. My husband and I get about 70%. My dad sees him about once a week, so he's well aware of the current state of his verbal communication and his response was 1) it'll make my mom happy and 2) he told him some 2 word phrase that he instantly repeated. 1) I get that my mom would love it, but he's just not there yet. Maybe next year. 2) The phrase was made up of two words my son already knew, just not in a combination he typically used. Plus, it was only two words, which is different from the 3 new (difficult to pronounce) words my son would need to say Happy Birthday Grandma in the language we speak at home.

orbmaker · October 2017

@kiki75 all good points! Thank you. And I hope no one takes offense to my resident comment — I know everyone’s gotta start somewhere; I just know too much in the medical realm (am prone to overthinking) and get nervous about anyone practicing the epidural on me, for example.

cford08 · October 2017

MBF goes out to the SILs. Snide remarks about all the plans: birth, breast feeding, work. Telling me my life is going to change during EVERY conversation and we aren't ready. Thanks for the vote of confidence!

syssa-o · October 2017

Police came to our house banging on the door. Freaked us the F out. H has been subpoenaed to testify against a scumbag that broke into his locker at the gym and stole his wallet/used his credit card. The next day, the guy went back to the gym and H recognized him in the change room from the video footage provided by the convenience store where the card was used. So H stopped him from trying to break into someone else's locker and ended up chasing him out of the gym into the parking lot blah blah blah. Now he has a week off work to go sit at court and it's irritating because one of the days is a day that I have two big appts (anatomy scan, fetal echo) so H was taking it off work to stay home with DS and now we need childcare.

Pain in the ass

megpeg · October 2017

@syssa-o sorry that happened!

kalawa · October 2017

@syssa-o Yikes! That is a PITA though. Maybe they will settle beforehand FX.

I know it's not Monday, but it happened on Monday. We found out my SO credit card has been used fraudulently. He clicked on a random text on Saturday (yes...seriously), and it just disappeared. I told him he needs to get his phone wiped by Roger's, but he didn't until today. Luckily, we noticed so fast. In one day, they put 300$ worth of charges from Itunes on his card. He doesn't have an Itunes acct so he got credited the money back. But the bank has to issue new accounts for everything now in case they got his acct numbers from doing etransfers, and bill payments. Annoying to say the least.

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