FTM Check In 10/17

izza2 · October 2017

How far along are you?

What are your symptoms?

What appointments have you had/do you have coming up? How'd it go?

Rants/raves?

Questions for FTM, or STM+?

GTKY: What's for dinner tonight?

izza2 · October 2017

How far along are you? 4+4

What are your symptoms? Nausea, cramps/possible RLP, food aversions

What appointments have you had/do you have coming up? How'd it go? First appt 11/8. Ugh.

Rants/raves? I feel like time has slowed down tremendously since last week. I POAS yesterday just because I didn't have as many cramps as I usually have, and was happy it was darker, but also feel like I want to ask for HCG tests for more peace of mind.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? Nada.

GTKY: What's for dinner tonight? I'm really in to the idea of steak and mashed potatoes and green beans, with gravy over all of it.

krash_ · October 2017

@izza2 mmm stead and potatoes sound good! MH is supposed to make shredded venison some time this week which I am excited for!

How far along are you? 5+1

What are your symptoms? Nothing really right now which makes me a tad nervous but I know it's early. Boobs are still sore and bigger. I told MH he better take full advantage of them now because with the lil' thing is here he wont be able to go anywhere near them.

What appointments have you had/do you have coming up? How'd it go? Not until 11/9

Rants/raves? We half told our friends that we were baby sitting for last Saturday and now she is taking full advantage of giving unsolicited advice. She also sent me a pregnancy journal which is a nice gesture but I'm very type A and I research everything so I had been looking at them already and wanted to get a more in depth one off of etsy. I guess I still can but now I feel obligated to use hers.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? none ATM

GTKY: What's for dinner tonight? Last night we had a skillet enchilada dish that someone on here actually posted in the meal plan thread last week. Tonight might just be pasta and salad.

doxiemoxie212 · October 2017

@krashke which journal did you want from etsy? Link meee

izza2 · October 2017

@krashke - Ditto. I'm in to journals. Sharing is caring!

krash_ · October 2017

@doxiemoxie212 @izza2

This one is a printable that I might still do
This one is already bound but I don't like the pages as much as the first one

ETA this is the one she got me that is just kind of meh. It's more keepsake-y rather than planning

ETA #2 I just found this one that I like too. It is personalized!

icecubeinthedesert · October 2017

How far along are you? 4+6

What are your symptoms? sore boobs, cramps (go away!), slight nausea/queasiness

What appointments have you had/do you have coming up? How'd it go? first appointment on Monday 10/23

Rants/raves? I'm successfully taking it easier at work this week. It helped to come to terms with not overworking myself over the weekend, as this caused me a lot of anxiety and guilt. I tend to take on to much anyways, and if there was ever a time to take a bit of a step back, now is probably it.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? not right now

GTKY: What's for dinner tonight? good question. DH is at class tonight, and I need to go grocery shopping, so maybe I'll go out to dinner and then do the shopping.

doxiemoxie212 · October 2017

How far along are you? 7+3

What are your symptoms? Sore boobs, tired, hungry all the time (still no nausea)

What appointments have you had/do you have coming up? How'd it go? First ultrasound on 10/25

Rants/raves? DH is supposed to get a tattoo in SF today, but in the middle of the day. A deal he's been working on got pushed and is supposed to file at the same time. He's annoyed about it so it's annoying me. And I wanted to have dinner with my bff in sf tonight but then I'd have to hang out for 5-6 hours by myself or just watch DH get a tattoo - neither of which I want to do. So I might just say I'm too tired.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? I honestly feel sort of overwhelmed about choosing a stroller and I don't know why. Like, do you choose the stroller and just figure it out with the car seat? We live in Manhattan now, and almost certainly will when baby is born, but we do want to move back to ca. Just seems like what I'd want in a city is so different from what I'd want in the suburbs? I honestly have no idea why I find it so overwhelming.

GTKY: What's for dinner tonight? no idea at all

marcus7676 · October 2017

@doxiemoxie212 lurking, but to answer your question about strollers -- do you have a car? Some car seats fit better in certain cars. For example, the britax didn't sit securely in our Subaru so we ended up choosing another car seat. Go with what fits first and foremost. If you don't have a car, and live in the city, start with size. Don't go with a monster unless you have your heart set on it (uppababy vista for example). A snap and go stroller is cheap and small. You can use it with most car seats. Then, once the kid is out of the bucket, you can switch to an umbrella. I live in the suburbs but work in the city (and daycare is in the City). An umbrella works best for both situations.

doxiemoxie212 · October 2017

@marcus7676 we live in NYC, so we use DH's parents car sometimes (Honda Pilot), but it's not realistic for us to actually use for anything other than his parents driving us to/from the airport, lol. We walk or take the subway everywhere, but I freelance, so I get on the subway these days max once a month.

I imagine I'll want to use the stroller as sort of a shopping cart. I see other moms in NYC doing this, and I love the idea of not having to lug a bunch of bags around with the baby... lol. They don't even use shopping carts in the grocery store - just load everything into the pouch under the stroller. I see Uppababy and Buggaboo labels a lot, but I have no idea about make/model, etc.

RatParade · October 2017

How far along are you? 6+3

What are your symptoms? Tender boobs, pointy nipples, on and off cramping (that I think is more to do with constipation issues), always tired, and the last few days I started getting some nausea. Mostly when I'm hungry or eating, but it's pretty mild and I haven't thrown up. MH and I spent some time last night trying to figure out if my boobs have gotten bigger or not. We settled with maybe lol.

What appointments have you had/do you have coming up? How'd it go? Ultrasound on the 25th (I'll be 7+4). It seems even farther away than it did last week.

Rants/raves? MH has taken it upon himself to reorganize/repaint our house. This is awesome because I suck at this stuff and it's starting to look really nice. Also he's been doing it while I watch from the couch because he's letting me play up the pregnancy thing.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? I've never really been a journaler, but all this journal talk is getting me interested. Any STMs glad they journaled or wished they did? It kinda seems like a lot of work but also sorta therapeutic.

GTKY: What's for dinner tonight? Tonight is my eat out night because I won't get home until late so pizza!

Amphibious22 · October 2017

How far along are you? 6+6

What are your symptoms? still struggling with exhaustion. It's making work extremely difficult. My boobs have also gotten so sore I can't sleep on my stomach anymore.

What appointments have you had/do you have coming up? How'd it go? my first appointment is on Monday the 23rd. It can't come soon enough

Rants/raves? I haven't posted on here in a few days and I feel really guilty about it. Work has been kicking my ass and I literally come home and fall asleep on the couch. I haven't been helping with stuff around the house either. DH has been walking the dogs and doing all the housework. Basically I just feel useless. Hopefully I'll get some energy soon.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? i know the standard is to wait until 12 weeks to tell people, but is anyone struggling to wait that long? I'm tempted to tell friends and family after my appointment next week.

GTKY: What's for dinner tonight salsa chicken bake. So delicious and super easy. It's my day off so I promised DH I would cook.

doxiemoxie212 · October 2017

@Amphibious22 I told my BFF at 3+6. I told my mom and aunt at 7+0. I'm going to tell DH's parents and brothers tomorrow. My great aunt, mom's cousin and mom's friend will know Saturday. We'll tell our friends at 9+0. So, clearly I'm following the rules v closely, lol. My thing is, I told everyone when (TW) I MCed last year, so I might as well tell them I'm PG now. I've told everyone that if they want to spread the news further they are responsible for un-spreading if I MC again, and I explain the statistics and what the realm of possibility is for that so they fully understand. Most people don't want that burden, so they keep it quiet. But if you wouldn't want to tell anyone about a MC, then I wouldn't tell anyone about the PG yet.

Amphibious22 · October 2017

@doxiemoxie212 first, I'm sorry for your loss. And you make a good point. I think that I might tell all the people I'm close enough with that I wouldn't want them to find out from someone else or on fb next week and then wait to do a fb blast until around Thanksgiving. I feel like if I'm close enough with someone to want to tell them in person (or over the phone) then I would also be okay telling them about a loss.

doxiemoxie212 · October 2017

@Amphibious22 no worries! And yeah, we probs won't do any social media until mid-December, but most people we talk to will all know by then so it would just be a formality/something fun.

krash_ · October 2017

@Amphibious22 We are telling our immediate family at Thanksgiving. Mainly because we live out of state and I want to tell our parents in person. Which is also why it isn't hard to not blab because we wont see them until them. We are planning on doing social media on Christmas.

We did tell one couple friend on Saturday. It was hard to avoid it since they knew we were TTGP and I recently saw her and said that I was waiting to get my period last week. I do feel kind of guilty because they know before our parents but I know they would never share it with anyone.

zamoraspin · October 2017

Gonna have to come back to comment...
How far along are you? TB and BC give me slightly different answers, let's go with 3+6.

What are your symptoms? Right now not any. My boobs are swollen but I'm pretty sure it's the progesterone. Occasionally getting abdominal muscle spasms on the left side of my abdomen but I am assuming that's something about the extra blood flow going in there.

What appointments have you had/do you have coming up? How'd it go? We did betas and they looked good (8dpo 4.9, 12dpo 94). The betas were so early though... that I may go get another draw tomorrow morning from Quest myself. It'll be easier (i.e., lab is closer to my office) than going back to the RE's office and probably not much different in price... I know, I am crazy.

Rants/raves? Not really. Feeling good still. Wouldn't mind some symptoms... My mom was wishing me morning sickness on the phone yesterday, lol.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? Can't think of any right now.

GTKY: What's for dinner tonight? We use Blue Apron and it was delivered today. Choice between bean enchiladas, brown butter gnocchi, and risotto. Usually I ask DH which sounds best to him.

doxiemoxie212 · October 2017

@zamora_spin BROWN BUTTER GNOCCHI FOR SURE I mean, I know I don't get a say, but..... def that one!

carolina-girl · October 2017

How far along are you?
4+6
What are your symptoms?
very exhausted, sore breasts, nausea at times but crackers help, brown spotting and had light red blood when i wiped a few times - needless to say i am super scared. nurse said it is ok unless it is more bright red blood. i have my first OB 10/26, so I reckon I'll wait till then and pray everything is alright
What appointments have you had/do you have coming up? How'd it go?
None yet, first on 10/26
Rants/raves?
just down bc of those few times i wiped light red blood in the morning
Questions for FTM, or STM+?
Do any of you experience spotting?
GTKY: What's for dinner tonight?
Healthy meal plan we pick up every monday with pre-prepped meals for us and we'll pick from 4 options tonight, not sure yet haha

carolina-girl · October 2017

@icecubeinthedesert
we have the same timeline (4+6)! i am brand new on this board.

zamoraspin · October 2017

@izza2 I am a big fan of, if it will ease your mind in pregnancy, do it. If you want betas, ask for betas. I also am still POAS...
@Amphibious22 So, my thoughts on who to tell and when are very much impacted by being PGAL. This got real long so the TLDR is I would caution against doing a social media type announcement or announcing to work until much later, but other than that, I feel like you should tell your best support people as soon as you are ready. *TW loss -- I have been in the position twice already of announcing my miscarriages without having first announced my pregnancy. I decided this time to do it differently, in part maybe because I have a high level of (irrational?) confidence about this pregnancy. Of course I told DH right away, but then I also told my sister the first day I had a positive test at 8dpo, even though it was the faintest line, I told my mom and a very close friend the next day. There are other people who know about one or both of my losses, but those are the three people (other than DH) I would 100% tell right away if we had a third loss, so I decided to "let them in on the ground floor" with our news. My advice is to consider who in your life you would absolutely want to know if you had a loss (hopefully this never comes up for you), and tell that person/those people as soon as you want to. end TW*.
@RatParade The tricky thing about boobs is that they get kind of... fuller before they actually look bigger. I could tell the difference pretty quick (but mine are probably progesterone related) because at 35, my boobs had gotten a bit less perky than they used to be and now they are quite full.
@doxiemoxie212 I think all the product stuff is really stressful, it feels very important. For now I'm handling it by not being ready to even start thinking about it. That makes sense it's hard to decide given you may relocate at an indeterminate time. Also, I like your call on the gnocchi. I bet DH will pick that one anyway because it's gnocchi with mushrooms, two things he loves!
@icecubeinthedesert I'm sorry about the cramping, I know that probably feels scary. I think I saw in another thread you said it is relieved by umm, relieving yourself? It may really just be gas. So far this time I've been fine, but the first time around I would get "cramps" that turned out to be gas bubbles.
@krashke Do you routinely journal, and if so about what types of things? I've always wanted to but I have never been disciplined enough.
@carolina-girl I haven't experienced spotting but it is pretty common. For one thing, your cervix is all filled up with blood right now and can get irritated easily so, if you've dtd that could be the reason. If you are worried, maybe see if you can go in to your dr sooner than your appt or ask if they could do betas? It's hard so early to see much on the u/s but betas can be a good early indicator that things are developing normally.

RatParade · October 2017

@Carolina-girl I experienced similar spotting about a week ago. It was brownish when I wiped and the next day it had turned pinkish. But it didn't last more than 24 hours, it was very light (mostly just when I wiped), and it wasn't accompanied by any sharp cramping so I didn't call it in. I figure it was just a side effect of sex or something. I haven't had any spotting since.

carolina-girl · October 2017

@RatParade we haven't had sex since I've been feeling so darn exhausted

I've actually had brown spotting almost every day when I first found out 9 days ago and even in the panty liner. then that stopped after 5 days (figured implantation bleeding?) then Saturday morning light red / pink only when wiping and again yesterday morning and a little more red today. only in the mornings and when wiping, nurse says unless it is bright red blood we should wait till my first OB apt. i am so worried bc i am 37 and an "old" FTM. I am super healthy and fit, but i know that doesn't necessarily matter when it comes to MC sigh. I just hope i have a sticky bean.

RatParade · October 2017

@Carolina-girl Spotting at anytime is scary, I'm sorry you're going through this

If it was me I would probably call the nurse again and see if you can get seen sooner, maybe it's a small infection of some type. I tend to be a worrier so anything I can do to make myself feel better is worth it, and sometimes it's just being seen by a doctor even if there's not much they can do.

izza2 · October 2017

@zamora_spin - I POAS twice a day from 10 DPO to 14 DPO, then again on 15 DPO, and just POAS again yesterday at 17 DPO. I have 4? tests left, I think, but I wanted to save them and pass them on. I got them from @notthefather, who used them for her BFP cycle, and I used them for mine, so I'm like.... good luck tests, sisterhood of the travelling OPKs/HCG tests over here..

zamoraspin · October 2017

@izza2 That's so sweet! I support the sisterhood of the traveling tests! If you need to POAS (for peace of mind) cheapies like Wondfo or I tried this other brand, iProven, are good for progression and are easy and quick to get on Amazon. I am hoping soon I don't feel the need to "check" if I'm still pregnant but it's nice to have the option.

doxiemoxie212 · October 2017

@izza2 @zamora_spin I peed on like 3-4 a day until 19dpo. Absurd. I have so many left tho! After 12 weeks, I'm going to offer to pass these bad boys along... esp the OPKs! I think I have 50+ left!

sunshineandwhiskey · October 2017

@doxiemoxie212 *Lurking* how do you pass on OPKs? I have like 75 I won’t need anymore.

doxiemoxie212 · October 2017

@sunshineandwhiskey Ask some TTGP friends if they trust me enough to know their address...? I don't know... lol

izza2 · October 2017

doxiemoxie212 said:

@sunshineandwhiskey Ask some TTGP friends if they trust me enough to know their address...? I don't know... lol

@notthefather Just posted on the grad thread (I think) on BOTB that she had extra tests to pass on if anyone wanted them. I felt like I knew her well enough and took the chance.

bearmoons · October 2017

How far along are you?
5w5d

What are your symptoms?
Slightly sore boobs, extreme fatigue but also insomnia, and just starting to get some nausea.

What appointments have you had/do you have coming up? How'd it go?
First appointment is 10/23. They told me no US this visit, so hopefully soon after that!

Rants/raves?
I’m getting really intolerant of any stupidity. I have to really bite my tongue at work hahaha. I think I’m just so tired and the hormones are taking over!

Questions for FTM, or STM+?
When is everyone busting out maternity pants?? My pants are already getting tight. I carry my weight in my belly anyways, and I assume this is just bloat, and I historically HATE tight waisted pants.....but man! I want comfy pants!

GTKY: What's for dinner tonight?
I made a microwaveable organic shepherd’s pie. Hubs is playing b-ball tonight, so we didn’t make anything.

mrsbsince2013 · October 2017

How far along are you? 4 + 4

What are your symptoms? sore boobs and some mild cramping (along with a huge case of window shopping for baby items)

What appointments have you had/do you have coming up? November 2nd! Counting the days

Rants/raves? I never realized how rude it is when the first question people ask when you turn down a drink is "are you pregnant?" So, I am lying my way through these weeks until we can announce.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? When did you announce? Did you have any regrets on announcing too early? When can I actually start shopping for all the baby things?

GTKY: What's for dinner tonight? Good question.... I think we're going out to eat since we did housework all day but I would also be game for some pizza on the couch while watching movies.

mytinc · October 2017

@ebeth4056, With DS1 I announced at 12 weeks (which was Halloween that year). With DS2 I never really "announced" as far as Facebook went and I told work and friends around 8 or 9 weeks I think (A bit of a shock for most people since the boys are only 16 months apart).

So far this time (7 weeks in) my parents and in-laws know, my brother and his family, BIL and his family, my BFF and two coworkers. I have my first appointment & ultrasound on Monday so I'll likely be spreading the word more after that. No real plan for a big "Facebook announcement" or anything.

In other words, do what you're comfortable with. And share with people that you know will keep it a secret if you want it kept a secret. We all know there are some people who will post it on Facebook before you have the chance. That would be the only regret I think I would have in telling someone.

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