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tinsun428 · September 2017

Does anyone else have baby fever and ready to have another already?

kdanjou · September 2017

LOL no way!!! Still healing from my c-section! This is our last baby and I'm just soaking up all the baby snuggles that I can now. I'm sick of being overweight and am still trying to lose 20 lbs I gained while pregnant. I'm ready to have my body back to myself as soon as she's done BF. Between TTC my babies and then being pregnant and breastfeeding I haven't really been able to eat or drink what I want since 2010.

PolarBear517 · September 2017

Haha- somewhat! We've always said we wanted 2 kids and close together. Before I got pregnant with DD I wanted about a 2 year spacing, TTC after her first birthday. DH wanted closer to 1 year spacing! We are 2 and done so it'll be a vasectomy after that haha.

I told him I'm not going back on birth control & that the ball is in his court to prevent. We haven't been using anything. I'm pumping so my fertility is a big question mark right now. I'm still not planning to TTC until after the 1 year mark but I really wouldn't mind much if something happened before then.

lovesclimbing · September 2017

No. I do want our kids close together, but close together for me is about two years apart. So I don't want to get pregnant again for about a year.

I want to get back in shape before having another. I'm losing weight fast with breastfeeding. I'm already quite a bit below my prepregnancy weight. I was a good 40-50 pounds above what I was when we got married (which was a healthy weight and I could have stood to lose another 5-10 then), and I'd like to get down close to that before getting pregnant again.

doodleoodle · September 2017

My girls are 18 months apart. DD1 is still very much a baby. She wants to be carried everywhere and gets upset if I walk out of the room to change DD2, but still doesn't want to leave the room. Carrying an infant and a 30 pound toddler up and down the stairs isn't safe, but DD1 typically refuses to walk. Parenting two under two is no joke. I'd think really hard about the time your LO wants and needs from you and weigh that against your desire for them to have a sibling close in age. For us, it was worth it. Seeing the two of them interact is wonderful. There are days though, where I feel so incredibly guilty that I can't give DD1 the attention she had grown accustomed to.

wifeinraleigh28 · September 2017

I look forward to having another baby and sometimes I do daydream about it, but I want to give my little girl ALLLLLL the attention right now and let her be the queen of the house for awhile

redheeler · September 2017

doodleoodle said:

My girls are 18 months apart. DD1 is still very much a baby. She wants to be carried everywhere and gets upset if I walk out of the room to change DD2, but still doesn't want to leave the room. Carrying an infant and a 30 pound toddler up and down the stairs isn't safe, but DD1 typically refuses to walk. Parenting two under two is no joke. I'd think really hard about the time your LO wants and needs from you and weigh that against your desire for them to have a sibling close in age. For us, it was worth it. Seeing the two of them interact is wonderful. There are days though, where I feel so incredibly guilty that I can't give DD1 the attention she had grown accustomed to.

Also keep in mind that the longer you wait the bigger the tantrums get and the more attention they're used to. DS1 is nearly 4 and I either wish I had waited another year, or not as long as I did. It's taken a good 4 months for the tantrums to start, now that DS2 wants more of my attention, DS1 has turned into the devil child.
also it's the more they want to interact with the baby, I spent most of my day telling my eldest to let go of the baby's hand or head or foot.

shmarpler · October 2017

My girls are 23 months apart. I'd like a little more time before we have another.

doodleoodle · October 2017

I thought of a good test to determine whether or not you want two under two. When you're taking care of your LO imagine there is a screaming, crying toddler holding onto your leg. For example, you're trying to get baby to sleep, and just as they close their eyes your toddler decides they are no longer content playing quietly in the corner of the room and burst into tears without warning, waking the baby. Wash, rinse, repeat. With everything. All day long. If this doesn't bother you then you should have two under two.

delujm0 · October 2017

doodleoodle said:

I thought of a good test to determine whether or not you want two under two. When you're taking care of your LO imagine there is a screaming, crying toddler holding onto your leg. For example, you're trying to get baby to sleep, and just as they close their eyes your toddler decides they are no longer content playing quietly in the corner of the room and burst into tears without warning, waking the baby. Wash, rinse, repeat. With everything. All day long. If this doesn't bother you then you should have two under two.

Haha this applies to all toddlers though. I mean my 2 year old has woken up the baby many of dozens of times in the past 4 months and she was only under 2 for the first 10 days of the baby's life.

redheeler · October 2017

delujm0 said:

doodleoodle said:

I thought of a good test to determine whether or not you want two under two. When you're taking care of your LO imagine there is a screaming, crying toddler holding onto your leg. For example, you're trying to get baby to sleep, and just as they close their eyes your toddler decides they are no longer content playing quietly in the corner of the room and burst into tears without warning, waking the baby. Wash, rinse, repeat. With everything. All day long. If this doesn't bother you then you should have two under two.

Haha this applies to all toddlers though. I mean my 2 year old has woken up the baby many of dozens of times in the past 4 months and she was only under 2 for the first 10 days of the baby's life.

Yep same problem with the almost 4yr old. Basically, imagine this if you want two kids

kdanjou · October 2017

My daughter is five and I feel like this is barely old enough for her to learn to be quiet or at least play upstairs when the baby naps. She is also in school most days so that helps. I don't know how people survive with two littles.

doodleoodle · October 2017

I would think a preschooler or school age child would be able to be occupied by a tv show or something in another room long enough to get a baby to sleep or nurse a distracted baby, but I obviously don't have older children so I don't know what it's really like... I didn't imagine it'd be THIS HARD with a toddler and a baby either lol so there's that.

I'm at the point where I know just enough to know that I cant make assumptions about anyone else's situation.

redheeler · October 2017

doodleoodle said:

I would think a preschooler or school age child would be able to be occupied by a tv show or something in another room long enough to get a baby to sleep or nurse a distracted baby, but I obviously don't have older children so I don't know what it's really like... I didn't imagine it'd be THIS HARD with a toddler and a baby either lol so there's that.

I'm at the point where I know just enough to know that I cant make assumptions about anyone else's situation.

Every age gap is going to have its problems and merits. All we can do is weather the storm regardless of what it throws

tinsun428 · October 2017

The age gap between my son (from another) and DD is 17yrs! That's one reason why the father and I would like to have another and plus, I am 38 years old and he's 40. I'm a SAHM and he's home for a quick weekend every 4-6wks because of work, but he has showed me just how active he'd be in another ones life and my answer in now NO! You all have confirmed my decision. Thank you! Lol

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