Babies on the Brain

Weekly Chat 9/18

What are you looking forward to this week?

What are you dreading? 

Have any goals/things you want to get accomplished this week? 

Random thoughts?

GTKY: How did you meet your spouse/partner?


Re: Weekly Chat 9/18

  • What are you looking forward to this week?
    Sunday!! It seems so far away, but we're going to meet with the real estate agent for a new development where we want to live. I am hoping they have some good lots available and we can get started with the process of buying a new construction home!  

    What are you dreading? 
    Talking to my boss about his expectations for when I start working remotely. AFAIK, he has no replacement for me. I really hope he does not expect that I will complete all of my responsibilities working 1/2 the time. Plus, there are a lot of things I print/scan and I do not plan on having to buy a printer to be able to do those things at home.

    Have any goals/things you want to get accomplished this week? 
    Nothing specifically. Maybe get back to eating better and drinking more water - the last 2 weeks I have been very VERY bad! 

    Random thoughts?
    I'm super ready for fall now. We've had some unexpected warm weather since the weekend and I'm actually kind of disappointed I haven't needed to wear hoodies... 

    GTKY: How did you meet your spouse/partner? 
    We met online!! OkCupid to be exact. Met 2.5 years ago, married 10 days ago!! 
    <3 
  • What are you looking forward to this week?  Getting a Plated box for a few cooking date nights with DH.  I'm both looking forward to and dreading the christening we have to attend on Sunday for my twin nephews.  It's nice to spend time with my ILs but it also feels like we're burning a weekend day to relax and stay on top of chores.  
     
    What are you dreading? My problem pee cat that I posted about a few weeks ago needs to go to the vet for her second set of xrays to see if the kidney stones she has are dissolving with a new diet.  I can't afford this cat anymore...

    Have any goals/things you want to get accomplished this week? Cleaning out DD's drawers

    Random thoughts?  nothing

    GTKY: How did you meet your spouse/partner? At work, he admits to "work stalking" me.  He finally broke the ice when he asked if I knew his friend who was going to start to work with us since I came from the same company the friend used to work at.  Then he asked me out for coffee.  A year later we were pregnant and got married six months after that!  Its been an amazing whirl wind!  
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  • @kimberbeep I'm with you on the fall stuff!  We're in the northeast and its warm and humid and gross.  Its making me really grumpy.  But I guess we always expect a Sept warm up every year.  
  • @kimberbeep I forget what area are you from? I live in mid MO and it was crazy hot here this weekend and though most of this week too :neutral: not cool. I'm ready for fall!

    @KFrob I'm sorry about your cat, hopefully this will be the last of vet visits for problems.
    Me: 35 DH: 47

    HX
    DSS: 20
    DSD: 17
    DS: 4(Nov'14)
    MMC:8/17
    MMC: 1/18
    BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19

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  • What are you looking forward to this week?
    Nothing comes to mind honestly. Pretty standard week. 

    What are you dreading? 
    DH is crazy stressed because of an impossible work deadline and so I'm really dreading his grouchiness that goes with that. 

    Have any goals/things you want to get accomplished this week? 
    Eating well and restarting up my at home workout routine.

    Random thoughts?
    Crazy busy Mondays this year. I wish I could go grocery delivery but they keep screwing up things and then I end up at the store anyway.

    GTKY: How did you meet your spouse/partner? 
    We met in a small group at church. Were friends and in that care group for 3 years before we started dating. We were married 1 year and 3 weeks after our first date. DS was here 1.5 years after that.
    Me: 35 DH: 47

    HX
    DSS: 20
    DSD: 17
    DS: 4(Nov'14)
    MMC:8/17
    MMC: 1/18
    BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19

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  • @kimberbeep GL home/lot shopping! New construction sounds fab! Stay hydrated. It is still quite warm here too but I can tell summer is over because the humidity is gone

    @KFrob sorry about your cat! Hopefully he gets better soon and on the cheap. I feel ya on family events, it can be a big to do and eat up the whole day

    @kindbytealikat sorry that everything is stressful right now! Yeah I am way too much of a control freak to do grocery delivery. Also, I went to the store both saturday and sunday and guess what I have like five items on my list TODAY that I managed to miss. So I dont think delivery could keep up with this hot mess.

    What are you looking forward to this week? Same old - when DD is in preschool and I can get some me time and work out, etc. We are heading into a long stretch of normalcy - no traveling or big events so I'm pretty psyched about that.

    What are you dreading? Just a general complaint that DDs terrible twos have come on in full force and I am losing my mind. Like two weeks ago I was like I love this age why is everyone complaining and now its like such a production to get her to do anything and tantrum after tantrum

    Have any goals/things you want to get accomplished this week? I have like a bajillion people to call - scheduling appointments, repair men, planning a pumpkin patch trip, buying Thanksgiving plane tickets (sooooo $$$$ now that DD needs her own seat) just random stuff on my to do list!

    Random thoughts? not today!

    GTKY: How did you meet your spouse/partner? At a bar in Chicago! Back in those days, we didn't have dating apps on our phones like they do now so he actually had to come up and talk to me. I gave him my number and he called the next week and asked me out for tapas and its seven+ years later and here we are





  • @kimberbeep I've always loved the idea of building a home! (Blame a childhood addiction to The Sims.) What a fun thing to look forward to.

    @KFrob Hope those kidney stones are nowhere to be found. I used to think getting something like pet insurance for a house cat was overkill, but the more horror stories I hear the more I wonder...

    @kindbytealikat This summer, my husband and I kind of switched roles in terms of who has the stress-iest job. Up until then, I (the stressed out one) was always of the view that he should suck it up, because listening to me complain had to be far preferable to actually living through the stuff I was complaining about. Now on the other side, I wish I had been more understanding. One bad mood can take down a whole household. Hope you both hang in there!

    @lifesabeach85 Mmmmmm a "long stretch of normalcy." Love that. Far, far too rare and yet so key to the health of both you and your wallet. GL knocking out all the appointments and other to-dos!

    What are you looking forward to this week? Boss is out on vacation the second half of this week, and I'm in good shape on my to-do list so should be able to use the quiet to actually get ahead on things, for once!

    What are you dreading? Traveling for another wedding this weekend. Where I know no-one other than the bride and one of her bridesmaids. And DH isn't coming because football. So heyyyy bartender!

    Have any goals/things you want to get accomplished this week? Get back into an a.m. walking routine. It stays dark so late in the mornings now I've been letting myself off the hook, but no more. Our pupper comes home in just two weeks and I need to be ready for him with a routine!

    Random thoughts? Nope! Other than that I'm feeling surprisingly chill about this TWW. After all the waiting to TTC, just having things started feels like a win enough for this cycle. I may feel totally differently tomorrow but, for now, I'm good.

    GTKY: How did you meet your spouse/partner? High school, actually. We'd been going to school together since 7th grade, but he was cool, I was not, and we didn't really talk. Then he got drafted into academic decathlon his senior year and our late night study buddy-ing turned romantic.
  • @kimberbeep yes, so ready for fall!! I'm in KC, MO and it's supposed to rain most of this week :/ 

    @KFrob sorry about your cat :( I hope this is his last vet visit for a while!

    @kindbytealikat sorry DH is stressed, hopefully it won't be too bad!

    @lifesabeach85 how sweet! Sometimes I hate the technology we have today, it really takes away from the experience of a lot of things, like dating! Then again...DH and I had a long distance relationship while I was at my school and he at his. I would have died without being able to FaceTime him every night lol

    General pregnancy/kids TW for the rest of this post, mostly brief mentions nothing detailed.

    Looking forward to: I'm going for a tattoo consult tomorrow for my sister and I to get matching tattoos! Hoping to get them done in Oct before I start TTC. We had planned to get them done two years ago, but I ended up getting pregnant and couldn't. Then Wednesday I get to cheer with my old HS for homecoming! It's going to be interesting  :#  *TW-death: And kind of a weird one to look forward to, but my DHs aunt is getting married on Saturday in the town my grandparents are buried. My grandma passed two years ago this Saturday (day of the wedding) so we plan to go by the cemetery to put new (fake) flowers on their graves. I haven't been up there since the funeral (it's 2 hours away).

    Dreading: having to drive for the wedding. The last month has been nothing but traveling for my BILs wedding and then reception (two different cities and weekends), so I'm ready for a weekend of nothing to do!!

    Goals: like kindbytealikat, I need to eat healthier and get into a workout routine. I'm now heavier than my heaviest point during my pregnancy with DS, so that sucks...

    Random: nothing I can think of

    GTKY: DH and I met in 2011 working together at Sonic. We didn't start dating until 2014, almost exactly 3 years after meeting. He says he was waiting on me because I was always dating someone new when I came back during summer break. Finally, I was single and a coworker asked what I thought of him and I said, "Oh I'd totally date Seth! I've always had a crush on him!" Then he invited me to hang out with him and his friends at Hot Country Nights because I had no friends in town. Everyone kept saying it was a date and made me all nervous, even though I knew I was right and it wasn't a date. The girls then told him I was upset it wasn't a date (not true, I knew it wasn't), so he asked me out on a date for that Tuesday. And the rest is history :) got pregnant with DS just under a year after we were "official" and got married while I was about 3.5/4 months pregnant.
    DS1 born 2/28/16
    DS2 due 12/12/18

  • @kimberbeep Best of luck in finding the right lot! Would your boss be willing to purchase the printer for you, since it's a business expense? All in ones are pretty reasonable, to be honest, unless you need a specific business class one. I think ours was about $60, and that was only because we specifically wanted a wireless one (yay for printing from the other room). He might be willing to go for it if you can find one on a decent budget!

    @KFrob Have fun with the Plated! We tried Blue Apron and it wasn't really the right fit for us. Hopefully the stones are gone for the cat! The potential vet bills are one of the reasons we don't have any pets right now. Your "how we met" story is cute!

    @kindbytealikat Is the deadline supposed to be impossible, or has it just worked out that way? I'm sorry to hear that either way, though. We've never tried grocery delivery. I'm particular about things, especially produce, so I'd rather pick it up myself.

    @lifesabeach85 Hopefully the twos will calm down soon! How long do they tend to stretch out, on average? (I obviously have no clue) That's awesome that you guys actually met in person!

    @emiliadkay Jeez, how many weddings is that for you this year? How did you guys do on the decathalon when you started dating? :D

    @CecilB93 What sort of tattoo are you guys going to get? That's really cool! I hope that the weekend is a good one, all things considered.

    What are you looking forward to this week? Not much that I can think of, to be honest. DH is getting that huge check on Thursday. We're hoping to go to the apartment complex we like so we can get on the wait list for next year.

    What are you dreading? I have to make an appointment for yet another specialist. I'm also about to start AF, judging by the spotting, and the cramps always make my back pain even worse. And, of course, there's more activity in the Atlantic >.<

    Have any goals/things you want to get accomplished this week? We still haven't gotten our place put back together after the hurricane. I'd like to get that taken care of. The laundry is going and about half done, but we need to finish it.

    Random thoughts? We're watching a movie I haven't seen in years and that DH has never seen. I'm not sure if he likes it or not.

    GTKY: How did you meet your spouse/partner? We met online while he was moving from down south up to Chicago. He found my profile and we started talking, and he actually spoke to me like a person and not just a piece of meat. Once he was settled, we met up at my friend's birthday party. Our first date was the next day. That was four years ago. We got married a year ago yesterday :)

    Me: 36 | DH: 35 | Married: 9.17.16
    Diminished ovarian reserve
    BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
  • @dreamscapes_ So here is the story as far as I understand it. So this is a project they have been working on for a couple months and they had to delay it with Microsoft once already. His boss has been saying from the beginning that this deadline is flexible so some of the people have been delaying part of it because it wasn't their top priority. Cue last week and it's suddenly not flexible. Problem is a number of the people on the project have been delayed. DH d/t missing a few days because of our loss and my surgury, one guy was out a week because his daughter was getting married out of state and he was buying a new house. Two guys that they contract from out of state were in Irmas path and out of power and you know clean up last week. The deadline is the last day of September and the last week of September the team is being sent to Atlanta to train with the guys they contract from there. So It's a big cluster. 
    Me: 35 DH: 47

    HX
    DSS: 20
    DSD: 17
    DS: 4(Nov'14)
    MMC:8/17
    MMC: 1/18
    BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19

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  • @kindbytealikat Yeah, that sounds like a major cluster. Do the out of state guys have power yet? Hopefully things will all get sorted out and it won't be too bad for your DH!
    Me: 36 | DH: 35 | Married: 9.17.16
    Diminished ovarian reserve
    BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
  • @dreamscapes_ The tattoo will be two parts. Mine says, "I'll be the anchor that keeps your feet on the ground" and hers will say, "I'll be the wings that keep your head in the clouds". Then I'll have a small anchor and she'll have either wings or a feather with hers. It's perfect for us because she's always been more eccentric than me, I'm the logical one of us. I saw the activity in the Atlantic, I keep hoping that it just stays away!
    DS1 born 2/28/16
    DS2 due 12/12/18

  • @kimberbeep I'm ready for fall, too! It cooled off a few weeks back and now it feels like summer again! I need to just soak it up and go to the splash pad or get out with the kiddie pool with DS, but I would rather be doing outdoor activities that don't involve water!

    @kindbytealikat my DH is perpetually stressed about work, so I can relate. And since he is a contract worker it's not just the job itself, but what he will do when the contract is over if they don't renew or extend his contract.

    What are you looking forward to this week?
    I have no plans, so I guess I need to come up with something to look forward to this weekend!

    What are you dreading? 
    I have a stupid "advisory" (homeroom) class every day I work and I really hate it. They aren't even my regular students and they are just a badly behaved bunch. It's only 25 minutes but it sucks. I'm trying to get out of it.

    Have any goals/things you want to get accomplished this week? 
    I've been doing better with exercise and I've started eating more healthy fats and less carbs, which seems to really help keep me full all day. I'm going to try a few new low carb recipes which will be nice. I've been in a rut.

    Random thoughts?
    Our state fair starts next week and I'm counting down the days! I usually go at least 2 or 3 times. DS will be able to enjoy so much more this year.

    GTKY: How did you meet your spouse/partner? 
    We met online (Howaboutwe.com) but after meeting we discovered that we had mutual friends and he was in the same social club in college as my brother! Small world. 
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  • I'm late to the party this time. I don't have time to respond to everyone right now, but I've been following, and hope everyone is doing good :)

    What are you looking forward to this week? 
    A weekend with no plans! Our last 2 weekends have been so busy, and next weekend will be too, so I really need the downtime.

    What are you dreading? Nothing really.

    Have any goals/things you want to get accomplished this week? I'm super far behind on housework, due to those 2 busy weekends, so my only goal is to catch up on that.

    Random thoughts? Nothing right now :)

    GTKY: How did you meet your spouse/partner? We met in college! We were in a campus organization together. He was one year ahead of me, and when we first met I thought he didn't like me because he was a lot more reserved and quiet than the other people in his year. I thought I annoyed him, and kind of wrote him off (lol, whoops) but he started talking to me more over the summer and I realized he was awesome. Turns out he was being quiet at first because that's just kinda how he is, and then because he liked me, haha. By a couple months into my second year we were dating, and there you go. :)
  • @CecilB93 Those tattoos sound beautiful! I hope they come out well! It looks like Maria is supposed to hook back up into the Atlantic. I'm just hoping my friend in Puerto Rico is okay. She was still without power from Irma, so she's been in my thoughts a lot.

    @lalala2004 I love those kind of stories! Hidden connections are always fun to me. My DH and I actually almost met nine years before we actually did! I did the Disney college program in 2004, which was my introduction to the company. One of my roommates was from Arkansas. We lost touch after the program. DH and I met in 2013, and when we got engaged a year later, he got a message from someone he knew from high school asking him if I had done the DCP in 2004, because she thought I was her roommate, lmao. Also turns out that he had planned to interview for it, but chickened out at the last minute. If he had, we would have met in 2004 instead of 2013. I like to remind him that there's no way to know if we would have gotten together then or not, since we were both very different people back then.

    @diaphena Isn't housework a huge pain when you fall behind? I hope you get it taken care of! Your guys' story is cute :D

    So, unrelated, but DH had a stress test today for his heart. I'd given away my shift at work in case he couldn't drive home, and it was a good thing I did. He nearly passed out while on the treadmill, to the point that one of the nurses was asking if they needed to call an ambulance. Now he has an echocardiogram that needs to be scheduled, in addition to the tilt table he's got next week. This in addition to everything going on with me (seeing a podiatrist on Monday for chronic pain in my right foot that I've been putting off dealing with because of every other damn thing, as well as getting a CT on Tuesday for a new pain in my pelvic area). It's gonna be a fun couple of weeks in our house.
    Me: 36 | DH: 35 | Married: 9.17.16
    Diminished ovarian reserve
    BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
  • @CecilB93 Hope getting back into the workout swing is going well! If you're like me and it's been pushed off by, you know, life, I challenge you to add 10 minutes of something, somewhere in your day today :) I'll do the same!

    @dreamscapes_ & @diaphena Good luck with the housework (whomp, whomp). But it will feel awesome when done. 

    @dreamscapes_ I'm so sorry for the rough appointment YH had yesterday, and everything he now has to deal with going forward. I know it's a lot to add on top of the pain you've already been dealing with, but I am glad you have each other to lean on as you muddle your way through.

    @lalala2004 I'm glad to learn teachers hate homeroom (lmao at their feeble attempt to call it anything but) as much as we did as students. It's. so. pointless. Just let everyone sleep in an extra 15 minutes.
  • @dreamscapes_ I hope you're all in better health soon!

    @emiliadkay what's even more annoying is that we didn't have it last year. They said it was to use less class time for interruptions, assemblies, etc, but they are STILL using regular class time for stuff like that, so what's the point? Some kids actually get work done or read like they are supposed to, but most don't, and I'm supposed to keep them quiet? LOL, that's not my hill to die on. As long as they aren't super loud and causing trouble, I'm fine, but unfortunately there are a few troublemakers in the bunch. 
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  • @dreamscapes_ Wow! You and YH are having a rough time! I hope you'll both get some answers and relief from your appointments coming up.

    @lalala2004 I never understood homeroom as a kid either. I always wondered if it was for the teachers to do some kind of secret teacher-thing that we couldn't understand. Lol :)

    @CecilB93 Your tattoos sound so cute!

    @kindbytealikat Hope your DH's work situation is starting to get better. That sounds like total madness, I'd be a mess.

    @emiliadkay Your and DH's story is adorable. I feel you on the wedding season stuff, we have one next weekend and then one that I'm going to by myself in October. They never end!

    @lifesabeach85 I think dating was a lot less complicated before all the apps and stuff came along, and I'm glad I didn't have to deal with them. At least that's how it seems from my friends who are dating now!

    @KFrob Hope your kitty is okay!

    @kimberbeep I'm ready for fall too. We had one week of amazing fall temperatures, then it went away. Today it was 90  :| WHY
  • Wow, y'all, after all that complaining our schedule changed again and I don't have to teach that class anymore! This is shaping up to be my best (easiest) year of teaching yet! 


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  • @kindbytealikat – I’m near Chicago, and it’s been in the 90’s this week. Whyyyy???

    @KFrob – Update on kitty? Hope she’s feeling better

    @lifesabeach85 and @emiliadkay – We’re going Sunday to look at the lots, it’s been a long week waiting, and I’m so excited! I can’t wait to customize and pick everything out. The Sims is one of my all-time favorite games.

    @dreamscapes_ - No printer for me. I tried to talk to him about it but he didn’t seem worried. He’s out travelling now next two weeks and next week is my last in the office. Trying not to worry about it. Not really my problem anymore, right? I hope you can figure out what’s causing your pain and feel better soon! 

  • Thanks everyone for the kitty concerns!   I've been MIA bc this weeks been crazy!  She hasn't had any accident or blood in her urine so that's a good sign!  But I ended up rescheduling her appointment that was supposed to be today for next week.  Fingers crossed the stones are smaller!

    @dreamscapes_ Good luck with all of the medical stuff for you and H!  That's a lot to deal with at one time and I hope everything works out for both of you!  This is our 3rd Plated experience.  We did the free box from a referral from my SIL and loved it.  Then we did one on our own, but its expensive so we canceled it.  They roped us back in with $25 off our next box and we couldn't pass it up.  My SIL also sent us a referral for Blue Apron and it didn't seem like a good fit for us either and we never ordered it.  

    @diaphena and @kimberbeep  I'm in CT and were just about to enter into the way-too-warm-for-fall weather.  Its supposed to be 82 tomorrow and 89 on Sunday, ick.
  • Hey guys, I'm hoping with your pooled experiences you can offer some advice - 

    My husband and I have been looking at a particular neighborhood to do new construction in. We went Sunday and picked a lot that we liked. I emailed the woman this morning to find out what the next steps were, and in the mean time I started reading through the HOA Declarations she had sent me like months ago. Apparently, they have a limit of 2 pets and we have 4 - 3 dogs and two cats. I'm sure there's instances where people bend the rules and HOA's that don't bother to enforce them. I'm feeling like we're kind of screwed because I don't think this is something I want to take a chance on. 

    Thoughts or experiences with HOA's?
  • I don't have any experience, but I would maybe ask how strict that rule is. You already have the animals, I don't feel like they can make you get rid of them. I hope this works out for you!
    DS1 born 2/28/16
    DS2 due 12/12/18

  • @emiliadkay I'm also glad we have each other for this. I honestly don't think I could do this without him.

    @kimberbeep Yay for almost being done there! I honestly don't have any advice as far as the HOA, but I do think you should talk to them before you sign anything. You already have the animals and I can't imagine you willingly giving them up just to move into a neighborhood. If you talk to them, you'd at least be able to sort out if they'd give you leeway or if you need to find a new neighborhood.

    @KFrob We actually got a mailer on Saturday from HelloFresh, which we'll look into. I'm not sure if it would work for us, lol.

    So my CT was supposed to be this morning. It's been rescheduled to next week because I got very very sick from the contrast solution I was supposed to drink. My doctor had to order a new test with no contrast so that it can actually get done without me getting sick. I have an insane gag reflex and have actually made myself sick just brushing my teeth before, so with the taste and texture of the conrast, I'm not surprised. DH's tilt test was a mixed bag. He didn't have a cardio response to it, but had something that may have been a neuro response, so he'll most likely be getting referred to a neurologist after the cardio follow up in a couple of weeks. So... Yeah.

    Me: 36 | DH: 35 | Married: 9.17.16
    Diminished ovarian reserve
    BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
  • Ugh @dreamscapes_ they just keep moving the goalposts. I guess you have to look at it realizing these extra hoops and delays were always going to be a part of the process, you just didn't know it. But the progress as you move through them is real and forward nonetheless. 

    @kimberbeep I've dealt with three different HOAs over the years (always as a renter) and in my experience they really run the gamut in terms of, errr, "intensity," and you're best off asking around and seeing what you can find out. Generally, people only care about what affects them (i.e., a dog that spends time outside in the yard and barks occasionally will get dinged, but you could have a dozen indoor cats and be fine), but some neighbors feel personally affected by everything. I probably wouldn't chance it unless I could confirm that several other people in the neighborhood are also above the pet limit, but I'm a stressed.

    @KFrob I used Plated back when I was living alone and l-o-v-e-d it. I ultimately cancelled because I was getting kinda upset about the amount of packaging that went into the whole process. (They may have gotten better at that in recent years.) I do appreciate that it eliminates food waste, and maybe now that we're two it's time to revisit it as an occasional treat. With me trying to cook, it would be dinner and a show!

    @lalala2004 YAY for a good year!! So excited things worked out.
  • @dreamscapes_ - sorry it's been rough going for you lately. I tried HelloFresh and liked it a lot- it just wasn't enough food for us.

    We spoke to the realtor more about the HOA - they are "planning" to re-write some of the rules in December. But I won't agree to anything until I see how it looks on paper. For now, we're moving on. Looking into buying land and finding a builder to build a custom home on it. The only hiccup with that is the need for a septic tank and well water - I think those costs can easily be $15k and up. I have a few emails out to builders and other realtors to see if it's realistically withing our budget.
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