Hope this will be my last MBF about the weather but COME ON. I just want to go outside without feeling like I'm melting. It's supposed to start cooling off Saturday but the forecast has gone from a high of 74 to 79 already that day so we'll see. Better than the high 80s/low 90s the rest of this week.
@gusgus14 I'm with ya, mama. We drove to NC yesterday to go apple picking and I was dying. I can't wait until I can just hang outside without sweating.
It's still upper 90s here all week @gusgus14. I just have to be happy with the cool mornings for a few more months. I can remember wearing shorts on Christmas before
I’m in Florida and get one week of winter per year. And by one week of winter I mean temperatures in the 50’s, usually in January. Otherwise it’s 80-90 degrees and soooo humid and awful. If I ever moved away from Florida it would be because of the weather. I absolutely hate it. It was over 100 degrees yesterday at the peak according to my car thermostat. :-/
Oh I'm so glad my MBF is relevant. I'm at work on the 12th floor and the fucking AC isnt working!!!! From HR: I suggest cranking the fans. Gonna be 81 and sunny today!!!
Fuckkkkkkkkk youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu. Sincerely, Sweating my ass off and also I might puke.
@missblaze - I want to go apple picking but can't figure out when to go! We're spending the first weekend of November in NC though so we'll probably just wait and go then. We probably won't do much actual apple picking at that point but the cider doughnuts and frozen cider are my favorite part anyway.
Now I have a work related one. We're having some sort of network issue and I can't get into my contracts folder which is where my entire job lives so basically I have to just sit here and twiddle my thumbs. I could be at home sleeping or cleaning or packing up the old craft room and office to prep for new floors but nope, I have to just sit here and wait with no idea how long it will take to get resolved. Can't go home because I'd have to take PTO. What a waste of a morning.
@JuliaGoolia719 I have been stalking the weather for a week, and as far out as they've predicted, today is supposed to be the last day it gets really warm -- then it'll finally hit 70s and some 60s. I'm stoked to be able to open my windows and cool off the house at night again, after being teased by fall weather for a few weeks.
My complaining for today is all about how I have two online classes that have started today, and neither has sent out any emails with a syllabus or even a, "Hey, you start this class today, everything will be up later." The classes are open in our online system and just utterly empty. I'm hoping something will pop up at least before I go to class tonight because I want to start to feel out the workload.
Why is apartment living so expensive? I'm starting to look around and get on wait lists and it's just depressing. Plus there's my fear that we'll never be able to afford a house and it's the worst.
@gusgus14 - i'm with you on the weather! on Friday it was in the low 50s here...yesterday it was 89! today is still supposed to be in the low 80s, but come on...the leaves have already started changing, the weather needs to match! (usually at the end of Sept the weather here is in the 60s)
AFM, my bitchfest is all in-law/family related, and possibly i'm being the bratty twatwaffle anyway.. I'm preface by saying that I love my in-laws. really, they're great people and we have a really good relationship (i realized this after reading some other ladies' posts on the bump about monster-in-laws and crazy absurd drama.) So, my sister-in-law lives about 45 minutes away, and HER in-laws live a few blocks away from them. Her in-laws can be...."nice people".....but they don't have a lot of friends and usually one or both of them are bitching and complaining about one thing or another whenever we see them. They both have had some significant health issues in the past couple years that make it hard for them to leave the house now, and that just exacerbates their complaining. DH and I are always invited to go over to their house for the High Holidays or Passover or big dinners, which is very generous and sometimes there's no drama when we go. That said, I just don't really care for these people. I've been scolded for stupid or no reasons, they're passive aggressive sometimes, and downright nasty at other times. They bullied their way into getting an invite to our wedding, cause they were complaining that they don't ever get invited to family events (my in-laws - SIL's parents - can't stand them, and it pisses them off that they actually get along with my parents, too). They consider themselves part of our family, even though they're my in-law's in-laws.
To the point, yesterday DH gets a call from his mom, telling him that i need to invite these people (my SIL's MIL and SIL) to my baby shower. The RSVPs are due today, so it'll be obvious that they were invited after-the-fact. But my MIL's reasoning? That they will bitch and complain and will make my SIL's life hell that i "purposefully excluded them."
These people are not my family, I'm not close to them, and I can barely stand them - am i in the right to say "no, they're not invited," or should i suck it up and invite them just "so it won't cause any problems"?
@caseyw8784 I feel you. My husband's whole family is close to his brother's in-laws (Sister in law's parents and siblings) and there was a similar ruckus when we didn't invite them to our wedding. Although hubby is fairly close to them as they live next door to his brother and the kids, I barely know them. I don't think you need to apologize. I didn't.
My BFM is just MONDAY. This morning my dogs woke up at 4:30 barking and playing rough in the bedroom, and I woke up and grouched at them but it didn't really register that if they were awake they needed to go out. We have a six month old puppy and he peed himself in protest, the hubby grouched at me for not taking them out right away. (He apologized, neither of us is at our best when tired.) So I dragged my carcass out of bed and took them outside, then went back to bed (to a very snuggly, apologetic hubby who'd realized what an ass he'd just been) and tried to go back to sleep.
Dreamed my doctor came to my house to treat an ear infection. She told me I had mashed potato in my ears and we needed to flush it out, and proceeded to stick my head in the toilet and flush it out.
Woke up from that unpleasant dream to find out that I really was having ear pain/congestion and it's on my good side (I have hearing loss on the right and wear aids to correct it) so I can't hear a damn thing today, I feel like I'm in an isolation tank or something, and I have to go to the doctor to get it checked out at my lunch break.
Got up to dress for work, that damn dog had PEED on my good bra! so I am braless, wearing just lily padz and a tank top under my dress, and I am also commando, because dammit this morning was not a morning where I had ANY mental energy to spare for which underwear still fit and are clean. And they're probably going to want to hike up my skirt to doppler me at my earache check and I'm going to have to tell a bunch of people I'm commando at work in a knee length skirt.
@caseyw8784 Wow even the in-laws of your in-laws are making this about them! If it's too late to invite them, then don't. Were they at least generous at your wedding and got you a gift? If you have to invite them, at least you get a gift out of it. I hate that these adults have to be catered to in order to stop them from bitching. One thing pregnancy has taught me is to stop doing things I don't want to do to please others. I have said NO a lot and damn, it feels good!
My Monday Bitch Fest is about people taking advantage of me as the DD (designated driver) but then bitching when I want to leave and taking forever to leave. We had my niece's 4th birthday party on Saturday and I drove my husband, his sister and her son. I got stung by a bee, first time ever, and was freaking out. Luckily I did not have a reaction but I was done and wanted to leave. They had too much to drink, so I still had to drive home after taking benadryl and trying to hold an ice pack on my arm. I made sure my husband knows that just because I am sober and will drive you places does not mean you can shirk all responsibility. You never know what can happen.
It's our busiest week of the month and both of my employees called in today.... UGH!! So this already stressed out mama is stuck doing 3 people's job this Monday!
@ajolly932 - they were generous and got us a wedding gift. not particularly something that DH and I would have chosen for ourselves (a casserole/baking dish) and I think I've used it once in the 3 years we've been married, but it's a nice gift. They mostly behaved themselves at the wedding also (they were expecting for their son - DH's best man - to basically cater to their every need the entire day of the wedding, when it was obvious that he had other important things to do! lol) But I've always considered baby showers to be a lot more intimate than a wedding shower or wedding, so i was pretty taken aback when i heard that they were expecting to be invited to this one too...oy!
BFM update: I do in fact have an ear infection. Mashed potato and toilets not involved. Feeling so bad at work I want to sit here and cry, but I have no sick time available so I have to suck it up until I can pick up my antibiotics on the way home.
@auntieraindrop - oh, ear infections are the worst!! i used to get them alllll the time as a child, luckily i finally outgrew them! Hope the antibiotics work and you feel better soon!
@caseyw8784 that just sucks. Since today is the day RSVPs are due I wouldn't worry about it personally. I think you are fine to not invite them and if your MIL was worried about it, then she should have come to ask you sooner if you would be okay inviting them. If they say anything, I would just respond that you were trying to keep the numbers down or didn't want them to feel obligated to give a present if they couldn't attend. At this point, they might still complain if they find out the RSVP was due today. If you do decide to invite them, maybe have your SIL or MIL give them a phone call or in-person invitation, that way it puts it on them and you don't have to deal with it.
Similar to your situation: I'm worried about potentially having to invite my SIL's parents to our co-ed baby shower/party because they just moved in with my brother and SIL (terrible idea in my opinion). Also, my SIL is helping my mom with hosting my baby shower. I don't want to invite them but worry that someone will ask me to and then it's the risk of offending my SIL, who I already have a fragile relationship with. I didn't invite them to my wedding so I'm hoping no one asks. I also worry that my SIL's mom might try to sabotage it in some way (she has done this with my family's holidays in the past -trying to double book them, make them leave early, or do something to delay my brother's family from joining us). The party is going to be in November so we are getting invites out this week (I'm really behind on this and my parents were out of town the last two weeks so my mom hasn't been here to keep on me to prepare a guest list).
@ajolly932 THANK YOU. I just had a similar talk with DH yesterday. He went out for a bachelor party on Saturday and stayed with a friend because he got pretty drunk. I'm fine with that. I suspected
My Monday Bitchfest is my boss. We had words last week where she accused me of being deliberately disrespectful and throwing it in her face that I'm here more than she is. (Which, needless to say, is not the case. I can't help it if she isn't here as much as she wants.) Then she was asking if I took a Facebook sabbatical because I haven't been very active on there and yesterday she asked if I still got her texts (when I just texted her Friday afternoon). I just so happened to be busy Friday night and Saturday when she texted me. None of it was pressing or work related either. She just overthinks everything and makes mountains out of molehills and I need some boundaries in my life.
@ryannenikole that is weird that she pays attention to your Facebook activity to notice a decrease. Do you work weekends? Sounds like boundaries need to be established but that is difficult when she's your boss.
@kelk5 I don't unless we have a seminar in a Saturday. I taught her kids voice and piano at a studio years ago and we ended up friends on FB, which is how I heard that she and her husband needed help in their office. It has been really great up until this summer and things just shifted. She has some health issues and that is a big part of why she hasn't been around. So I've actually been trying to be sensitive to that, even though flying solo in the office is hard sometimes. Her husband is a financial planner and we are admins. So the bulk of the day to day research for clients, paperwork, etc falls to me. I even busted my butt to make certain that our client information got transferred from one software program to our new one (something she made a huge deal of when she has been in). It's hard, but I've tried to be sensitive about it and as it turns out she decided I was being disrespectful this whole time. As soon as we can afford it, I'm going part time. This has just become too stressful. That's sad because I really enjoy my job (and they are letting me bring the baby to work, which is awesome) but she's just made it really frustrating and I don't feel like I can say anything because of her health issues.
Man I am all over this thread today but it's just been one of those days. I'm annoyed with myself because I misplaced a lab bill when I was cleaning the house before my friend's shower. It's like the thing has completely disappeared and I need the invoice number to pay it online. I decided I'd just call the lab to see if they could give me the invoice number and the wait time is 9 minutes! I hung up because I just don't have the time or patience. I'll just look at the house again tonight and if I still can't find it I'll call tomorrow and deal with a long wait time if I have to. But not today. Not today.
This is pretty minor, but i dropped my expensive pen that i use every day into the toilet, of course, after i had already gone number 1 AND number 2 and hadn't flushed yet. I fished it out and threw it away. There's no amount of cleaning possible where i'd feel comfortable using it again. So to treat myself, i got pumpkin and coffee ice cream at Whole Foods after lunch b/c i deserved it. Yum!
I moved to a new office at work- well, like 90% of the building did so it was mass chaos today. Luckily I had several people willing to help the pregnant lady out with arranging all my furniture so that was nice. I do like my new office but it's now in the back of the building instead of the front where the lobby is and no I have to walk soooo far to get clients to take back to my office. On the plus side, there's a bathroom 2 doors down!
MBF is me, because I am an idiot and should have known better. I took a leap and commented on my aunt's FB post about the whole NFL kneeling mess. Now one of my cousins is disagreeing with me, which I could deal with, except she keeps jumping around and arguing points that I didn't make, and it feels like she's just yelling slogans at me.
@ryannenikole, that sounds frustrating. It's hard when someone has health issues and you're trying to be sensitive and helpful but find out they don't see it that way. I hope you are able to go part-time soon. Hang in there.
@auntieraindrop Ugh, sorry to hear about the ear infection. I was put on antibiotics a week and a half ago for an ear infection too. I was absolutely miserable. They are seriously the worst!
Why is apartment living so expensive? I'm starting to look around and get on wait lists and it's just depressing. Plus there's my fear that we'll never be able to afford a house and it's the worst.
@schaze Renting is the worst. I hated having to live in an apartment as I felt we were throwing money down the drain. We managed to scrap together the necessary funds to buy a house this past April, but until then, I was seriously concerned DH and I would end up raising our kids in an apartment.
@bainidhedub this is almost me. My mother just posted about it on Facebook and it’s taking all my willpower to not say something. We’ve had a strained relationship until 2 years ago and we have always been opposites in our political views so it’s not surprising how she feels. It’s still frustrating.
@supercoolstephy It's just frustrating because like, I know there are plenty of people who disagree with me, and I don't have any expectations of changing their minds with a FB post, but I'm still usually willing to have a discussion and try to understand each other's views. But this cousin, and her brother and his wife too, always seem ready to duke it out except they make no fucking sense and I can't even have a conversation.
@bainidhedub I have a feeling that when people post super political stuff on FB, they already feel so strongly about it that they don't really WANT to have a discussion or hear your perspective (unless they assert their openness upfront). They just want you to "like" their opinion so they feel validated, or want you to take the bait -and then punish you and push you further into your own corner.
@auntieraindrop The only reason our office manager knows is because we needed pest control in, and gave them the laundry list of considerations (old cat, asthmatic child, pregnant lady). That said, I don't dislike our office. They can be a little flaky but tend to get the important stuff done.
@scatteringashes I may never mention it. We're month to month, it's illegal for him to discriminate based on family status, and we're way under occupancy restrictions for the property (it's a 5 bedroom house, with currently 4 occupants. Legally we could have 10: 2 per bedroom. The landlord could legally object to more roommates, but not to children under the occupancy limit.)
@auntieraindrop I love our landladies-they are so super nice and love DD, so they were super excited for us when we told them we were having another. I wouldn't think that you would have to tell your landlord though, especially if you're way under the restrictions!
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Fuckkkkkkkkk youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu.
Sincerely,
Sweating my ass off and also I might puke.
My complaining for today is all about how I have two online classes that have started today, and neither has sent out any emails with a syllabus or even a, "Hey, you start this class today, everything will be up later." The classes are open in our online system and just utterly empty. I'm hoping something will pop up at least before I go to class tonight because I want to start to feel out the workload.
AFM, my bitchfest is all in-law/family related, and possibly i'm being the bratty twatwaffle anyway.. I'm preface by saying that I love my in-laws. really, they're great people and we have a really good relationship (i realized this after reading some other ladies' posts on the bump about monster-in-laws and crazy absurd drama.) So, my sister-in-law lives about 45 minutes away, and HER in-laws live a few blocks away from them. Her in-laws can be...."nice people".....but they don't have a lot of friends and usually one or both of them are bitching and complaining about one thing or another whenever we see them. They both have had some significant health issues in the past couple years that make it hard for them to leave the house now, and that just exacerbates their complaining. DH and I are always invited to go over to their house for the High Holidays or Passover or big dinners, which is very generous and sometimes there's no drama when we go. That said, I just don't really care for these people. I've been scolded for stupid or no reasons, they're passive aggressive sometimes, and downright nasty at other times. They bullied their way into getting an invite to our wedding, cause they were complaining that they don't ever get invited to family events (my in-laws - SIL's parents - can't stand them, and it pisses them off that they actually get along with my parents, too). They consider themselves part of our family, even though they're my in-law's in-laws.
To the point, yesterday DH gets a call from his mom, telling him that i need to invite these people (my SIL's MIL and SIL) to my baby shower. The RSVPs are due today, so it'll be obvious that they were invited after-the-fact. But my MIL's reasoning? That they will bitch and complain and will make my SIL's life hell that i "purposefully excluded them."
These people are not my family, I'm not close to them, and I can barely stand them - am i in the right to say "no, they're not invited," or should i suck it up and invite them just "so it won't cause any problems"?
My BFM is just MONDAY. This morning my dogs woke up at 4:30 barking and playing rough in the bedroom, and I woke up and grouched at them but it didn't really register that if they were awake they needed to go out. We have a six month old puppy and he peed himself in protest, the hubby grouched at me for not taking them out right away. (He apologized, neither of us is at our best when tired.) So I dragged my carcass out of bed and took them outside, then went back to bed (to a very snuggly, apologetic hubby who'd realized what an ass he'd just been) and tried to go back to sleep.
Dreamed my doctor came to my house to treat an ear infection. She told me I had mashed potato in my ears and we needed to flush it out, and proceeded to stick my head in the toilet and flush it out.
Woke up from that unpleasant dream to find out that I really was having ear pain/congestion and it's on my good side (I have hearing loss on the right and wear aids to correct it) so I can't hear a damn thing today, I feel like I'm in an isolation tank or something, and I have to go to the doctor to get it checked out at my lunch break.
Got up to dress for work, that damn dog had PEED on my good bra! so I am braless, wearing just lily padz and a tank top under my dress, and I am also commando, because dammit this morning was not a morning where I had ANY mental energy to spare for which underwear still fit and are clean. And they're probably going to want to hike up my skirt to doppler me at my earache check and I'm going to have to tell a bunch of people I'm commando at work in a knee length skirt.
Make it stop.
My Monday Bitch Fest is about people taking advantage of me as the DD (designated driver) but then bitching when I want to leave and taking forever to leave. We had my niece's 4th birthday party on Saturday and I drove my husband, his sister and her son. I got stung by a bee, first time ever, and was freaking out. Luckily I did not have a reaction but I was done and wanted to leave. They had too much to drink, so I still had to drive home after taking benadryl and trying to hold an ice pack on my arm. I made sure my husband knows that just because I am sober and will drive you places does not mean you can shirk all responsibility. You never know what can happen.
Similar to your situation: I'm worried about potentially having to invite my SIL's parents to our co-ed baby shower/party because they just moved in with my brother and SIL (terrible idea in my opinion). Also, my SIL is helping my mom with hosting my baby shower. I don't want to invite them but worry that someone will ask me to and then it's the risk of offending my SIL, who I already have a fragile relationship with. I didn't invite them to my wedding so I'm hoping no one asks. I also worry that my SIL's mom might try to sabotage it in some way (she has done this with my family's holidays in the past -trying to double book them, make them leave early, or do something to delay my brother's family from joining us). The party is going to be in November so we are getting invites out this week (I'm really behind on this and my parents were out of town the last two weeks so my mom hasn't been here to keep on me to prepare a guest list).
My Monday Bitchfest is my boss. We had words last week where she accused me of being deliberately disrespectful and throwing it in her face that I'm here more than she is. (Which, needless to say, is not the case. I can't help it if she isn't here as much as she wants.) Then she was asking if I took a Facebook sabbatical because I haven't been very active on there and yesterday she asked if I still got her texts (when I just texted her Friday afternoon). I just so happened to be busy Friday night and Saturday when she texted me. None of it was pressing or work related either. She just overthinks everything and makes mountains out of molehills and I need some boundaries in my life.
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I haven't told our landlord we're pregnant yet. Technically I don't have to under our state law. He's... a jerk, and I don't want to deal with it.