Everyone, since we are all already moms or on our way to being moms, let me share some "don't be a TW advice": If your son is 18 (almost 19!) years old, do not feel the need to log into his college Canvas site, go through EVERY assignment, and then call/email his academic coordinator in a total panic because one (zero point!) assignment is late. Generally, STOP. OMG this lady is eating up so much of my time for NO reason... she has totally infantilized her grown son to the point that he acts entirely helpless. Just no.
PS I am not in a bad mood (yet!) today, but this needs to stop... TW=helicopter parents.
@EmilyLove25 I totally agree with the helicopter parenting. It's outrageous. And definitely influencing the "extended adolescence" that is actually extending into the 30s! Ugh.
My TW goes to my cat. I love him, but he can be annoying as s&*^ sometimes. One of those times was last night. DH and I had a lot of issues sleeping on Sunday night, so last night decided to go to bed early. Well, our cat did not approve, and sat outside our bedroom meowing at around 1am. I ended up getting up after ignoring him for about 10 mins to squirt him with a water gun (we keep little ones lying around the house to spray naughty pets), which helped... but seriously, this habit he has gotten in of crying outside our bedroom door at night is not acceptable. DH is threatening to throw him in the dryer if he wakes up our son with his obnoxious meowing (which obviously he would never do but is fed up with him); but we live in a single story house so isolating him from the baby is almost impossible. I have no idea what we are going to do.
@darkrose88 I wish I had advice, but I can somewhat commiserate. Mine is my pup, though. He is the most jealous dog I have ever met and if anyone is even remotely touching, he tries to get in between the two people to get the attention. I am worried about how he is going to react to people holding the baby. I am already stressing myself out trying to figure out what to do.
He is also my TW because he decided to go to the bathroom in his cage AGAIN. Second time this week. SO is out of town, which means I have to clean him and his cage, while trying to keep DD occupied. Good thing he is so dang cute!
@EmilyLove25 that is ridiculous and somewhat freaky. Don't ferpa laws protect this kid, or does he literally share his passwords and stuff? As a faculty member, I'm not allowed to respond to parents unless their kid initiates and waives all rights (essentially).
Just Ewww for the amount of controlling she is. I assume there is a background to why she is over monitoring, but it's probably just the helicopter thing (which I find so undermining, despite parents' best intentions).
@darkrose88 I feel for you! Kitties meowing and pawing doors makes it hard to sleep and it's so easy to get extra annoyed when you're exhausted and trying to sleep!
@EmilyLove25 I absolutely cannot understand that shit. Like, how do people have that much time to not let their kids become adults. You have to let your kids fail sometimes, and it will suck to do it, but thats part of growing up. This is also why I can't stand participation trophies, they didn't win, not everyone gets a trophy. But I'm sure that belongs in the UO board.
@darkrose88 my cats do the same thing. I wear ear plugs and turn up the baby monitor so I can hear him easily, but not my dumb cats. They also claw at the carpet outside my door. It is so bad that they've ripped about 4 inches of carpet from below the doorway. I can't wait to get wood floors soon. hah. We also have spray bottles. I joke with DH about spraying DS when he's bad... I don't but he acts like a cat sometimes so I find it funny. DH does not.
@EmilyLove25 I hear you on helicopter parents. I work in a college bookstore and the number of parents who are micromanaging every aspect of their kids' college experience is absurd.
I'm giving this Tuesday to fuckin' parenting books that assume my husband (and anyone else's) is a complete dolt, who has no concept of empathy, nurturing instinct, or common sense. We have two pregnancy books kicking around the house: the copy of What to Expect that our insurance sent us, which we keep downstairs out of sheer laziness, and a copy of The Expectant Father that his cousins' lent us. And it's fascinating to me how little information there is for fathers in What to Expect, and how all of it assumes that the father has not been involved and needs to be told that pregnancy is hard. The most content in the book earmarked "for the dads" is in the chapter that focuses on sex during pregnancy.
Like, I try to pull back and think about What to Expect from a historical standpoint -- fathers haven't traditionally been involved pregnancy and childbirth, and husbands being equal partners in the pregnancy is, historically speaking, a new trend. And demographically, more women are buying it. But it's been updated with a new enough information to talk about smartphone and computer usage, so it should be able to be more inclusive of the fact that my husband is smart enough to do the laundry. (I also get annoyed by the book's assumption that I am a delicate gestating flower, but that's a different issue, lol.)
Teal deer: it's a useful book for straight information sometimes, and we've gotten stuff out of it, but yeesh, it annoys me at times. Also, The Expectant Father is a pretty solid book.
@EmilyLove25 ew, people actually do that?? How do you expect your kid to survive on his/her own in the real world if you're constantly babying them? I don't get it.
Work is my TW today. It's back to school night...ugh! I think it's kind of inhumane to make us teach the whole day, and then come back and deal with parents barraging us with questions/comments/concerns until 8pm. I'm with you on the helicopter parenting, @EmilyLove25. Solidarity! I spend most back to school nights internally rolling my eyes while I deal with parents.
My TW is me. I screwed up literally every facet of leaving the house today, and as a result my day has been horrid. I overslept, I didn't get a chance to shower, the dog had to pee so bad he leaked on his way out and peed on my foot. I put my shirt on inside out and also wore the wrong glasses (old prescription!) and didn't even notice until I was halfway to work. I left my bag with my all important BP meds inside at home and I even forgot the aux cable that lets me listen to my audiobook in the car!
So I've been exhausted, dizzy from the glasses, and headachy all day, plus I had to spend my lunch break running home to get my meds and didn't get a chance to eat properly and now I am disgruntled.
@supercoolstephy wow my cat may be obnoxious, but he has yet to be destructive... at least to the flooring. And I totally think water bottles are a necessity as a cat owner. Our cat is very obstinate and refuses to listen/acknowledge us half the time, but he won't ignore the water bottle.
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PS I am not in a bad mood (yet!) today, but this needs to stop... TW=helicopter parents.
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He is also my TW because he decided to go to the bathroom in his cage AGAIN. Second time this week. SO is out of town, which means I have to clean him and his cage, while trying to keep DD occupied. Good thing he is so dang cute!
Just Ewww for the amount of controlling she is. I assume there is a background to why she is over monitoring, but it's probably just the helicopter thing (which I find so undermining, despite parents' best intentions).
@darkrose88 I feel for you! Kitties meowing and pawing doors makes it hard to sleep and it's so easy to get extra annoyed when you're exhausted and trying to sleep!
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I'm giving this Tuesday to fuckin' parenting books that assume my husband (and anyone else's) is a complete dolt, who has no concept of empathy, nurturing instinct, or common sense. We have two pregnancy books kicking around the house: the copy of What to Expect that our insurance sent us, which we keep downstairs out of sheer laziness, and a copy of The Expectant Father that his cousins' lent us. And it's fascinating to me how little information there is for fathers in What to Expect, and how all of it assumes that the father has not been involved and needs to be told that pregnancy is hard. The most content in the book earmarked "for the dads" is in the chapter that focuses on sex during pregnancy.
Like, I try to pull back and think about What to Expect from a historical standpoint -- fathers haven't traditionally been involved pregnancy and childbirth, and husbands being equal partners in the pregnancy is, historically speaking, a new trend. And demographically, more women are buying it. But it's been updated with a new enough information to talk about smartphone and computer usage, so it should be able to be more inclusive of the fact that my husband is smart enough to do the laundry. (I also get annoyed by the book's assumption that I am a delicate gestating flower, but that's a different issue, lol.)
Teal deer: it's a useful book for straight information sometimes, and we've gotten stuff out of it, but yeesh, it annoys me at times. Also, The Expectant Father is a pretty solid book.
It's back to school night...ugh! I think it's kind of inhumane to make us teach the whole day, and then come back and deal with parents barraging us with questions/comments/concerns until 8pm. I'm with you on the helicopter parenting, @EmilyLove25. Solidarity! I spend most back to school nights internally rolling my eyes while I deal with parents.
My TW is me. I screwed up literally every facet of leaving the house today, and as a result my day has been horrid. I overslept, I didn't get a chance to shower, the dog had to pee so bad he leaked on his way out and peed on my foot. I put my shirt on inside out and also wore the wrong glasses (old prescription!) and didn't even notice until I was halfway to work. I left my bag with my all important BP meds inside at home and I even forgot the aux cable that lets me listen to my audiobook in the car!
So I've been exhausted, dizzy from the glasses, and headachy all day, plus I had to spend my lunch break running home to get my meds and didn't get a chance to eat properly and now I am disgruntled.