MBF/Magnificent Monday 9/11

breezybee · September 2017

Lets hear it

breezybee · September 2017

It's only 7:41am and I am already just so annoyed. My husband woke me up at 6:30 because he had to be up and cannot possibly be considerate of other people who are still sleeping. He loud AF and will not stop talking to me about our remodel project that we've already discussed in depth about 50 time s over the weekend.
He has to go meet our contractors at the new house because they start demo today and apparently, even though he was with me all weekend, and made a list of items with me for things we'd like to do in this new house, he can't remember a GODAMN thing that was discussed. Omg dude. You were there! Then he's complaining about how long the list is, then he's complaining that he can't find his new house key that I handed him Saturday, then he's complaining about not having time to get coffee, omfg the list goes on and on. I really don't know how he would function without me sometimes. Seriously.
Anyway, whatever, he always gets like this before a remodel - and we've done many - so at least I know what his problem is and can ignore him.
AFM, the reason I couldn't go was because I have back to back appointments to see my babies today and I'm bringing my mom

She hasn't been to an US with me, so I thought it would be fun for her since my DARLING HUSBAND can't go.

OMFG he just called me and said that he forgot to bring everything I made for him with the plans and the check for the contractor and the specs for the new appliances here at home. I spent an hour getting this shit together for him and he couldn't even fucking bring it. OMFGOMFGOMFGOMDG. And he said it was my fault because he was too busy fighting with me!!!!!! Wtf?!

This is the longest MBF I've ever written, so at least it served its purpose for today!

I seriously hate him right now.

MJDsquared · September 2017

@breezybee Oh my god I would be SO irritated. My MBF is very tame by comparison.

Every football season, without fail, DH tells me every little football fact going on. Like, "This guy got hurt and is out for the season. It's his fourth year and this has happened to him every year, he's played like five games total." Yesterday I was trying to read during the Packers/Seahawks game (he's a Packers fan) and he still kept talking to me. I'm like, dude, I'm being nice enough to be in the same room as you. Please talk to me a little less (it was like every two minutes, I swear, and then he gets mad if I seem annoyed/seem like I'm not listening). And then all the facts about everything else...OMG, I care less than 0% and these are going in one ear and out the other!

breezybee · September 2017

Hahaha @MJDsquared why don't they understand that we really don't care. Lol, I'm just sitting here to be nice, bro, I don't need any commentary.
Although, I totally do this with all housewives shows, and my husband can sometimes be a good sport about it. But let's be real, Housewives are way more interesting than football stats.

flowerpower5838 · September 2017

DH and I cannot agree on a name for this child. ACTUALLY we do agree on a name, just not the spelling and I am going to freak the fuck out if we have to trash it because neither of us will compromise. I am gestating this kid, so I am sorrynotsorry but I get final say. I even offered him final naming rights (after a narrowing down period) for baby 3 name and he scoffed. WHAT IN THE ACTUAL FUCK. We are no closer than we were a month ago. There are two other names that we both like so I just need to know if he is absolutely NOT going to go for my spelling so we can trash this name and decide between the other two or if I should keep trying to wear him down. I have said I cannot and will not compromise but he has yet to say the same with conviction.

I am just so annoyed. I'm having a hard time connecting with this baby and I feel like if she had a name it would help. I am obviously not going to project that on DH, but I just want to be done with this conversation.

ETA: sorry names are not a secret lol. We are fighting over Norah vs Nora. I like Norah. He was originally presented with Norah and that's when we decided that was our current #1 then all of the sudden he was SUPER anti "h". Nora, just IMO looks incomplete and like a NN. IDK why I am SO anti no h, but it just doesn't resonate with me the way Norah does.

clovelyone · September 2017

@breezybee Gees, what a morning! Your hubby will also get an early TW Tuesday award. I mean, WTF, Paul???

flowerpower5838 · September 2017

breezybee @mjdsquared I was just doing this with DH and BiP lol. He is like secretly into it though so I "pretend" to annoy him with the back story while he "pretends" to be annoyed even though it's totally his guilty pleasure.

MJDsquared · September 2017

@breezybee @flowerpower5838 I definitely don't think that's as bad. I mean, there are 32 NFL teams and apparently like 53 dudes on each team (not that all of them really play, but even if they don't play, sometimes there's still a 'fun' factoid waiting for me...). And then he'll also use one of those betting apps and he tells me ALL of his bets and if he won/lost and, "Oh I just need X team to score 3 more points and I win!" and I'm like STOP IT. Hahaha.

casace · September 2017

@flowerpower5838 I am with you on the "h". Looks nicer. My husband as been pressuring me to finalize a name...I am opposite of you and could care less at this point. I tell him kids go a few days after being born still with no names, we got time, we'll be fine. No idea why but it's not stressing me out this time around. But he's stressing me out asking every other day if we have a name.

failuretofly · September 2017

We are on our last day visiting family and EVERYTHING my mom does is IRRITATING THE FUCK OUT OF ME.
Like she files her nails sitting on the couch beside me... Then she takes DS FOR a walk like 5 minutes before his nap time... and I dunno... Just everything. Every time we visit it just reinforces why we don't live here anymore. My whole family drives me nuts.
I CAN'T WAIT TO GO HOME!

cait5413 · September 2017

Magnificent Monday here. I had a pre-natal massage this morning and DH and I have a date night tonight at this dessert event. I think it will be a lot of fun!

Marley629 · September 2017

My MBF is Also DH. I spent the whole weekend on the go for a wedding I was in and hell, I was a trooper. I trekked up and down hills in boots in a farm, I stood for hours for pictures and the ceremony - including the jumping pictures and running pictures the bride wanted. But by Saturday evening I was in PAIN! Yesterday, we went to a BBQ and I tried to relax but not much you can do to relax with a 3 year old. Sooo today I decided to use one of f my many sick days left to relax. DS1 is in school/daycare all day. I just wanted to hang out it in bed and watch General Hospital and Big Brother,..but nope...DH is all like, well since your home, you can continue to pack the house (in process of a move). Can't a girl just Be lazy 1 day? @breezybee I don't know how you do it with 2 little ones on board. I've packed two boxes so far today and I'm over it. I want my bed lol.

rainbowdashh · September 2017

FIL and his wife have been here since Thursday and I really just need them to
go away. Right now. Of course today I'm on my own entertaining them because my husband is at work. I DONT WANT TO.

katiegeminimoon · September 2017

@marley629 I would tell DH to shove it and enjoy your day off! You deserve it!

flowerpower5838 · September 2017

Annndddd Nora/h has officially been tabled. I am equal parts sad and ready to move on.

peachy13 · September 2017

@breezybee omg haha. We are doing some work to the house too and I'm SO SICK of hearing about it.

MBF: For the first time this pregnancy, I had to stand on the subway this morning. I honestly didn't mind (though I was definitely judging the people sitting around me for trying very hard to avoid eye contact with me... assholes), but then I did mind when I started to get a little hot and light-headed and really wanted a seat. What am I supposed to do, approach a sitting passenger and kick them out? I got off at the next stop and sat until a less-full train approached and I was able to get a seat, but I was pretty annoyed.

MM: 3 hour glucose test results came back fine, phew

Piccola1988 · September 2017

My MBF is our office manager, who is apparently wildly concerned that I'm going to explode and release a baby in the office when everyone least expects it. She keeps making comments about how big my belly is compared to her SIL who's due around the same time, which ok yeah probably, but I'm a tiny tiny person so obviously the baby sticks out more because there's nowhere else for him to go. I'm in a tighter dress today and she pinged my boss asking when I was due, which I know she knows because as I said before, she keeps comparing me to her SIL. SO... she's obviously asking because she thinks I look too pregnant.

Not actually a big deal, but it's getting under my skin and I found the message to my boss wildly unnecessary. Also it's Monday so I'm cranky just on the basis of that. Stay out of my business!

breezybee · September 2017

@Piccola1988 why doesn't she care so much? How bizarre.
@Marley629 haha, the answer is: I haven't done a damn thing as far as packing goes lol. I'm putting it off until the last 2 weeks of the month!
@cait5413 Thats exactly what I need right now. Consider a prenatal massage booked!

kickball7091 · September 2017

I have a pretty sweet MM this week: I work in a city with practically no parking, and had requested parking consideration from my University because I'm a) in my 3rd trimester and LARGE and b) had PTL symptoms at 33 weeks with my past pregnancy. I just got confirmation today that I not only got a parking spot, I got one about 30 feet from my front door.

mdcd44127 · September 2017

MM credit to my DH, who went to lunch with his coworkers at our favorite Mexican restaurant but felt bad that I wasn't going so he brought me back a bag of chips and salsa. I'm in heaven.

@peachy13 I agree it's too awkward to go up to someone and demand their seat, but I'm not above glaring pointedly at each person until they accidentally look up and lock eyes with me. Even if they never look up, you can tell they can feel the stare and it makes them super uncomfortable.

@flowerpower5838 That's a huge bummer, I think the name Norah is beautiful. Boo to your DH for not wanting to compromise, I hope you guys can agree on another lovely name.

@kvacmak & @rainbowdashh Being around family has been trying my patience so badly lately, I feel for you both. I just want life to be comfortable and predictable as I venture into the 3rd tri, anything outside of my normal routine (aka anything family-related) drives me batty.

@Piccola1988 I'm so sorry for your irritating office manager, that was a total BS move on her part. I hope your boss tells her to mind her own damn business.

kaylawing · September 2017

@flowerpower5838 what a bummer. I love that name and both spellings!

My MM is that I finally found maternity jeans that fit. I'd been putting off ordering any from gap or old navy because I vary so much in sizing and really just wanted to be able to try on. I found some a kohls of all places today and I'm thrilled. I bought two pair.

MBF: I called DH to proclaim my excitement over said jeans (he's been listening to me complain about finding maternity clothes that fit well now that a lot of stores are online only for maternity) and he said "But why did you get two pair? Isn't one enough? That price is kinda high for pants you will only wear until December." Uggghh

lavashiner · September 2017

@peachy13 I totally ask people to get up for me! I have no shame! I hate when people preteens not to see other riders who obviously need a seat.

During my first pregnancy I rarely asked people to move, but now I have little patience and a ton of pelvic bone pain, so yeah, able-bodied and relatively young person on the train, I will be asking you for a seat. I'm in SF, though, and both buses and trains have spots set aside for elderly, disabled, and preggos, so it is easier to be bold and ask.

skc040512 · September 2017

@kaylawing If DH said that to me, I'd tell him he was only allowed to wear 1 pair of pants from now until the baby was born. I've just stopped telling my DH when I buy new maternity stuff

breezybee · September 2017

@lavashiner I was on MUNI the other day and was wondering if preggos could sit in those front seats. Good to know.

elcd458 · September 2017

Oh gosh ladies, all your dodo-brained-DH stories are putting my minor DH grievances into perspective today! Best of luck talking some sense into those rascals!

Edit: department of redundancy department

breezybee · September 2017

Update: my husband has totally calmed down and has been lying in bed with me rubbing my back for the better part of an hour. There you go, DH. Welcome back.
And my US went great and babies are doing wonderfully

MAGNIFICENT MONDAAAAAYYYYY!

kyrwyn · September 2017

My MBF is for whatever stomach flu/bug/irritation I caught. I woke up an hour early with sharp tummy pains, then couldn't keep breakfast or even water down this morning -- and skipping meals is a no-no with insulin -- so I got to spend most of my day in triage. After a couple liters of IV fluids, I could keep down crackers and PB, and got to go home. DH was amazing. I texted him that I needed him to come home (about 10 minutes after he got to work) and he came right back, and helped with everything even though I know it costs him PTO he's trying to save for after kiddo is born.

clovelyone · September 2017

My MBF is my SO just started working midnights tonight for the next 4 months. Of course, he can't help it, it's just part of this stupid job that they have him doing because they are short on people in another area. I knew he was switching shifts, but didn't know it would be for that long. Oh, and in this area, they work 12 hour days rather than 8. Now, I'm going to basically be a single mom with twins when they are born in November (but I still wanted to be in the Dec BMB). I'm all emotional because I miss him already (LOL, I have to laugh at myself and blame that on the hormones). Plus, this just sucks all around and I'm a little terrified of not having him here at night. I'm sure my mom and his mom will help during the day, but I have a feeling I'll be getting even less sleep than I thought come November.

mdcd44127 · September 2017

@clovelyone Ugh, I'm so sorry. My DH did 12-hour overnights for a few years and it sucked, I can't imagine him doing it now with the baby coming. I assume it's a rotating shift? In that case, the consolation I can give you is that with no 5-day weeks, you actually do still get a decent amount of time together, and hopefully he'll be able to help you out with feedings/changings on the nights he's home and you need the extra sleep. You'll get through this, mama. All the sympathy hugs.

clovelyone · September 2017

Thanks, @djd0404, but he'll still be working 5 days

. For a couple of weeks, they might do 4 days, but that won't be permanent as of right now. I guess we'll see. That would make it a little bit better, but still sucks LOL.

Marley629 · September 2017

Ugh I'm sorry!! I know your pain (kinda/sort of) @clovelyone. My husband works 24 hour shifts. having to do it with 2 babies and for multiple nights in a row will be tough but I have no doubts that you can handle it! Hopefully you guys can get into a good rhythm quickly. Will he be able to take any time off when the babies come to help the adjustment period?

cait5413 · September 2017

@clovelyone Hope he is at least getting some awesome overtime working 60 hour weeks--that totally sucks. Did you get any guarantee that after these 4 months he'll be back on a normal shift for a certain period of time?

mdcd44127 · September 2017

@clovelyone Uuugh, that sucks, I'm so sorry.

I hope the time passes quickly and you guys can get back into a normal schedule. Definitely lean on your mom/MIL for as much help as you need. Even more creepy internet hugs.

clovelyone · September 2017

Thanks, ladies!

@Marley629 He will take off 2 weeks when the babies are born.

@cait5413 He loves the OT, I would rather have him here. We aren't struggling so we'd be fine without it. However, I guess it is a blessing that he's able to stash extra cash especially since we will have two babies. It would really suck if he weren't getting extra pay. The shifts rotate so yes, he will go back to days and hopefully back to the job he's supposed to be doing on days.

@djd0404 I'm such a hugger IRL so thanks for the internet hugs! I will definitely take all the help I can get.

Mandayno · September 2017

@clovelyone I can feel for you too! Both my husband and I are on night shift right now, I work the 12 hour night shift, and he works an 8 hour night shift. Right now it works of us, because we are both on the same shift. I too am worried about once the baby is here and I'm off work though being home all alone at night getting up with the baby. I can't even imagine for you having two babies at night alone, and for four months. I know too that you got this, and you will do amazing!!!

clovelyone · September 2017

@Mandayno Thanks for the encouraging words! I'm trying to tell myself it is what it is and there are single moms who have done it, even with twins. I just wish I had more of a maternity leave. I will get 6 weeks paid, but with it being a small company I know they don't want me to take more than that. By that time, SO should be back om days, but I feel like that will be rough.

Mandayno · September 2017

@clovelyone ugh yes we only get six weeks too. I have a hard enough time trying to figure out how to get in a routine in six weeks, let alone you having two and your husband then changing shifts again. That will completely change your routine all over again! I feel for you!

eazybreezy225 · September 2017

Ok, I know it's Friday and in a few days a new MBF thread will start... But I just can't any more.

My MIL has been in town for FIVE WEEKS now. It's not quite so bad, considering we don't have room for her here, so she sleeps at BILs house.. But they live next door to us (No joke) so, she walks over whenever she wants to spend time with us... which is basically every day.
She was supposed to go home 9 days ago, but thanks to good old Hurricane Irma, she decided to change her ticket out by one week so she wouldn't be there for the storm. Which was understandable and I'm glad she stayed safe here... But then she got word that they were probably going to cancel her flight, so she changed her plane ticket again, to fly home this up coming Wednesday.
But now, she might change her ticket AGAIN, for no reason other than she doesn't want my SIL to drive her to the airport because she feels she's a horrible driver... for real.
So BIL suggested she drive the car with SIL as a passenger... problem solved, right? No. My MIL prefers to be chauffeured. She claims the vehicle (a suburban) is too big to drive! (Wtf?)
She also has this super weird phobia about driving cars that might "break down" if she drives them longer than 30 minutes on the highway, the car must be brand new for her to be ok... so she is also claiming that she doesn't think the car will make the hour and a half drive to the Vegas airport... despite the fact that this same car drove 10 hours round trip to a family wedding 3 weeks ago with her as a passenger.
UGH I do not understand her logic at all...
Even worse is that she's coming right back in November and staying until after the new year!! So that's another 8+ week visit.
I just... I just can't.

txmomma16 · September 2017

@eazybreezy225 Oh man. You are far more patient than I am. My MIL lives about an hour and a half away and comes to stay with us for a weekend about once a month. By the end of the weekend I am ready for her to go.

WOW. I wish you the strength to hold strong until she leaves.

clovelyone · September 2017

@Mandayno I can't remember if you've seen my post in the maternity leave post, but my manager just told me on Thursday that I can take up to 12 weeks and will get full pay for 8 weeks! That will help so much! I'm sorry that you only get 6 weeks. I think the US really needs to catch up with the rest of the world when it comes to maternity leave.

Mandayno · September 2017

@clovelyone oh sorry about that! I misunderstood something somewhere. I am very happy you can have 8 weeks paid and take 12 if you would like! That does help a lot!!!! And YES I 100% agree that the US is slacking a lot with maternity leave and post-delivery care to women/babies!

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