UO - 9/14

GraceUponGrace09 · September 2017

What's your unpopular opinion on this Thursday?

livingoffpbjs · September 2017

I have a pretty good one but I feel like I would get so much backlash that maybe I should hold it for tomorrows FFFC......

auntieraindrop · September 2017

Here's one. I'm so sick of all foods being slathered in spicy sauce. Jalapeno, chipotle, sriracha, can't I just get a cheeseburger?

gusgus14 · September 2017

@livingoffpbjs - I feel like if it's going to cause backlash it'll happen whether it's here or FFFC so you may as well go ahead and spill

sonalisharma · September 2017

Yesss...to above... For a change... Let's have some DRAMA ladies

ryannenikole · September 2017

Also, I cannot stand it when adults say things like "tinkle" when referring to their own bathroom habits. For the love of God. My boss' wife does it and it's like nails on chalkboard.

tdevlindrye · September 2017

@livingoffpbjs ...

GraceUponGrace09 · September 2017

I'm always disappointed by our UO and FFFC threads. Other BMBs are so much more entertaining. Of course I blame no one since I usually can't think of anything juice for either one.

Here's a super tame one: I can't stand most store bought ranch. Homemade? I nearly want to drink it. Why can't they make the good stuff?

mauera07 · September 2017

I think alcohol is overrated.

gusgus14 · September 2017

I think sex is overrated (and yes, I have had an orgasm).

I don't have any problem with piercing a baby's ears but I'm not sure if we'll have Dessa's pierced.

I think cheating should be a zero tolerance offense in every relationship.

missblaze · September 2017

@GraceUponGrace09 So funny about the ranch - my sister and I were just talking about this exact thing today.

caseyw8784 · September 2017

@GraceUponGrace09 - i only like the "full fat" store kind...the low fat or fat free are so gross! i've never actually had homemade...might have to try it!

ryannenikole · September 2017

@caseyw8784 I have a recipe for that! Lol. You can make it dairy free if you need that option and I looove it. Let me know if you want it! If anyone wondered, homemade ranch is da bomb and so much better.

@gusgus14 I tend to agree on the cheating. Although I know each couple is different. I just don't see myself being able to get over something like that.

(Edited because I'm so damned scatterbrained.)

burnsmommy27 · September 2017

I'll play. I'm not sure about unpopular but certainly controversial

1. When both of my girls start thier period they will be taken to get birth control

2. If my girls want to try alcohol before 21 they will be aloud as long as it is at home and myself or my husband are present.

ryannenikole · September 2017

@burnsmommy27 I agree on the alcohol. I'd rather that than them sneaking behind my back. Also, modeling responsible behavior is a big one!

And bravo on the birth control too! If I have a daughter I will give her a much better education on her body and sex than I received. I'm not 100% certain that will involve hormonal birth control (because I tend to be more "crunchy") but she will definitely receive an actual education. Unlike myself. Lol.

gilsam1 · September 2017

@burnsmommy27 I would have been horrified at age 13 talking about birth control haha, but then I wasn't into boys until I was 17 and didn't lose my virginity until 22, so I was really not that into it anyways. And in other related news, I agree with @gusgus14 , I'm not that into sex. I could go the rest of my life without having sex again (seriously) and I've also had an orgasm before. Just not really into it and I have a really low libido I guess. *shrug*

caseyw8784 · September 2017

@burnsmommy27 - i agree on the alcohol. i grew up with my parents allowing me to have a small glass of wine or taste their drinks at dinners (or the passover seder, where the maneshevitz tastes like grape juice anyways!) so i never felt like i needed to drink behind their backs.

burnsmommy27 · September 2017

@ryannenikole yes I was raised in a super conservative and sheltered Christian home. I knew Zero about my body and sex.

@gilsam1 I plan on it going "congrats you got your period now you get birth control" but like you I didn't even kiss a boy until 17

Because of these things I got myself into some very dangerous situations when I got a bit of freedom. I don't want that for my girls

CANTW82BMOM · September 2017

@burnsmommy27 I agree soooooo much with all of that. My mom took me to get birth control when I was 14 after a scare and I'm so glad she did. I definitely engaged in some risky behavior as a teen and in my early 20s. I'm a firm believer that for the most part kids are going to do what they want to do so I'd rather be safe than sorry. I think if I had a girl I'd be doing the same thing you are.

supercoolstephy · September 2017

@burnsmommy27 I had my first period at ten. Ugh. But I went on bcp when I was about 13-14 because I had rediculous cramps and periods. I also plan on having this new baby on bcp when she starts. I found it to be incredibly helpful and would hope that would be the same case with her.

sonalisharma · September 2017

I am sorry for being so dumb, and not knowing if I can ask about this here... but since this topic is going on and I have 2 daughters, would like to know if the hormonal bcp does stop the periods for a slot of six months or more, or something like this, or does it minimizes the frequency, as I have no idea, just read on google, but would like to hear from someone who has used it... For my better understanding.
And to add: also didn't have any knowledge about my body or sex until my friends had periods before me and got to know from them... Whatever i knew till my marriage. Parents don't talk about this openly here... Quite a few do discuss, but would b just 35%, rest leave it for time to teach.

sonalisharma · September 2017

And.... Very eagerly waiting for the FFFC thread

sonalisharma · September 2017

Is wanting to read an over dramatic thread for a week counted as “ Pregnancy Craving". My UO: definitely YES

missblaze · September 2017

@sonalisharma The hormonal BCPs that I've taken in the past have not eliminated periods. There are other kinds of birth control that do that, but not the pills (at least the ones that I've taken). The pills usually have a few weeks of hormone pills and then a week of sugar pills. The hormone pills do a number of things - some of them prevent ovulation, they also impact uterine lining to prevent any egg from attaching, etc. When you reach the non-hormone sugar pills, your body responds with your period. **This is how the BCPs that I used worked; not sure about the full range of options out there though.

babymakes9 · September 2017

@burnsmommy27 i agree with the alcohol, but I'm wondering what your reasoning is on birth control? How old are your daughters now?

I have a 14 year old daughter. She has her Period, I would NEVER take her to get put on the pill just because. Imo, it sends the wrong message about sex, it is also very bad for young girls bodies. The hormones in it mess with there own natural hormones. Just because your parents didn't talk to you about sex, doesn't mean you can't talk to your kids. I have discussions with both her and her 16 yo brother all the time about sex, and relationships and choices and options. But we have had talks like this for years. I talk to my 10 yo dd and 12 yo ds about these things as well, just not in as much detail or as often.

That being said, i started taking the pill as a teenager because of massive cramps, and feel that it had some lasting effects on my body, and its not something i would advocate. If she was sexually active or considering becoming sexually active then i would steer her more towards a non hormonal option, and condoms. Always condoms.

missblaze · September 2017

@burnsmommy27 @mamaof5already While I do agree that there are some concerns about putting young girls on hormones, I absolutely do not agree that putting your daughter on birth control sends the wrong message. I think the context is very important, as well as the conversations you have with your daughter around sex and birth control itself. In my opinion, putting your daughter on birth control is not giving permission for sex, but instead send the message that you care and want her to be protected (this would obviously go hand-in-hand with a conversation about condoms and other ways to protect herself).

I think that you can do both - have talks about sex and also take precautions. Teenagers are by their very nature impulsive and, given that their frontal lobes are not fully developed, they do not always make the best decisions, no matter how many conversations you have with them.

Not to mention, sexual assault is all too common, so there's that.

auntieraindrop · September 2017

Along with the alcohol and birth control, I live in a recreational marijuana state. We have some negotiation to do about the appropriate age, but I'm pretty sure if our kiddo is interested (and he might be, my husband is a performer and so we are involved in a lot of festival culture) he will probably get an introduction to weed from Dad at home where I know he's not driving or mixing it with alcohol or doing other dangerous things.

Well if that's not a UO, I don't have any. ><

mauera07 · September 2017

I agree with @missblaze. I was your stereotypical goodie goodie in high school but that did not stop me from engaging in risky behavior. Hormones make you think lots of things are a good idea in the moment!
Probably another UO but I don't believe in telling your children that they cannot have sex. By that I'm not saying to encourage it, but to give them all the info and resource they need and also reinforcing their own body autonomy. I don't want my son or daughter to grow up thinking it's okay for ANYONE to tell them what is and isn't okay to do with their bodies. I would hope that having the information and openness around the subject that they would choose to not engage in sexual activity until they are truly ready or at least feel comfortable enough to talk about it.

burnsmommy27 · September 2017

@mamaof5already to answer your question my daughter is 15 months and I'm making the second. I agree with what a lot of @missblaze said. I do not feel it sends the wrong message. In fact I think the way you approach it can send a very positive message. I plan to teach them both how thier bodies work and show them how to care for thier bodies (you only get one) and part of that is protecting yourself with BC and with condoms.

While I plan to be very honest and open with my girls and I can hope they want to confide in me that may not be the case. It is my responsibility to protect them and this is a small way of doing that.

cyanope · September 2017

Eh, my opinion is going to be unpopular, but hey...this is where those kinds of things go. I have to say that I respectfully disagree with a lot of you on the BC for teen girls topic. I don't believe in giving young girls birth control (just like I don't believe in providing young boys with condoms). I actually believe it DOES send the wrong message because it's a mixed message. It's like saying, "Hey...you're too young to have sex, but just in case you do, let's get you on birth control." I'm not naive enough to think that if I tell my children NOT to have sex, they will listen. But I also believe that the underlying message of providing birth control is that I'm okay with them having sex as a teenager, and I am absolutely not. So, I will educate my children on the pitfalls of unprotected sex. I will educate them on the emotional repercussions of sex at such a young age. And I will be open in all of these areas. But I will NOT give them birth control. I understand why others believe it is MORE responsible to provide birth control, I honestly do. I just don't agree.

supercoolstephy · September 2017

@cyanope personally I went on birth control at a young age, 13/14 due to heavy cycles and painful cramps. BCP really helped to reduce both issues. I grew up in a fairly conservative household and my parents took both my older sister and I to get it. While I did end up having sex as an older teenager, it wasn't for years, and only was with my boyfriend of 3+ years and we also still used condoms. My dad was a health teacher so we were well versed in sex ed in our house but for me, being on BCP at a younger age did not make me feel like I could let loose or gave me the wrong message. Personally, I do think growing up in a conservative household made me rebel like crazy when I turned 18.

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