At the gym last week a woman came up to me (we see eachother
in circuit classes, but don’t know eachother outside) and asked how my
pregnancy was going and how I was feeling – I have been pretty sick so I
thought that was kind of nice of her.
Then she asked me how far along I am and if I’ve gained much
weight. I laughed it off, told her almost 17 weeks and that I hadn’t gained
much.
...then she looked at me and said “yeah, but how much weight
have you gained?”
I’m pretty sure it’s never okay to ask someone that?
Anyway, I was so taken aback I said a couple of pounds. She
proceeded to tell me how little weight she gained during her pregnancy and how
fit she was the entire girl. Like girl, I don’t care, I don’t know you…and you
are being super rude!
@hr1116 i bought the rise&shine off of amazon. Works great! Comes with a speaker or you can use headphones. Also calculates Heartrate for you. Use lotion or ultrasound jelly, and always start really really low on your belly. I only use it every other day but it's nice to know everything is good in there
@Jennifer_m21 I saw it this weekend too and it was great!! @psm2462 I thought about doing that, but I didn't want to wait that long to see the movie. I also would suggest maybe seeing it and then finishing it. I am a HUGE Stephen King fan and for me, adaptations of his books are always a LITTLE disappointing (there is just no way to get all that story from his books into a movie) so it may take away from the movie a little, since IMO it still is nowhere near as good as the book. I am however, going to reread it now, but I always like reread It and The Shining every fall/winter.
@rainafire77 I thought strangers touching my belly was the worst---until strangers would walk up and touch my baby. It is all wrong and offensive.
ok...I did have a lady in her 80's come up to me in target and ask if she could see my baby..which I let her. And she got tears in her eyes and was so sweet. That was the ONLY time I wasn't offended.
At the gym last week a woman came up to me (we see eachother
in circuit classes, but don’t know eachother outside) and asked how my
pregnancy was going and how I was feeling – I have been pretty sick so I
thought that was kind of nice of her.
Then she asked me how far along I am and if I’ve gained much
weight. I laughed it off, told her almost 17 weeks and that I hadn’t gained
much.
...then she looked at me and said “yeah, but how much weight
have you gained?”
I’m pretty sure it’s never okay to ask someone that?
Anyway, I was so taken aback I said a couple of pounds. She
proceeded to tell me how little weight she gained during her pregnancy and how
fit she was the entire girl. Like girl, I don’t care, I don’t know you…and you
are being super rude!
I'm currently in a Facebook debate on a Scarry Mommy post telling people that yes dammit it is in fact rude to just walk up to a pregnant woman you don't know in a public place, rub her belly and ask her personal questions. They say I'm overreacting an missing the chance to have a new friend. I don't want a friend who doesn't respect boundaries and invades my personal space.
Oh also got told "Oh come off it. You know you got pregnant because you wanted the attention." No bitch I got pregnant because I wanted another child. If I wanted attention I'd walk down the street in a bikini holding a sign reading "Look at me!"
I'm really disliking people today.
I want to find this post on FB to assist your cause. Those women are out of their minds. I don't want my kids touching me half the time let alone some random freak.
I'm currently in a Facebook debate on a Scarry Mommy post telling people that yes dammit it is in fact rude to just walk up to a pregnant woman you don't know in a public place, rub her belly and ask her personal questions. They say I'm overreacting an missing the chance to have a new friend. I don't want a friend who doesn't respect boundaries and invades my personal space.
Oh also got told "Oh come off it. You know you got pregnant because you wanted the attention." No bitch I got pregnant because I wanted another child. If I wanted attention I'd walk down the street in a bikini holding a sign reading "Look at me!"
I'm really disliking people today.
I want to find this post on FB to assist your cause. Those women are out of their minds. I don't want my kids touching me half the time let alone some random freak.
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It's a post about a woman who had lost a chikd but was still carrying it and strangers still kept walking up to her and wanting to touch her and want details. She basically said to leave pregnant women alone because you don't know what's going on & you might hurt someone.
Everyone got all butthurt and started talking about the problem with society is that we're emotionally cutoff from everyone and we just need to "let people be nice". Those of us saying "there are boundaries don't cross them" are being treated like we are in the crazy minority and that all pregnant women appreciate the strangers comments.
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DD born 04/28/2002 Married DH 03/25/2017 1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017 BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
I'm currently in a Facebook debate on a Scarry Mommy post telling people that yes dammit it is in fact rude to just walk up to a pregnant woman you don't know in a public place, rub her belly and ask her personal questions. They say I'm overreacting an missing the chance to have a new friend. I don't want a friend who doesn't respect boundaries and invades my personal space.
Oh also got told "Oh come off it. You know you got pregnant because you wanted the attention." No bitch I got pregnant because I wanted another child. If I wanted attention I'd walk down the street in a bikini holding a sign reading "Look at me!"
I'm really disliking people today.
I want to find this post on FB to assist your cause. Those women are out of their minds. I don't want my kids touching me half the time let alone some random freak.
TW
It's a post about a woman who had lost a chikd but was still carrying it and strangers still kept walking up to her and wanting to touch her and want details. She basically said to leave pregnant women alone because you don't know what's going on & you might hurt someone.
Everyone got all butthurt and started talking about the problem with society is that we're emotionally cutoff from everyone and we just need to "let people be nice". Those of us saying "there are boundaries don't cross them" are being treated like we are in the crazy minority and that all pregnant women appreciate the strangers comments.
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Omg I totally saw that post earlier! I didn't read through all of the comments though.
I'm currently in a Facebook debate on a Scarry Mommy post telling people that yes dammit it is in fact rude to just walk up to a pregnant woman you don't know in a public place, rub her belly and ask her personal questions. They say I'm overreacting an missing the chance to have a new friend. I don't want a friend who doesn't respect boundaries and invades my personal space.
Oh also got told "Oh come off it. You know you got pregnant because you wanted the attention." No bitch I got pregnant because I wanted another child. If I wanted attention I'd walk down the street in a bikini holding a sign reading "Look at me!"
I'm really disliking people today.
I want to find this post on FB to assist your cause. Those women are out of their minds. I don't want my kids touching me half the time let alone some random freak.
TW
It's a post about a woman who had lost a chikd but was still carrying it and strangers still kept walking up to her and wanting to touch her and want details. She basically said to leave pregnant women alone because you don't know what's going on & you might hurt someone.
Everyone got all butthurt and started talking about the problem with society is that we're emotionally cutoff from everyone and we just need to "let people be nice". Those of us saying "there are boundaries don't cross them" are being treated like we are in the crazy minority and that all pregnant women appreciate the strangers comments.
ETA to fix stupid phone spelling errors
I just read through some of it, I fall down comment rabbit holes all the time on Scary Mommy, this one is especially bad though. Agree with you 100%
@MrsJ2410 good point about the movie/book comparison (and I've read it before in any case, so it's not like the movie will spoil anything). Think I'll go ahead and see it this weekend even though I haven't finished re-reading. I'm a huge King fan, too!
@psm2462 I am going to a reading he is doing with his son from his new book in a couple of weeks, and I have this shirt and I am hoping it will still fit over my bump! Don't care if its too much, I love him!
I can't go to the movies because the smell of buttered popcorn still makes me throw up. I thought maybe since the first trimester was over we could chance it. The waiting room at the car wash had free popcorn and I had to run out before I threw up. No movies for me until next year
@rainafire77 Ugh ugh ugh. FB comment threads make me angry 99% of the time since they bring out the worst in people and always seem to reveal the lack of compassion and empathy people have for each other. It kills me. Absolutely it's rude to walk up to a total stranger and touch her belly. Even asking is not cool, if you don't know them, why do you want to touch their belly??? It's creepy. I don't mind old ladies wanting to see my baby when he's super cute in the stroller, but it's not like being polite just goes out the window because a baby is involved! And that particular situation from that article is just another really good reason not to ask or touch a pregnant lady. You have no idea her story, why risk her feelings just for one moment of satisfying your own curiosity? Same reason I NEVER ask people when they are having kids or why they don't have kids or anything related to their child-bearing. That's a super painful question to get when you are struggling with miscarriage/infertility/loss and you never know who is struggling with it.
Married 6/1/13
BFP #1 7/2013 MMC 9/17/13
BFP #2 5/2014 MC 6/15/14
BFP #3 11/13/14 (Found in ER with ruptured cyst) Diagnosed MC 11/15/14
BFP #4 4/2015 MC 7/1/15
BFP #5 10/21/15 EDD 7/3/16 Praying for our rainbow!
I just plan to reach out and start rubbing said strangers belly as soon as they do it to me and then ask innocently "What, you don't like that?"
Figure that hat will get the point across real quick in the passive aggressive style that is most appropriate in these situations. I'm a bit twisted, but actually kind of looking forward to the first time this happens.
@rainafire77 2nd tri it's not exciting. Someone asked about eating sushi and I said they shouldn't eat anything raw. Someone else took it super literally. *eye roll*
I just plan to reach out and start rubbing said strangers belly as soon as they do it to me and then ask innocently "What, you don't like that?"
Figure that hat will get the point across real quick in the passive aggressive style that is most appropriate in these situations. I'm a bit twisted, but actually kind of looking forward to the first time this happens.
I was determined to do this my second pregnancy and never had the guts to follow through. I think it's hilarious. It's like the grownup version of "I'll show you mine if you show me yours." Reply.
This is more of a whine but I got a flu shot yesterday and my left arm is aching, I've been up since 2:20 for no apparent reason and my heartburn kicked in full force last night. I just want to go home.
I've definitely been MIA lately. The stomach bug hit our household this past weekend. My one year old and 2.5 year old got it bad!
Speaking of MIA have we heard from @meatballs37 yet? Did I miss something. Hope y'all are okay!!
Also, I announced our pregnancy on Sunday. This will be our fourth so we'll have 4 under 5. Needless to say, some of the comments were unexpected. One dude told me I needed to "give that thing a break" It's okay though because my s16 mamas came to the rescue haha!
On a positive note, my oldest DD had her first soccer game this past weekend. She scored two goals! Proud mama moment but she definitely gets her athleticism from her daddy who plays professionally.
I've had my encounters with strangers rubbing my belly. Honestly, I thought it was a joke some people talked about. Nope, so real. I once had a women rub my belly in an elevator. I felt so violated. One time I actually told a stranger I wasn't pregnant when they said in a check out line that it's definitely twins.
We had our hospital tour last night. They have an anti- baby theft system! They put bracelets on each of the baby's ankles and if someone makes it to the first floor of the building alarms go off and the hospital locks down. My friend said they forgot to cut one off her son and they got stopped by security when they were taking him home. Not sure if I'm impressed by the security or terrified that someone would want to steal my baby!
@rainafire77 2nd tri it's not exciting. Someone asked about eating sushi and I said they shouldn't eat anything raw. Someone else took it super literally. *eye roll*
She seriously thought you meant all foods?!?! It's a post about sushi. Give me a break
We had our hospital tour last night. They have an anti- baby theft system! They put bracelets on each of the baby's ankles and if someone makes it to the first floor of the building alarms go off and the hospital locks down. My friend said they forgot to cut one off her son and they got stopped by security when they were taking him home. Not sure if I'm impressed by the security or terrified that someone would want to steal my baby!
They have this same system at my hospital. Except at mine, they cannot leave the floor. If you go to close to the elevator, the alarms will go off. Well, my PP room with DD was RIGHT next to the elevator. And, her bracelet kept causing it to go off even though we were sitting in our room. It was super annoying and SO loud!
It was really nice though, because I knew that there was no chance of my baby getting mixed up with another baby, or someone taking her anywhere
We had our hospital tour last night. They have an anti- baby theft system! They put bracelets on each of the baby's ankles and if someone makes it to the first floor of the building alarms go off and the hospital locks down. My friend said they forgot to cut one off her son and they got stopped by security when they were taking him home. Not sure if I'm impressed by the security or terrified that someone would want to steal my baby!
They have this at our hospital too. As soon as the baby is born, well shortly after, they put a bracelet on mom and a matching one on baby's ankle like you said. My hospital is "baby friendly" so they encourage the parents to keep the baby in the room with them the whole stay instead of sending baby to nursery.
This may be a UO but I don't see anything wrong with sending baby to the nursery. Not your whole visit but a couple or few times is not something to be shamed about. Personally, I felt so shamed when I gave birth to my second DD. I had a PP hemorrhage with her and after being worked on for 45 minutes and passing clots the size of frying pans, the nurse insisted I kept the baby in the room. Like, I'm sorry I almost died here, can a girl take a rest while a very knowledgeable person takes care of my baby for a hour or two?
@chucksmom15 We have a similar system at the hospital I deliver at, as well. But it is the elevator version and matching bracelets. They would check the bracelets at every nurse shift change to make sure mine and DS matched. I had completely forgotten about that until you posted that.
@seitzy3 I am with you on that UO. I kept DS in my room all day and for most of the night--but my inlaws were literally always at the hospital, so I couldn't rest during the day. I remember at like 2 or 3 AM calling the nurse and asking DS to be taken to the nursery until his next feeding. I needed sleep! No shame, girl!
@seitzy3 they offered to take DD for two hours one time. It was in the middle of the night and I was like YES PLEASE OMG. Fed her and snoozed for 2 hours.
This is more of a whine but I got a flu shot yesterday and my left arm is aching, I've been up since 2:20 for no apparent reason and my heartburn kicked in full force last night. I just want to go home.
Wait. Donwe have to get a flu shot? I hate those. Hope your arm feels better.
@seitzy3 with my second DH wasn't staying in the hospital with new through the night because he was home with our oldest. This was the second night and babies always seem to be more awake that second night. I was exhausted and so I feed the baby and then just before my husband left for the night he asked the nurse if we could put the baby in the nursery until he had to eat again. She said "is there some reason your wife can't look after her own baby" in the bitchiest way. Needless to say I felt so terrible I kept the baby with me instead.
With my first and third the nurses were begging me to take the baby so I know it was just this one nurse but seriously, way to make an emotional and exhausted mother feel like garbage
DD born Oct 2011 - DS#1 born Jan 2014 - DS#2 born Apr 2015 - DS#3 born Sept 2016 - LO#5 due Feb 7, 2018
I'm glad I'm not the only one! I remember with my first dd the nurse straight up told me no. I literally cried because I gotten no sleep from 7am on Monday morning until 830am Tuesday morning. She was born at 3am. My husband wasn't there at the time and I was just like I neeeeed sleep or I will fall asleep holding this child which is not the safest. So she brought the little crib up the the bed but of course the cluster feeding started. I learned with my third birth to not take any shit. Listen ladies, I'm nursing, I just have baby come out of my vag, my H is at work or home with the kids, please watch my baby until she's ready to eat again. Thank you, signed tired AF mom.
@sabriel1 what a little biatch! You would think they would be a little more considerate because you know, birth is easy and all :eye roll:
The hospital I'm delivering at this time, does not have a nursery at all. Unless there are issues, and your baby has to go to the NICU, you have to keep the baby with you.
I remember that second night being bad with DS. He was upset a lot, and I was having trouble nursing… if DH wasn't there I would have 100% taken advantage of a nursery. I had a fairly bad tear and getting out of bed and walking around was not ideal… Especially while holding DS. Idk how CS mom's deal with being alone.
With DD I knew what to expect better and I just kept DD on the boob all night long that second night. DH went home to be with DS so I was alone. I got very little sleep… But, at least I didn't have a crying baby like before.
@sabriel1 OMG what a bitch. Kudos for having the patience to not punch her.
I remember being annoyed with all the checking and re-checking during my IUIs and IVF stuff, but then I reminded myself that if they were to make a mistake it would be really, really bad, so I calmed down. I haven't checked into the protocols at the hospital I'll be at, but I hope they have a similar alarm system. I remember reading a story about a woman who was handed "her" baby as she left the hospital and she kept insisting it wasn't hers, but the nurses kept telling her she was wrong. Turns out, it wasn't hers. It's freaky!
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
I had the opposite problem with the nursery at the hospital, the nurse asked to take him around 3am to do something (he was born at 9pm, I don't what she needed to take him for but it was something specific and she said she'd bring him back for his next feeding). That meant she should have brought him back at least within the next two hours at that point, but she didn't bring him back until after 8am! I had to call and ask for him back or it probably would have been longer. Granted I had a pretty easy delivery other than being freaking long and I probably did need to sleep, but I was so emotional (in a good way) that I couldn't sleep and really just wanted to have my baby near me so I was really irritated that she kept him so long with no word to me. Though if I'm honest she probably was trying to be nice and let me sleep if I had fallen asleep and she tried to bring him back earlier, idk. I just know at the time I was crazy emotional and it made me mad haha. I don't know if there are any stronger emotional rollercoaster hormones than PP hormones, I'm telling you what.
Married 6/1/13
BFP #1 7/2013 MMC 9/17/13
BFP #2 5/2014 MC 6/15/14
BFP #3 11/13/14 (Found in ER with ruptured cyst) Diagnosed MC 11/15/14
BFP #4 4/2015 MC 7/1/15
BFP #5 10/21/15 EDD 7/3/16 Praying for our rainbow!
Re: Randoms 9.10
At the gym last week a woman came up to me (we see eachother in circuit classes, but don’t know eachother outside) and asked how my pregnancy was going and how I was feeling – I have been pretty sick so I thought that was kind of nice of her.
Then she asked me how far along I am and if I’ve gained much weight. I laughed it off, told her almost 17 weeks and that I hadn’t gained much.
...then she looked at me and said “yeah, but how much weight have you gained?”
I’m pretty sure it’s never okay to ask someone that?
Anyway, I was so taken aback I said a couple of pounds. She proceeded to tell me how little weight she gained during her pregnancy and how fit she was the entire girl. Like girl, I don’t care, I don’t know you…and you are being super rude!
ok...I did have a lady in her 80's come up to me in target and ask if she could see my baby..which I let her. And she got tears in her eyes and was so sweet. That was the ONLY time I wasn't offended.
It's a post about a woman who had lost a chikd but was still carrying it and strangers still kept walking up to her and wanting to touch her and want details. She basically said to leave pregnant women alone because you don't know what's going on & you might hurt someone.
Everyone got all butthurt and started talking about the problem with society is that we're emotionally cutoff from everyone and we just need to "let people be nice". Those of us saying "there are boundaries don't cross them" are being treated like we are in the crazy minority and that all pregnant women appreciate the strangers comments.
ETA to fix stupid phone spelling errors
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
Figure that hat will get the point across real quick in the passive aggressive style that is most appropriate in these situations. I'm a bit twisted, but actually kind of looking forward to the first time this happens.
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
Speaking of MIA have we heard from @meatballs37 yet? Did I miss something. Hope y'all are okay!!
Also, I announced our pregnancy on Sunday. This will be our fourth so we'll have 4 under 5. Needless to say, some of the comments were unexpected. One dude told me I needed to "give that thing a break" It's okay though because my s16 mamas came to the rescue haha!
On a positive note, my oldest DD had her first soccer game this past weekend. She scored two goals! Proud mama moment but she definitely gets her athleticism from her daddy who plays professionally.
I've had my encounters with strangers rubbing my belly. Honestly, I thought it was a joke some people talked about. Nope, so real. I once had a women rub my belly in an elevator. I felt so violated. One time I actually told a stranger I wasn't pregnant when they said in a check out line that it's definitely twins.
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
It was really nice though, because I knew that there was no chance of my baby getting mixed up with another baby, or someone taking her anywhere
This may be a UO but I don't see anything wrong with sending baby to the nursery. Not your whole visit but a couple or few times is not something to be shamed about. Personally, I felt so shamed when I gave birth to my second DD. I had a PP hemorrhage with her and after being worked on for 45 minutes and passing clots the size of frying pans, the nurse insisted I kept the baby in the room. Like, I'm sorry I almost died here, can a girl take a rest while a very knowledgeable person takes care of my baby for a hour or two?
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
@seitzy3 I am with you on that UO. I kept DS in my room all day and for most of the night--but my inlaws were literally always at the hospital, so I couldn't rest during the day. I remember at like 2 or 3 AM calling the nurse and asking DS to be taken to the nursery until his next feeding. I needed sleep! No shame, girl!
With my first and third the nurses were begging me to take the baby so I know it was just this one nurse but seriously, way to make an emotional and exhausted mother feel like garbage
@sabriel1 what a little biatch! You would think they would be a little more considerate because you know, birth is easy and all :eye roll:
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
I remember that second night being bad with DS. He was upset a lot, and I was having trouble nursing… if DH wasn't there I would have 100% taken advantage of a nursery. I had a fairly bad tear and getting out of bed and walking around was not ideal… Especially while holding DS. Idk how CS mom's deal with being alone.
With DD I knew what to expect better and I just kept DD on the boob all night long that second night. DH went home to be with DS so I was alone. I got very little sleep… But, at least I didn't have a crying baby like before.
I remember being annoyed with all the checking and re-checking during my IUIs and IVF stuff, but then I reminded myself that if they were to make a mistake it would be really, really bad, so I calmed down. I haven't checked into the protocols at the hospital I'll be at, but I hope they have a similar alarm system. I remember reading a story about a woman who was handed "her" baby as she left the hospital and she kept insisting it wasn't hers, but the nurses kept telling her she was wrong. Turns out, it wasn't hers. It's freaky!
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16