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clc515 · September 2017

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eggplantface · September 2017

H told me the other day that he asked his little brother to be godfather, and I'm so freaking relieved. I suggested this brother be GF because his other brother (the GF's twin) is already GF to yet another brother's kid. But really I didn't want the twin to be the GF because he's a mess and a screw up and I don't want him to have that close of a relationship with my kid. I guess the juicier part of the confession is that I hope the snubbed one is a little upset because he told me he "called" godfather (before I was even pregnant!). That's not how it works and he deserves to be disappointed for being so rude.

clc515 · September 2017

@eggplantface It bugs me when people call dibs, or more specifically if they think they're actually qualified to call dibs on something. One of my friends (not so close now but we're in touch) is like, do I have to fight your MIL to babysit? Um... you weren't really on my list of contenders to be around the kiddo unsupervised, soooo....

Also between my 2 brothers, there's only one I'd trust or even really want around the kiddo. Sometimes I feel bad, but it's kinda obvious which brother I actually like more. We will be each others kids godparents lol. I do feel bad that the other brother gets left out of so much, but maybe if he'd at least try being a responsible adult and we'd look at him that way!

stephbp2007 · September 2017

I'm nervous about my neighbors finding out I'm pregnant.
Our neighborhood is very weird. It's a cliquie group of moms... then the rest. And they tend to be very nosey, all their kids play together, and they hang out in their front yards and talk and gossip and drink. And that is just NOT my scene. I'm busy! I work all day and have what I want to do at night... and I don't care who is putting their house up for sale or who got a new car.
But I go for jogs outside, and it's becoming very hard to hide that I am pregnant (almost 18 weeks) and I just know that it's coming soon...

Starynightsky24 · September 2017

stephbp2007 said:

I'm nervous about my neighbors finding out I'm pregnant.
Our neighborhood is very weird. It's a cliquie group of moms... then the rest. And they tend to be very nosey, all their kids play together, and they hang out in their front yards and talk and gossip and drink. And that is just NOT my scene. I'm busy! I work all day and have what I want to do at night... and I don't care who is putting their house up for sale or who got a new car.
But I go for jogs outside, and it's becoming very hard to hide that I am pregnant (almost 18 weeks) and I just know that it's coming soon...

If you're not already hanging out I just wouldn't worry about it. Why care what they think? It sounds like they are just bored and have nothing interesting to talk about lol

Starynightsky24 · September 2017

My mom came over to babysit the other night and brought my youngest sister along. I almost didn't let her babysit… I really don't want my sister around the kids without me there. I don't trust her at all.

stephbp2007 · September 2017

No I know lol. That is basically it, that they don't have much to talk about but each other. It's more bothersome that I know they'll talk about it amongst each other. For instance, a neighbor I never met before congratulated me on my marriage. Well. Only one knew I even got married so I know she told the "group". I know there's a chance none of this is malicious and it's my own self-consiousness, but there's something unsettling about HOW exactly they act with one another. Plus other comments they have made...

Side note: they probably talk about me anyways and think I'm nuts as I almost took my own mailbox out the other day backing out of my driveway... In front of one of them walking their dog.
I blame pregnancy brain/missing my morning cup of coffee.

winnie1122 · September 2017

@stephbp2007 I sort of can relate, I legitimately don't know any of my neighbors beyond passing encounters, but there's a group of them down my street that I had kind of a bad run in with and now I'm super self-conscious if I have to walk past their houses. My dog had a stint this summer of constantly breaking out of our yard and running to that area (there's a pond behind their houses) and the same couple neighbors kept catching her and having to contact me so I could find her. I always came straight away and apologized and we tried everything to keep her in so it wouldn't happen again but she's big and crafty and it was impossible. This particular clique of neighbors are all dog loving people with no kids (their dogs are their kids) and they are around my age, and they are all friends apparently. One of them chewed me out and threatened to take my dog to a shelter the next time and she specifically said she and the other neighbors were sick of dealing with us. So I know they talk about me even though the other two neighbors had been really nice about the dog when they had caught her. Thankfully we finally were able to get the dog under control but now I just hate going past their houses because they don't like me. They don't even know me but I'm the bad dog lady to them now!

stephbp2007 · September 2017

winnie1122 said:

@stephbp2007 I sort of can relate, I legitimately don't know any of my neighbors beyond passing encounters, but there's a group of them down my street that I had kind of a bad run in with and now I'm super self-conscious if I have to walk past their houses. My dog had a stint this summer of constantly breaking out of our yard and running to that area (there's a pond behind their houses) and the same couple neighbors kept catching her and having to contact me so I could find her. I always came straight away and apologized and we tried everything to keep her in so it wouldn't happen again but she's big and crafty and it was impossible. This particular clique of neighbors are all dog loving people with no kids (their dogs are their kids) and they are around my age, and they are all friends apparently. One of them chewed me out and threatened to take my dog to a shelter the next time and she specifically said she and the other neighbors were sick of dealing with us. So I know they talk about me even though the other two neighbors had been really nice about the dog when they had caught her. Thankfully we finally were able to get the dog under control but now I just hate going past their houses because they don't like me. They don't even know me but I'm the bad dog lady to them now!

Omg! That's awful! Ok you take the cake for neighbor issues lol

3plus1equals4 · September 2017

FFFC: I do not see the appeal or point in owning a dog. I think they are gross and require way too much care for a pet. I am 100% okay with cats or reptiles, though. Minimal care and you don't have to bathe them, clip their nails, brush their teeth, etc. My kids better bribe their dad if they are ever getting a dog, because I would prefer to never own one.

TattoosandLace · September 2017

I posted a "first day of preschool" photo on FB.
We homeschool, but it was the first day of the homeschool co-op.

SunflowerMama428 · September 2017

I totally bull shitted at my desk and made it look like I was doing stuff when I actually wasnt. My boss said I was good to go as long as my stuff was done. Guess who texted me asking about a new hire's paperwork that I didn't do... "oh I totes left it on the filing cabinet, it must have got misplaced"

Megzb510 · September 2017

My neighborhood has an HOA and it's normally pretty relaxed, which I'm fine with. The HOA was trying to follow up with people who are grossly violating the appearance bylaws (missing siding, overgrown yard) and those people are then complaining that the HOA is picking and choosing which bylaws to enforce. So there is a Facebook HOA group and they just posted a note that they are going to enforce some of the rarely enforced bylaws like no overnight parking in the street and no storing garbage cans outside. The Facebook group is exploding with people that are pissed saying they want a proxy to eliminate the no overnight parking rule. I personally can't stand that tons of people park their work vehicle on the road all the time. My parent's neighborhood is awful to drive through because no one parks their cars in the garage and it's a one lane road at multiple parts since so many people park on the street. I want to comment but it's not worth the Facebook dramaz and realistically a proxy will never pass. #suburbsproblems

SarahFoley725 · September 2017

We are staying at my parents in between selling our old house and buying a new one. The room we are staying in has two twin beds. I love it and I never want to share a bed with DH again.

mbirdie · September 2017

@SarahFoley725 that is me whenever we end up in a hotel room with two beds. So much space.

rainafire77 · September 2017

I love my teenager but on weekends where she's with her dad I enjoy the quiet time with DH.

Aeml1985 · September 2017

Bring on the flames

we had our anatomy scan and it's a boy. I'm disappointed. I really wanted DD to have a sister, we have so much clothes and stuff I wanted to be able to reuse on this baby and now I have to deal with selling/donating. It just adds to how disconnected I've been feeling with this pregnancy. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy and grateful to be pregnant with a healthy baby, but I'm a little sad that this is most likely our last child and I won't be having another daughter

SarahFoley725 · September 2017

@Aeml1985 We also found out we are having a boy yesterday. I won't lie, I'm a bit disappointed too. At first I was excited for DH but as it sets in more I'm kinda sad. I want a third but I know this will probably be it for us. Someone suggested I send my girl clothes to a friend and I got really upset about it.

babymakes9 · September 2017

rainafire77 said:

I love my teenager but on weekends where she's with her dad I enjoy the quiet time with DH.

Not quiet the same, but i totally don't go to my kids sports games when they are at there bio father's. He never comes to any of their things on my time, not even school events, and they are at his house a whole 4 days a month. And i don't feel bad about it.

I also don't go to my older kids away games/ meets/etc. through school. Home games, I'm there, or my Dh is, usually with grandparents and siblings. But i can't spend my whole life driving to and from kids sports.

eggplantface · September 2017

@Megzb510 Our HOA FB group is always good for drama. One person complains, a few pile on, others defend, it's inevitable at some point someone will call someone racist. Pure gold.

Starynightsky24 · September 2017

Aeml1985 said:

Bring on the flames

we had our anatomy scan and it's a boy. I'm disappointed. I really wanted DD to have a sister, we have so much clothes and stuff I wanted to be able to reuse on this baby and now I have to deal with selling/donating. It just adds to how disconnected I've been feeling with this pregnancy. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy and grateful to be pregnant with a healthy baby, but I'm a little sad that this is most likely our last child and I won't be having another daughter

I think it's okay to be disappointed that you won't have the life you envisioned. I was a little sad that my first born was a boy bc I had always envisioned girls as well. But MY GOODNESS I'm so glad to have boys! You won't be disappointed for long. That I can guarantee. Boys love their moms different than girls. I love my DD and I would not trade her for anything, but I'm so excited to have DS2.

eggplantface · September 2017

Plus you can put a boy in girls' clothes. He won't know he's wearing a pink onesie

winnie1122 · September 2017

I wasn't disappointed that this one is a girl (baby 1 was a boy) but I definitely am more nervous about raising a girl than I was about a boy. So the first time around I was a little relieved it was a boy. (And I have to reiterate that boys are so fun, and so lovey! Not that I know anything about girls...lol) I have no doubt you will love this baby like crazy and the disappointment will go away, but I think we all have our natural reactions to what we think we're preparing for!

clc515 · September 2017

I had a pang of disappointment when they said boy. Funny thing is I have always wanted a boy first. But all the signs this pregnancy and DH's constant out loud wishful thinking, and for some reason all of my friends thought a girl, too, had me thinking it'd be a girl. So I was just like, "oh.... I mean, yay!"

Aeml1985 · September 2017

eggplantface said:

Plus you can put a boy in girls' clothes. He won't know he's wearing a pink onesie

Oh forsure for stuff like that
I just meant all her shoes and "formal" dresses (Easter/Christmas). Plus selling them feels a bit sad, end of an era

Starynightsky24 · September 2017

Aeml1985 said:

eggplantface said:

Plus you can put a boy in girls' clothes. He won't know he's wearing a pink onesie

Oh forsure for stuff like that
I just meant all her shoes and "formal" dresses (Easter/Christmas). Plus selling them feels a bit sad, end of an era

I'm willing to bet you'll feel the same way when you go through your sons old stuff when it's time to give those away

. Idk about you, but for me it's the memories attached to the clothes that make them special.

soulcupcake · September 2017

Aeml1985 said:

Bring on the flames

we had our anatomy scan and it's a boy. I'm disappointed. I really wanted DD to have a sister, we have so much clothes and stuff I wanted to be able to reuse on this baby and now I have to deal with selling/donating. It just adds to how disconnected I've been feeling with this pregnancy. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy and grateful to be pregnant with a healthy baby, but I'm a little sad that this is most likely our last child and I won't be having another daughter

@Aeml1985 - I'm not put off by gender disappointment. It is what it is. You can't always help what or how you feel. I get it. I wanted my first two to be girls. My sister and I are 10 years apart, so we weren't exactly the closest growing up. I always liked the idea of having at least two girls. My mom has four brothers and often wondered what it would have been like to have a sister. I did end up having two girls and then a boy, which I wanted. When he passed away, I still yearned to have and raise a son. I would have been very disappointed if ds2 had been a girl. I'm certain I would have came to terms after processing my disappointment, but the initial feeling would have still been a sense of loss.

This baby will make it an even three girls and three boys, but there are still days where I feel ambivalent. I knew I was having a boy. I'm glad my son will have a brother and won't feel like the odd one out. I've been "reserving" my favorite boy name for six years, and now we'll get to use it. I think my feelings are due in part to the differences in the dynamic of parenting my girls vs. my son. It's...different, though I realize there are many factors that contribute to this.

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