It drives me crazy when people post about their baby's developmental milestones, as if they're super advanced or a genius for achieving them or achieving them early. On my social media it runs the gamut from a high school friend who posted a video of their daughter rolling over at 1 month to the month-by-month posts next to a chalkboard listing whatever their kid achieved that month. First of all, by and large, every child will reach these same milestones around generally the same time frame. Whether you sit unassisted at 4 months or 6 months or 8 months has no bearing on what kind of adult you'll turn out to be. Also seems tremendously insensitive to parents dealing with legitimate developmental delays.
Keep the cute baby pictures coming, but save the milestone celebrations for your private life/close friends.
I hate all the milestone posts and videos too. Especially when they come associated with some type of brag-plaint. "Oh, DD can now read a novel, I'm so upset that I'm going to have to buy her more difficult books" or something dumb like that.
My SIL is the worst for it ugh.
DD born Oct 2011 - DS#1 born Jan 2014 - DS#2 born Apr 2015 - DS#3 born Sept 2016 - LO#5 due Feb 7, 2018
I guess I can see the annoyance with lots of milestone posts, but I confess I'm guilty of it to a degree. I did the monthly picture with a few new things from that month for the first year (stopped at 1) but I mostly thought of it as a fun thing to look back on. Plus people who didn't get to see DS often always would ask the 'is he walking?' 'has he started solids?' 'does he sleep through the night yet?' questions and those posts helped update nosy aunts and great grandparents all at once, lol. At least that's the way I looked at it. But I don't have tons of people on social media so mostly the people who see my posts are good friends or family. I think. Idk, I try not to be annoying on social media but I suppose there's always something that has potential to be annoying despite good intentions! I just finally posted a very subtle pregnancy announcement tonight and am already worried that someone might see it and be sad. I've been there and it's hard, but I also never wished people wouldn't post and celebrate their news even when it was hard to see so I don't know the best approach sometimes.
Married 6/1/13
BFP #1 7/2013 MMC 9/17/13
BFP #2 5/2014 MC 6/15/14
BFP #3 11/13/14 (Found in ER with ruptured cyst) Diagnosed MC 11/15/14
BFP #4 4/2015 MC 7/1/15
BFP #5 10/21/15 EDD 7/3/16 Praying for our rainbow!
I absolutely love the monthly updates. DD did some things "early" and some things "late". I'm always happy for my friends kids for what they're doing. We have lots of older family and family friends on Facebook who love keeping up with her through updates. Brag-plaints are definitely annoying though.
My UO is I totally love old wives tales. I know there's no factual bases to them but I still think it's fun to speculate!
I get that it's annoying when people post tmi about there baby's on social media. Like milestones, picture everyday ect. And before I had one I never thought I'd be that mum. BUT I SO AM!!! It's so hard not to be!! I view my instagram as my child babybook (I still haven't don't one for her and she is 20 months) and if that annoys people then so be it. I'm not going to change doing something I enjoy because it irritates someone else. HOWEVER, I keep mine very private, post no pictures from of my house, and never any naked pictures, I would never caption something in a way she might be embarrassed of as she ages ect. (Though I'm sure she might cringe at some of my outfit chioces for her, lol) its important to realise we are creating a digital footprint for these little people that can affect them in future endeavours, whether they are bullied in high school because you put up that poo explosion picture, or whether it affects even career prospects, everything we post now does matter.
@ashhsa Agreed, I definitely draw the line at oversharing really personal info about my kid. I don't talk about his pooping or post naked pictures or anything I wouldn't want someone to share about me. I wouldn't have wanted photo documentation of myself being potty trained or wetting the bed or any of that stuff just on the internet for posterity because my mom thought it was cute or whatever. My Instagram is private and I don't post as many pics on FB as I do on IG.
Married 6/1/13
BFP #1 7/2013 MMC 9/17/13
BFP #2 5/2014 MC 6/15/14
BFP #3 11/13/14 (Found in ER with ruptured cyst) Diagnosed MC 11/15/14
BFP #4 4/2015 MC 7/1/15
BFP #5 10/21/15 EDD 7/3/16 Praying for our rainbow!
I don't mind a few social media posts about friend's babies, but I agree that daily updates get annoying! My friend (she's due in December!) created a private facebook group for select friends and family just so she can post baby milestones and pictures. Users have the ability to leave the group in case they do not want to see anymore updates.
My UO? Fantasy Football! DH is all about it, all day every day. He says he tries not to talk about it much, but he gives me relentless updates every. damn. day. Sigh, it's going to be a long season, but at least I get to enjoy pizza and wings during the games!
I'm fine with happy baby updates delivered as simply "news", but yeah, the humble brag or acting like their kid is gifted for reaching a milestone early is too much.
@jennifer_m21 I stopped doing FF this year for precisely your reason for hating it: It's too much! Every Wednesday or Thursday morning I was panicking over my line up, doing drops and adds, trying to figure out who's injured and who's suspended. I just couldn't deal with the stress anymore; it's all-consuming! By the end of the season I had stopped paying attention so this year I just stopped and feel like a weight has lifted. I also have no idea who anyone is anymore. Guys are quitting after 2-3 years because of injury or fears of CTE, it's a rotating crop I can't keep up with. But hells yes to pizza and wings! Sunday we're going to my favorite bar to watch the games and I'm psyched to stuff my face with wings and cheese fries.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
We don't have any tv but Netflix and I don't like football, but I'm actually a little bummed we can't watch football just because I want a weekly excuse to make football snacks!!! I love love love football snacks. It's my favorite thing about football...lol. Wonder how many more times I can work the word football into a sentence...
Married 6/1/13
BFP #1 7/2013 MMC 9/17/13
BFP #2 5/2014 MC 6/15/14
BFP #3 11/13/14 (Found in ER with ruptured cyst) Diagnosed MC 11/15/14
BFP #4 4/2015 MC 7/1/15
BFP #5 10/21/15 EDD 7/3/16 Praying for our rainbow!
@eggplantface I was doing a weekly pool where we picked the winners of a bunch of games being played that week. On one hand, I was invested in games I wouldn't ordinarily care about because of the betting, but after a while DH (who is the most competitive human on the planet) started taking it so seriously that football wasn't fun anymore. I totally get how consuming it can be!
I've been salty about football season this year because I really, really, really miss the beer. I hope I get over myself soon and get pumped.
@eggplantface I was doing a weekly pool where we picked the winners of a bunch of games being played that week. On one hand, I was invested in games I wouldn't ordinarily care about because of the betting, but after a while DH (who is the most competitive human on the planet) started taking it so seriously that football wasn't fun anymore. I totally get how consuming it can be!
I've been salty about football season this year because I really, really, really miss the beer. I hope I get over myself soon and get pumped.
I definitely miss the beer, too! O'douls wouldn't cut if for me. Major sigh.
I'm all about March Madness. Only have to figure out your bracket once, and then let fate run its course!
I am salty about football in general because the Rams left STL. Don't get me wrong, they were terrible...but we were season ticket holders and lost a lot of money with our PSL's. Plus, even when the team sucked--tailgating was fun. The Rams left on bad terms in general--so it makes me a little happy that they struggled last year. But I still feel lost without a team on Sunday....
Speaking about football, which I generally care nothing about, I AM somehow deeply satisfied the Pats lost last night :-) It's that Tom Brady. Just don't like him. Sometimes I wish I was into football (and NCAA) to participate in the work fantasy league (brackets) activities, but I really truly just don't pay attention to it.
Speaking about football, which I generally care nothing about, I AM somehow deeply satisfied the Pats lost last night :-) It's that Tom Brady. Just don't like him. Sometimes I wish I was into football (and NCAA) to participate in the work fantasy league (brackets) activities, but I really truly just don't pay attention to it.
I think everyone except Patriots fans are happy they lost last night! We watched the pre-game where they celebrated their super bowl win and I commented "You know all those fans in the stands are just furiously masturbating to this ridiculous, overblown spectacle right now," and that has become H's new phrase: furiously masturbating.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
Speaking about football, which I generally care nothing about, I AM somehow deeply satisfied the Pats lost last night :-) It's that Tom Brady. Just don't like him. Sometimes I wish I was into football (and NCAA) to participate in the work fantasy league (brackets) activities, but I really truly just don't pay attention to it.
I think everyone except Patriots fans are happy they lost last night! We watched the pre-game where they celebrated their super bowl win and I commented "You know all those fans in the stands are just furiously masturbating to this ridiculous, overblown spectacle right now," and that has become H's new phrase: furiously masturbating.
Stuck in a box in a box.
Go Chiefs! DH is from ATL and is a huge falcons fan. We were watching the game last night and he was so irritated with the spectacle. Especially when they started talking about how they had a certain amount of diamonds in their rings to match the score of the superbowl. I thought he was going to throw something at the TV.
I guess my UO would be that I'm a Patriots fan! I really don't care for football all that much (basketball is more my jam) but I'm New England born and raised. Plus a friend of mine from high school used to be a Patriots cheerleader and would always mention how nice Tom and his wife were, so I have trouble understanding all the hate.
I don't like football, or care for most sports. Watching them on TV is about as enjoyable as watching paint dry. I enjoyed attending a game here and there back in the day, but it's definitely not my thing. But DragonCon, Comic Con, etc., I'm totally down.
Brag-plaints aren't my thing, but I'll totally mom brag on occasion, and give no shits about side-eyes. If they work hard at something, and they're talented and skilled, awesome. I don't do daily, weekly, or monthly updates. But make the school's debate team or Science Olympiad, that's something to be proud of and share. I totally mom bragged when my eldest daughter made her goal of reading 55 books in nearly a year. Many of them my favorites. We had a lot to talk about and dissect, and a number of them are quite timely. And I had a definite proud mama moment when I realized my then 6th grader was a better writer than most of my peers in my MFA writing cohort. Utterly shameless brag.
But tiny people brags. Meh. If someone asks, I'll be honest if the topic comes up. I'll post funny conversations we have with our soon-to-be three year old because she's incredibly clever, witty and snarky. I was a bit proud when she drew a smiley face that looked like Caillou and an airplane that resembled a flying peanut. Not bad for 31 months.
That's not to say I don't or can't empathize with learning challenges. You can have kids who excel in this or that and be proud and share the good news while also being cognizant of the challenges that neurodiversity presents. As a parent of a gifted child who is neurotypical, a gifted child who is neurodiverse and another child that faced learning challenges associated with his ADHD (and possibly AS), I can be proud and share their accomplishments, whatever those may be, while also being mindful of the real challenges of learning difficulties.
G 12.04 | E 11.06 | D 11.08 | H 12.09 | R 11.14 | Expecting #6 2.16.18.
Alright, here's my UO. It drives me nuts when people refer to their kid's age in months after they hit a year. I don't want to have to do math to figure out how old your kid is.
Alright, here's my UO. It drives me nuts when people refer to their kid's age in months after they hit a year. I don't want to have to do math to figure out how old your kid is.
I think it's acceptable up to age 2 but then I eye roll.
BFP #1 11/28/09 ~ EDD 8/6/10 ~ DS Born 8/9/10 BFP #2 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/8/14 ~ Natural MC 9/18/13 at 6 weeks, 6 days BFP#3 3/28/14 ~ EDD 12/7/14 ~ DD Born 11/21/14 BFP#4 6/15/17 ~ EDD 2/20/18
I'm late but my UO is that I can't stand all The maternity shirts with announcements on it like "coming soon!" Or "eating for two" it drives me crazy. I just want a plain old T-shirt.
Re: UO Thursday
Keep the cute baby pictures coming, but save the milestone celebrations for your private life/close friends.
My SIL is the worst for it ugh.
My UO is I totally love old wives tales. I know there's no factual bases to them but I still think it's fun to speculate!
its important to realise we are creating a digital footprint for these little people that can affect them in future endeavours, whether they are bullied in high school because you put up that poo explosion picture, or whether it affects even career prospects, everything we post now does matter.
END RANT. Lol.
My UO? Fantasy Football! DH is all about it, all day every day. He says he tries not to talk about it much, but he gives me relentless updates every. damn. day. Sigh, it's going to be a long season, but at least I get to enjoy pizza and wings during the games!
@jennifer_m21 I stopped doing FF this year for precisely your reason for hating it: It's too much! Every Wednesday or Thursday morning I was panicking over my line up, doing drops and adds, trying to figure out who's injured and who's suspended. I just couldn't deal with the stress anymore; it's all-consuming! By the end of the season I had stopped paying attention so this year I just stopped and feel like a weight has lifted. I also have no idea who anyone is anymore. Guys are quitting after 2-3 years because of injury or fears of CTE, it's a rotating crop I can't keep up with. But hells yes to pizza and wings! Sunday we're going to my favorite bar to watch the games and I'm psyched to stuff my face with wings and cheese fries.
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
I've been salty about football season this year because I really, really, really miss the beer. I hope I get over myself soon and get pumped.
I'm all about March Madness. Only have to figure out your bracket once, and then let fate run its course!
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
Brag-plaints aren't my thing, but I'll totally mom brag on occasion, and give no shits about side-eyes. If they work hard at something, and they're talented and skilled, awesome. I don't do daily, weekly, or monthly updates. But make the school's debate team or Science Olympiad, that's something to be proud of and share. I totally mom bragged when my eldest daughter made her goal of reading 55 books in nearly a year. Many of them my favorites. We had a lot to talk about and dissect, and a number of them are quite timely. And I had a definite proud mama moment when I realized my then 6th grader was a better writer than most of my peers in my MFA writing cohort. Utterly shameless brag.
But tiny people brags. Meh. If someone asks, I'll be honest if the topic comes up. I'll post funny conversations we have with our soon-to-be three year old because she's incredibly clever, witty and snarky. I was a bit proud when she drew a smiley face that looked like Caillou and an airplane that resembled a flying peanut. Not bad for 31 months.
That's not to say I don't or can't empathize with learning challenges. You can have kids who excel in this or that and be proud and share the good news while also being cognizant of the challenges that neurodiversity presents. As a parent of a gifted child who is neurotypical, a gifted child who is neurodiverse and another child that faced learning challenges associated with his ADHD (and possibly AS), I can be proud and share their accomplishments, whatever those may be, while also being mindful of the real challenges of learning difficulties.
BFP #1 11/28/09 ~ EDD 8/6/10 ~ DS Born 8/9/10
BFP #2 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/8/14 ~ Natural MC 9/18/13 at 6 weeks, 6 days
BFP#3 3/28/14 ~ EDD 12/7/14 ~ DD Born 11/21/14
BFP#4 6/15/17 ~ EDD 2/20/18