I think overly-staged newborn photos are tacky AF. I was Pinteresting recently and was horrified at what I was seeing. A baby girl with 45 strands of pearls and a tiny tiara? A newborn in a basket surrounded by deer antlers in a hunting lodge? Barf. Give me a black and white photo of a naked sleeping baby any day.
I think overly-staged newborn photos are tacky AF. I was Pinteresting recently and was horrified at what I was seeing. A baby girl with 45 strands of pearls and a tiny tiara? A newborn in a basket surrounded by deer antlers in a hunting lodge? Barf. Give me a black and white photo of a naked sleeping baby any day.
OMG @kmalls you stole this out of my head. I was just coming here to say that I kind of hate half the newborn girl photos I see. I am totally ok with baby stuff - swaddles, stuffed animals, etc - but when I see baby girls with pearls, tutus, or any kind of bedazzling/bling, it kind of turns my stomach.
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I think overly-staged newborn photos are tacky AF. I was Pinteresting recently and was horrified at what I was seeing. A baby girl with 45 strands of pearls and a tiny tiara? A newborn in a basket surrounded by deer antlers in a hunting lodge? Barf. Give me a black and white photo of a naked sleeping baby any day.
Hah, guilty as charged! :P. In my defense, I found a little knitted mermaid tail on Wish, and just HAD to use it. I love that she just ended up looking like a pissed of grumpy old mermaid in half the shots. But I have a weird sense of humor.
@kmalls I have definitely seen some over the top ones. Our friends recently posted their newborn's pictures on FB and they had him in like 6 different elaborate outfits. Wtf are you doing? My UO - I don't like visitors after the baby is born. In the hospital or at home. I need to be in the baby bubble for a couple weeks first.
I think overly-staged newborn photos are tacky AF. I was Pinteresting recently and was horrified at what I was seeing. A baby girl with 45 strands of pearls and a tiny tiara? A newborn in a basket surrounded by deer antlers in a hunting lodge? Barf. Give me a black and white photo of a naked sleeping baby any day.
Hah, guilty as charged! :P. In my defense, I found a little knitted mermaid tail on Wish, and just HAD to use it. I love that she just ended up looking like a pissed of grumpy old mermaid in half the shots. But I have a weird sense of humor.
@ngolimento that's actually hilarious and I feel like I'd enjoy those photos, but ONLY because she was grumpy and totally not into it. That attitude makes it awesome
I don't understand why/or think its necessary that people started doing "sprinkles" and "gender reveals" and "sip and sees"...like can't we just have one event for one baby and call it a day....
I don't understand why/or think its necessary that people started doing "sprinkles" and "gender reveals" and "sip and sees"...like can't we just have one event for one baby and call it a day....
@ekendall09 how are STM+ supposed to get free shit without sprinkles or sip and sees?? Because when you call it either of those things it's TOTES not a baby shower so that makes it ok!
UO I don't think gender and sex can be used interchangeably and I will be the annoying group member who will correct those who are afraid to say the sex word! No shame in my game!
UO I don't think gender and sex can be used interchangeably and I will be the annoying group member who will correct those who are afraid to say the sex word! No shame in my game!
I agree, @danjoly. I think/hope that most people do it innocently because the word "gender" is so commonly misused colloquially. Like, we're going to have to wait a LOT longer than a month for your kid'a gender reveal.....
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@lindsye that made me laugh!! I'm all about educating people why it's important to use the right wording! I've met girls who used "gender" because they were uncomfortable using the word "sex". Come on lady, you aren't a 'middle school boy!!
Related to @danjoly's post, I don't agree with the decision to pierce a baby girl's ears. I totally understand why it makes practical sense to do it at that age, but I think it's a gender and identity-related decision that a person should absolutely make for herself and not have someone else's idea of who she is pushed upon her.
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@ekendall09 What the F is a sprinkle? My UO: I In N Out fries
It's a more relaxed and less present-filled baby shower. Technically there aren't supposed to be any gifts expected. My SIL really wants to do one, and I will only entertain the idea if it gets turned into like a group spa-day. I don't want to make it other peoples' problem that I had unprotected sex.
@ekendall09 What the F is a sprinkle? My UO: I In N Out fries
It's a more relaxed and less present-filled baby shower. Technically there aren't supposed to be any gifts expected. My SIL really wants to do one, and I will only entertain the idea if it gets turned into like a group spa-day. I don't want to make it other peoples' problem that I had unprotected sex.
Now that's a sprinkle I could get on board with.
I've only ever been invited to the ones that are a cover for another baby shower.
I think overly-staged newborn photos are tacky AF. I was Pinteresting recently and was horrified at what I was seeing. A baby girl with 45 strands of pearls and a tiny tiara? A newborn in a basket surrounded by deer antlers in a hunting lodge? Barf. Give me a black and white photo of a naked sleeping baby any day.
Hah, guilty as charged! :P. In my defense, I found a little knitted mermaid tail on Wish, and just HAD to use it. I love that she just ended up looking like a pissed of grumpy old mermaid in half the shots. But I have a weird sense of humor.
@ngolimento that's actually hilarious and I feel like I'd enjoy those photos, but ONLY because she was grumpy and totally not into it. That attitude makes it awesome
The best part was that she wanted nothing to do with the knitted shell bra, so she was a scandelous grumpy old mermaid.
@ekendall09 What the F is a sprinkle? My UO: I In N Out fries
It's a more relaxed and less present-filled baby shower. Technically there aren't supposed to be any gifts expected. My SIL really wants to do one, and I will only entertain the idea if it gets turned into like a group spa-day. I don't want to make it other peoples' problem that I had unprotected sex.
Idk, a spa day still has the expectation that people spend money, though. I feel like if your SIL wants to host a sprinkle, then those invited should be truly hosted -- like, refreshments served, some kind of food, etc. and without any monetary contribution required by guests, either via presents or otherwise. You know?
And @ngolimento I'm totally not calling you out on this, I'm definitely just thinking out loud!
I think overly-staged newborn photos are tacky AF. I was Pinteresting recently and was horrified at what I was seeing. A baby girl with 45 strands of pearls and a tiny tiara? A newborn in a basket surrounded by deer antlers in a hunting lodge? Barf. Give me a black and white photo of a naked sleeping baby any day.
OMG @kmalls you stole this out of my head. I was just coming here to say that I kind of hate half the newborn girl photos I see. I am totally ok with baby stuff - swaddles, stuffed animals, etc - but when I see baby girls with pearls, tutus, or any kind of bedazzling/bling, it kind of turns my stomach.
Ok I may be sorta oddly guilty of something like this... When I had DD and did her newborn session, I had the photographer take her pictures on my wedding veil. It was something that was very meaningful to me as the wedding veil was my favorite part of my wedding (except, ya know...marrying DH and all). I hope for it to be a family heirloom and for it to one day be hers.
As long as they are like no gifts or diaper/wipes only. I think it lets extended fries and family be a part of welcoming baby who might not otherwise be visiting right after baby is born
@danjoly@lindsye you guys are my gender heroes today. I was so hoping there wouldn't be a blow up on this board with people being ignorant and dismissive of gender identity (had that happen on a previous board then everyone else jumped in to be like NO Stop that! ) I'm glad we got the positive affirmation of gender identity out first
@kmalls I am undecided on the whole thing with the sprinkle. On one hand, I worry that setting up an official hosted party would make people feel pressured to bring gifts. On the other you are right that some people could feel pressured to spend money at the spa. I just kinda felt that if they were spending money, at least it would be on themselves and not me.
I think overly-staged newborn photos are tacky AF. I was Pinteresting recently and was horrified at what I was seeing. A baby girl with 45 strands of pearls and a tiny tiara? A newborn in a basket surrounded by deer antlers in a hunting lodge? Barf. Give me a black and white photo of a naked sleeping baby any day.
OMG @kmalls you stole this out of my head. I was just coming here to say that I kind of hate half the newborn girl photos I see. I am totally ok with baby stuff - swaddles, stuffed animals, etc - but when I see baby girls with pearls, tutus, or any kind of bedazzling/bling, it kind of turns my stomach.
Ok I may be sorta oddly guilty of something like this... When I had DD and did her newborn session, I had the photographer take her pictures on my wedding veil. It was something that was very meaningful to me as the wedding veil was my favorite part of my wedding (except, ya know...marrying DH and all). I hope for it to be a family heirloom and for it to one day be hers.
@BarefootContessa that's really cute! I love that it has so much meaning for you.
As an aside: if anyone LOVES newborn photos that are styled to the max with props and costumes and all that jazz -- cool! Embrace it. I'd never give anyone shit for that. I'll side-eye it but that's my own issue I think that goes for 99% of my UOs. You want a second shower? Go for it! I think it's tacky but it's also not my life, soooo...
I guess my point is that I know my UOs can come across as super judgy but I promise it's all in good fun.*
@BarefootContessa that's really cute! I love that it has so much meaning for you.
As an aside: if anyone LOVES newborn photos that are styled to the max with props and costumes and all that jazz -- cool! Embrace it. I'd never give anyone shit for that. I'll side-eye it but that's my own issue I think that goes for 99% of my UOs. You want a second shower? Go for it! I think it's tacky but it's also not my life, soooo...
I guess my point is that I know my UOs can come across as super judgy but I promise it's all in good fun.*
*unless you're an antivaxxer
THIS.
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@BarefootContessa no I love that! Incorporating anything that has personal meaning to you is awesome.
I think my issue is that some of us adult women decorate ourselves in jewels and fancy clothes etc to try to look more beautiful, and doing that to a newborn baby seems to me to suggest that a) it makes them more "beautiful" when nothing is more beautiful than a newborn baby, period; b) it's already pushing our idea of material beauty on a brand new life. Yuck on both counts.
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Amen to the gender vs sex direction of this thread. Yes, the distinction matters. Yes they are completely different things.
Also, maybe this is my UO: I don't think antivaxxers should be afforded any platform upon which to speak, nor to be "heard out", nor be given really much courtesy. They are literally a danger and menace to the public. Also, their treatment of people with Down's Syndrome and their families is deeply disgusting. Going around saying "I'd rather my child be maimed or dead rather than have Down's" is obscene. And yes, that is your message when you refuse to vaccinate for fear of Down's, despite all of reality presenting facts that you are making shit up.
I keep seeing sex/gender come up. Has anyone had differing opinions on finding out the sex? For example I want to find out the day I hold the baby for the first time. My SO however wants to find out with our genetic testing which we're doing in 2 weeks. I just don't think he'll be able to keep it a secret from me and I don't see what difference it makes whether we find out now or in April.
I don't understand why/or think its necessary that people started doing "sprinkles" and "gender reveals" and "sip and sees"...like can't we just have one event for one baby and call it a day....
I've never even heard of these before. I just thought it was a rule that you only get a baby shower for your first child. I must live under a rock.
Eh, I don't really care if people have a 2nd baby shower or not. It's common around here though. If you want it, cool, if you don't, that's cool too.
I agree. Nobody has to come. For me personally, though, I would never decline on a sip 'n see. Drink and coo over a newborn baby I don't have to stay up all night taking care of? Yes, please.
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@ngolimento totally agree with you, but I think you mean autism?
Both are the Boogeyman of antivaxxers. It's ridiculously cruel to parents with children who have either.
Wow, I hadn't heard of vaccines being blamed for Downs. How on earth can they blame a genetic condition present at conception, basically, on vaccines? Ridiculous.
@ngolimento totally agree with you, but I think you mean autism?
Both are the Boogeyman of antivaxxers. It's ridiculously cruel to parents with children who have either.
Wow, I hadn't heard of vaccines being blamed for Downs. How on earth can they blame a genetic condition present at conception, basically, on vaccines? Ridiculous.
The same way they blame pretty much anything on vaccines. What kills me is when they trot out the ingredients that are in vaccines (or were a very long time ago), like formaldehyde, to scare people. I love pointing out that in fact, every person has formaldehyde in their system right now. *Gasp* it's a natural product the body produces from breaking down foods like fruit.
@ngolimento and @kmalls totally agree about the antivaxxers. It amazes me how they talk themselves into these crazy theories that has no scientific proof behind it at all. There is even a child's book about this girl who didn't get vaccinated and she was all happy and her friend that did get one got the measles any way. It's definitely a side eye, shaking head how stupid can you be thing.
Also not gonna lie I say "gender" reveal. But it's not because I don't get the difference between gender and sex it's just old habit. We never bought DD anything overly girlie when she was little and the only reason we have more girlie toys now is because she picked them out herself but she also picks out star wars action figures too so whatever makes her happy.
Re: UO Thursday
My UO - I don't like visitors after the baby is born. In the hospital or at home. I need to be in the baby bubble for a couple weeks first.
@peppersmith22 I like those games too!
My UO: I think all sodas are gross. Except for those Italian juice ones.
//sarcasm
My UO: I In N Out fries
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
Baby number 1 get a shower
Baby 2+ get a sprinkle
i don't know who comes up with this ish
And @ngolimento I'm totally not calling you out on this, I'm definitely just thinking out loud!
DS-9/2012
DD-7/2015
As long as they are like no gifts or diaper/wipes only. I think it lets extended fries and family be a part of welcoming baby who might not otherwise be visiting right after baby is born
As an aside: if anyone LOVES newborn photos that are styled to the max with props and costumes and all that jazz -- cool! Embrace it. I'd never give anyone shit for that. I'll side-eye it but that's my own issue I think that goes for 99% of my UOs. You want a second shower? Go for it! I think it's tacky but it's also not my life, soooo...
I guess my point is that I know my UOs can come across as super judgy but I promise it's all in good fun.*
*unless you're an antivaxxer
Married DH: 2013
DD: Dec 2015
BFP 8/14/17 --> Due 4/27/2018
I think my issue is that some of us adult women decorate ourselves in jewels and fancy clothes etc to try to look more beautiful, and doing that to a newborn baby seems to me to suggest that a) it makes them more "beautiful" when nothing is more beautiful than a newborn baby, period; b) it's already pushing our idea of material beauty on a brand new life. Yuck on both counts.
Also, maybe this is my UO: I don't think antivaxxers should be afforded any platform upon which to speak, nor to be "heard out", nor be given really much courtesy. They are literally a danger and menace to the public. Also, their treatment of people with Down's Syndrome and their families is deeply disgusting. Going around saying "I'd rather my child be maimed or dead rather than have Down's" is obscene. And yes, that is your message when you refuse to vaccinate for fear of Down's, despite all of reality presenting facts that you are making shit up.
Thoughts?
Also not gonna lie I say "gender" reveal. But it's not because I don't get the difference between gender and sex it's just old habit. We never bought DD anything overly girlie when she was little and the only reason we have more girlie toys now is because she picked them out herself but she also picks out star wars action figures too so whatever makes her happy.