Room sharing when baby comes

cassmarkgraf · July 2017

What is everyone's thoughts on baby in your room vs their own room. My initial plan was to have baby in his own room. But now I am reading it is safer to room share. Thoughts?

ChocolateIsLife · July 2017

We plan to share our room for the first 6 months, and then move her to the nursery. Most recent articles I've read encourage room sharing and it has been shown to reduce the risk of SIDS, so that is the route we feel most comfortable with. I've heard others say that it's easier that way as well, as opposed to walking across the house to feed/change all night. We have a playard that we will use the bassinet portion of. I'm having a planned csection so I want to move as little as possible.

ETA I'm a FTM so hopefully some STMs have some feedback too!

itsamurphything · July 2017

We will be room sharing for at least the first 4 months - possibly 6. We will use a bassinet by the bed. We are looking at using the halo bassinest as it seems like a convenient option for night feeds and being an alternative to bed sharing that feels more safe for us.

feeislove · July 2017

I was going to have the baby sleep in her own room from the get-go but then I heard it's safer to have the baby in the same room. I plan on having her in the bassinet as I'm not into bed sharing.

kmornelas29 · July 2017

With my first, I room shared for a month while she slept in her bassinet. I planned on longer but she was a VERY noisy sleeper and it was causing both her and I lack of sleep. I moved her into her own room at one month with a video monitor, and we both started sleeping 9-12 hour nights at one month old. It was amazing!!!

This one, I plan on sharing longer if possible, because we have two rooms upstairs where we are and his will be down in another room as he gets older. I don't feel okay doing this until he is at least sleeping through the night tho.

You will find what is best for you after baby arrives.

kolache3 · July 2017

I have to room share, but would choose it for the first few months even if we had a room for an actual nursery. We are planning to move when he is 5-6 months old.

winterecho · July 2017

We want to attach a co sleeper to the side of our bed for the first few months, perhaps 3 until I'm off maternity leave and then move him to the nursery. What worries us is that his room tends to get really warm and it'll be winter so we might keep him with us in our room until the weather gets better

cranburyposh · July 2017

We're definitely sharing. Our master suite happens to be on the first floor, and our house overall is huge so we don't feel comfortable having the baby on the second floor on his own upon his arrival. We're getting the Bristol Bassinet from Pottery Barn and hoping to use it until the baby is between 6-7 months old to transition him to the nursery room with baby monitoring (camera system and heartbeat monitoring).

I found this article on Self Magazine regarding the topic, worth checking out! https://www.self.com/story/baby-room-sleep-debate

abaume · July 2017

Hello, I room shared with my DS for 14 months. I know, a lot longer than most people. Our room is big though so it didn't cause us to feel crowded. Plus, I am a heavy sleeper so it made me feel more comfortable to be able to peek at him throughout the night. Also, to be able to hear him close to me made me sleep easier without worrying. It just seemed strange to me to have him in a room by himself when I was sleeping in a room with my husband and two dogs. When he was ready for his own room he let us know. He started fussing more and waking easier from noises.

12TiendaE · July 2017

We plan on room sharing we already got her a Halo bassinet we'll probably move her to her own room around 6 months. Our son who is 19 months still sleeps in the room with us in his own bed but we plan on moving him to his own room so we don't have everyone in the room plus he'll sleep better

mommykay-2 · July 2017

We room share and the plan was to have her in her own room. Life happens and we have to room share. Now she can have her own room, we just need a bed, we've been co sleeping and I'm more attached then she is i think lol. The new baby will be in the same room, so we need to get our act together and set something up for our daughter.

mandmplus1 · July 2017

With DS we used a rock and play then a pack and play in our room for the first 8 months. Then we moved him to his own room when he started waking up more because of our noises. He went back to sleeping through the night/waking up once a night in his own room which was better. We have a floor plan where master is in the complete opposite corner of house from other bedrooms so we will be doing this again with baby girl. With all the middle of the night wakings and feedings I couldn't imagine walking across the house to baby's room every time.

crazypuglady · July 2017

We are room sharing. Not sure how long- I guess for a few months or at least until she's sleeping for long stretches. I plan to get a Rock n Play for her so she can sleep right next to the bed. That way I can just grab her for feedings and/or changings in the night.

aprilsarahjune · July 2017

As long as I am getting up in the night with this LO, we will be room sharing. His "nursery" will be shared with his 4 yo brother, though, so that may cause us to keep him in our room longer. This LO is my 4th, and my best advice is to be flexible. That monitor you thought you would love? It may not provide you with the comfort that you thought it would (or maybe it will exceed your expectations, who knows). Maybe this LO will sleep soundly through everything, or maybe he will wake up when you roll over in your own bed. Maybe this LO will eat every few hours round the clock until she is 6 months or maybe LO will sleep in 6-8 hour stretches starting at 8 weeks. Maybe you end up formula feeding for whatever reason and LO's room is closer to the bottle-making supplies than your room is. Just roll with it and address your room needs as you learn what your and your LO's needs are.

virginiaham · July 2017

Our home layout also has only the master BR downstairs and we'll be moving when LO is ~6mo old so we'll have baby in the room with us at least until the move. I'm on the lookout for a bassinet that hopefully she won't outgrow before then, any suggestions from STMs are more than welcome! We are thinking we won't even buy nursery furniture until we get to our destination next spring.

mylittleversailles · July 2017

We're hoping to stay in our one bedroom (yayyy housing crisis!) until at least 2020, so room sharing is a given! Given the recommendations to protect against SIDS, we'd share a room until a year, anyhow. There is space, albeit not a bedroom, in the rest of the apartment for the kid to move to - should he be independent or whatever else that might come up that necessitates changing our sleeping arrangements. I worry about privacy later, but such is life in a massive city.

stefanirn06 · July 2017

We will try to room share again. Last time DD was in our room for around 7 weeks then we switched to her nursery. None of us slept well with her sharing a room. She woke up a lot from mama and daddy's exhausted snores!

kdel921 · July 2017

As a FTM I don't have a lot of experience but I registered for a bassinet (and rock and play) and plan to have LO in the bedroom with us but I'm not sure for how long. I plan to breastfeed so it'll be easier and I'll feel more comforted with LO right next to us in the beginning.

jaxx723 · July 2017

We will room and most likely bedshare for at least 6-12 months just like we did with our first. It kept me from going crazy with worry and made night nursing easier.

hopeby2015 · July 2017

With dd, she was in our room until she was about 1 (in a pack n play or in our bed - it was whatever got us through the night). With these guys, we plan on having them in the room with us until they no longer wake up in the middle of the night then off to their room they go. We still have issues of dd wanting to sleep with is till this day! So we are hoping to avoid that by getting them into their rooms as early as possible!

ehepner · July 2017

We will room share for a couple months and then go from there. My last 2 babies were noisy sleepers and just them grunting would wake me up. Being a new mom is exhausting so me being awake when I didn't need to be would get old fast and shortly after, baby would move to his/her room. Around 3-4 months. Usually by that point I would be getting a longer stretch of sleep so it meant less runs to the nursery too. It would suck to have to run to the nursery ever 2-3 hours all night long so definitely recommend baby in your room for at least 6 weeks.

jsh5 · July 2017

With our first, we room shared until he was too big for the rock and play (I think around 3 months old). His room was right next to ours so it was still convenient when he woke and I felt comfortable with it because he was still close to me. This time around, we have a cradle/bassinet that we are going to use in our room. He will probably room share longer than our first. Our 2 1/2 year old and baby will be eventually sharing a room and it's important to me that baby waking up frequently doesn't disturb my oldest. I loved my rock and play from before and plan to use it on the main level of the house during the day when baby is napping.

mamabear148-2 · July 2017

We will be room sharing for the first 6months a time least. That's what we did with each of our daughters with no issues!! They first slept in the rock and play right next to me and transitioned to the pack and play at around 12 weeks (for overnight, they'd sleep naps in there beforehand to get used to it)
We're so set on this setup we have yet to do a single thing to convert the office into his bedroom LOL

australianshepherdlover · August 2017

We are planning on having our baby in our room with us in a bassinet for at least the first few months. Then, we are moving him to his own room. I've heard this is the easiest and safest way to do things.

grkgdss00 · August 2017

We will be room sharing for the first 3-4 months in the bassinet by my bed. Then she will graduate to her own room. With my first we moved her around the same time because my husband and dogs would wake her up (sneezing, rolling around, etc) hopefully baby #2 is a deeper sleeper!

Britt&Max2010 · August 2017

This is baby #3 for us and with our other two they slept in their cribs in their own rooms from day 1 at home. Now reading the new recommendations (they have changed since our last baby was born) we are really torn on what to do. Our two girls were and still are amazing sleepers and I would hate to change something this time and have that not be the case. With each baby we have been really careful to follow guidelines and setting up the nursery this time was no different. We installed a ceiling fan for airflow, have a motion sensor monitor, always do 'back to sleep' with wearable blankets, never anything in the crib, etc. I just feel like things are getting so confusing and excessive! Anyone else overwhelmed?

Polythene Pam · August 2017

My daughter was in our room till 3-4 months, we'll probably do the same. She was a great sleeper and I know WE woke her when my husband went to work early, so once she was only up once at night she went to her crib.

Only issue is that my daughter (almost 4) thinks that if the baby is in our room, she should be too, which means no one sleeps... if that becomes an issue, all may get the boot earlier

but if baby boy is a quiet sleeper he'll stay till 3 months at least. My daughter was getting aware after that so the 3-4 months seemed like a great easy window to transition her.

ashley.hamilton13 · August 2017

Def will be room sharing at least for the first couple of months. Outside of the fact that it is good for baby, I couldn't imagine having to physically get up and go to another room to feed especially those first few weeks. The first week or so I had trouble just getting out of bed from being sore from birth.

maverickmomma · September 2017

I know this is late, but I didn't even know about room sharing and reducing the risk of SIDS. I read about it recently but it's just something that my family has always done with their babies. I did it with DD until she was about 6 months and I plan to do it the same way with DS. It's just overall much more convenient to get up and walk over to the crib which is just a few feet away as opposed to potentially walking to the other side of the house. The only downside is, baby can smell your milk supply in the room. So the second they get hungry, they will know food isn't far away.
But it's worth it to see your baby sleeping soundly only a few feet from your bed.

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