TW Tuesday - 8/29

Sorry, but I seriously have to vent a non-pregnancy (but definitely parenting) issue.  Long.  Thanks for reading.

I've mentioned before, but my baby sister (20 years younger) lives with my husband and me during the summers.  Our mom and her dad started a very nasty divorce three years ago that only just resolved.  For most of the past year, my mother has been having an affair with a married man with whom she has a very long history of on-off again affairs.  Don't get me started on that - her second husband's infidelity was a major reason the marriage crumbled in the first place.  Anywho.  The guy's wife passed from cancer in April; my mother figured now was her time.  She loved him.  They were ready to move in together once my sister came out to me for the summer.  She started cleaning his house and taking care of his dogs and spending nearly every day at his house.  My baby sister did not know anything about this man; never met him; didn't know mom was seeing him.  5 weeks ago she finds out he's simultaneously involved with several other women. Big surprise.  So she ends things with him, hops on Match.com the next day, and begins a three-week marathon dating spree.  Apparently her first date was with this one particular man that she kept seeing during her dating marathon.  They decide to become exclusive two weeks ago.  She tells my baby sister a week ago she started dating, and that she is seeing one man in particular.  

My sister flew home on Sunday.  All weekend we've been having very detailed conversations about her feelings on mom dating, whether she is ready to meet the new boyfriend, etc.  She's not ready.  In between all our conversations, I had drawn out conversations and debates, begging our mother to give my sister at least a week at home before introducing them.  Just time to settle in and get used to the idea of mom dating.  My sister arrives home to find his stuff all over the house -- breakfast foods for him, new coffee maker, toothbrush and toothpaste.  So not only is mom dating someone, he's spending nights at the house.  Freaks my sister out even more.  So, instead of taking the time to talk to her and get her used to the idea what does my mother do? Invite him over to the house not 24 hours after my sister gets back home to force an introduction! She was so hellbent on this man she refused to listen to any of my siblings or me.  I can't tell you how angry that made me for my sister's sake.  I mean, I have my own issues with my mother's emotional dependency personality.  I think this whole thing is rushed.  But, I'm an adult as is she - she can make her own relationship decisions.  The part that galls me is that she has a 13yr old living at home still.  A 13yr old smack in the middle of puberty with her hormones and emotions all over the place, who is still reeling from what has been a really nasty divorce. What was so difficult about waiting one week.  One week! Bloody well be a responsible parent!

[rant over.  Thanks!]