I had an elective u/s done over the weekend and the lady did the potty shot so fast and was more focused on getting a face shot (I was 15w5d). Which we didn't get anyway because baby was very uncooperative. I've been googling ultrasounds because I want to confirm the gender more and I found girl and boy u/s that look like this. I just don't want to go all out buying a certain color just to have them tell me something different at my next apt in 4 weeks. We're happy either way but I want to buy things already! I know someone who was told boy at 20weeks and then told girl at 37weeks and someone who was told girl at 16weeks and then boy at 20weeks. What do you think?
are you sure it's even a baby? that legit looks like tiny trex. I think you should make an emergent appointment with your OB.
But hey, im no ultrasound tech so what the hell do I know?
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Parents to fur babies Tiki and Gizzmo and 2yr old Georgia IF veterans; #1 conceived on second clomid+HCG+IUI, #2 conceived on 1st Letrozole+HCG+IUI EDD: Feb 5, 2018
We appreciate that you posted an introduction before posting this. Most true drive by posters never do. However if you do want to be an active BMB member then it's important to understand the organization & rules of the board. We have a US thread setup for your ultrasounds but it's still considered bad form to ask us to read it for you. If you paid an elective tech to perform the US then theu should have properly read it for you at that time. I agree with others, you probably wasted your money on it.
If you really want to know the sex of your baby then you'll have to wait until your scheduled anatomy scan or wait until birth if child is uncooperative.
We cannot provide more help than snarky remarks and gifs. We get these posts pretty much weekly.
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Can you unquote. I won't be sticking around, I'd rather stay on another site that had less members and less activity. I have no idea what QFP means anyway. I'm unfamiliar with the format of the site sorry I broke one of the almighty rules and got everyone butthurt. Enjoy your pregnancies ladies!
Can you unquote. I won't be sticking around, I'd rather stay on another site that had less members and less activity. I have no idea what QFP means anyway. I'm unfamiliar with the format of the site sorry I broke one of the almighty rules and got everyone butthurt. Enjoy your pregnancies ladies!
No one is butt hurt but you. And she quoted bc posters like you generally delete and we want the post to remain. Nice try though.
Can you unquote. I won't be sticking around, I'd rather stay on another site that had less members and less activity. I have no idea what QFP means anyway. I'm unfamiliar with the format of the site sorry I broke one of the almighty rules and got everyone butthurt. Enjoy your pregnancies ladies!
Can you unquote. I won't be sticking around, I'd rather stay on another site that had less members and less activity. I have no idea what QFP means anyway. I'm unfamiliar with the format of the site sorry I broke one of the almighty rules and got everyone butthurt. Enjoy your pregnancies ladies!
We are actually a really great group of women who provide a lot of support, laughter, and information for each other. Also, we are a very tame group compared to other months. If you had read the "READ THIS FIRST", you would have known the "almighty rules". I'm sorry you didn't get the responses you wanted from us, but we aren't trained techs. Our guesses at your US would be 50/50. Feel free to stick around and become part of this community, but don't use us as a drive thru.
I had introduced myself quick and planned on coming back in later to look around more. I did miss that post as there's A TON of stuff on this site. I was just asking for opinions but I guess there are none. I was a member years ago when I had my last almost 6 years ago but I'll go elsewhere.
Can you unquote. I won't be sticking around, I'd rather stay on another site that had less members and less activity. I have no idea what QFP means anyway. I'm unfamiliar with the format of the site sorry I broke one of the almighty rules and got everyone butthurt. Enjoy your pregnancies ladies!
Do you think less people/activity is going to get you the responses you were looking for orrrrrr
OP - As once a woman on here who has been flamed for not following the rules, it's simple once you read the organization board. I wish I would have. I had hurt a lot of women on here by not reading the board FIRST. No one is out to get you, we just want you to understand that this is a VERY tight knit community and we have rules that help keep these boards organized and less repetitive and chaotic. No need to get defensive. Trust me. Get to know these lovely ladies and read the rules. Lurk and participate in the community. If you get some snark, take it with a grain of salt. Laugh a little. The GIF's are funny. (Wish I could figure out how to)
OP, you mentioned in your post that you know people who had the wrong sex told to them much further along in their pregnancies by qualified US techs. What makes you think a bunch of random internet strangers would know better? Unless I missed that one of us went to school for this? Either way, I can't even.
I had introduced myself quick and planned on coming back in later to look around more. I did miss that post as there's A TON of stuff on this site. I was just asking for opinions but I guess there are none. I was a member years ago when I had my last almost 6 years ago but I'll go elsewhere.
I had introduced myself quick and planned on coming back in later to look around more. I did miss that post as there's A TON of stuff on this site. I was just asking for opinions but I guess there are none. I was a member years ago when I had my last almost 6 years ago but I'll go elsewhere.
True, there are a ton of posts, but the ultrasound thread is always in the top 4. Granted, it's just for sharing photos, not for staring at a baby's genitals to figure out if it's an innie or an outie.
If you need to shop that bad, you can do it without knowing the sex. Boys can wear pink. Girls can wear blue. Or go gender neutral.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
Honestly, these posts always dissapoint me (same thing last pregnancy) I understand the rules are important to keeping this board organized, and truly appreciate the admin efforts at that. However, knowing this is actually a lovely bunch, I hate that instead of someone kindly teaching/redirecting when someone is mis-using the board, we jump to criticize and make them feel terrible and leave.
@NKF312 stating facts does not equal being mean. That's why I posted gifs because this was a dumb post. No one can tell you what sex your child is except a trained professional. You can't get butt hurt about getting flamed when you lack common sense. Now this sounds mean. What the ladies wrote her was not. Humor also does not equal being mean.
andplusalso this will deter other special snowflakes from making similar posts.
People have been flamed plenty of times and they don't all leave. In my opinion if they leave then they weren't the right fit for this community anyway.
@NKF312 I thought I was quite nice to her in suggesting what she should do. Honestly though, we get so many random posts about nub theory and US crotch shots and "I ate peaches while ovulating...am I having a boy or girl" that we pretty much know they're just screwing with us. Most of the people don't bother participating in anything other than their own posts. That's why there's blogs for that and not message boards. And that so many people don't bother reading the big bold pinned post at top saying "Read this first" or even bother lurking around to get a feel for the audience before posting just astounds me.
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@SunflowerMama428@rainafire77 I think any of the posts on their own I could look at and see the lightness/humor (well most of them anyway) maybe it's just the cumulation of all the posts together that comes of "mean" and maybe mean isn't even the right word... like I said I totally appreciate that this board doesn't allow millions of threads that repeat topics or focused on one persons needs, I just can't help but feel maybe some of these people are legit "lost" and not sure how to navigate these boards
@SunflowerMama428@rainafire77 I think any of the posts on their own I could look at and see the lightness/humor (well most of them anyway) maybe it's just the cumulation of all the posts together that comes of "mean" and maybe mean isn't even the right word... like I said I totally appreciate that this board doesn't allow millions of threads that repeat topics or focused on one persons needs, I just can't help but feel maybe some of these people are legit "lost" and not sure how to navigate these boards
I don't agree with this explanation for their behavior, though. I was a newb to the bump once, and by newb I mean I have never been a member of any other message board so I didn't even know basic Internet etiquette, let alone Bump etiquette. So when I found the Bump I read threads and read the newbie guide (I started on TTGP) and followed the rules because it was an established community and I could recognize that even in my newb status. So when I see someone posting their own AW posts I see someone who can't be bothered to read the rules or get a feel for the community like I did, which is self-centered. If they can't take the time do that, why should we take time to indulge their question? Their time is no more valuable than ours.
I can see how posts can be interpreted as mean when read in comparison to posts on other sites that may blow more smoke up members' asses (sites that would squee over the U/S photo, e.g.), but we stated plainly what we thought. With a little snark and GIFs for fun
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
@SunflowerMama428@rainafire77 I think any of the posts on their own I could look at and see the lightness/humor (well most of them anyway) maybe it's just the cumulation of all the posts together that comes of "mean" and maybe mean isn't even the right word... like I said I totally appreciate that this board doesn't allow millions of threads that repeat topics or focused on one persons needs, I just can't help but feel maybe some of these people are legit "lost" and not sure how to navigate these boards
Can you unquote. I won't be sticking around, I'd rather stay on another site that had less members and less activity. I have no idea what QFP means anyway. I'm unfamiliar with the format of the site sorry I broke one of the almighty rules and got everyone butthurt. Enjoy your pregnancies ladies!
That type of reaction does not suggest "lost" to me. It suggests OP was being bratty.
Also - 1 million other boards to join if you like the idea of rainbows and butterflies and stickiness or dust sprinkles or some stuff.
@SunflowerMama428@rainafire77 I think any of the posts on their own I could look at and see the lightness/humor (well most of them anyway) maybe it's just the cumulation of all the posts together that comes of "mean" and maybe mean isn't even the right word... like I said I totally appreciate that this board doesn't allow millions of threads that repeat topics or focused on one persons needs, I just can't help but feel maybe some of these people are legit "lost" and not sure how to navigate these boards
So when I was a newbie I totally felt this way, and I think I even commented before that I feel like people can be kinder. BUT. It's been a couple months now and I do get the responses like this and the snark because a) If you don't know how to navigate the boards, read the "Read This First" post which literally instructs you to read it first. Ignorance isn't an excuse. b) as people have mentioned above, giving instructions or completely rational responses to a person who's lost is a logical, not mean, thing to do. How the person responds is a reflection of her/his own issues, not the other people on the board. Some people say "thanks for the info" and move on to become active participants.
Also, the gif are funny. Gotta have some humor, or at least see the humor, cuz it's also fun to give it out too.
@SunflowerMama428@rainafire77 I think any of the posts on their own I could look at and see the lightness/humor (well most of them anyway) maybe it's just the cumulation of all the posts together that comes of "mean" and maybe mean isn't even the right word... like I said I totally appreciate that this board doesn't allow millions of threads that repeat topics or focused on one persons needs, I just can't help but feel maybe some of these people are legit "lost" and not sure how to navigate these boards
Can you unquote. I won't be sticking around, I'd rather stay on another site that had less members and less activity. I have no idea what QFP means anyway. I'm unfamiliar with the format of the site sorry I broke one of the almighty rules and got everyone butthurt. Enjoy your pregnancies ladies!
That type of reaction does not suggest "lost" to me. It suggests OP was being bratty.
Also - 1 million other boards to join if you like the idea of rainbows and butterflies and stickiness or dust sprinkles or some stuff.
Excellent point. Can't sincerely claim ignorance of rules then mock them.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
This thread is so entertaining! I'm glad to have something to read for once.
Personally, regardless of the fact that no one here is a trained tech (as far as I know) I find it odd to post pictures of your child's genitals ANYWHERE much less on the internet. It's tacky.
OP if you did any search on this subject on TB you would see similar responses. This should not be surprising. I thought the responses were very tame.
Regardless of how you feel about the groups responses (which I thought were appropriate), if the trained person you paid to do an US couldn't tell you the sex of the baby what makes you think we can??? I had one today and when the tech pointed out my baby's fingers I still couldn't make them out.
If you don't like the environment of the board, just leave...? *shoulder shrug emoji*
No one was straight mean. It's pretty rude to come into an established community, ignore the established 'rules', and then say "well I'm sorry I broke an almighty rule".
US tech here! Can I just say it is so nice to see the overwhelming majority of people on this post (and other gender-related posts) respecting the US profession. We quite frequently get comments degrading our jobs (ex: "did you actually have to go to school for this?") so it warms my little hormonal heart to see people saying trust the professionals!
Also, I make it a habit to not give out any gender guesses before 16 weeks. Things are not always as they seem before then. I'm almost 14 weeks now and it's driving me crazy that I'm not quite sure what my own LO is yet!
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I also think you wasted money on an elective ultrasound.
And I also think there is no one qualified here to tell you if it's a penis or vagina.
Can we just have a gif party. Go!
are you sure it's even a baby? that legit looks like tiny trex. I think you should make an emergent appointment with your OB.
But hey, im no ultrasound tech so what the hell do I know?
IF veterans; #1 conceived on second clomid+HCG+IUI, #2 conceived on 1st Letrozole+HCG+IUI
EDD: Feb 5, 2018
If you really want to know the sex of your baby then you'll have to wait until your scheduled anatomy scan or wait until birth if child is uncooperative.
We cannot provide more help than snarky remarks and gifs. We get these posts pretty much weekly.
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
*lurking from March*
OP - As once a woman on here who has been flamed for not following the rules, it's simple once you read the organization board. I wish I would have. I had hurt a lot of women on here by not reading the board FIRST. No one is out to get you, we just want you to understand that this is a VERY tight knit community and we have rules that help keep these boards organized and less repetitive and chaotic. No need to get defensive. Trust me. Get to know these lovely ladies and read the rules. Lurk and participate in the community. If you get some snark, take it with a grain of salt. Laugh a little. The GIF's are funny. (Wish I could figure out how to)
But please, read the rules first. Thanks.
Applause ladies.
Baby #1: BFP 1/30/14, EDD 9/28/14, natural MC @ 6 weeks
Baby #2: BFP 8/1/2014, EDD 4/9/2015, It's a GIRL: Addison Elizabeth!
If you need to shop that bad, you can do it without knowing the sex. Boys can wear pink. Girls can wear blue. Or go gender neutral.
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
andplusalso this will deter other special snowflakes from making similar posts.
People have been flamed plenty of times and they don't all leave. In my opinion if they leave then they weren't the right fit for this community anyway.
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
like I said I totally appreciate that this board doesn't allow millions of threads that repeat topics or focused on one persons needs, I just can't help but feel maybe some of these people are legit "lost" and not sure how to navigate these boards
This. ^
*Still lurking from March*
I can see how posts can be interpreted as mean when read in comparison to posts on other sites that may blow more smoke up members' asses (sites that would squee over the U/S photo, e.g.), but we stated plainly what we thought. With a little snark and GIFs for fun
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
Also - 1 million other boards to join if you like the idea of rainbows and butterflies and stickiness or dust sprinkles or some stuff.
Also, the gif are funny. Gotta have some humor, or at least see the humor, cuz it's also fun to give it out too.
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
Personally, regardless of the fact that no one here is a trained tech (as far as I know) I find it odd to post pictures of your child's genitals ANYWHERE much less on the internet. It's tacky.
OP if you did any search on this subject on TB you would see similar responses. This should not be surprising. I thought the responses were very tame.
No one was straight mean. It's pretty rude to come into an established community, ignore the established 'rules', and then say "well I'm sorry I broke an almighty rule".
Ignorance of the law is no excuse.
Also, I make it a habit to not give out any gender guesses before 16 weeks. Things are not always as they seem before then. I'm almost 14 weeks now and it's driving me crazy that I'm not quite sure what my own LO is yet!