I'll start it off... I cannot roll my eyes hard enough at people who tell me that their 1-3 year old "understands that there's a baby in their belly." "So and so kisses my belly and talks to the baby." I think those people are trying to force a relationship between their toddler and fetus and it's silly. Your child Does that because you've told them to, not because they understand that there's another human being in there. My friend posted a video of her explaining her pregnancy to her 6 year old and even THaT child couldn't figure out what the heck she was talking about.
I confess that I totally do those stupid Buzzfeed quizzes that make zero sense. "Make a sandwich and we'll guess what year you were born!" I mean.. what? But sure okay I'll give it a try.
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I take those quizzes all the time @peachy13. LOL I did one the other day that was something like "design this kitchen and we'll tell you when you'll have your first child." My answer was 2 years. Haha I hope not.
I don't give money to the Salvation Army bell ringers because they (the SA, not necessarily the bell ringers) hate gay people. I know this will get some eye rolls, but if you hate any one group of people like that, we can't be friends. (Yeah, yeah, they've updated their website to try to be inclusive but I'm still like...ehhh, no thanks.)
This is also why I've never been to Chickfila, don't shop at Urban Outfitters (okay, they're also way overpriced and I'm too old for those clothes now, but I started when I first found out their stance and could wear those clothes), a Cracker Barrel just opened here and I won't go there, etc.
(I'm not saying if you support any of these businesses I have an issue with you. We didn't get CFA in my area until the past couple of years, so if I had been eating there regularly without knowing for years or since childhood, I may have continued going there after finding out. I don't know.)
@MJDsquared Same!! No Salvation Army, Chik-fil-A, Papa Johns, Barilla, UO, etc. for me, and even though I don't try to influence others, I still get constant eye-rolls for it.
@lestex my 3 year old absolutely understands there's a baby inside of me. I use a Doppler fairly often and she asks to hear the baby's "heart beep". It's not forced, but 3 year olds do understand.
My oldest had zero idea there was another baby until she saw her in the hospital. She was not pleased haha.
ETA: my oldest wasn't even 2 when her sister was born and had speech delays which I really think played a part in her not understanding.
I'll start it off... I cannot roll my eyes hard enough at people who tell me that their 1-3 year old "understands that there's a baby in their belly." "So and so kisses my belly and talks to the baby." I think those people are trying to force a relationship between their toddler and fetus and it's silly. Your child Does that because you've told them to, not because they understand that there's another human being in there. My friend posted a video of her explaining her pregnancy to her 6 year old and even THaT child couldn't figure out what the heck she was talking about.
edited to change they're to their.
WTF??? .... OK..where do I start... First of all, you obviously don't have kids. Secondly, children understand a hell of a lot more than you apparently think they do. Do you think children are morons? Jesus f-ing Christmas... a one year old might not understand... but 3 years old? Yes. They very much understand. I have 3 daughters, ages 3-7. We have a baby development book with real pictures of babies in utero, and they most certainly understand it. When we first talked about the pregnancy, their faces lit up with understanding and awe. We sat down, looked at the pictures in the book, and discussed what each picture was. They find it fascinating. Each day, they hug me and then hug my tummy and ask me where the baby's cheeks are (which I have no idea) and I point to a random spot in the middle of my stomach and they kiss it. It's certainly not a "forced" relationship. I find your comments speak more to your lack of intelligence than the children you're referencing.
Just adding in case anyone thinks I'm age-shaming with my comment about UO (kind of doubt, but wanted to make it clear) that I don't mean any women my age or older can't/shouldn't wear UO. Something that really annoys me is those lists in magazines that are like, "XX Things a Woman Shouldn't Wear After 30." Umm, no. Wear what you want, when you want! I meant that my style has evolved over the years.
@MJDsquared I hear you about "younger" clothes though. I feel similar with Forever 21 which I used to love.. it wasn't until I went in there maybe a year or two ago that I was like damn I would not and should not wear any of this. Nothing about the clothes itself is bad, I've just outgrown it.
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Names I got - Sydney, Ali, Finn, or Bear. I would maybe consider Finn out of there, but we're having a girl. And while I don't have anything against either Sydney or Ali, there are reasons why both those names aren't even contenders for us.
My FFFC is I'm now going to spend the rest of the afternoon doing Buzzfeed quizzes :-)
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Yikes- that was aggressive @eazybreezy225 I included the ages 1-3 in my post for a reason, to clarify, my age range was up to 3. 3 years and 2 months doesn't count. I have a 1.5 year old and an almost 3 year old. Telling my 3 year old not to jump on my back because he might hurt the baby, makes no sense to him. Soooo, when someone who has a 2 year old tries to tell me that their kid "absolutely understands" there's a baby underneath moms shirt, yes- I roll my eyes. Your 3-7 year olds are absolutely going to understand more! Perhaps including that my friends' 6 year old didn't understand was confusing. (No sarcasm, here) Once she accompanied my gf to an ultrasound and saw the baby, it made sense. To my 3 year old, his sibling just appeared (when he was 19 months old)- no way it occurred to him that mom's once inflated belly disappeared at the exact same time his brother came home. If your children are old enough to understand a baby in your belly and offer kisses and conversation and whatnot- that's sweet. But for real, you're being a dingleberry if you're going to tell me younger children have the same level of understanding.
I might have to look into the book you're talking about- it hadn't occurred to me to look for a book that explained pregnancy to children. What's it called?
I agree @eazybreezy225. My one year old (well turned 2 today) has no clue but I know a 3 year old would. DD probably will in a few months. Kids understand a lot more than people (without) kids give them credit for.
I already posted mine on some other thread but y'all, if you want a mood lifter go lurk the other BMBs and look at the birth announcements. Makes me so excited for December!
@dkizz82 I've been doing that starting this week when the board (and the like 5 other BMBs I lurk) don't have new material. (Can you tell work is slow for me? lol) I've also been looking at HDBD threads on the close-to-birth BMBs. Both make me so excited for December!
ETA: I just have to say that I ended my post, "so excited" but I'm a 10-year-old and couldn't stop thinking of it in a pervy way and had to add "for December" lol.
@peachy13 apparently LO's name should be Sidney, Ali, Finn, or Bear.
I eat at Chik Fil A ( not that often, but once in a while). My gay friends do too, actually--it's delicious. I teach management and one of my class teams did a debate on the Chik Fil A issues. They did a really good job with it, but I doubt any of them would stop eating there!
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
Yeah. So my son is also 6 yrs old and he absolutely 1000% understands there's a baby in my belly and that's with absolutely zero "forcing a relationship". It terrifies me. *TW* Because at 5, he absolutely understood that I had a baby in my tummy who died. The concept of death? Hard for him to understand. The reality that mommy's bump disappeared and that meant baby brother was gone? He understood that all too well and I pray he never has to go through that again. I was in grief counseling and I remember my therapist telling me kids understand and feel so much more than we realize and give them credit for and we really need to overcome our tendency to minimize what they feel and understand.
On a funnier note, I was 21 and in college when Forever 21 first came to Florida. I shopped there like crazy and lovedlovedloved it. I'm 38 now and earlier this year I went into one on a whim to look around. Holy eff, turns out their name is a big fat lie. I am most definitely not Forever 21!
Me: 38 l DH: 41 Gavin - 8/27/10 *TW* Gabriel - 2nd tri loss 5/17/16 Trisomy 18 & 21 Hope - 2nd tri loss 12/7/16 complications from pneumonia
I'm still annoyed at having other people's religious beliefs forced on me like at work and stuff. I mean I'm glad it's an important part of their life and moral code but honestly sometimes I just get sick of hearing about it.
also I'm tired of the double standards of people being against abortion and against birth control.
also I'm tired of us politics and how hard it is to pass anything for the common good. I feel like there always has to be a scapegoat or someone to Blame for why x community is not getting ahead as they feel they should be
I'm tired of hearing about every single breath that Donald trump takes. Like I really want less minute to minute updates about him, who he has recently offended or his latest rant.
Im also growing annoyed at the Carolina accent lol. I used to think it was quaint now I just am like ugh
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edited to change they're to their.
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This is also why I've never been to Chickfila, don't shop at Urban Outfitters (okay, they're also way overpriced and I'm too old for those clothes now, but I started when I first found out their stance and could wear those clothes), a Cracker Barrel just opened here and I won't go there, etc.
(I'm not saying if you support any of these businesses I have an issue with you. We didn't get CFA in my area until the past couple of years, so if I had been eating there regularly without knowing for years or since childhood, I may have continued going there after finding out. I don't know.)
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
TTC #1 since 12/2015
BFP 4/4/17, EDD 12/4/17
My oldest had zero idea there was another baby until she saw her in the hospital. She was not pleased haha.
ETA: my oldest wasn't even 2 when her sister was born and had speech delays which I really think played a part in her not understanding.
First of all, you obviously don't have kids. Secondly, children understand a hell of a lot more than you apparently think they do. Do you think children are morons? Jesus f-ing Christmas... a one year old might not understand... but 3 years old? Yes. They very much understand. I have 3 daughters, ages 3-7. We have a baby development book with real pictures of babies in utero, and they most certainly understand it. When we first talked about the pregnancy, their faces lit up with understanding and awe. We sat down, looked at the pictures in the book, and discussed what each picture was. They find it fascinating.
Each day, they hug me and then hug my tummy and ask me where the baby's cheeks are (which I have no idea) and I point to a random spot in the middle of my stomach and they kiss it. It's certainly not a "forced" relationship.
I find your comments speak more to your lack of intelligence than the children you're referencing.
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
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TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
My FFFC is I'm now going to spend the rest of the afternoon doing Buzzfeed quizzes :-)
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I included the ages 1-3 in my post for a reason, to clarify, my age range was up to 3. 3 years and 2 months doesn't count. I have a 1.5 year old and an almost 3 year old. Telling my 3 year old not to jump on my back because he might hurt the baby, makes no sense to him. Soooo, when someone who has a 2 year old tries to tell me that their kid "absolutely understands" there's a baby underneath moms shirt, yes- I roll my eyes. Your 3-7 year olds are absolutely going to understand more! Perhaps including that my friends' 6 year old didn't understand was confusing. (No sarcasm, here) Once she accompanied my gf to an ultrasound and saw the baby, it made sense. To my 3 year old, his sibling just appeared (when he was 19 months old)- no way it occurred to him that mom's once inflated belly disappeared at the exact same time his brother came home. If your children are old enough to understand a baby in your belly and offer kisses and conversation and whatnot- that's sweet. But for real, you're being a dingleberry if you're going to tell me younger children have the same level of understanding.
I might have to look into the book you're talking about- it hadn't occurred to me to look for a book that explained pregnancy to children. What's it called?
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ETA: I just have to say that I ended my post, "so excited" but I'm a 10-year-old and couldn't stop thinking of it in a pervy way and had to add "for December" lol.
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
I eat at Chik Fil A ( not that often, but once in a while). My gay friends do too, actually--it's delicious. I teach management and one of my class teams did a debate on the Chik Fil A issues. They did a really good job with it, but I doubt any of them would stop eating there!
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
On a funnier note, I was 21 and in college when Forever 21 first came to Florida. I shopped there like crazy and lovedlovedloved it. I'm 38 now and earlier this year I went into one on a whim to look around. Holy eff, turns out their name is a big fat lie. I am most definitely not Forever 21!
Gavin - 8/27/10
*TW*
Gabriel - 2nd tri loss 5/17/16 Trisomy 18 & 21
Hope - 2nd tri loss 12/7/16 complications from pneumonia
also I'm tired of the double standards of people being against abortion and against birth control.
also I'm tired of us politics and how hard it is to pass anything for the common good. I feel like there always has to be a scapegoat or someone to Blame for why x community is not getting ahead as they feel they should be
I'm tired of hearing about every single breath that Donald trump takes. Like I really want less minute to minute updates about him, who he has recently offended or his latest rant.
Im also growing annoyed at the Carolina accent lol. I used to think it was quaint now I just am like ugh