Twatwaffle/Trophy Tuesday 7/25

MJDsquared · July 2017

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failuretofly · July 2017

My kid is a twatwaffle today, not by any of his own fault, but annoying none-the-less. I teach a mom fitness class on tuesday mornings, and today at the beginning of class he was climbing on me as I was demonstrating a movement and he fell and whacked his head on the floor, so that set the stage for a cranky ass kid. Then another kid tried stealing his pacifier the whole class, to the point where he was scared and would cry if she so much as looked at him. But he only had the pacifier because he fell and hit his head and I wanted him to stop crying so I could teach the class without having to pay as much attention to him. Just frustrating when I am trying to be professional and my darn kid is interfering!

MJDsquared · July 2017

Today I won a $200 Nordstrom gift card on a blog giveaway! It's probably just going to wait unused until at least a few months PP. I don't really want to buy Nordstrom-level maternity clothes, and I don't want to buy regular clothes and just hope they'll fit later, annnd I'm scared my feet will grow so shoes are out too.

But I'm excited that I'll be able to spend it eventually!

mdcd44127 · July 2017

Today's TW award goes to my coworker who is, as I type this, standing over my cube wall telling me to "be careful" with vaccinations when my kid is born because she's been "doing some reading and it's pretty scary" and also that she apparently knows someone whose kid "definitely got too many shots at once and now he's autistic." Um. There are so many things wrong with that logic. The best part? We work for a pharmaceutical company that manufactures vaccines. I knew she was borderline anti-vax before this, but I thought she was smart enough to keep that crap away from me. I don't even know what to say, you can't argue with this girl about anything. I'm just keeping quiet and remembering to never bring my baby into work when she's around.

breezybee · July 2017

Oh Jesus the anti-vaxers. My friends niece (who she lives with and helps raise since her mother has been committed- LONG STORY) didn't get vaccinated at all, and the other day my friend said that she'd always be bringing her over to help with my babies when they come - "she'll be so good at it!" I said, yeah fucking right. She never got vaccinated! Don't you dare bring her over to my house lol.
I mean, do I really need to explain this to people? You cannot be around my kids if you haven't been vaccinated. That's her dad's choice to do that, but it's my choice to not bring her around until my kids have their shots.

Anyway, no TW so far today! Trophy is for my boss, who is just the most wonderful person on earth. She gave me the whole morning off and left us (I'm a nanny) money for cupcakes this afternoon. She knows that's my pregnancy craving

I'm going to miss her so much when I leave.

blueskies17 · July 2017

@MJDsquared that's awesome! Nordstrom is having their anniversary sale right now and they have a lot of cute baby clothes and gear on sale..!

blueskies17 · July 2017

I get a trophy today because I chose fruit over gelato for dessert after dinner tonight. I'm a TW because I chose fruit over gelato for dessert after dinner tonight. (Love you always, gelato.)

thatlauragirl · July 2017

TW goes to our home builder. We were originally scheduled to close June 29. Then it got pushed back to July 24. Then August 4. Our walk through was scheduled for tomorrow. They called this afternoon to cancel tomorrow and our closing is delayed another week because they haven't put sod down and there's a "grass shortage". I.can't.even.

kyrwyn · July 2017

Definitely a TW award. My step mom has decided that she needs a "special" grandma name, and I'm sort of annoyed by it. When my (step-)sister had her first kid, my (step-)sister was 19 and my step mom didn't feel like she was old enough to be grandma. So she chose Yaya (no, we aren't Greek, and yes, she was really mad to find out that's grandma in Greek) and basically forced it on my sister. My niece had 2 grandparents at that time, so "vanity grandparent names" weren't a big deal.

My kid is going to have 8 grandparents + 2 great grandmas, and I don't want to deal with it. (If anyone gets a special Grandma name, it'll be my mom -- who raised me from 9 to adulthood as a single parent battling the most ridiculous drawn out family court BS I could imagine with my dad & step-mom.) But my step-mom told me that she asked my nieces (there are now three) if she was "allowed to change her name because of the new baby" and the girls got really upset and told her no. So she told me that my kid also has to call her Yaya or it will upset my nieces. Who live in another state. And will be 11, 10, and 9 before this kid can talk and totally old enough to understand that other families might have other grandma words.

My sister agrees this BS.

katiegeminimoon · July 2017

@kyrwyn all the grandmothers my DD will have already have other grandma names and it's super annoying. One is from Guam so they are traditionally Nana, which is fine. The others are Grammy and maw maw (cringe). What's so wrong with just being grandma!!

kyrwyn · July 2017

@ktcakes87 I hear you! Maw maw has always been a tough one for me, too. I'm also not a fan of "Gigi", which is what my very southern second-cousin called our great grandma. I like ethnic grandma names for families where they make sense (or are historically used), but we're glow-in-the-dark-white 4+ generation Americans and basically nobody left but my mom and I speak any of the family's heritage languages -- so it doesn't fit for us, unless my mom wants to be Oma.

darkfyre · July 2017

@MJDsquared What an awesome postpartum treat!

katiegeminimoon · July 2017

@kyrwyn haha glow in the dark white

. We are too. We pretty much are too, her nana is a step mother. Maw maw just sounds so hillbilly to me, I don't know that I'll ever get over that one.

breezybee · July 2017

Haha @kyrwyn. My mom just informed me that she'd like to be called Gigi. Insert eyeroll here. Ok mom, whatever floats your boat.
Haha your TW gave me a good laugh this morning though!

MJDsquared · July 2017

I think my least favorite is Glamma. Like, you're too young and 'glam' to be a grandma. Barf.

But @ktcakes87 I totally agree. Thankfully my mom and MIL would never ever ask to be called Maw Maw or Memaw!

ChelK3 · July 2017

I'd tell all the mom's, step-mom's, grandmas, great grandmas etc. You get called what my kid decides to call you! My niece called my mom "mommy's mommy" forever. I don't think my mom liked it too much, but it's what made sense to my niece. My son calls SO's mom "na-ma", and my mom "na-ma Jodi". He sees SO's mom more often so she is the original Na-ma. It's just his way of saying grandma, but I think it'll stick forever, even after his speech improves.

cait5413 · July 2017

@kyrwyn If your step-mom already goes by Yaya to her other grandchildren, why wouldn't your LO call her the same? I'm just used to all of my cousins (13 of us on one side, 5 on the other) all calling our grandparents the same thing (Granny on one side, Mimi on the other; both grandfathers were dead by the time I came along). DD is the first grandchild on both sides, so she'll decide. Right now, my mom goes by Marme (I guess she also wanted a special grandma name, but I called her mom Mimi and my great-grandmother was Mamo, so I think it also fits the theme) and my dad went by Poppi. Dh's parents are less definite on what they want to be--His dad will probably be Grampy (though Dh's mom also refers to him as "Grandad" sometimes) and DH's mom wanted to be Grandee (her name is Dee) but has since decided it may be too hard to say and DD can call her whatever. I still think Grandee is kinda cute and I refer to her that way to DD (got in the habit), so it may just stick. DH isn't a big fan of it, though, so maybe that is why she is waffling.

kyrwyn · July 2017

@cait5413 Mostly because my family "tree" is fantastically complicated and as a broader family we've made a concerted effort to not highly the old/biological divisions by using step- half- etc when describing cousins, aunts, uncles, siblings and, yes, parents. DH's family is equally confusing, so our kid will have more of a family "hedge" than a family tree. (I totally wrote out the list-form of my + DH's nuclear families and then deleted it because it really doesn't make sense without diagrams.)

I really like the idea of everyone being just Grandma or Grandpa from the start, on equal footing in the kid's life irrespective of how they joined my or DH's lives in the past. If we were a family that hasn't had such a protracted and emotional struggle with blending and reforming, I'd totally roll with "Yaya".

Edits: I should add -- I don't know if these are good reasons, they're just how I'm feeling at the moment. (And I deleted a kind of pointlessly catty comment I'd made, because it's just old hurts and not really relevant.)

joziejo · July 2017

I know its not Tuesday, but major TW. We had DH's parents staying with us a few days and when my FIL saw me he asked if I was sure I wasn't having twins. *tw I initially was carrying twins and lost one at 8 weeks. He knew that. WTF.
Also I am 21 weeks and still wearing pre-pregnancy pants and am down in weight since getting pregnant...

MJDsquared · July 2017

@wstacij Wow, what a totally insensitive and uncalled for comment! Definitely a TW.

breezybee · July 2017

Eeewww what a dick @wstacij I would have had a hard time not going ragey on him.

elev2017 · July 2017

@wstacij I would have been livid. Even as someone who is currently carrying twins, I fully intend to call people out who make comments like that, because it's just SO RUDE. I just don't understand how people can be like that.

kyrwyn · July 2017

@wstacij Wow, that's totally out of line on your FIL's part. I hope the rest of your family is more supportive.

ETA: grammar: possessives, your FIL not our FIL. typing is hard today.

failuretofly · July 2017

I never got comments about my belly size OR had any strangers try to touch my belly. I attribute this to my severe case of RBF. People KNOW they better not even think about saying/doing shit like that to me hahahaa

*edited to add I by no means had a small belly! I was enormous by the end lol

MJDsquared · July 2017

@kvacmak I have major RBF so I'm hoping this keeps strangers away too! I'm fine with family (including super close friends that I qualify as family) touching my belly, but do prefer that they ask first and so far all of them have (except my mom, which is fine with me).

mdcd44127 · July 2017

@kvacmak @MJDsquared Oh gosh, I have pretty severe tactophobia with anyone except DH (and sometimes even with him). Meanwhile my mom is SUPER touchy-feely, she makes me so squeamish... there are no boundaries for that woman whatsoever. My RBF game is pretty strong, so it's not much of an issue with anyone else, but I'm just waiting for the day I instinctively karate-chop someone's wrist for touching my belly.

@wstacij I am SO sorry about your FIL saying that to you, the insensitivity of that comment is astounding. I hope he eventually realizes (or has someone, like your DH or MIL, point out to him) how shitty that comment was so he's more aware of what he says in the future.

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