If you have 'older' kids...

pghctwife · July 2017

when are you planning to tell them, and how? Any issues with keeping then pregnancy quiet from them so far?

i want to wait until after the first tri bloodwork and u/s results come back, but haven't figured out how yet. They definitely want another baby.
So far I don't think they know but my oldest is way too aware these days, and can read etc. and my 4.5 doesn't miss a trick.

Curious what everyine else is planning or doing.

riansmommie · July 2017

We will tell our oldest when she gets back from visiting with grandparents in a month. She is 11 and we didn't want her to spill the beans on accident. We did tell our 4yo and 2.5yo, they really don't care. Though my 4 year olds response was, "mommy you don't get one new baby, there are two!".

megpeg · July 2017

We are debating this too. We thought of getting them shirts that say big brother again and big sister for him to read but I don't really want to spend $30 on shirts that at least he won't wear again.
I want to wait until after my u/s in a couple weeks to make sure everything is ok. Right now only d/h and my boss know.

DDRRT1982 · July 2017

I recommend waiting until you are confident. Kids pick up on worry.

As for me, I am actually really worried about my oldest son's response. He is 14, where his siblings are 4, 2, and 11 months. He told me if I get pregnant again to drop him off at the firestation. I know he is joking, but part of me is kind of sad that he probably won't be excited about another sibling. I am in no rush to tell him.

ladybugsamom · July 2017

I'm feeling really anxious to tell mine. They are 11, 9 and 5. MH wants to wait until end of first trimester to tell them but I'm too excited to wait that long. H and I like to talk freely about our little Peanut and we worry that the kids will overhear something soon. They really want another sibling so I know they will be happy and excited.

notthefather · July 2017

We have a 4yo who is really anxious for a sibling. We'll tell her once we see a heartbeat. She is going to be really excited!

rsquaredr · July 2017

My almost 3 year old will freak out. She was excited when I had her sister and she was only 19 months ! My 16 month old is the complete opposite and is only interested in the next thing she'll tear apart. We'll tell them after my ultrasound in 2 weeks.

heatherdubrow · July 2017

I plan to tell my almost 5 year old and almost 3 year old after the first trimester.

chasingroygbiv · July 2017

We are waiting to tell until second tri if I can hide it that long. It's getting tough. PgAL is our reason for holding off. Our oldest (8) is very sensitive and worries a lot.

raeliz13 · July 2017

TW - Last pregnancy we told 10 year old stepdaughter at 6 weeks then miscarried the following week. This time we are waiting to hear the heartbeat (appointment Monday at 7w2d). We will (hopefully) share the happy news with her next weekend.

Staciefacie · July 2017

I haven't told my soon-to-be 7 year old yet. I told my 2 yo thinking he wouldn't get it but I was wrong. He hugs my belly and gives it kisses before he goes to sleep. He almost outed me today. I plan on telling her after my first appointment if all is well.

pghctwife · July 2017

TW
I'm glad we never told the kids last time, I know it would have devastated them.
When I was 8 my mom has a still birth at 23w, obvs we all knew. It was a devestating experience. I'm for sure not telling them till we are in a more secure place and def not just when we see the hb- I saw it this fall before my loss.
i just hope in can keep it from them that long!
end TW

i want to tell them in a fun way when I do.... hmmmmmm well know the sex by then too.

citygirl17 · July 2017

I have a 3.5 year old. Since she will be coming with me to most prenatal appointments and is very observant it will be hard to keep from her for much longer. However ideally we'd like to wait until we hear the HB to tell her. That will not be for another 5 weeks though!

TW: We told her early on last year and then I had my M/C. I don't want to put her through any confusion again and am much more hesitant to say anything this time. Once she knows she will be SO excited!

pghctwife · July 2017

@DDRRT1982 oh man that is tough. So you think he'll come around? Of course it isn't his choice but still, that would be really hard.

CutieGirlLissie · July 2017

We conceived through IVF and told DD (4yrs) when I got pregnant in February. When we miscarried at 8 weeks I didn't know how to explain what happened and DH didn't think we should tell her since she wouldn't fully understand plus she has no clue how long pregnancy is and we planned on immediately trying again. It was hard when she would occasionally say something about "the baby" but we just changed the topic. So this time around we just have talked freely since she already thought I was pregnant.

notthefather · July 2017

This makes me nervous to tell her at 8ish weeks. It would definitely be tough to explain if something went wrong. I'm so sorry for all of you who were in that situation.

DDRRT1982 · July 2017

pghctwife said:

@DDRRT1982 oh man that is tough. So you think he'll come around? Of course it isn't his choice but still, that would be really hard.

Ya, he will. He is a good kid, but was my only for 10 1/2 years, so he hasn't transitioned as well from being an only child to a large family. I honestly think it would have been better if I had a child closer in age to him. It is a lot to go from only child to four toddlers in four years.

hdaley · July 2017

Our son is 5, we will tell him the day before we tell the rest of the family. Due to a past loss around 8 weeks, I want to wait until 12 weeks but I am afraid I might start showing.

HappyMonkey817 · July 2017

We'll start explaining things to our 2.5-year-old once I have an ultrasound and blood work and make sure all is well.

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