Deformed Baby Bump?

historeliza · July 2017

Hi everyone,

This is embarrassing for me, so please be kind in your responses. As you can see from the photos, I'm overweight. I have severe IBS and have had two colonoscopies with no findings on why I suffer. My stomach has always bulged out. In April, I had an appendectomy, and gained some weight. Since May, I had been working out, and lost most of it, but still overweight, with a stomach that hangs. My stomach has been that way for about 10 years, even at my fittest when I ran 10ks. I'm just telling you all for context.

After my appendectomy, I told a nurse about my plans to get pregnant, and she said I needed to watch out, because I would have a deformed baby bump. Since this, I've tried looking for pictures of people who were pregnant that had my body type, and have been unsuccessful.

I'm so jealous of all those people who have flat stomach, and can measure stomach growth, and post to social media. I took one for 4 weeks, and though I won't post publicly for awhile, I'm already humiliated by the way I look. I know I shouldn't care as long as the baby is healthy, but I guess I am embarrassed. I guess I'm asking if there are other people who have felt this way, or will my bump be deformed? Again, please be kind, I'm pretty embarrassed about this, but I don't know who else to ask.

LiveNLove44 · July 2017

It's been amazing to me to see all of my friends, sister, cousins, coworkers, etc. go through pregnancy and how differently everyone carries. The most incredible part of this whole experience is going to be what your body is doing: you're growing a little human! So cool! I will be the first to tell you that I absolutely dealt with body conscious worries during pregnancy, and I'm sure those same worries will crop up again here and there, but we need to be good to ourselves here. You've only got one body, and it's going to do something amazing. Many women face the same concerns in different areas while pregnant, and hopefully you can find solace in knowing that in the end, we all have the same objective: carry that baby as best we can. You've got this

Amarantheansea · July 2017

I have had an appendectomy and two c sections. I also have an umbilical hernia from my second pregnancy. So no flat tummy here. I am currently 5 weeks 5 days and am unsure of exactly what this pregnancy will do to my body. I carry really strangely. Kind of like a torpedo straight out which is why my belly button hernia happened. But both of my pregnancies were healthy and relatively uncomplicated. So try to enjoy the moment and focus on that beautiful baby you have inside of you! Your a gonna be a momma, you look beautiful!

Favoritemandms · July 2017

Wtaf, the nurse told you to watch out bc you might have a deformed baby bump?? What does that even mean? All of our bodies and our bumps look different. I know it's hard, but try not to worry too much about what other people think. As LiveNLove44 said, "You've got this!"

Cowboycorgi · July 2017

My belly looks exactly like that. Even the same scars (although I have a few more) from 3 lap surgeries. I had no problems carrying my DD, and I don't foresee any problems with this one either.

My belly is so soft, and my daughter loves to cuddle and pet it. Sure, a flat, thinner belly might make me look better to others, but my daughter and husband love this belly of mine. How can I hate a body that has done so much for me? I'm strong. I'm soft. And I keep the ones I love warm.

LiveNLove44 · July 2017

@Cowboycorgi that makes me smile! Well said.

ladybugsamom · July 2017

@vaewelch I agree with the others! Please don't worry or compare your bump to others or even what you think the "perfect" bump looks like. Your bump is uniquely yours! I have a rather large panniculus myself and never really look pregnant until I'm near the end. But I still embrace it in all it's glory. Try to do the same...and keep smiling!

historeliza · July 2017

Thank you guys! I was not happy with the nurse, but I think she was from a different culture, and that may have been why she said it. I'meatong healthy, and exercising, so not much else I can do. I just hope when I post on Facebook in a few weeks, people wont be judging me.

fiddleRN79 · July 2017

@vaewelch I have no idea what would prompt the nurse to tell you that. Some people need to keep their mouths shut. I had my gallbladder removed before I got pregnant the first time, and everything went well. We lose a bit of control when we get pregnant. It's scary, but exciting.

jlo629 · July 2017

I have a gut bulge and still had a normal bump with baby #1. I think you will be rocking a bump in about 10 more weeks! Also I love your boxer! I have 2 boxers!

barrelocarol · July 2017

Love what everyone wrote!

And seriously, that nurse's comment is awful!! Awful!! Ignore! People have the weirdest stuff to say. You might hear weird crap from FB but it makes more of it true.

You look awesome, by the way!!! You will fall in love with your mama belly.

I'm thin and lean but I have this weak, random and weird poochy belly leftover from my son. I hated it for so long until he touched it and poked it making me realize, it's another momento I have of him, of getting to spend more time with him than anyone else did and getting to spend all day every day with him, dancing, singing, kicking and thinking about each other while we shared a body.

Edited bc deformed???? That just angers me!! No such thing as a deformed bump! Those baby houses are SPECTACULARLY beautiful! I've never ever ever thought anything less!

historeliza · July 2017

jlo629 said:

I have a gut bulge and still had a normal bump with baby #1. I think you will be rocking a bump in about 10 more weeks! Also I love your boxer! I have 2 boxers!

That's out Boxer June Bug. She's a nut lol. But we love her.

JournoGrl23 · July 2017

You'll look great! I was thin before my last pregnancy, but I gained 60 pounds during that pregnancy and had a big baby, so I'm still all kinds of stretched out. Plus my abs split apart (called Diastasis Recti) during the second trimester and I still have it pretty severe, which makes me look like I'm still 6 months pregnant. I also had a c-section, so I have a scar, and all my stretch marks are still visible. I plan on rocking this baby bump because I never felt more beautiful in my life than when I was pregnant. You will be beautiful, too, and already are. Don't listen to others' weird opinions. No such thing as a deformed bump!

Staciefacie · July 2017

Just because your body will take longer to show the physical side of pregnancy doesn't mean you can't enjoy tracking it via pictures. Plus you may even show more than you realize you do! Do what you please! No such thing as a deformed bump, unless baby is sticking to one side making you lopsided!
Youre a strong woman just by posting this here! Much love.

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