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TTC after 35
pachie5
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New to the group- Childless Stepmom TTC with 1 chemical
pachie5
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in TTC after 35
Hello Everyone,
New to this board, thank you for including me
I am 39 and DH is 38. I am stepmom to a wonderful 9 year old boy who I have helped raised (50/50 custody) since he was 3. We have been TTC since last summer and of course, there are pregnancies around us in our family and circle of friends. Everyone kept saying, "You're next! You're next!" And alas, almost a year later, we are still trying. One of my SILs, kept pushing that we were going to get pregnant because she really wanted to be, but, her husband is so career focused and wanted to wait. But, lo and behold, they got pregnant immediately. She thought it would take them a year or so to conceive, but, she was wrong. I am happy for them, of course, but, still stings at times. As she made her announcement earlier this year, I was quietly going through a chemical after 7 months ttc. Just had her baby shower, would have loved to have been pregnant together.
I am the only one left in the family to have a child of my own and it's so disheartening.
DH and I have had our tests done and everything came back normal a month ago. Unexplained infertility and 40 next year. Don't know if my body is out of whack since the chemical? Doctor says to keep trying, maybe get on clomid next month. Maybe try IUI with it? Doc says there's a chance of multiples with clomid if I went through the CP. I'd be thrilled with any healthy pregnancy. Trying to stay positive and "relaxed". Am also being told by friends that maybe my body can't handle a pregnancy right now, sigh...that's encouraging. I am active and healthy, so I guess I'm too stressed? Should I start pushing infertility treatments now?
Thank you for reading! I'm happy to have found this forum, bittersweet it is. I know many have tried for much longer with challenging diagnoses. I am wishing everyone warm thoughts and hugs on their own journeys as well.
New to this board, thank you for including me
I am 39 and DH is 38. I am stepmom to a wonderful 9 year old boy who I have helped raised (50/50 custody) since he was 3. We have been TTC since last summer and of course, there are pregnancies around us in our family and circle of friends. Everyone kept saying, "You're next! You're next!" And alas, almost a year later, we are still trying. One of my SILs, kept pushing that we were going to get pregnant because she really wanted to be, but, her husband is so career focused and wanted to wait. But, lo and behold, they got pregnant immediately. She thought it would take them a year or so to conceive, but, she was wrong. I am happy for them, of course, but, still stings at times. As she made her announcement earlier this year, I was quietly going through a chemical after 7 months ttc. Just had her baby shower, would have loved to have been pregnant together.
I am the only one left in the family to have a child of my own and it's so disheartening.
DH and I have had our tests done and everything came back normal a month ago. Unexplained infertility and 40 next year. Don't know if my body is out of whack since the chemical? Doctor says to keep trying, maybe get on clomid next month. Maybe try IUI with it? Doc says there's a chance of multiples with clomid if I went through the CP. I'd be thrilled with any healthy pregnancy. Trying to stay positive and "relaxed". Am also being told by friends that maybe my body can't handle a pregnancy right now, sigh...that's encouraging. I am active and healthy, so I guess I'm too stressed? Should I start pushing infertility treatments now?
Thank you for reading! I'm happy to have found this forum, bittersweet it is. I know many have tried for much longer with challenging diagnoses. I am wishing everyone warm thoughts and hugs on their own journeys as well.
Re: New to the group- Childless Stepmom TTC with 1 chemical
I'd say if you tried for a year think seriously about a RE, further tests, and then IUI (and IVF if possible). Time is of the essence at this age and you'll see, the first visit with a RE is scary because of the statistics they show you. The fact that you had a CP has a silver lining in a way, it means at least there is no blockage and fertilization happens. In my case there was no natural fertilization, not even with IUI, so IVF was from the get go my recommended path (I had severe endometriosis).
Good luck on the journey, it's tough but not as tough as I thought it to be.
TW:
HSG/FSH/AMH/E2/SA all normal DX: unexplained IF
spontaneous BFP 01/01/2017- Alexander was born sleeping 04/13/2017 at 19w1d ic/chorio
September 2017 HSG #2 & Gonal-F/Femara/Ovidrel/IUI #1 = ep (Salpingectomy of left fallopian tube)
spontaneous BFP 01/02/2018 EDD Aug 30th It's a GIRL!
Cerclage placed on 03/02
BFP#1 10/21/11 EDD 06/22/12 natural m/c 11/03/11 6w6d
BFP#2 03/08/12 EDD 11/19/12 met our sweet boy @ 36w5d! 10/25/12!
Have an appt with my doc in the AM, so hopefully she will give more advice on what will be an appropriate next step in terms of testing and fertility meds. Am definitely interested in IUI...
I hope everyone is having a good week!
I hope your visit to the doc went well!!
AMH test came back normal and doc is still hesitant to put me on clomid. She wants me to try naturally for a couple more months (since my opks are + each month) and then proceed with it. She already ordered RX for me. No IUI she says since SA test was also normal.
Since we had the chemical in Feb, she wants to try a full 6 months before any fertility meds.
Charted this month and temps climbing and still high.
Im 11dpo and stupidly tested with a FRER and BFN
I hope everyone has a fun and restful weekend!!! Sending good thoughts to you all! xox
I tested again on Sunday (day of missed period) and got a faint BFP on FRER. Excited yet hesitant, such a mixed bag of emotions. Started bleeding today 17dpo and FRER came back negative. So deflated and depressed to be going through this again. I can't stop crying.
I guess I should move over to the TTCAL board. So frustrated with no answers and heartbroken with feeling all the hormones of pregnancy all over again only to not be able to continue on with a healthy experience.
Stay strong everyone, I know we are all wishing the best and our dreams for each other. *Hugs*
I made an appointment with my RE mid Feb and it took us until June to complete my IVF. Was planning on May, but had a CP. So, it does take some time to get the ball rolling. It's good that you have lab work done.
Good luck
Me: 36 DH:35
Married: 7/10/2016
TTC#1 - May 2016
BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016
BFP 5/5/2017 - CP
IVF #1 - June 2017 - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo. 7/9 Beta #1 - 161