SIL is a loser

EuroChick · January 2009

SIL and I are from two completely different planets. ?She is now in the fourth month of her pregnancy and has decided the following:

- She doesn't want to breast feed (I mean not even try) because as she says then the father can't bond and she doesn't believe that there are any differences except the formula fed babies sleep through the night.

- She doesn't want any of our hand-me-downs, we offered her a car-seat, a swing, a bouncer, and a ton of other stuff. ?Did I mention she is currently unemployed? This is fine by me, I am happy to share stuff with friends who really need these things but, DH was a little hurt.

- Is going to ask for a caesarean because she can't handle the pain.

?I could go on but I think I will just get a nastier. ?I can't wait to see what it is like when this little person arrives.?

vanillacourage · January 2009

None of that is really any of your business. MYOB.

BartsGirl · January 2009

She sounds awesome. I am so lucky that my SIL is awesome. She is 20 weeks I think.

Wolfx_1979 · January 2009

EuroChick:

SIL and I are from two completely different planets. She is now in the fourth month of her pregnancy and has decided the following:

- She doesn't want to breast feed (I mean not even try) because as she says then the father can't bond and she doesn't believe that there are any differences except the formula fed babies sleep through the night.

- She doesn't want any of our hand-me-downs, we offered her a car-seat, a swing, a bouncer, and a ton of other stuff. Did I mention she is currently unemployed? This is fine by me, I am happy to share stuff with friends who really need these things but, DH was a little hurt.

- Is going to ask for a caesarean because she can't handle the pain.

I could go on but I think I will just get a nastier. I can't wait to see what it is like when this little person arrives.

I felt left out when my wife decided to EBF. But guess what? I got over it. There's this little device. It's wonderful! It allows the father some bonding time and the mother some downtime.

A breast pump!

EuroChick · January 2009

You're right except that she made a bunch of snotty comments to me in relation to all of those points.

Temp174496125006552 · January 2009

The BFing thing is absurd. And she thinks the pain of a vaginal birth is harder than recovering from major abdominal surgery? Um, ok. And unemployed and refusing items for free? Alrighty.

She sounds like a peach.

7/04Bride · January 2009

Can you please print out an article for her on the benefits of breastfeeding? And the complications that can arise from a c-section? She can get an epidural if she's worried about the pain (just don't mention that they sometimes don't work!).

Sip_Sip · January 2009

Wait till she see's how much pain she's in after the c-section. She's in for a shock.

EuroChick · January 2009

I the c-section thing I didn't even touch that one, she said her pelvis was probably too small. ?As for the breast feeding I made a couple of nice comments about helping her out if she wants but at this point I am dropping it. ?This is the wife of my DH's brother so luckily DH isn't thrilled with her either but I can't imagine a family vacation with them.

southernbelle82 · January 2009

Sip_Sip:
Wait till she see's how much pain she's in after the c-section. She's in for a shock.

yeah no joke. that'll be interesting to see how she handles that!

EuroChick · January 2009

Honestly I think the whole baby thing will be a shock to her in general.

vanillacourage · January 2009

7/04Bride:
Can you please print out an article for her on the benefits of breastfeeding? And the complications that can arise from a c-section?

Please don't do this, that's obnoxious. Seriously.

akiernan · January 2009

vanillacourage:
None of that is really any of your business. MYOB.

I concur.

nrkloveswrk · January 2009

EuroChick:

- She doesn't want to breast feed (I mean not even try) because as she says then the father can't bond and she doesn't believe that there are any differences except the formula fed babies sleep through the night.

Maybe she should come tell my FF baby that he should be STTN....b/c he is not!

trizzie · January 2009

Agree with both of vanillacourages posts. It is her choice whether or not to breastfeed. As long as she is not starving her baby, it is none of your business.

MrsSoapbox · January 2009

EuroChick:
SIL and I are from two completely different planets.

Ok. But maybe her planet is working out just fine for her. I don't see the point in getting worked up about someone making different birth/parenting choices than you would.

nosoup4u · January 2009

Yikes. My SIL's SIL (confusing, I know) lectured her about how she only needed to breastfeed for the first 6 weeks - this is a woman who's never had children. Some people are just dim, eh?

And the bonding thing - dad can cuddle the baby while mom is sleeping if you breastfeed - there's plenty of bonding possibilities that aren't feeding-related...

twopeasinapod · January 2009

It sounds like Eurochick is minding her own business--just venting on a random chat site I'm assuming her SIL will never see.

I didn't have a C-section but I did go through labor up to 8 CM dialated before I got an epi. Once the epi came, it was fabulous. I took naps through the pushes. My recovery lasted about a day and then I was back to business (OK maybe not running marathons but definitely not the recovery that is required of major surgery). I'm assuming my vag delivery was much easier than a C section.

eowynmn · January 2009

Yeah your sister does sound like an idiot. Anyone who chooses an elective c-section at 4 months because they are skeered of the pain is a f*ing tool. Mainly for the fact IF NOTHING ELSE that they are wasting 3000 they don't need to waste.

EuroChick · January 2009

My thoughts exactly twopeasinapod , this is my place to vent about things I can't vent about elsewhere. And since she doesn't speak English there is no way she can read this.

eowynmn · January 2009

EuroChick:
My thoughts exactly twopeasinapod , this is my place to vent about things I can't vent about elsewhere. And since she doesn't speak English there is no way she can read this.

Wait, where does she live? In some cultures (argentina is one I can think of) 90% of people have c's because it's part of their society to maintain vaginal integrity (I know, right). Just curious - it may shed light.

EuroChick · January 2009

She's French!

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