Crappy advice?

meatballs37 · July 2017

Stolen from D17.

What crappy advice have people given you already for this pregnancy or past ones?

I always find these highly entertaining!

the_other_mother · July 2017

I don't think I got any particularly crappy advice, but at the end I was told all the ways you can supposedly make yourself go into labor. I tried every single one of those stupid wives tales and nothing. I ended up being induced 11 days late. I'm not even going to waste my time this time. That and all those stupid figs I ate. Yuck. Never again.

meatballs37 · July 2017

I was told not to buy anything newborn size since we have large babies in our family. Well, DD came two weeks early and we had zero diapers or clothes in her size.

Also, sleep when the baby is sleeping. Yeah right. DD sounded like a gremlin when she slept. No joke, newborns are LOUD!

the_other_mother · July 2017

@meatball37 oh yeah you reminded me I got the same advice about the newborn clothes. DD was teeny tiny. We used a ton of newborn clothes for months.

BelhurstBride · July 2017

@the_other_mother, I went two weeks over with DD2 and definitely heard all the ideas on how to naturally induce labor.

@meatball37, we were told the same about NB clothes when expecting DD1. She was born a week early at 6lb11oz and dropped from there. My mom had to run out and buy NB and even some preemie for her. Even DD2, who was two weeks late, wore NB clothes for 3 months.

I honestly can't remember crap advice I got; my first pregnancy began nearly 8 years ago and now that we're on pregnancy #5 no one dares to give us tips.

soulcupcake · July 2017

Very few people know I'm pregnant, and I didn't receive much in the way of advice during my other pregnancies. Folks stopped saying much of anything after the third. Just the usual questions or comments about the sex and having my hands full. I think they'd know better to offer unsolicited advice.

eggplantface · July 2017

One of my friends keeps telling me things about pregnancy like she's revealing secrets, but it's stupid things like "your body will change" and "your doctor can give you meds for nausea." Thanks, captain obvious! Next are you going to tell me babies come out your vagina??

TattoosandLace · July 2017

Sleep when the baby sleeps enrages me.

Starynightsky24 · July 2017

Lol! I was so good at ignoring all the "advice" that I honestly don't remember much!

Most of the stuff I remember was about nursing

Toughen up your nipples (DONT!)

only nurse for 10 minutes on each side (some babies bead more time than that, especially newborns)

Only nurse every 3 hours (uhhhh cluster feeding people!)

farmrose · July 2017

TattoosandLace said:

Sleep when the baby sleeps enrages me.

Especially when it's not baby #1...what do I do with my other children, let them destroy the place while I sleep?

Glad to hear the advice decreases with each pregnancy, this is #3 so hopefully won't get too much. But, both my mom and MIL have 3 so I'm sure they're still full of unsolicited advice as usual.

I went to 42w with DD2, so everyone had "advice" on going into labor.

farmrose · July 2017

Starynightsky24 said:

Lol! I was so good at ignoring all the "advice" that I honestly don't remember much!

Most of the stuff I remember was about nursing

Toughen up your nipples (DONT!)

only nurse for 10 minutes on each side (some babies bead more time than that, especially newborns)

Only nurse every 3 hours (uhhhh cluster feeding people!)

You must've run into my MIL...though she's firmly in the only feed every 4 hours camp. Smh.

julievdm12 · July 2017

I went 2 weeks early with my daughter and then was 8 days late with my son. By 38 weeks everyone was already impatient for me to go into labour and I was getting so annoyed. By 40 weeks I was 4 cm dilated and definitely starting to take the "labour inducing tips" seriously and trying a bunch. Walking and spicy food were tried together at one point when I had errands to run at the mall. Lets just say it ended in a really crappy time. In more ways than one....
my conclusion: shy of medical intervention, nothing can make you go into labour....

meatballs37 · July 2017

I'm hoping I get less "advice" this go around because it isn't my first rodeo. But I'm sure people will have a lovely comment or two about the close age gap (IE: omg was it planned??). I'm still thinking up what my response will
be to those unwanted comments. I guess I have about four weeks to decide.

lainikins · July 2017

Mine were mostly about breastfeeding after I had my baby. If you want to breastfeed and are struggling, get advice from professionals, ignore dumb things from family.

Breast feeding is supposed to hurt and you just need to toughen up.

You have to breastfeed if you care about your kid.

KLHauck12 · July 2017

meatball37 said:

Also, sleep when the baby is sleeping. Yeah right. DD sounded like a gremlin when she slept. No joke, newborns are LOUD!

I could not sleep in the same room as DD! I intended to but could never fall asleep because of all her noises. DH and I had to take turns getting to sleep in our bed (while the other stayed out in the living room with DD) until we bought a moniter. Now I've heard that they recommend babies sleep in their parents room for the first 6 months...but I just don't know if I can do it!

lainikins · July 2017

KLHauck12 said:

meatball37 said:

Also, sleep when the baby is sleeping. Yeah right. DD sounded like a gremlin when she slept. No joke, newborns are LOUD!

I could not sleep in the same room as DD! I intended to but could never fall asleep because of all her noises. DH and I had to take turns getting to sleep in our bed (while the other stayed out in the living room with DD) until we bought a moniter. Now I've heard that they recommend babies sleep in their parents room for the first 6 months...but I just don't know if I can do it!

I could not sleep in the same room either. We moved him to his room in the first few weeks. We are not even going to try to be in the same room this time. Baby will sleep in his or her own room from the start.

GoogleMD · July 2017

My first was born 10 days before thanksgiving, so we did not attended thanksgiving with my in laws because they always have 50+ people there, I didn't want to deal with baby being passed around like a doll, especially since one family member is notorious for being her kids when obviously sick (like puking and feverish) and honestly I did not want to deal.
My FIL told my husband he didn't see what the big deal was because babies are born with "super immune systems" so we didn't need to worry about him getting sick.

meatballs37 · July 2017

GoogleMD said:

My first was born 10 days before thanksgiving, so we did not attended thanksgiving with my in laws because they always have 50+ people there, I didn't want to deal with baby being passed around like a doll, especially since one family member is notorious for being her kids when obviously sick (like puking and feverish) and honestly I did not want to deal.
My FIL told my husband he didn't see what the big deal was because babies are born with "super immune systems" so we didn't need to worry about him getting sick.

Amen! Same reason I didn't have anyone visit in the hospital. I didn't want people going through a hospital where sick people are and holding DD. Plus I also just didn't want to deal with anyone. Those first few weeks are rough and I wish people just respected that.

soulcupcake · July 2017

My MIL didn't quite offer advice, but she was ALL about making passive-aggressive comments about what she/they did when H was a baby, and she misremembers a shit-ton of details. I think she was just bummed that it wasn't a FTM situation (dd3 was H's first, and her first grandchild) where she could assume the "traditional" grandmother role and butt in with unnecessary comments and advice. I wish she'd try that now. I frankly don't care what you did with H 39 years ago. We had to create boundaries with her because she was just too much at times.

My mother is fantastic. She's never offered advice or acted passive-aggressive. That's just not her, and she vowed to not do that with us when we had kids after she dealt with the unsolicited advice from her mother.

Chawk17 · July 2017

soulcupcake said:

. I frankly don't care what you did with H 39 years ago. We had to create boundaries with her because she was just too much at times.

Thank you EVERYTIME we go to the in laws my MIL always has to tell me how she raised her boys. Do not care. Or passive- aggressive tells me she knows her son better than I do ( it's weird).
I am dreading telling her we are pregnant. I can just hear her " when I was pregnant with the boys I....." I don't give a flying F what you did 31 years ago. It's going to get ugly because I'm rude and I'm going to say something mean

ugh. DH always takes her side. It's going to be a few cold months when we let out the news.

sabriel1 · July 2017

For my first pregnancy most of the advice I got really related to pregnancy. My grandmother told me not to hang clothes out on the line because raising my arms above my head would wrap the cord around the babies neck.

I also got advice like, but some pablum in the babies bottle, they should sleep better. Or constant advice on starting solids earlier than 6 months (just no).

Now I get annoying advice from my mother about safety proofing my house. So annoying. My house is not that child proof I will admit but I have 4 kids five and under and they just know not to get into stuff because I've taught them the rules here

ashhsa · July 2017

With my DD- I was told to- "let her cry as it helps her lungs"

. By a friend of mines mother.

neener*neener* · July 2017

"Sleep now because when the baby comes, you won't get any sleep..."

Apparently you can stockpile sleep ladies... who knew?

TattoosandLace · July 2017

This was last night. Not pregnancy related.

"Oh honey, no. You stop nursing after they get teeth. That's what formula is for. Then switch them to solids and cows milk early."

uhm, newwwwwwwwww.

LadyMillil · July 2017

My mom called today to check that I was taking a prenatal vitamin. I've seen several doctors to get KU (and am a doctor) but apparently she was concerned no one would have ever mentioned prenatals to me.

ladybug0088 · July 2017

My 85 year old grandmother kept telling me to put the baby down so it wouldn't become spoiled. :eyeroll:

ashhsa · July 2017

ladybug0088 said:

My 85 year old grandmother kept telling me to put the baby down so it wouldn't become spoiled. :eyeroll:

Oh man- that is one I especially hate.

SquirrelsRWatching · July 2017

neener*neener* said:

"Sleep now because when the baby comes, you won't get any sleep..."

Apparently you can stockpile sleep ladies... who knew?

I stopped sleeping through the night as soon as I hit week 4.... frequent peeing trips, nausea, and restless legs. Plus, I have a toddler. I'm not getting any sleep now...

meatballs37 · July 2017

SquirrelsRWatching said:

neener*neener* said:

"Sleep now because when the baby comes, you won't get any sleep..."

Apparently you can stockpile sleep ladies... who knew?

I stopped sleeping through the night as soon as I hit week 4.... frequent peeing trips, nausea, and restless legs. Plus, I have a toddler. I'm not getting any sleep now...

The restless legs are the worst!

SquirrelsRWatching · July 2017

meatball37 said:

SquirrelsRWatching said:

neener*neener* said:

"Sleep now because when the baby comes, you won't get any sleep..."

Apparently you can stockpile sleep ladies... who knew?

I stopped sleeping through the night as soon as I hit week 4.... frequent peeing trips, nausea, and restless legs. Plus, I have a toddler. I'm not getting any sleep now...

The restless legs are the worst!

I had them bad I never my third trip with DS. Mine are generally from iron deficiency. I also now sleep with a bar of ivory soap under my sheets. Not sure why, but it works.

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