Sorry all, didn't mean to ruffle feathers. I registered before bfp to post in the newbie intro thread, but it took awhile to be approved. I didn't see any newbie intro in the pregnant board, but also consider myself still trying to get pregnant because the rate of miscarriage is still high, I'm not convinced I'm carrying a viable embryo, and due date (if successful) is early march and there is no march club yet. Previous experience has been when joining a due date club this early, it is hard to say 'I'm out' when it turns out the embryo wasn't viable. Had reasons, none of them intending to hurt anyone's feelings. But I can see there are a lot of angry unsupportive people on this forum, which is definately not what I'm looking for in a support group.
I just...what? You posted a BFP in a trying to get pregnant forum. DURING YOUR INTRO(so we have no idea who you are). You got several responses that quite calmly advised you to move on to your birth month board -- after congratulating you! How much more support are you looking for when YOU'RE the one making a completely inappropriate post?
While you may not believe you're pregnant -- you are. I get being scared of miscarriage, but there's about a 75% chance you won't have one. That's a fear you need to be sharing with other women who are currently pregnant, not a bunch of women who very much wish they were.
If you're looking for a "support group," please please please find one that is appropriate for your situation. This isn't it.
Sorry all, didn't mean to ruffle feathers. I registered before bfp to post in the newbie intro thread, but it took awhile to be approved. I didn't see any newbie intro in the pregnant board, but also consider myself still trying to get pregnant because the rate of miscarriage is still high, I'm not convinced I'm carrying a viable embryo, and due date (if successful) is early march and there is no march club yet. Previous experience has been when joining a due date club this early, it is hard to say 'I'm out' when it turns out the embryo wasn't viable. Had reasons, none of them intending to hurt anyone's feelings. But I can see there are a lot of angry unsupportive people on this forum, which is definately not what I'm looking for in a support group.
QFP As someone who is TTCAL I find your reason for being here ABHORRENT! Based on your age (I'm assuming you're 39 based on your intro) your risk of miscarriage is about 20%. This means that you have an 80% chance of carrying to term. THAT IS 4X MORE LIKELY!!!
Easy girls, stress is bad. Makes the bodies acidic. Try drinking a bit of lemon water in the morning to alkaline your bodies. Will help to counter-balance the effects of stress. If you feel the need to rage, Iam ok with that. Been there, felt that. Let it out, it does not hurt my feelings. It is hard to cope and maintain dignity when it feels like someone threw something in your face that you are struggling so hard to achieve. It sucks. I hear what ya'll are saying, it was an honest mistake on part. If there is a blocking feature, try blocking my name so that in the future you arnt upset about anything that may come from me. That is all I can suggest since it's not my place to tell you how to behave. We are all adults here. i won't post here again, no worries, just saying my piece.
I also dont don't see the highlighted part kiki75 posted about (saying don't post here if you get a positive). That may not show on mobiles? If I had of read that, then for sure I would have swallowed my misgivings and not posted in here. Directions like that are pretty clear and straight forward.
Easy girls, stress is bad. Makes the bodies acidic. Try drinking a bit of lemon water in the morning to alkaline your bodies. Will help to counter-balance the effects of stress. If you feel the need to rage, Iam ok with that. Been there, felt that. Let it out, it does not hurt my feelings. It is hard to cope and maintain dignity when it feels like someone threw something in your face that you are struggling so hard to achieve. It sucks. I hear what ya'll are saying, it was an honest mistake on part. If there is a blocking feature, try blocking my name so that in the future you arnt upset about anything that may come from me. That is all I can suggest since it's not my place to tell you how to behave. We are all adults here. i won't post here again, no worries, just saying my piece.
I also dont don't see the highlighted part kiki75 posted about (saying don't post here if you get a positive). That may not show on mobiles? If I had of read that, then for sure I would have swallowed my misgivings and not posted in here. Directions like that are pretty clear and straight forward.
best of luck to all of us, no hard feelings.
What an utterly patronizing, condescending post.
...but glad you have no hard feelings? Not enough eye rolls in the world.
@sheowl gtfo of here with that "easy girls, stress is bad" crap. You walked into an existing room. And introduced yourself while basically simultaneously saying "hey guys not really looking to get to know anyone because I won't be here long but support me while I wait it out."
Then you're going to be condescending and rude when people call you on your crap? Please. I can't even this morning.
@lazycrane welcome! I came from TCF also. Not the most active over there but did the daily/wkly posts. Mostly may-sept before my losses. Then just started back up just weeks before it all went to hell. I never tried the new place. Much happier with my decision to come here instead!
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@lazycrane welcome! I came from TCF also. Not the most active over there but did the daily/wkly posts. Mostly may-sept before my losses. Then just started back up just weeks before it all went to hell. I never tried the new place. Much happier with my decision to come here instead!
Oh hi! I'm at the new new place too. I can't quit the blinds thread and Big Brother is about to start, so I'll be frequenting that too!
I know I should leave this alone since all the wonderful long term members have handled it but I can't let the blood acidity thing stand: @sheowl 1. Your body is very good at maintaining your blood pH, for obvious reasons. Even little alternations make you incredibly sick. Stress alone will not cause alterations. Lactic acidosis from sepsis/hypoperfusion or DKA will make your blood more acidic (or even actually acidic), but not just stress by itself. 2. Lemon is acidic. Not sure how it's supposed to make your blood more alkaline.
I know you're going to link to all kinds of woo blogs and crap to argue with me, but I'm talking about actually demonstrable medical fact. You're wrong.
Me: 35, Hubbie: 33 Married DH: 2013 DD: Dec 2015 BFP 8/14/17 --> Due 4/27/2018
@fishsticks-n-custard Thank you! I've spent the last 45 minutes trying to find the meme that I saw recently on Facebook explaining how your body maintains your pH and alkaline diets are BS.
Think about someone other than yourself for a hot minute and scram. FFS, you're 39. A person would think you had grown up by now. I've had two losses so don't even try to use the risk of miscarriage BS on me. Lots of us in this forum have. They found your post hurtful. Then you went full a-hole.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@sheowl All the condescending remarks you made were already addressed, and well. The only thing I'll add is that the fact that March BMB is not up yet is not an excuse. FYI when this happens to people they either go hang out in the prior month for a week, or they do this thing called waiting. And you can do that while drinking lemon water!
Easy girls, stress is bad. Makes the bodies acidic. Try drinking a bit of lemon water in the morning to alkaline your bodies.
Ooohhh, so that's what I need to do to counteract my husband's zero sperm count! Also, alkaline is NOT a verb.
Me: 35 DH: 28 TTC since June 2016 Azoospermia diagnosis (zero count) Dec 2016 AZFc chromosome microdeletion discovery March 2017 Unsuccessful TESE for DH in August 2017 October 2017 IVF with donor sperm
29R, 24M, 16F, 2d5, 4d6 (6 embryos total) Only 3 could have PGS. 2/3 normal. 5 embies frozen 12/15/17 FET #1 (1 embryo)--CP 2/7/17 FET #2 (2 embryos)--BFN Chronic endometritis diagnosis May 2018
ERA Sept 2018--borderline receptive--12 more hours of progesterone Abnormal SIS Oct 2018 Repeat hysteroscopy Nov 1. Treated recurring endometritis. 12/4/18 FET #3 (2 embryos)--BFN Our journey has come to an end.
I really want to say "F off", but I really also don't want to get banned. It's such a hard thing to balance.
I'm just so incredibly impressed at; first, @sheowl 's incredible ignorance and ability to be a B; second, @doxiemoxie212 's gif game; and third, everyone's responses because y'all are fucking hilarious and on point.
As someone struggling while TTC, I find it completely infuriating that someone would come in here and suggest we all relax. WTF. Do you know how many times we've all been told to just relax? It's useless advice. And at this point in the game, it makes me so mad to keep hearing it.
You did something incredibly insensitive and lacking in basic common sense. The responses you received were right on par. Next time, wait to post. Post somewhere else. Or at least own up to your wrongdoing and act like an adult.
Me: 24 DH: 28 DD 6/9/15 TTC #2 with PCOS since 10/16
July 2017 Siggy Challenge- Animals Eating Summer Foods
Sorry all, didn't mean to ruffle feathers. I registered before bfp to post in the newbie intro thread, but it took awhile to be approved. I didn't see any newbie intro in the pregnant board, but also consider myself still trying to get pregnant because the rate of miscarriage is still high, I'm not convinced I'm carrying a viable embryo, and due date (if successful) is early march and there is no march club yet. Previous experience has been when joining a due date club this early, it is hard to say 'I'm out' when it turns out the embryo wasn't viable. Had reasons, none of them intending to hurt anyone's feelings. But I can see there are a lot of angry unsupportive people on this forum, which is definately not what I'm looking for in a support group.
unsupportive people? Hm.. I'm wondering about your entitlement level IRL that you expect a group of complete internet strangers to support you? Especially after rubbing a bfp in everyone's faces. Hey can you just verify for me the support that you gave to others in this thread so I can better understand why you're upset? Oh wait a minute, you didn't support anyone you just criticized us and overgeneralized your opinion to the entire population of our members. So what you're really saying is that you're the only one that matters and deserves support? Cause you gave zero support to anyone yet you've expected it from everyone. Give support to get support. I would encourage you to be a little more sympathetic to others if you're expecting so much from them, unless you're entitlement has served you otherwise then this clearly isn't the place for you.
<blockquote class="Quote"> <div><a rel="nofollow">looeeze</a> said:</div> <div><blockquote class="Quote"> <div><a rel="nofollow">kmalls</a> said:</div> <div>@fishsticks-n-custard - ...but, but, she <i>totally </i>reads GOOP and Gwyneth Paltrow said to drink lemon water! Alkalinity! Buzz words! </div> </blockquote>
<b>She probably got KU thanks to the powers of that </b><a rel="nofollow" href="https://gizmodo.com/no-you-should-not-put-jade-eggs-in-your-vagina-because-1791390211"><b>jade egg</b></a><b>, after all. </b></div> </blockquote> I'll take six.
ETA what the heck. Throw in an Ava bracelet while we're at it! :D
For lurkers, if you are ku and are worried about loss, it's DEFINITELY not ok to post that here, but it is totally ok to post in your BMB (or the one immediately before yours if yours isn't up yet) or the first tri board and discuss your fears. I can tell you from experience that most women who are ku and on TB have the same concerns as you do. Those folks are going to be the best folks to commiserate with, ie, people who are actually ku.
**tw re loss** When I first was ku I was very worried about loss. I got the following advice from my fellow BMB ladies - enjoy this pregnancy while you have it. I'm so glad I did this even though my pg ended in mmc, because I don't know when/if I'll be ku again. **end tw**
As an RPL lady I get REALLY angry when people get all freaked out about possibly having a MC when they have no medical past or reason to worry about it and their PG is progressing normally at that point. I mean, yeah, it could happen... but you also may get struck by lightning. This has actually happened to me multiple times, despite a positive attitude. So please, just STFU and move on. But hey, I'll just RELAX and drink all the lemon water so that I can have a viable PG next time. SMH.
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks) MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks) MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP) RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017 MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP) RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017 MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023. Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing. Surgery for endometriosis January 2024 Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months. Hopefully FET after that.
@dpjennifer I had to read your comment a few times because at first I thought you were saying you had been struck by lightening a few times in your life, and I was like, well damn, girl!
doxiemoxie212 LMAO! Well, it kinda feels that way, but no I haven't been struck by lightning. Although interesting trivia... apparently men are more susceptible to being struck by lightning than women, AND once you're struck by lightning you're more susceptible to be struck again than someone who wasn't struck (something about charged up particles or something sciency).
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks) MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks) MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP) RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017 MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP) RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017 MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023. Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing. Surgery for endometriosis January 2024 Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months. Hopefully FET after that.
Re: Newbie Intro Thread Week of 6/19
While you may not believe you're pregnant -- you are. I get being scared of miscarriage, but there's about a 75% chance you won't have one. That's a fear you need to be sharing with other women who are currently pregnant, not a bunch of women who very much wish they were.
If you're looking for a "support group," please please please find one that is appropriate for your situation. This isn't it.
As someone who is TTCAL I find your reason for being here ABHORRENT! Based on your age (I'm assuming you're 39 based on your intro) your risk of miscarriage is about 20%. This means that you have an 80% chance of carrying to term. THAT IS 4X MORE LIKELY!!!
ETA: F' words, gifs are better
Dating: 2/2007 Married: 4/2011
TTC #1: 9/2016
*TW*
BFP #2: 3/9/2017 - CP: 3/10/2017
08/2017: DH's SA = normal
08/2017: Low progesterone (4.6) all other BW normal
11/2017: HSG Clear; Pelvic Ultrasound Normal; and AMH, FSH, and Estradiol normal
12/2017: 1,000mg Metformin
12/2017: 50mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: 100mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: RE Consult
03/2018: 5mg Letrozole + 50 units Gonal-F + 500 μg Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #3: 4/1/2018 - CP: 4/4/2018
04/2018: 5mg Letrozole + Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #4: 5/2/18
If you feel the need to rage, Iam ok with that. Been there, felt that. Let it out, it does not hurt my feelings. It is hard to cope and maintain dignity when it feels like someone threw something in your face that you are struggling so hard to achieve. It sucks. I hear what ya'll are saying, it was an honest mistake on part. If there is a blocking feature, try blocking my name so that in the future you arnt upset about anything that may come from me. That is all I can suggest since it's not my place to tell you how to behave. We are all adults here.
i won't post here again, no worries, just saying my piece.
I also dont don't see the highlighted part kiki75 posted about (saying don't post here if you get a positive). That may not show on mobiles? If I had of read that, then for sure I would have swallowed my misgivings and not posted in here. Directions like that are pretty clear and straight forward.
best of luck to all of us, no hard feelings.
...but glad you have no hard feelings? Not enough eye rolls in the world.
Then you're going to be condescending and rude when people call you on your crap? Please. I can't even this morning.
ETA gif.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
1. Your body is very good at maintaining your blood pH, for obvious reasons. Even little alternations make you incredibly sick. Stress alone will not cause alterations. Lactic acidosis from sepsis/hypoperfusion or DKA will make your blood more acidic (or even actually acidic), but not just stress by itself.
2. Lemon is acidic. Not sure how it's supposed to make your blood more alkaline.
I know you're going to link to all kinds of woo blogs and crap to argue with me, but I'm talking about actually demonstrable medical fact. You're wrong.
Married DH: 2013
DD: Dec 2015
BFP 8/14/17 --> Due 4/27/2018
@sheowl
Dating: 2/2007 Married: 4/2011
TTC #1: 9/2016
*TW*
BFP #2: 3/9/2017 - CP: 3/10/2017
08/2017: DH's SA = normal
08/2017: Low progesterone (4.6) all other BW normal
11/2017: HSG Clear; Pelvic Ultrasound Normal; and AMH, FSH, and Estradiol normal
12/2017: 1,000mg Metformin
12/2017: 50mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: 100mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: RE Consult
03/2018: 5mg Letrozole + 50 units Gonal-F + 500 μg Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #3: 4/1/2018 - CP: 4/4/2018
04/2018: 5mg Letrozole + Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #4: 5/2/18
Think about someone other than yourself for a hot minute and scram. FFS, you're 39. A person would think you had grown up by now. I've had two losses so don't even try to use the risk of miscarriage BS on me. Lots of us in this forum have. They found your post hurtful. Then you went full a-hole.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Also, alkaline is NOT a verb.
TTC since June 2016
Azoospermia diagnosis (zero count) Dec 2016
AZFc chromosome microdeletion discovery March 2017
Unsuccessful TESE for DH in August 2017
October 2017 IVF with donor sperm
29R, 24M, 16F, 2d5, 4d6 (6 embryos total)
Only 3 could have PGS. 2/3 normal. 5 embies frozen
12/15/17 FET #1 (1 embryo)--CP
2/7/17 FET #2 (2 embryos)--BFN
Chronic endometritis diagnosis May 2018
ERA Sept 2018--borderline receptive--12 more hours of progesterone
Abnormal SIS Oct 2018
Repeat hysteroscopy Nov 1. Treated recurring endometritis.
12/4/18 FET #3 (2 embryos)--BFN
Our journey has come to an end.
I'm just so incredibly impressed at; first, @sheowl 's incredible ignorance and ability to be a B; second, @doxiemoxie212 's gif game; and third, everyone's responses because y'all are fucking hilarious and on point.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
You did something incredibly insensitive and lacking in basic common sense. The responses you received were right on par. Next time, wait to post. Post somewhere else. Or at least own up to your wrongdoing and act like an adult.
DD 6/9/15
TTC #2 with PCOS since 10/16
July 2017 Siggy Challenge- Animals Eating Summer Foods
<div><a rel="nofollow">looeeze</a> said:</div>
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<div><a rel="nofollow">kmalls</a> said:</div>
<div>@fishsticks-n-custard - ...but, but, she <i>totally </i>reads GOOP and Gwyneth Paltrow said to drink lemon water! Alkalinity! Buzz words! </div>
</blockquote>
<b>She probably got KU thanks to the powers of that </b><a rel="nofollow" href="https://gizmodo.com/no-you-should-not-put-jade-eggs-in-your-vagina-because-1791390211"><b>jade egg</b></a><b>, after all. </b></div>
</blockquote>
I'll take six.
ETA what the heck. Throw in an Ava bracelet while we're at it! :D
For lurkers, if you are ku and are worried about loss, it's DEFINITELY not ok to post that here, but it is totally ok to post in your BMB (or the one immediately before yours if yours isn't up yet) or the first tri board and discuss your fears. I can tell you from experience that most women who are ku and on TB have the same concerns as you do. Those folks are going to be the best folks to commiserate with, ie, people who are actually ku.
**tw re loss** When I first was ku I was very worried about loss. I got the following advice from my fellow BMB ladies - enjoy this pregnancy while you have it. I'm so glad I did this even though my pg ended in mmc, because I don't know when/if I'll be ku again. **end tw**
But hey, I'll just RELAX and drink all the lemon water so that I can have a viable PG next time. SMH.
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023.
Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months. Hopefully FET after that.
#BitterHagPartyOf1
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023.
Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months. Hopefully FET after that.
#BitterHagPartyOf1
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018